FabSwingers.com forum: threats made to me

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone seems to know who you are and is threatening to show your pics, profile veris etc that they have copied.... to your husband. .. What do you do? Scared to block them in case I make things worse. .. They know my real name. . But don't use my hubbies even though they reckon they are a good friend. They were cheated on by their wife so why would they let s good friend be made a fool of.. and I should go through the same pain.

Advice please. .. I'm sitting in bed crying and scared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god

Calm down it will be okay.....

Do you know the person??

have you met them??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh my god

Calm down it will be okay.....

Do you know the person??

have you met them??"

no they just started sending me messages tonight under my real name and stating they have copied all my pic. Veris and profile and will be showing them to my hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon its somebody from here that you spoke to at some stage... Had a similar incident happen me before... Found out eventually that it was a guy I rejected on here... Gut wrenching feeling tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I reckon its somebody from here that you spoke to at some stage... Had a similar incident happen me before... Found out eventually that it was a guy I rejected on here... Gut wrenching feeling tho

it might be. . There are a few haven't take a polite no thank you well. He doesn't use my hubbys name or anything that would tell me he actually knows us. To scared to think straight tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't panic just hide your profile for a wee while...

Just wait it out now to see what the next move is... Fuckin a hate cowards

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By *BC 9inchRepeaterMan
over a year ago

harrow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do I contact admin?

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By *BC 9inchRepeaterMan
over a year ago

harrow

" If someone seems to know who you are and is threatening to show your pics, profile veris etc that they have copied.... to your husband. .. What do you do? Scared to block them in case I make things worse. .. They know my real name. . But don't use my hubbies even though they reckon they are a good friend. They were cheated on by their wife so why would they let s good friend be made a fool of.. and I should go through the same pain.

Advice please. .. I'm sitting in bed crying and scared "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's cowardly.. Hope it works out ok, maybe just someone who's trying to put the fear of god into you for rejecting them r something, can't be careful enough, any amount of sickos in here, sit tight

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By *BC 9inchRepeaterMan
over a year ago

harrow

Tell your husband....sort out reason you on site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same msg the other day.got the fright of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell your husband....sort out reason you on site"

that a serious answer?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You being serious?

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By *lo1 slo2Couple
over a year ago

newry

If it was a text keep it and tell them your going to the police they have to treat it in confidence. It is blackmail because if they were going to do it they wouldn't have told you, they just would have done it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being serious?"

u talkin to me???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some form of net gain or threat of physical harm or loss of finance has to be invoked before it is blackmail; if they haven't asked for something material in exchange, the police won't be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have mail....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God that shocking!! Some sick people out there. Just try get a sleep & you'll be able to think straight in the morning.

If they apparently know you & are on this site then posting this they could see & prey on you being upset/scared!

Hope it all works out ok & SICKO IF YOU READ THIS - GET A LIFE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some form of net gain or threat of physical harm or loss of finance has to be invoked before it is blackmail; if they haven't asked for something material in exchange, the police won't be interested."

You're wrong....several people on here will beg to differ

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well its putting me in fear for my life and that's assault... Going to go of for a while and time will tell if he is what he says. ... outta my hands. Thanks guys. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being serious?

u talkin to me???

No was talking to that eejit of a fella that you replied too

bellend of a response...jesus...

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deadly wasn't it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well its putting me in fear for my life and that's assault... Going to go of for a while and time will tell if he is what he says. ... outta my hands. Thanks guys. X "

Has he actually used yours & your hubbys name etc? Personal details x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being serious?

u talkin to me???

No was talking to that eejit of a fella that you replied too

bellend of a response...jesus...

not you obviously

"
phew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just P.M'd you

pls reead hope it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being serious?

u talkin to me???

No was talking to that eejit of a fella that you replied too

bellend of a response...jesus...

deadly wasn't it..

omg i have never heard such a stupid response to a serious thread in my time on here.... shocking..!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You being serious?

u talkin to me???

No was talking to that eejit of a fella that you replied too

bellend of a response...jesus...

deadly wasn't it..

omg i have never heard such a stupid response to a serious thread in my time on here.... shocking..!!"

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By *wink partiesCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Agree completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to go ahead.....but that you will do a "BOBBIT" on him at your first opportunity.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Did they contact via your phone or on here.

If here could possibly be a idle threat.

If he has not mentioned ur husbands name.

If could be a fool playing a stupid game.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I'm not sure that putting up a thread about it makes sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are "good" friends with your hubby, surely your hubby would have been there for him when his wife cheated I.e having him round for a few beers etc, or at least your hubby would have mentioned that his good friend was breaking up with his wife to you, if either have happened then you will know who it is that sent you the msgs

Tho I think it's just someone on here looking to scare you

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By *wink partiesCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I'm not sure that putting up a thread about it makes sense to me. "

I agree. Just summit else for them to use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She was looking for help Michael, sometimes if these happen to any of us we can give advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems like there is a pattern developing on this. there have been a few fabbers here who run through the same thing.

it's a shame really. guess it is a rejected person seeking revenge or someone lonely.

I personally do not give my name as such until I've meet someone, no phone numbers etc either.

feel sorry for the peeps who run through this

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"She was looking for help Michael, sometimes if these happen to any of us we can give advice

If he wasn't 100% sure of her identity, he is now since she just confirmed it for him. If she had denied it, he couldn't prove anything at all.

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By *wink partiesCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"She was looking for help Michael, sometimes if these happen to any of us we can give advice

If he wasn't 100% sure of her identity, he is now since she just confirmed it for him. If she had denied it, he couldn't prove anything at all. "

The sites help threads might have been a better place for this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He knew her real name , how's that not clear?

She has hidden her profile anyway and not everyone read the forums either, she panicked and was quite upset as anybody would in that situation, so she asked for help here , ina situation like that we all react differently

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"He knew her real name , how's that not clear?

If someone says they know your name but you deny it then there is no possible way to prove it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get your point, but he had copied pics and info, if that guy really knows her husband and he shows him the pics, well , denying it will not help as i think the husband would definitely recognise her from the pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a fellow up here who is always doing this to girls. I warned a few last week he was back. He changes his addy but he says near enough the same thing word for word everytime

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

To be fair I think its just to put the shits up.

If he know more info he would surly give that a way.

Ok he may know her name after a few mails of chatting I may give my real name first name on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She was looking for help Michael, sometimes if these happen to any of us we can give advice

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Non site registered users can read the forums. You don't have to be s member.

I do get what Michael says. It be easy for him

to access the forums and look.

I do get she wants advise. But it could feed off his sick mind by the threats.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Seriously though, someone claims to know your name but you have doubts, so you start a thread confirming that they have the name right? I'm afraid it doesn't make sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know letme, i get your point, just saying she panicked and asked for help and i understand her reaction totally

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By *wink partiesCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Having had a similar thing happen me last year I think I can voice my opinion quite well:

1. Hiding your profile is of no benefit, they ll already have screen shots etc.

2. Starting a thread about is letting them know they've got to you.

3. If they're telling you they're going to do it they won't. They ll instead let u know when they have the damage done.

4. The person who you've met on here and is being your rock to help you get through it all will most likely be the person who is doing it. They see your meeting other people, having a good time etc and they don't like it.

Coming on here as a married person is a massive massive risk. You really have to decide whether your marriage is that awful to risk going through this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I wrong in thinking the profile was on as a couples profile in the first place or is that another name???

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By *ardtofindMan
over a year ago

galway

"If it was a text keep it and tell them your going to the police they have to treat it in confidence. It is blackmail because if they were going to do it they wouldn't have told you, they just would have done it."
I have to agree He/she is just a coward hiding behind the keyboard Stand up to them Don't let them see they have you scared Cowards won't follow through Chin up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a similar thing happen me last year I think I can voice my opinion quite well:

1. Hiding your profile is of no benefit, they ll already have screen shots etc.

2. Starting a thread about is letting them know they've got to you.

3. If they're telling you they're going to do it they won't. They ll instead let u know when they have the damage done.

Coming on here as a married person is a massive massive risk. You really have to decide whether your marriage is that awful to risk going through this. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a similar thing happen me last year I think I can voice my opinion quite well:

1. Hiding your profile is of no benefit, they ll already have screen shots etc.

2. Starting a thread about is letting them know they've got to you.

3. If they're telling you they're going to do it they won't. They ll instead let u know when they have the damage done.

Coming on here as a married person is a massive massive risk. You really have to decide whether your marriage is that awful to risk going through this. "

every single word of this post is 100% true. the biggest part being the last paragraph. its harsh but its true unfortunately. well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having had a similar thing happen me last year I think I can voice my opinion quite well:

1. Hiding your profile is of no benefit, they ll already have screen shots etc.

2. Starting a thread about is letting them know they've got to you.

3. If they're telling you they're going to do it they won't. They ll instead let u know when they have the damage done.

Coming on here as a married person is a massive massive risk. You really have to decide whether your marriage is that awful to risk going through this.

every single word of this post is 100% true. the biggest part being the last paragraph. its harsh but its true unfortunately. well said

Very true indeed!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It is probably someone who is just trying to frighten you because you rejected them but Admin don't take these things lightly so I would report the profile for Admin to take a look

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