FabSwingers.com forum: Time Wasters

By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

Ok so I'm going to have a rant. so stop reading now if you don't want to hear it.

Now we now there a lot of lovely genuine people on this site. We've met quite a few people in the 4 years we've been here.

Only in the past year have we opened our profile up to meeting single males. In the past 4 months we have been stood up 4 times by single males!!!

Now I know our criteria is quite strict, we won't send face pics. We don't add as friends until we meet. We are adult enough to take rejection, join us for a drink and if we're not your cup of tea (no pun intended) then no offence taken.

But to message steadily, arrange a venue to meet, have us drive 30 mile approx and then not bother turn up.

Surely if you cant make it its not too much to ask for a text to let us know this.

Aww well it wasn't the first and I'm sure it wont be the last. Rant over. Mrs Sin xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shocking...were they well verified??

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By *ermaeMan
over a year ago

co down

Their loss ! X

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

Yes Woody usually only meet verified profiles

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

thanks Clooney x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....and breathe.

Tut, tut, tut Not very nice at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ill say it again they ruin it for everybody

But as clooney said. They made a giant mistake being no shows

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

lol no candy its not especially when we dont get the opportunity that often

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what they say hun... Never take an arsehole with ya etc. Shame! And so annoying.... But as already said ...their loss.

chin up

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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

Having meet you guys at the Belfast meet, it is definitely their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol no candy its not especially when we dont get the opportunity that often"

Chin up, their loss. Have a night they wouldn't have ever forgotten!

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

Thanks Downgirl and Jaz xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

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why not insist on their address and phone number that's what I normally send prior to a meet if they can't provide it alarms should be ringing, it a shame because these type of welters put couples of meeting single guys

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By *ick and sexyCouple
over a year ago

any

Happened to us yesterday. Drove 90 mins and guess what...no show and their phone switched off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds like a cliché but it really spoils it for genuine people. Their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a cliché but it really spoils it for genuine people. Their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

Well you guys shouldn't loose all hope because you both seem straight up and very nice and there are generally a lot of cool nice people here and I generally use the forums quite a lot.

I find if people are active on the forums then I check their veris and have a phone call.

If you don't exchange face pics that's your choice and up to the guys to make their own mind up and if it was an issue its their issue not yours but I stress don't give up..

What would all of us single guys do without people like you guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds like a cliché but it really spoils it for genuine people. Their loss.

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

We did have phone number and texted and phoned twice before leaving the agreed venue to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happened to us yesterday. Drove 90 mins and guess what...no show and their phone switched off

Disappointed because couples and ladies will just get pissed off and either alter age brackets or not look for single guys.. But there are genuine ones out there..

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"Happened to us yesterday. Drove 90 mins and guess what...no show and their phone switched off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We did have phone number and texted and phoned twice before leaving the agreed venue to meet"

Well then they are just downright rude and that's bad form..

Really bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

Having meet you guys at the Belfast meet, it is definitely their loss

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

Well you guys shouldn't loose all hope because you both seem straight up and very nice and there are generally a lot of cool nice people here and I generally use the forums quite a lot.

I find if people are active on the forums then I check their veris and have a phone call.

If you don't exchange face pics that's your choice and up to the guys to make their own mind up and if it was an issue its their issue not yours but I stress don't give up..

What would all of us single guys do without people like you guys

Thanks Gaz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happened to us yesterday. Drove 90 mins and guess what...no show and their phone switched off

Disappointed because couples and ladies will just get pissed off and either alter age brackets or not look for single guys.. But there are genuine ones out there..

It's just wading through the crap to get to the genuine ones, but like most things you get there in the end

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"Yeah Gaz because we know there are decent single guys on this site but its the minority that give you a bad rep... Unfortunately we put our faith in the wrong ones

Having meet you guys at the Belfast meet, it is definitely their loss

thanks Woody x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And unfortunately I came along just too late. Could have saved a wasted journey for you guys. Couldn't believe someone wasca no show when I seen your profile.

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

Thanks wantin xx

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

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The positive thing from ur rant is the opening u know there is a lot of genuine good people here its such a pity a few time wasters ruin it for those genuine people but it happens in all walks of life having only ever chatted briefly its their loss but the annoying thing is that they are verified which makes it harder for all of us to choose possible meets

its their loss ur gain i am sure ill be telling others they fecked u around in ur convos with others here best thing is when u kicked is to get up and perve away again hopefully the next one will be man enough to show up

actually like the no face pic meets it adds to the excitement

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

Thanks CJ. We enjoy this lifestyle too much to let the minority ruin it for us. We are well verified too and are happy to say that if we havent been able to make a pre-arranged meet we have messaged to let them know.

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By *araMan
over a year ago

Definitely their loss, can second that ! It's so frustrating when you put time and effort into a meet to be either let down at last minute or no show, but please keep searching there are still some genuine reliable people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just pure bad manners plain and simple but hey you've one less Christmas card to buy lol next!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the people who were stood up in the above posts, i was just wondering if the single lads who ye aggreed to meet were verified by meeting or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the people who were stood up in the above posts, i was just wondering if the single lads who ye aggreed to meet were verified by meeting or not?"

Some where verified by meets, some weren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I'm going to have a rant. so stop reading now if you don't want to hear it.

Now we now there a lot of lovely genuine people on this site. We've met quite a few people in the 4 years we've been here.

Only in the past year have we opened our profile up to meeting single males. In the past 4 months we have been stood up 4 times by single males!!!

But to message steadily, arrange a venue to meet, have us drive 30 mile approx and then not bother turn up.

Surely if you cant make it its not too much to ask for a text to let us know this.

Aww well it wasn't the first and I'm sure it wont be the last. Rant over. Mrs Sin xx"

Ah come on.. No face pic?? Does Cilla Black arrange your meets. I would never arrange to meet someone unless I see their face 1st.. There's no way I'm driving to find they're mank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and in reply to rant

yes bad form and I know what that feels like but there's so many fakes it's hard to know prior to setting off whether they will show or not.

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"To the people who were stood up in the above posts, i was just wondering if the single lads who ye aggreed to meet were verified by meeting or not?

Some where verified by meets, some weren't"

Only been stood up by one unverified profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

know how u feel mrs sin,has happened far to many times to me to mention .it just seems to be the way some people get a kick .sad individals .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye,no wonder its so bloody hard to get a meet here as a single fella,when this shite happens

Not good at all,even a quick mail to say cant make it,dont take much time to write !!

Manners cost nothing !!!

Shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We must be very fortunate,never had a no show yet.had the odd cancellation but always with plenty of advance notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I'm going to have a rant. so stop reading now if you don't want to hear it.

Now we now there a lot of lovely genuine people on this site. We've met quite a few people in the 4 years we've been here.

Only in the past year have we opened our profile up to meeting single males. In the past 4 months we have been stood up 4 times by single males!!!

But to message steadily, arrange a venue to meet, have us drive 30 mile approx and then not bother turn up.

Surely if you cant make it its not too much to ask for a text to let us know this.

Aww well it wasn't the first and I'm sure it wont be the last. Rant over. Mrs Sin xx"
First of all may i say havin looked at yeer profile n veris defo his loss n secondly as a single guy here I myself had a bad experience a few weeks ago when drove 60 miles to meet a couple whom I'd been chatting to had a hotel arranged time n place to meet arranged no phone numbers exchanged till that evening then we did n txt time to meet n then to my total sickening disappointment no show no txt to explain r even cancell the meet so its not always the single guys that are time wasters. Well sometimes anyway

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By *ugo_a_gogoMan
over a year ago

Near by

I gotta agree with you Mrs Sin, we messaged briefly yesterday and soon you sent me your number, we text but I was to far for you to meet. You guys were genuine, friendly and polite. Don't get put off by the numerous numpties on here that seem to get off on messing around. There are many genuine and good single guys about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the best way to meet single guys is word of mouth from other cpls/single who have met with us. i think that vals are only so good to a point but really if you check out a guy or anybody for that matter and you are swinging a while the chances are u know some1 who has met the person or persons. ask the question to the other cpl no harm done. u will always have guys saying in the forum thats bad form and ur pics are stunning, cant believe he didnt show. guys say anything to try get their leg over sorry but its true. now most single guys i met when swinging as a cpl we made travel to us or if we were in the same area we could meet them but we never went out of our way to meet them. i know ill get stick for being honest but fuck it.

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"know how u feel mrs sin,has happened far to many times to me to mention .it just seems to be the way some people get a kick .sad individals ."

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"Ok so I'm going to have a rant. so stop reading now if you don't want to hear it.

Now we now there a lot of lovely genuine people on this site. We've met quite a few people in the 4 years we've been here.

Only in the past year have we opened our profile up to meeting single males. In the past 4 months we have been stood up 4 times by single males!!!

But to message steadily, arrange a venue to meet, have us drive 30 mile approx and then not bother turn up.

Surely if you cant make it its not too much to ask for a text to let us know this.

Aww well it wasn't the first and I'm sure it wont be the last. Rant over. Mrs Sin xxFirst of all may i say havin looked at yeer profile n veris defo his loss n secondly as a single guy here I myself had a bad experience a few weeks ago when drove 60 miles to meet a couple whom I'd been chatting to had a hotel arranged time n place to meet arranged no phone numbers exchanged till that evening then we did n txt time to meet n then to my total sickening disappointment no show no txt to explain r even cancell the meet so its not always the single guys that are time wasters. Well sometimes anyway

yeah appreciate its not only single guys. I'm sure there's plenty of cpls mess people about too. Here's hoping the good experiences outweigh the bad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wishful thinking

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"the best way to meet single guys is word of mouth from other cpls/single who have met with us. i think that vals are only so good to a point but really if you check out a guy or anybody for that matter and you are swinging a while the chances are u know some1 who has met the person or persons. ask the question to the other cpl no harm done. u will always have guys saying in the forum thats bad form and ur pics are stunning, cant believe he didnt show. guys say anything to try get their leg over sorry but its true. now most single guys i met when swinging as a cpl we made travel to us or if we were in the same area we could meet them but we never went out of our way to meet them. i know ill get stick for being honest but fuck it."

hi elusive good advice, though we chose not to accommodate as we prefer not to have meets in our family home so we often do travel...no shows are an occupational hazard I guess

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"Wishful thinking

? Seen your above post too...yeah does give single guys bad street cred...but we know you're not all the same. We've met some really great single guys too

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"We must be very fortunate,never had a no show yet.had the odd cancellation but always with plenty of advance notice."

Lucky you may your luck continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wishful thinking

? Seen your above post too...yeah does give single guys bad street cred...but we know you're not all the same. We've met some really great single guys too

I know mate

just having a shitty. Day so far , like a grumble now n again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We must be very fortunate,never had a no show yet.had the odd cancellation but always with plenty of advance notice.

Lucky you may your luck continue

By the looks of it now guys you'll have your pick from all the posts above of all the reliable, respectful singles

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By *obrayMan
over a year ago

Craigavon

You cant believe some people sometimes!! No respect these days.

Some people need to grow up.

Hope you have more luck in future!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately due to circumstances outside of FAB im unable to do meet ups atm....but im upfront about that from the start when chatting with someone. Think its a disgrace after you driving 90miles they dont show up!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately due to circumstances outside of FAB im unable to do meet ups atm....but im upfront about that from the start when chatting with someone. Think its a disgrace after you driving 90miles they dont show up!!!!"

There is no excuse to leave someone hanging...

Sure I've done 200km round trip for a coffee meet and hopefully will do it again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of guys are all talk through emails

or what ye use. Bigging themselves up but when it comes down to it they can't go through with it. At least the couple has security in numbers. But it really is bad form to arrange a meet and not shop. Really bad manners at least and totally wastes both parties fun. Us single males are not all the same though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of guys are all talk through emails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys give us all a bad name respect is a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so I'm going to have a rant. so stop reading now if you don't want to hear it.

Now we now there a lot of lovely genuine people on this site. We've met quite a few people in the 4 years we've been here.

Only in the past year have we opened our profile up to meeting single males. In the past 4 months we have been stood up 4 times by single males!!!

But to message steadily, arrange a venue to meet, have us drive 30 mile approx and then not bother turn up.

Surely if you cant make it its not too much to ask for a text to let us know this.

Aww well it wasn't the first and I'm sure it wont be the last. Rant over. Mrs Sin xx"

id be livid if tht happened!one is bad enough but 4!id report them and let ppl know what wasters they are!

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Sorry to hear this happened to you 2 as we know that you are completly genuine......if you are ever planning a trip to the midlands we can give you a few contacts of genuine guys that will definitely show up......happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true but seems the bad one are ruining it for peep who meet when they say they will meet

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By *SinfullyCurious OP Couple
over a year ago

Co Antrim, N. Ireland

"Sorry to hear this happened to you 2 as we know that you are completly genuine......if you are ever planning a trip to the midlands we can give you a few contacts of genuine guys that will definitely show up......happy hunting"

thanks

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By *allfungent24Man
over a year ago

city

I think there are a lot of dreamers on here and they bottle it when it comes to actually meeting.

Ruins it for genuine singles. It's hard enough here.

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