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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When is cheating cheating

If you have a partner and sleep with someone else but still love your partner is that cheating

I think it's not its sex cheating a when you fall for someone else heart and soul while your with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers are generally couples who engage in sexual acts with another couple/s although there are some individual swingers as well. Swinging is a sexually liberated lifestyle wherein people consent to participate in sex with others aside from their legal spouses. This arrangement does not involve cheating or betrayal since participation is known and involves the partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In another words cheating is cheating when the othe partner dont no anything regardless if its sex or just holding hands your not cheating if u have permisson to be with another woman/man and they are fully aware of what is going on an when

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"When is cheating cheating

If you have a partner and sleep with someone else but still love your partner is that cheating

I think it's not its sex cheating a when you fall for someone else heart and soul while your with a partner"

So ud be happy for ur partner or wife to be sleeping with guys behind ur back ? . U can try and turn it which ever way u want but at the end of the day its still cheating end of

Mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When is cheating cheating

If you have a partner and sleep with someone else but still love your partner is that cheating

I think it's not its sex cheating a when you fall for someone else heart and soul while your with a partner

So ud be happy for ur partner or wife to be sleeping with guys behind ur back ? . U can try and turn it which ever way u want but at the end of the day its still cheating end of

Mr crazy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh it starts again. ... few years back there was loads of threads on the topic. One eventually up discussing the sanctity of wedding vows. This on a swinging site!

Luckily the bible thumpers eventually calmed down but every once in a while it pops up as a topic where the tone of the posts is more in keeping with a Catholic website than here.

I firmly believe not to criticise others sins because they are different to my sins. I'm far too busy trying to keep my own relationships to worry about others. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me (pink) cheating is a partner/spouse engaging in a relationship with another whether its sexual or emotional......without their knowledge or consent......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A polish milf wants me. But has a bf. So I should stay away right? She is gorgeous . dunno what to do. I know I shouldn't butthen her friends say she does it all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When is cheating cheating

If you have a partner and sleep with someone else but still love your partner is that cheating

I think it's not its sex cheating a when you fall for someone else heart and soul while your with a partner"

Cool so if your partner came home said " hi darling missed you tonight. X. Oh by the way i fucked a guy but its ok I love you. " your reaction would be oh thank god for a sec i thought you didn't.

Is that how it would go??

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"To me (pink) cheating is a partner/spouse engaging in a relationship with another whether its sexual or emotional......without their knowledge or consent...... "

I totally agree with you there u dont have to fuck someone to be cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me (pink) cheating is a partner/spouse engaging in a relationship with another whether its sexual or emotional......without their knowledge or consent......

I totally agree with you there u dont have to fuck someone to be cheating"

Tbh the emotional part is nearly as bad for me....at least if it was a quick shag then its bad enough but being close and having a mental connection is the biggest killer....

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out


"To me (pink) cheating is a partner/spouse engaging in a relationship with another whether its sexual or emotional......without their knowledge or consent......

I totally agree with you there u dont have to fuck someone to be cheating

Tbh the emotional part is nearly as bad for me....at least if it was a quick shag then its bad enough but being close and having a mental connection is the biggest killer.... "

it is worse. sex is just primal but emotional connections run deeper

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

The only one I cheat on is my hand... He forgives me when I give him his daily access, although I like to keep him on his toes and restrict access the odd time when I'm preparing..... I call it tough love. It's not proper cheating though, that's being involved (sexually or in many ways emotionally) with someone other than your partner without their consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the meaning of cheating really comes into play here. Doing something that gives you an unfair advantage over another person. Basically going against the agreed rules of play. So meeting without your partners consent is cheating and a breach of trust.

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By *ittsandtatsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"To me (pink) cheating is a partner/spouse engaging in a relationship with another whether its sexual or emotional......without their knowledge or consent......

I totally agree with you there u dont have to fuck someone to be cheating

Tbh the emotional part is nearly as bad for me....at least if it was a quick shag then its bad enough but being close and having a mental connection is the biggest killer....

it is worse. sex is just primal but emotional connections run deeper"

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Well op if your partner doesn't know about it ...then ya its cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a fellow "cheater" i must admit it is cheating.if the other half doesnt know what you are up to it is cheating.be it sexting or just sex. but we all have our reasons for doing what we do

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

We wouldn't dream of moralising to anyone every one has their reasons just as we have for being here....we only care about our own relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't dream of moralising to anyone every one has their reasons just as we have for being here....we only care about our own relationship"

my comment wasnt to you it was in general.

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

I knew that ....mine was in general also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a fellow "cheater" i must admit it is cheating.if the other half doesnt know what you are up to it is cheating.be it sexting or just sex. but we all have our reasons for doing what we do "

This!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a fellow "cheater" i must admit it is cheating.if the other half doesnt know what you are up to it is cheating.be it sexting or just sex. but we all have our reasons for doing what we do "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me (pink) cheating is a partner/spouse engaging in a relationship with another whether its sexual or emotional......without their knowledge or consent...... "

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country


"We wouldn't dream of moralising to anyone every one has their reasons just as we have for being here....we only care about our own relationship"

Exactly....what other people do should be of no concern to anyone else !!! #TeamGHB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My other half cheated on me the other day

Can't believe he would stoop so low ffs it was only a game of monopoly!!!

No one can judge you but only yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !"

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said^^^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy "

so sad for you it must have been terrible and I can relate to that as similar was done to me .

very hard on everyone

and yes I agree totally with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are doing it without the knowledge and/or consent of your partner, then it is cheating.

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork


"When is cheating cheating

If you have a partner and sleep with someone else but still love your partner is that cheating

I think it's not its sex cheating a when you fall for someone else heart and soul while your with a partner"

Sorry it's cheating ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a fellow "cheater" i must admit it is cheating.if the other half doesnt know what you are up to it is cheating.be it sexting or just sex. but we all have our reasons for doing what we do "

Spot on missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you wouldn't do it in front of your partner than it's cheating, or so says Dr. Phil but I do agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy "

you also been the mistress and cause of a marriage break up. So you would have seen from both side. Mr crazy was married to someone else. And you were his regular on the swing scene. He left his wife and family for you.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear.....

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy

you also been the mistress and cause of a marriage break up. So you would have seen from both side. Mr crazy was married to someone else. And you were his regular on the swing scene. He left his wife and family for you."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holy moly...

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so i think what we can take from this is nobody can throw the first stone in here

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy

you also been the mistress and cause of a marriage break up. So you would have seen from both side. Mr crazy was married to someone else. And you were his regular on the swing scene. He left his wife and family for you."

I think u better retract that statment as u have no idea why my marriage broke up or what was going on in my marraige. We have a better relationship since our split and our marraige was in trouble well before we joined swing and we taught that swing would help ,but to our cost its the last place a cpl should be if there marraige is in trouble. We used to do seperate meets and thats how I met mrs crazy as u would no as my ex wife used to meet mr mcmully . I met her for a while then lost contact with her as myself and my ex wife gave up swing. I had a break down and came close to taking my own life and we seperated .. I rejoined swing months later as did my ex wife, I met mrs crazy and after a while we set up this profile. I was living in rented accomadition and when the lease was up i moved to cork. Myself and my ex wife have a better relatiobship since we split I see my kids which are in kilkenny evey day and they are happy caus mammy and daddy are in better form and are there for them and are not fightening all the time. But of coarse u would know all this as u know what goes on inside the 4 walls of other peoples houses

Mr crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place is a psychoanalysts' dream come true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sydney is making his notes!!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy

you also been the mistress and cause of a marriage break up. So you would have seen from both side. Mr crazy was married to someone else. And you were his regular on the swing scene. He left his wife and family for you.

I think u better retract that statment as u have no idea why my marriage broke up or what was going on in my marraige. We have a better relationship since our split and our marraige was in trouble well before we joined swing and we taught that swing would help ,but to our cost its the last place a cpl should be if there marraige is in trouble. We used to do seperate meets and thats how I met mrs crazy as u would no as my ex wife used to meet mr mcmully . I met her for a while then lost contact with her as myself and my ex wife gave up swing. I had a break down and came close to taking my own life and we seperated .. I rejoined swing months later as did my ex wife, I met mrs crazy and after a while we set up this profile. I was living in rented accomadition and when the lease was up i moved to cork. Myself and my ex wife have a better relatiobship since we split I see my kids which are in kilkenny evey day and they are happy caus mammy and daddy are in better form and are there for them and are not fightening all the time. But of coarse u would know all this as u know what goes on inside the 4 walls of other peoples houses

Mr crazy"
Mr crazy I really don't think you should have to justify anything. What goes on behind four walls should stay in them four walls. The couple that commented on your marriage I believe had no right to post on a public forum.

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By *ittsandtatsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy

you also been the mistress and cause of a marriage break up. So you would have seen from both side. Mr crazy was married to someone else. And you were his regular on the swing scene. He left his wife and family for you.

I think u better retract that statment as u have no idea why my marriage broke up or what was going on in my marraige. We have a better relationship since our split and our marraige was in trouble well before we joined swing and we taught that swing would help ,but to our cost its the last place a cpl should be if there marraige is in trouble. We used to do seperate meets and thats how I met mrs crazy as u would no as my ex wife used to meet mr mcmully . I met her for a while then lost contact with her as myself and my ex wife gave up swing. I had a break down and came close to taking my own life and we seperated .. I rejoined swing months later as did my ex wife, I met mrs crazy and after a while we set up this profile. I was living in rented accomadition and when the lease was up i moved to cork. Myself and my ex wife have a better relatiobship since we split I see my kids which are in kilkenny evey day and they are happy caus mammy and daddy are in better form and are there for them and are not fightening all the time. But of coarse u would know all this as u know what goes on inside the 4 walls of other peoples houses

Mr crazy"

You shouldn't have to explain yourself at all. Personal attacks are totally out of line. People gossip and you don't need to justify yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so i think what we can take from this is nobody can throw the first stone in here "

people in glass houses it seems

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

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" I think its very easy to judge someone when you have never been in their situation, and especially if you / ye are lucky enough to be in a relationship where your partner appreciates sex as an important ( I'd say vital ) part of any human beings natural make up. Sure, you could be 'honest and decent' and separate from someone you love and care for or you could keep pestering your partner to have sex regularly (even tho its not what they want) so at least one of you gets what they want or like me (who has more flaws than most ) you might just decide after many year of celibacy and 'faithfulness' that maybe ,just maybe you would like to stop oppressing your desires and meet other married / attached celibate people who love their husbands, don't want to leave them but still want to feel like a sexual being in mutually exciting sexual encounter ? .... Course some people see and live in a black and white world which is wonderful, but some of us can't unfortunitly !

i have been in the situation , i was the one who was cheated on , we had a great life , lovely holidays , have to admit there could have been a bit more sex , but he bever said a word , he just cheated and cheated and i just wanted to keep the family together even thou i destroyed me emontionally , i couldnt trust him as soon as he left for work , it was when the kids were finding out about his antics that it really hit home , and i mean it destroyed our family and they lost their dad , and i mean he is in heaven as he couldnt live with the guilt any longer,

so i really dont care what excusses people have for cheating cause there really isnt any good excuse for it , its still cheating and someone will get hurt including kids , ask urself is really worth to go and shag someone , look at the risks , if there is a problem in a relationship , try and sort it , if not just seperate , its not easy but it happens everday

, its the kids i feel sorry for as i see what it has done to mine

mrs crazy

you also been the mistress and cause of a marriage break up. So you would have seen from both side. Mr crazy was married to someone else. And you were his regular on the swing scene. He left his wife and family for you.

I think u better retract that statment as u have no idea why my marriage broke up or what was going on in my marraige. We have a better relationship since our split and our marraige was in trouble well before we joined swing and we taught that swing would help ,but to our cost its the last place a cpl should be if there marraige is in trouble. We used to do seperate meets and thats how I met mrs crazy as u would no as my ex wife used to meet mr mcmully . I met her for a while then lost contact with her as myself and my ex wife gave up swing. I had a break down and came close to taking my own life and we seperated .. I rejoined swing months later as did my ex wife, I met mrs crazy and after a while we set up this profile. I was living in rented accomadition and when the lease was up i moved to cork. Myself and my ex wife have a better relatiobship since we split I see my kids which are in kilkenny evey day and they are happy caus mammy and daddy are in better form and are there for them and are not fightening all the time. But of coarse u would know all this as u know what goes on inside the 4 walls of other peoples houses

Mr crazy Mr crazy I really don't think you should have to justify anything. What goes on behind four walls should stay in them four walls. The couple that commented on your marriage I believe had no right to post on a public forum. "

I no I shouldnt have to justify myself nor should anybody else for that matter. The way I view the public fourm is to give my honest opinion on a post.

Mr crazy

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