FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

While out doing some shopping Today..

I Witnessed something that made me sick to my stomach, And makes me question what is wrong with society to turn a blind eye to this...

I was dodging along an aisle of aldi, it was packed loads of men, women and kids about, I could hear raised voices and a baby crying, looked around as did every other person only to see an extremely angry man shove a woman up against a fridge, her bag fell he kicked it towards her then shoved her again, and started calling her the most awful names, She asked him to stop cause he was scaring the kids, He then hit her in the stomach and ribs Twice, before demanding money and keys off her... People just walked past as if it wasn't happening... What the hell is wrong with people in today's society to not say something or intervene in some way...

I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

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By *rishCouple2kCouple
over a year ago

Berkshire

There is a youtube video about exactly this. Some guys pretended to be attackin a lady to see how many would defend her.

Works out like 5 defended her. And 20 didnt. Or some crazy figure like that.

We all know that abuse happens. Hense why i have encouraged Mrs IC to take up self defence. So myself, wife and even our kids are trained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a youtube video about exactly this. Some guys pretended to be attackin a lady to see how many would defend her.

Works out like 5 defended her. And 20 didnt. Or some crazy figure like that.

We all know that abuse happens. Hense why i have encouraged Mrs IC to take up self defence. So myself, wife and even our kids are trained.

i remember from psychology in college some case study. X (lets say 10) amount of women shouted "rape" from an alley and another 10 shouted "fire".. More people ran to help the women shouting fire.

it's disturbing how are society lets these things continually happen. While i might not have physically stepped in i would certainly have gotten help via security or the guards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen this before guy was walking calling the girl for all the names under the sun. Roaring at heir did go up and just said for him to learn some manners and stop speaking to the girl like that. At which point she started into me and the two of them ended up screaming at me so I left the shop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days, ppl are more concerned about theirselfs and Society has gone in a massive Ego Trip.

it would be easy to say, but i would have gone in between and at least take the pressure of her.

just the Way i am and always been

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

I couldn look at that I would of picked somethin up and slapped it off the back of his head I hate that shit the day a man ever raises a hand near me is the day he would be goin 6foot under

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By *ohn MingoMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"I've seen this before guy was walking calling the girl for all the names under the sun. Roaring at heir did go up and just said for him to learn some manners and stop speaking to the girl like that. At which point she started into me and the two of them ended up screaming at me so I left the shop. "

Sadly this is often the case. Too many times men have gone to a woman's aid and been attacked by the woman herself. Not worth the risk for many guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was so shocked at the fact people ignored the situation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldn look at that I would of picked somethin up and slapped it off the back of his head I hate that shit the day a man ever raises a hand near me is the day he would be goin 6foot under "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

security should have been called and that man detained and cctv should have been reviewed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly this is often the case. Too many times men have gone to a woman's aid and been attacked by the woman herself. Not worth the risk for many guys."

When I first moved into this apt, first weekend I heard the couple upstairs killing each other.

I rang the guards and they asked where I was, told them, they said yeah that this is a regular thing, she turns on them the minute they show up. They weren't willing to send someone round until I insisted, and what they said would happen , did, unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly this is often the case. Too many times men have gone to a woman's aid and been attacked by the woman herself. Not worth the risk for many guys."

Very true I've seen that happen with my own eyes but don't think I could stand back and just watch that it wud get under my skin too much I wud have to try something

A real man sud never raise his hand to a woman it's the lowest of the low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly this is often the case. Too many times men have gone to a woman's aid and been attacked by the woman herself. Not worth the risk for many guys.

Very true I've seen that happen with my own eyes but don't think I could stand back and just watch that it wud get under my skin too much I wud have to try something

A real man sud never raise his hand to a woman it's the lowest of the low

Yep a man that has to hit a woman is not really a man

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By *usky Couple01Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I would have jump in and tell him to stop it because if a man hits a woman he not a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately as many women today as yesteryear allow this to happen, some women enjoy the humiliation and the bullying and see it as lurve or some other form of affection. I have learnt to not interfere as its a private matter albeit in a public arena. These weak women accept apologies and it won't happen again and defend the assholes

I would have walked on by and pretended I saw nothing as to react gets a reaction usually negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id break h is fooking nexk the prick! but unfortunately it wud be me ending up doing time for it! the w oman wud more than likely back him up if they are together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't walk past this situation without at least saying something, its just not right but i would be wary, like itwasme i've stepped in before only to get abuse from the woman along with the man

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

It's up to you. We're not all brave. I've been there before and stepped in. There's nothing to me, but I carry myself well. I point out the fact that this kinda behaviour is not acceptable to me. And if it's not acceptable to me, it doesn't happen. No hero, just not willing to be silent either. Just me. That's totally a personal thing.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I try to intervene yrs ago with my friend and her boyfriend at the time. I told him exactly what I thought of him and, how much of a bully he was. She ended up sticking up for him and would not talk to me for weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to intervene yrs ago with my friend and her boyfriend at the time. I told him exactly what I thought of him and, how much of a bully he was. She ended up sticking up for him and would not talk to me for weeks.

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yeah thats what happens unfortunately! c ant understand it meself! try and help a nd u get fukked!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I maintain no man would hit me he may try.

But as some point he would have to sleep then id hit the fecker back and run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a light little spank w ud be all id do to u

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was a bit afraid of what the the lady's reaction would be but she was so relieved and thankfull it made my day in a strange kinda way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was a bit afraid of what the the lady's reaction would be but she was so relieved and thankfull it made my day in a strange kinda way

That's good my experience wouldn't stop me saying something again. Think it's just a shame that some men think it's ok to act that way. Though I would say it's actually as bad the other way round with women hitting men no one needs to be in a relationship that's abusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

So what exactly did you do then ?? You never said !!

I've stepped into a brawl a few times to stop someone gettin a beating,

To many wankers that have no respect for anyone or their possessions !!

Need the beg beat off them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

So what exactly did you do then ?? You never said !!

I've stepped into a brawl a few times to stop someone gettin a beating,

To many wankers that have no respect for anyone or their possessions !!

Need the beg beat off them

Yes....what did you do???

Once I seen a woman rip into her kid and the dad was staring blank saying stop your making a scene..I stuck my oar in and said go cool off leave the smallie alone to be told by the dad to fu@know off...it was none of my business shut me up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can people just ignore this when they clearly hear and see that the attacked person doesn't want this. She overheard her asking him to stop. What more evidence do you need?

Depending on the situation I would either tell the attacker to stop or call security or the guards.

Even if this is a twisted game and they both start shouting abuse at me... you know what? That's ok. That one person which may really need help is worth all the hassle people seem to want to avoid.

I've stepped in a few times when I witnessed domestic violence. Yes, sometimes it got a bit hairy. But I would always do it again. Why? Because when we were abused at home, a lot of people knew of it and did nothing. I asked one of them many year later why? Oh, they wouldn't get involved in personal matters. Fuck sake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr69: I would have approached the couple & asked the lady if she required any assistance.

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By *R and Sue EllenCouple
over a year ago

Near the City

I would call cops and let the prick know what I thought of him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

So what exactly did you do then ?? You never said !!

I've stepped into a brawl a few times to stop someone gettin a beating,

To many wankers that have no respect for anyone or their possessions !!

Need the beg beat off them

Well anydody that knows me know I'm not a violent person and I'm really shy..

But after watching that as he went in to punch her in the face I rammed him with my trolley and he fell into the fridge then i told him what a thought of him and picked up the lady's bag as she bust out crying I rang the guards then as he hurled abuse at me... she was shaking behind me and he was spitting and shouting... thankfully the cops weren't too far away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Found out after that she was 6 months pregnant...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Found out after that she was 6 months pregnant..."

Jeese that wild well done for stepping in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did a very good deed for that poor Lady. No doubt she was in constant fear of her abusive Bully of a Partner! You made a real difference! Because of you.. she will now get the help that she so desperately needs.. but hadn't the courage to ask for!

Wish there were more people like you in the World!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was a bit afraid of what the the lady's reaction would be but she was so relieved and thankfull it made my day in a strange kinda way

more power to your elbow Young Donegal Legs, should never really pass a person in need or trouble, even if your help is rebuked.....you know you tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

So what exactly did you do then ?? You never said !!

I've stepped into a brawl a few times to stop someone gettin a beating,

To many wankers that have no respect for anyone or their possessions !!

Need the beg beat off them

Well anydody that knows me know I'm not a violent person and I'm really shy..

Good for you!!! (Hugs for you too as I bet it shook you up.)

I'd have to step in if he was hitting her. I'm wary in these situations and tend to hang back and watch to try and figure out the best plan of action. The problem is, someone stepping in may cause her to get an even worse beating when they get home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately as many women today as yesteryear allow this to happen, some women enjoy the humiliation and the bullying and see it as lurve or some other form of affection. I have learnt to not interfere as its a private matter albeit in a public arena. These weak women accept apologies and it won't happen again and defend the assholes

I would have walked on by and pretended I saw nothing as to react gets a reaction usually negative "

I have met many Victims of Domestic Violence... NONE of the, "enjoyed" being humiliated or bullied!!!! They were ground down mentally by their Abusive Partners to believe they deserved to be treated that way! But you know what? They didn't deserve it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

So what exactly did you do then ?? You never said !!

I've stepped into a brawl a few times to stop someone gettin a beating,

To many wankers that have no respect for anyone or their possessions !!

Need the beg beat off them

Well anydody that knows me know I'm not a violent person and I'm really shy..

Good on you.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

That's pathetic, i am a woman and i wouldn't have walk past.

If hubby was there it wouldn't matter his size he would have soon known how it feels on the recieving end.

Seems people are caring less and less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it before more than once and yep i would definitely do it again!!!

Absolutely no need for ANYONE to put up with abuse of any kind

Well done fallen you did the right thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i went to a girls rescue when her partner was attacking her, within seconds i was on the deck with the 2 of them kicking lumps out of me and nobody came to my aid, makes you think twice the next time it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While out doing some shopping Today..

I Witnessed something that made me sick to my stomach, And makes me question what is wrong with society to turn a blind eye to this...

I know what I done and I'm glad I did...

So my question is What would you do??

What did you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a youtube video about exactly this. Some guys pretended to be attackin a lady to see how many would defend her.

Works out like 5 defended her. And 20 didnt. Or some crazy figure like that.

We all know that abuse happens. Hense why i have encouraged Mrs IC to take up self defence. So myself, wife and even our kids are trained.

i remember from psychology in college some case study. X (lets say 10) amount of women shouted "rape" from an alley and another 10 shouted "fire".. More people ran to help the women shouting fire.

it's disturbing how are society lets these things continually happen. While i might not have physically stepped in i would certainly have gotten help via security or the guards"

I saw that

basically they said if you're in any kind of trouble you should shout fire!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People dont want to get involved. I helped out a innocent guy one night get a hiding. They were trying to rob his jacket. I pushed him off and try to stop it. Ended up having to hit the trouble maker. But turned out his mates got involved and I took the hiding. As much as people want to intervene I think they cant due to the unexpected. Sad though and I would still intervene even after my experience. Just instinct.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wud scream so loud attack at t same time ring t guards everyone hopefuly in t shop wud come and see wat i am screamin about humilated the bastard he will have so many witness and cctv he will not have a hope in worming his way out of t situation i am totaly against violence on both sides and verbal abuse to me they are weak indivuals t poor woman and well dne u in wat u did u shud be proud of yourself xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wud scream so loud attack at t same time ring t guards everyone hopefuly in t shop wud come and see wat i am screamin about humilated the bastard he will have so many witness and cctv he will not have a hope in worming his way out of t situation i am totaly against violence on both sides and verbal abuse to me they are weak indivuals t poor woman and well dne u in wat u did u shud be proud of yourself xx"

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