FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meets -----who pays ??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure this has been gone through before but just for curiosity sake and as the exam paper goes, "Discuss " !! I for one have no problem whatsoever paying and have paid for all my hotel meets to date ( lol ) but this is a swingers not an escorts site and In this day n age of equality n everything else should women cough up or is it just my chivalrous n generous nature that comes through all the time ???

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

Personally I wouldn't be doing a hotel meet unless the guy was chivalrous. I'm a bit old fashioned. ... But it would be because he wanted to not because I would expect it in any way. I think its up to each person...i would have had coffee etc before that would be happening anyway.

But there is something very deliciously naughty about hotel sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't be doing a hotel meet unless the guy was chivalrous. I'm a bit old fashioned. ... But it would be because he wanted to not because I would expect it in any way. I think its up to each person...i would have had coffee etc before that would be happening anyway.

But there is something very deliciously naughty about hotel sex

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Well Mrs S, once you take the boxing gloves off n I get my platforms on I'll foot the bill, no problem !!!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much prefer to pay my share!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you invite somebody you shouldn't expect them to pay but if you make arrangements with somebody then the bill should be split

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By *rsmith21Man
over a year ago

Never never land

It might be old fashioned but I think the man should pay, the first time anyway, I know a lot of women are independent and want to pay their share but if the man is a gent he should pay and there is nothing to say the woman can't buy a few drinks or dinner if she wants to pay her share for the night

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By *longshottMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Those who want to play should pay lol. 50/50 all the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons."

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

If I (Mrs) is meeting alone first time guy books just in case of a no show if we meet again i book....fair is fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating. "

Hear, hear!!!! I agree all the way!! We are strong independant women

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By *longshottMan
over a year ago

Limerick

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating.

Hear, hear!!!! I agree all the way!! We are strong independant women

Aha now I know where Destinys Child went

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Like to pay my share but must admit most of the men I have met have been gentlemen and paid for it themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this has been gone through before but just for curiosity sake and as the exam paper goes, "Discuss " !! I for one have no problem whatsoever paying and have paid for all my hotel meets to date ( lol ) but this is a swingers not an escorts site and In this day n age of equality n everything else should women cough up or is it just my chivalrous n generous nature that comes through all the time ???"

Obviously yous both pay.... go halfs on price

Not in a million years at my age will I pay the whole thing i'd be dry just try to be nice. Tbh I dont think you needed to ask.... Just saying

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I find it hard not to be chivalrous and offer

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Obviously yous both pay.... go halfs on price

Not in a million years at my age will I pay the whole thing i'd be dry just try to be nice. Tbh I dont think you needed to ask.... Just saying

Not sure what age has to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously yous both pay.... go halfs on price

Not in a million years at my age will I pay the whole thing i'd be dry just try to be nice. Tbh I dont think you needed to ask.... Just saying

Not sure what age has to do with it"

I'm 19 so most nineteen year olds are always trying to save money or even young adults in general not only nineteen year olds

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By *illbillMan
over a year ago

dublin

Im old fashioned too I pay... Even if it was an ice cream on sunny day I like to pay.. Maybe I'm outdated and old fashioned but that's just me... I always open doors etc it's a sign off respect and manners I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for the most part it should be a shared expense. Although I have to shame in admitting that once I had arranged a meet. The others organised the hotel but after the session I was a happily broken and man and left without chipping in my share, I am ashamed to say.

Apologies again to (you know who you are) my treat next time.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"It might be old fashioned but I think the man should pay, the first time anyway, I know a lot of women are independent and want to pay their share but if the man is a gent he should pay and there is nothing to say the woman can't buy a few drinks or dinner if she wants to pay her share for the night "

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By *onyg4funMan
over a year ago

South

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Interesting, women want equality when it suits, so why should man pay, who made that rule? Is it equality on some things only? Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting, women want equality when it suits, so why should man pay, who made that rule? Is it equality on some things only? Just curious"

Just my opinion but I believe that equality and chivlary are two very different things

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

Interesting, women want equality when it suits, so why should man pay, who made that rule? Is it equality on some things only? Just curious

Just my opinion but I believe that equality and chivlary are two very different things

couldn't have put it better hun! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting, women want equality when it suits, so why should man pay, who made that rule? Is it equality on some things only? Just curious

Just my opinion but I believe that equality and chivlary are two very different things

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd go 50/50 and that would be agreed before hand unless the other party was staying at the hotel overnight and then I'd expect and tell them to pay. No problem paying my way but not funding somebody else's stay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating. "
Thats telling ye !!!! More power to u Yolo Lol....but of the 2 ladies I've asked the question of on here ( and for whatever reason I havent had full meets with either ) they both replied " I NEVER pay " and they both were quite happy with that !! Should we applaud their skill ??? Lol

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By *onyg4funMan
over a year ago

South

"Personally I'd go 50/50 and that would be agreed before hand unless the other party was staying at the hotel overnight and then I'd expect and tell them to pay. No problem paying my way but not funding somebody else's stay."
Well said, I will pay first time, but not because it is "the done thing" or because society has "ruled" it, but because I am a gentleman, but I don't not understand why some women just expect the guy to pay, and never offer to share, if she does, I would not accept, but be glad to know she willing to share, some women just expect the guy to pay for everything! Just my opinion folks

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Never thought of that.....iv always had the time to stay the night.....not so sure I'd be bothered for a few hours.....something nice about next morning sex

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating. Thats telling ye !!!! More power to u Yolo Lol....but of the 2 ladies I've asked the question of on here ( and for whatever reason I havent had full meets with either ) they both replied " I NEVER pay " and they both were quite happy with that !! Should we applaud their skill ??? Lol"

Personally I think that's a little rude and expectant of them and if thats their way maybe better not to meet ! But really each to their own. I only do hotel meets if that was what the guy wanted and he had made it clear he wishes to do so and same with paying.I wouldn't expect it! If I suggested it I would pay and have done. .. Same as if it was some distance away I would pay because I prefer to be safe and not left stranded by a no show as I've heard happen to some. That's why I would really only arrange it with someone im happy with and have met. Again I still wouldn't expect it but it is nice to have a gentleman outside the bedroom. ... Now inside. . That's a whole different thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

You'll have to take your Dirty Underpants somewhere else to wash them!! Btw,.. I recommmend a 9kg Hotpoint 1500 spin. You can get a king size duvet into it for washing... lots cheaper than dry cleaning!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

I'm just turning them inside out for now, until I get sorted

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

I'm just turning them inside out for now, until I get sorted

ewww duff!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite happy to pay... but if the lady wants to pay her share im happy to go Dutch

I think its something both people need to discuss and agree up front. ... so there no "arguments" at when checking put. .. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

I'm just turning them inside out for now, until I get sorted

Lol it's like déjà vu here with your undergarments!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

I'm just turning them inside out for now, until I get sorted

Lol it's like déjà vu here with your undergarments!

ha "

Can't teach an old dog new tricks lol

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

I'm just turning them inside out for now, until I get sorted

Lol it's like déjà vu here with your undergarments!

Can't teach an old dog new tricks lol

ahh but can you teach Ronaltoe new tricks. .. I miss his little outfits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be willing to pay the bill, but think it's right that it's shared as it's a 2 way thing and your both meeting for the same reasons.

You need all your spare cash for your new appliances

Ahh but where's your priorities? A washing machine or good session in a hotel? I know what I'd choose

I'm just turning them inside out for now, until I get sorted

Lol it's like déjà vu here with your undergarments!

Can't teach an old dog new tricks lol

ahh but can you teach Ronaltoe new tricks. .. I miss his little outfits

Ha ha we need a new avatar challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was thinking a while back of a 4th of July one but too late now.

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"I was thinking a while back of a 4th of July one but too late now.

just voted for you in lounge hun. . Go get emm! !

Ps when is the next avatar challenge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking a while back of a 4th of July one but too late now.

I was thinking we need a toe themed one to put Ronaldtoe in his place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was thinking a while back of a 4th of July one but too late now.

just voted for you in lounge hun. . Go get emm! !

Ps when is the next avatar challenge? "

Ah thanks! X

I better get my thinking cap on!

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By *ecretly seductiveWoman
over a year ago

Palookaville

"I was thinking a while back of a 4th of July one but too late now.

just voted for you in lounge hun. . Go get emm! !

Ps when is the next avatar challenge?

Ah thanks! X

I better get my thinking cap on!

lol. ... apologies. ..But they are fun

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By *ardtofindMan
over a year ago

galway

I'm old fashioned as well. I would never dream of asking a lady to contribute Especially if I'm the one asking to meet. As I probably will be staying in hotel anyway. Just call me old fashioned it's getting late to change now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting, women want equality when it suits, so why should man pay, who made that rule? Is it equality on some things only? Just curious

Just my opinion but I believe that equality and chivlary are two very different things

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You might have a point there , Mefor !!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating.

Hear, hear!!!! I agree all the way!! We are strong independant women

yipee when will I book the room for ?

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By *haggy13Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere nice :-)

Only fair to split the bill, I'm sure he wud be worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only fair to split the bill, I'm sure he wud be worth it

I was thinking the same, I'd only pay the full bill if she was worth it

Disclaimer* this is obviously meant as a joke

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only fair to split the bill, I'm sure he wud be worth it

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How the hell have u never got round to finding out ????? lol...msg me right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those who want to play should pay lol. 50/50 all the way."

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Its chivalrous to offer, but I'm fiercely independent and won't be beholden to anyone.

So I insist on paying my share every time. We're two consenting adults having sex not dating. "

Absolutely agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I go to a hotel then I offer to pay half.

But if I meet someone regularly I may invite them to my place. But if he can't offer to accommodate in return and I have to play the hostess all the time I may find it a bit tedious after a while. If the alternative is hotel and I also have to pay even they were at mine many times I probably would think he's a bit of an ass lol

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