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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ugh, this keeps on happening to me... emails forth and back, flirting, pics exchange... all going well... arrange coffee meet and then before the coffee meet the tone starts to change... so after the coffee we go to yours? I say no, I do coffee meet only first time around as I said from the start.... then ooohhh but if we get along? you never know? I'm sure we like each other.... or how about we meet at yours?

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The constant nudging gets tiresome doesn't it?

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By *wink partiesCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Guys will always chance their arm.

I didn't mind it when I was single, id have the social meet and stick to my guns.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Guys will always chance their arm.

I didn't mind it when I was single, id have the social meet and stick to my guns. "

fair play to you... I just feel like not meeting them at all when they get like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys will always chance their arm.

I didn't mind it when I was single, id have the social meet and stick to my guns.

fair play to you... I just feel like not meeting them at all when they get like that"

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By *wink partiesCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Guys will always chance their arm.

I didn't mind it when I was single, id have the social meet and stick to my guns.

fair play to you... I just feel like not meeting them at all when they get like that"

On hindsight Mr L was the one person I met who didn't try to push things and was completely respectful in that regard so I suppose that worked his favour.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ugh, this keeps on happening to me... emails forth and back, flirting, pics exchange... all going well... arrange coffee meet and then before the coffee meet the tone starts to change... so after the coffee we go to yours? I say no, I do coffee meet only first time around as I said from the start.... then ooohhh but if we get along? you never know? I'm sure we like each other.... or how about we meet at yours?

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol"

Yes i hate that too. Really puts me off them. If they have no regard for your safety..they can sling their hook!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ok with a coffee if it's local but driving hours for a coffee meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm ok with a coffee if it's local but driving hours for a coffee meet. "

I can understand that! But then I assume you wouldn't arrange a coffee meet if you knew she's not up for more or pretend to go along with it and then put pressure on the woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An evening drink is usually preferable for us, then the evening has 2 options, one of which always pans out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're an adult. Make the decision yourself with making it a drama. It is a swing site yes,but men are men. Surely if you can't put up with one chancing his arm then you'll be put out by a lot more from this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm ok with a coffee if it's local but driving hours for a coffee meet.

I can understand that! But then I assume you wouldn't arrange a coffee meet if you knew she's not up for more or pretend to go along with it and then put pressure on the woman?"

I wouldn't even dream of asking

if the lady said it's a coffee.. then that's exactly what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol"

Sweet this is probably going to sound very crass and rude but that guy is just out for a quick fuck from what I'm making of it.

The less effort and expense for him to make the better. They are two a penny here. Good luck to him if he's getting away with it.

Nothing wrong with having a flirtatious strong coffee that leaves you buzzing for more. It's a much safer start for a meet to proceed for single fems

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're an adult. Make the decision yourself with making it a drama. It is a swing site yes,but men are men. Surely if you can't put up with one chancing his arm then you'll be put out by a lot more from this site. "

thanks for reminding me I'm an adult! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sweet this is probably going to sound very crass and rude but that guy is just out for a quick fuck from what I'm making of it.

The less effort and expense for him to make the better. They are two a penny here. Good luck to him if he's getting away with it.

Nothing wrong with having a flirtatious strong coffee that leaves you buzzing for more. It's a much safer start for a meet to proceed for single fems

xx"
ah jeez yeah I know that, that's why it puts me off and I won't meet them. I have no problem with people taking that approach... it's just not my thing... what disappoints me is when they string you along until shortly before the meet. Ah sure, it's the name of the game lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol"

I found that a lot too, but as others say, guys will be guys! Hal was the most non pushy guy I met here and it is much more appealing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe guys should learn a bit more respect and not get on like desperados? Just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet this is probably going to sound very crass and rude but that guy is just out for a quick fuck from what I'm making of it.

The less effort and expense for him to make the better. They are two a penny here. Good luck to him if he's getting away with it.

Nothing wrong with having a flirtatious strong coffee that leaves you buzzing for more. It's a much safer start for a meet to proceed for single fems

xx ah jeez yeah I know that, that's why it puts me off and I won't meet them. I have no problem with people taking that approach... it's just not my thing... what disappoints me is when they string you along until shortly before the meet. Ah sure, it's the name of the game lol"

I agree with you sweet, they all nicey nice then the tone changes once you actually agree, I really can't be bothered half the time now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I found that a lot too, but as others say, guys will be guys! Hal was the most non pushy guy I met here and it is much more appealing!! "

exactly! that's a great tip for the men out there! Show interest, be flirtateous (don't know how to spell that) but don't be pushy.... I personally want them much more that way! Otherwise it's too easy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet this is probably going to sound very crass and rude but that guy is just out for a quick fuck from what I'm making of it.

The less effort and expense for him to make the better. They are two a penny here. Good luck to him if he's getting away with it.

Nothing wrong with having a flirtatious strong coffee that leaves you buzzing for more. It's a much safer start for a meet to proceed for single fems

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks Rinky and Tiny.. sorry about that ole' rant... been here and done many times lol

I guess it wears you down after the 100th time... I had to get it off my enourmous chest haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found that a lot too, but as others say, guys will be guys! Hal was the most non pushy guy I met here and it is much more appealing!!

God sweet whispers I hear you!!!! It is so refreshing to hear from a guy who does not push and yes they are the guys we def want to meet!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are right to stick to your guns as done guys give us real swinging fellows a bad name anyway a laugh over a coffee is a good meet and as you said you need to get on first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so if the fact u seen me walking down the street with my coffee considered a coffee meet when can we go to level 2 lol only joking sweet dont smack me with ur handbag if u see me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm ok with a coffee if it's local but driving hours for a coffee meet. "

You are right, you shouldn't have to drive for miles just for a coffee meet!

The trouble is I want to know I am safe and that there is chemistry between us to bring it to another level so unless the guy has business in my area or passing through I hate the thought that he is driving a long distance and expecting more than coffee, I do make it clear what my expectations are from the beginning!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"so if the fact u seen me walking down the street with my coffee considered a coffee meet when can we go to level 2 lol only joking sweet dont smack me with ur handbag if u see me again

you didn't have a coffee in your hand so it didn't count haha

it may be time to arrange a 'coincidental' meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm ok with a coffee if it's local but driving hours for a coffee meet.

You are right, you shouldn't have to drive for miles just for a coffee meet!

100% agree

Now if a lovely lady was willing to meet half way for a coffee I'd be well up for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

100% agree

Now if a lovely lady was willing to meet half way for a coffee I'd be well up for that

let me start walking now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% agree

Now if a lovely lady was willing to meet half way for a coffee I'd be well up for that

let me start walking now lol"

Think a water meet may be more in order!!!

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By *oulbotMan
over a year ago

Keep your head up and walk in your chosen direction. xxx Paul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had all different kind of meets, meets just for a drink, the either lead somewhere at a later date or some that didn't at all cause the chemistry wasn't there. I've had meets for a drink that went that well that the night turned into something more unexpectedly. I've had meets that we both new it was going to go somewhere so didn't even go for the drink in the first place. I guess every situation is different, but the main thing to remember from both parties is you should never take anything for granted. Meeting in person is so much different than chatting online and you can only make that judgement when you've meet the person for real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee is coffee. Just ask him " u foa coffee"!! In a chinesse accent lol. He will understand.

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By *timulationMan
over a year ago

sexerotica

being pushy on here certainly isn't attractive, having said that some like to get straight to the point with no beating about the bush( not that there's too much of that around these days!!!!lol) others like to chat flirt etc but the single most important thing in my book is respect. respect the wishes of others be it they want you to spank them with a paddle or caress them with a feather!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had all different kind of meets, meets just for a drink, the either lead somewhere at a later date or some that didn't at all cause the chemistry wasn't there. I've had meets for a drink that went that well that the night turned into something more unexpectedly. I've had meets that we both new it was going to go somewhere so didn't even go for the drink in the first place. I guess every situation is different, but the main thing to remember from both parties is you should never take anything for granted. Meeting in person is so much different than chatting online and you can only make that judgement when you've meet the person for real

Well said mr Duffer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm ok with a coffee if it's local but driving hours for a coffee meet.

You are right, you shouldn't have to drive for miles just for a coffee meet!

Hmmmm that does sound tempting xx

100% agree

Now if a lovely lady was willing to meet half way for a coffee I'd be well up for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think ........ Well said xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said mr Duffer

Ohh it's Mr Duffer now, is it Ms Hot, why so formal ?lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think ........ Well said xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think ........ Well said xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always drinks first....

And sometimes a person may have a hotel meet up in that case we usually ask for a meet for coffee during the day.......and once or twice never to hear from them again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always drinks first....

And sometimes a person may have a hotel meet up in that case we usually ask for a meet for coffee during the day.......and once or twice never to hear from them again....

You would hear from me lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your always welcome Mocha....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remind me again what's a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks Rinky and Tiny.. sorry about that ole' rant... been here and done many times lol

I guess it wears you down after the 100th time... I had to get it off my enourmous chest haha"
i completely agree with you hun. Coffee is a coffee at the end of the day its one way to avoid uncomfortable situation if u don't really fancy him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree no one should be pushy and that's that. But I went for a coffee one night sat and chatted for ages. Sometimes it was rude and suggestive and five minutes later ranting about work. I thought it went well we had a laugh etc. gave her a kiss good bye and went home. Before I was back to the house got a message saying she wasn't interested because I made no moves what so ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet this is probably going to sound very crass and rude but that guy is just out for a quick fuck from what I'm making of it.

The less effort and expense for him to make the better. They are two a penny here. Good luck to him if he's getting away with it.

Nothing wrong with having a flirtatious strong coffee that leaves you buzzing for more. It's a much safer start for a meet to proceed for single fems

Ah we all have disappointments here Sweets. He obviously thought he could reel you in and you'd happily bend over backwards for him. You're right to stick to your guns and do what feels right and safe for you. xx"
safety for anyone meeting off here is paramount! there is guidelines set down as s orta rules for meeting anddefinately for ladies they shud be adhered to! its a big bad world out there as we all know and none of us really know who we are chatting to! so safety first then pleasure

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By *arkside24Man
over a year ago

monkstown

Believe it or not but this happens with ladies too..Drink meet setup and no show...ah well !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was arranged as a coffee meet then

No point in pushing for more unless the spark and flirting is their and its a mutual respect.

A coffee and chat see if you want to meet again.

But getting their backs up is never a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet this is probably going to sound very crass and rude but that guy is just out for a quick fuck from what I'm making of it.

The less effort and expense for him to make the better. They are two a penny here. Good luck to him if he's getting away with it.

Nothing wrong with having a flirtatious strong coffee that leaves you buzzing for more. It's a much safer start for a meet to proceed for single fems

Ah we all have disappointments here Sweets. He obviously thought he could reel you in and you'd happily bend over backwards for him. You're right to stick to your guns and do what feels right and safe for you. xxsafety for anyone meeting off here is paramount! there is guidelines set down as s orta rules for meeting anddefinately for ladies they shud be adhered to! its a big bad world out there as we all know and none of us really know who we are chatting to! so safety first then pleasure

Jeyz suckmehard how are ya! I'm still waiting on you to come and fix me pipes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol"

there are so many that do not take no for an answer.its almost like you owe them the sex purely by them being there. When i met whole lotta love there was no pressure at all.the chemistry was there and that was obvious but there was not an ounce of pressure to play.hes the the best thing to ever happen to me.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

Annoying when your chatting and are asked for a meet. You agree then no more contact from that person again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't fell comfortable without a short meeting beforehand. Generally I think a person knows in the first 5 minutes if there is going to be chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very true!u mite think u get on great with sumone by texting or even talking on the phone but untill u actually meet them in person u just cant say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

Awww ffs not another love story lol what's in the air round here these days lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

Awww ffs not another love story lol what's in the air round here these days lol

ah sure it cant be helped....and that wasnt a love story....i will print that shortly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

Awww ffs not another love story lol what's in the air round here these days lol

ah sure it cant be helped....and that wasnt a love story....i will print that shortly.

Good luck to ya both, but can ya spare us the detail..... unless it's highly Erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

i can't imagine pressuring anybody about anything, especially not sex, you're a wee gem. If this was your attempt at making me blush, it didn't

work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

Awww ffs not another love story lol what's in the air round here these days lol

ah sure it cant be helped....and that wasnt a love story....i will print that shortly.

Good luck to ya both, but can ya spare us the detail..... unless it's highly Erotic

oh it soooo is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

i can't imagine pressuring anybody about anything, especially not sex, you're a wee gem. If this was your attempt at making me blush, it didn't

work

damn it....back to the books for me so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

Awww ffs not another love story lol what's in the air round here these days lol

ah sure it cant be helped....and that wasnt a love story....i will print that shortly.

in vigorous detail??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol

I found that a lot too, but as others say, guys will be guys! Hal was the most non pushy guy I met here and it is much more appealing!! "
Well , any guys reading this should learn as to what approach is best cos if you end up with a girl like Redhott , well, .....need I say more !!!! or Sweetwhisper for that matter !!!!lol

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

I hate people being pushy, real turn off. It just means that they have no respect for my boundaries.

Ok rant over lol"

Your just being a tease sweet. You know that when you said coffee he read sex. Just as when he said WE and respectful you knew he was lying.

(I'm not serious just in case anyone thinks that!)

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