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By *rianglelad OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

This site is full of couples who do not want to meet single men complaining about the number of single males who approach them. I have never disrespected any couples' wishes in that regard. However when a couple whose profile clearly states that they do NOT want to meet single males approaches me for a meet I respectfully reply with my pics as I did tonight with a couple who requested a meet. I believe in going for fun when it is offered not arsing about hmmmming and haaing. Suddenly the meet turned into a coffee!! I am sorry but if I wanted coffee I would go to Costa I would not be on a swingers site. Am I wrong in thinking that we single males have as much right not to be messed around as couples have?

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

Them wanting to meet for a coffee, is that not their right? not all meets start with jumping into bed.

Yes it is a sex site but people retain the right to see if they get on or not before a commitment is made.

It isnt how we do it but everyone on here has the right to play or not their way!!!

i cant see as your being messed around sorry just can't, maybe your expectations are higher than theirs

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

Ps We generally only want single guys!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not quiet sure what makes you think anyone on here will blindly meet and fuck regardless of whether that is male , female or a couple . If you imagine that the majority of people here fuck without so much as an introduction to see if ye like each other first then you are sadly mistaken . If it is guarantted action you are looking for , may I respectfully suggest the services of an escort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said ladies

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"not quiet sure what makes you think anyone on here will blindly meet and fuck regardless of whether that is male , female or a couple . If you imagine that the majority of people here fuck without so much as an introduction to see if ye like each other first then you are sadly mistaken . If it is guarantted action you are looking for , may I respectfully suggest the services of an escort "
That would save any misunderstanding

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"This site is full of couples who do not want to meet single men complaining about the number of single males who approach them. I have never disrespected any couples' wishes in that regard. However when a couple whose profile clearly states that they do NOT want to meet single males approaches me for a meet I respectfully reply with my pics as I did tonight with a couple who requested a meet. I believe in going for fun when it is offered not arsing about hmmmming and haaing. Suddenly the meet turned into a coffee!! I am sorry but if I wanted coffee I would go to Costa I would not be on a swingers site. Am I wrong in thinking that we single males have as much right not to be messed around as couples have? "

Ah here!

Meeting you for a coffee is hardly messing you around..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd think it only right you went for a drink first to see if you all get along. It's different with singles. 2 people can agree easier but when 3 are involved it's always best to make sure everyone is comfortable first

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Op its not dial z fuck u know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd actually take the offer of a coffee as a positive

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By *rianglelad OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

Comments so far are fair enough if that is the grounds on which the first contact is made...do u want to meet for a coffee? to which I would reply No thank you if I want coffee I will go to Costa. However if the initial approach is We are in ********* for the weekend do you want to meet? and no mention is made of coffee or kids in the next room...have I not the right not to be mislead?????

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Comments so far are fair enough if that is the grounds on which the first contact is made...do u want to meet for a coffee? to which I would reply No thank you if I want coffee I will go to Costa. However if the initial approach is We are in ********* for the weekend do you want to meet? and no mention is made of coffee or kids in the next room...have I not the right not to be mislead?????"

Maybe they could meet you in Costa then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So why not meet them somewhere public like going for a drink and see how things go..if it doesnt work ye can go yer seperate ways and no harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How have you been misled, you meet for coffee, you got one leg in the bed, if all get on well and are attracted then you get in the other leg in and over, remember even after agreeing to meet anyone and everyone has the right to say no thx

Respect the members and they'll reciprocate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" However if the initial approach is We are in ********* for the weekend do you want to meet?"

Are we playing hangman?

Can I have c o l e r a I n e

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By *rianglelad OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

again I would appreciate and agree with the comments if this had been someone who was planning a meet at some time in the future and had wanted to get to know me...fair do's...but this is someone who was in my area for just one/two nights and approached me, a single male, for a meet...again I reiterate no mention was made in the initial contact that it was a "coffee meet"...obviously I am completely on the wrong wavelength from most on this site...and it prob not the right place for me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" However if the initial approach is We are in ********* for the weekend do you want to meet?

Are we playing hangman?

Can I have c o l e r a I n e "

No, but you can have coleraine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Comments so far are fair enough if that is the grounds on which the first contact is made...do u want to meet for a coffee? to which I would reply No thank you if I want coffee I will go to Costa. However if the initial approach is We are in ********* for the weekend do you want to meet? and no mention is made of coffee or kids in the next room...have I not the right not to be mislead?????

Maybe they could meet you in Costa then? "

Shuts at 6

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could it be that having met you face to face they decided they didn't want to take it any further and to save blushes all round they went for coffee.

Sorry but unless you have agreed in advance an hourly rate once someone meets you they are not messing you around at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" However if the initial approach is We are in ********* for the weekend do you want to meet?

Are we playing hangman?

Can I have c o l e r a I n e

No, but you can have coleraine "

Cheddar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?"

He sent photos and got a " we will meet for coffee" instead of "come straight round, just stopping off long enough to get condoms"

Think he's kind of pissed off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?"

As I see it they contacted him as they where in his area looking for a meet, they were interested and said so but suggested a coffee first. The op wasnt happy cause he didn't want the coffee and just wanted to jump in the sack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?

He sent photos and got a " we will meet for coffee" instead of "come straight round, just stopping off long enough to get condoms"

Think he's kind of pissed off"

lol, the cheek of it eh, imagine people not wanting to do things exactly the way you want them to do it, they may as well give up now.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?

As I see it they contacted him as they where in his area looking for a meet, they were interested and said so but suggested a coffee first. The op wasnt happy cause he didn't want the coffee and just wanted to jump in the sack "

That's pretty much it. He would've gone to Costa if he wanted coffee, although it apparently closes at 6.

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By *rianglelad OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

no one met anyone...so hourly rates arent involved!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?

As I see it they contacted him as they where in his area looking for a meet, they were interested and said so but suggested a coffee first. The op wasnt happy cause he didn't want the coffee and just wanted to jump in the sack

That's pretty much it. He would've gone to Costa if he wanted coffee, although it apparently closes at 6. "

You don't go to Coleraine for its night life

In fact, there's not much reason to go to Coleraine at all really

Still the Premier inn does great rates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one met anyone...so hourly rates arent involved!!!"

so you didn't even meet them? how is that being messed around??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?

As I see it they contacted him as they where in his area looking for a meet, they were interested and said so but suggested a coffee first. The op wasnt happy cause he didn't want the coffee and just wanted to jump in the sack

That's pretty much it. He would've gone to Costa if he wanted coffee, although it apparently closes at 6.

You don't go to Coleraine for its night life

In fact, there's not much reason to go to Coleraine at all really

Still the Premier inn does great rates"
I'd only ever go to coleraine to get to portrush, even then I'd probably go by white rocks much better scenery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused by all this, did the OP meet the couple and then they told him they wanted to go for a coffee?

As I see it they contacted him as they where in his area looking for a meet, they were interested and said so but suggested a coffee first. The op wasnt happy cause he didn't want the coffee and just wanted to jump in the sack

That's pretty much it. He would've gone to Costa if he wanted coffee, although it apparently closes at 6.

You don't go to Coleraine for its night life

In fact, there's not much reason to go to Coleraine at all really

Still the Premier inn does great rates I'd only ever go to coleraine to get to portrush, even then I'd probably go by white rocks much better scenery"

I rest my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just out of curiousity now ...... I wonder how the mindset that "swingers" or a large percentage of them would be on for "action" with no more than a shot of a cock to go on as a guide , is formed . ?

im genuinely curious as to thoughts on that from the "if i wanted coffee id have gone to costas " crowd .

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By *rianglelad OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

"...with no more than a shot of a cock to go on as a guide"...and you were privy to which pics I sent?...please don't ever judge me by whatever standards you have...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""...with no more than a shot of a cock to go on as a guide"...and you were privy to which pics I sent?...please don't ever judge me by whatever standards you have..."

I'm confused....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""...with no more than a shot of a cock to go on as a guide"...and you were privy to which pics I sent?...please don't ever judge me by whatever standards you have..."

i meant in general , wasnt talking about you personally , there are many who share your mindset .

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By *rianglelad OP   Man
over a year ago

Coleraine

As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!"

Seeing as I used to live in coleraine and don't take myself so seriously I take the piss out of it ( you gotta admit its dire) I wasn't taking the piss out of you

Of course your opinions are valid, everyone's are. However not everyone is going to agree

At the end of the day, you thought one thing,they thought another. Perhaps if you had gone for that coffee ( not in costas cos it closes at six) you may have found that you all did get along great and you would have been shagging all night instead of being on here, totally pissed off

Worse that would have happened was you got out the house for a while a got to meet new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!

Seeing as I used to live in coleraine and don't take myself so seriously I take the piss out of it ( you gotta admit its dire) I wasn't taking the piss out of you

Of course your opinions are valid, everyone's are. However not everyone is going to agree

At the end of the day, you thought one thing,they thought another. Perhaps if you had gone for that coffee ( not in costas cos it closes at six) you may have found that you all did get along great and you would have been shagging all night instead of being on here, totally pissed off

Worse that would have happened was you got out the house for a while a got to meet new people"

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

This thread is making me sad....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!

Seeing as I used to live in coleraine and don't take myself so seriously I take the piss out of it ( you gotta admit its dire) I wasn't taking the piss out of you

Of course your opinions are valid, everyone's are. However not everyone is going to agree

At the end of the day, you thought one thing,they thought another. Perhaps if you had gone for that coffee ( not in costas cos it closes at six) you may have found that you all did get along great and you would have been shagging all night instead of being on here, totally pissed off

Worse that would have happened was you got out the house for a while a got to meet new people

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is making me sad.... "

Why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!

Seeing as I used to live in coleraine and don't take myself so seriously I take the piss out of it ( you gotta admit its dire) I wasn't taking the piss out of you

Of course your opinions are valid, everyone's are. However not everyone is going to agree

At the end of the day, you thought one thing,they thought another. Perhaps if you had gone for that coffee ( not in costas cos it closes at six) you may have found that you all did get along great and you would have been shagging all night instead of being on here, totally pissed off

Worse that would have happened was you got out the house for a while a got to meet new people"

Can you pass their details Mt way do I can use them I'm feeling naughty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!"

the point is, you were hardly messed about if they wanted a coffee meet first, not everyone just wants to meet up and fuck without even speaking to each other first, you are blaming them for something which a lot of people do here as standard, this isn't primarily a 'hook-up' site so don't really understand why you are being so uppity about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!

the point is, you were hardly messed about if they wanted a coffee meet first, not everyone just wants to meet up and fuck without even speaking to each other first, you are blaming them for something which a lot of people do here as standard, this isn't primarily a 'hook-up' site so don't really understand why you are being so uppity about it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're in your area would you like to meet?....

Yes.. here's a few pictures....

We can meet for a coffee, what time is good for you?

Eh?.... that's exactly how it works... swinging 101.. page 1

Most men would give their left ball to get that far and see how the evening panned out..

Messed around?.... NO!

Opportunity lost?... YES!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're in your area would you like to meet?....

Yes.. here's a few pictures....

We can meet for a coffee, what time is good for you?

Eh?.... that's exactly how it works... swinging 101.. page 1

Most men would give their left ball to get that far and see how the evening panned out..

Messed around?.... NO!

Opportunity lost?... YES!"

All of the above so true, and Tbh anyone who wants to jump straight into bed would be someone I would have no interest meeting

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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"As someone who has recently moved back to Ireland this has been a learning experience...big time...there is an obvious clique mentality around "swinging" in Ireland which I have not experienced elsewhere...but which I suppose I should not be surprised by. I dared as a single person to raise my head above the parapet re the treatment of single ppl on this site and have been slated or have had fun poked at me because of my opinion or where I happen now to live...ok it not the centre of the universe but I thought every opinion was valid on here... I have tried to contribute in other ways on the site...ie not just be a lurker...but perhaps it only the opinion of some that is respected...never mind folks..once bitten twice shy...happy swinging!!!!"

Welcome home! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're in your area would you like to meet?....

Yes.. here's a few pictures....

We can meet for a coffee, what time is good for you?

Eh?.... that's exactly how it works... swinging 101.. page 1

Most men would give their left ball to get that far and see how the evening panned out..

Messed around?.... NO!

Opportunity lost?... YES!"

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