FabSwingers.com forum: Arranged meets

By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Why arrange something for weeks then goes cold as your about to meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a rule I never plan too far in advance.

A week at tops

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Could b lots of reasons dude.some genuine.part of the game im afraid.just keep on keepin on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the weather has changed. Winter is coming? lol

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

Distance timing. .. there's loads of reasons. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the weather has changed. Winter is coming? lol"

PMSL

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

A lady texted me from Ireland she wanted to go chams I said us ghats fine as a couple texted each other for about 3 weeks the day before she was keen n looking forward to it all

In the day in he evening went cold what did she gain in all this can't understand other than get her ego boosted

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

"A lady texted me from Ireland she wanted to go chams I said us ghats fine as a couple texted each other for about 3 weeks the day before she was keen n looking forward to it all

In the day in he evening went cold what did she gain in all this can't understand other than get her ego boosted

thats not pleasant granted. But would you rather she was uncomfortable meeting you?

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

"A lady texted me from Ireland she wanted to go chams I said us ghats fine as a couple texted each other for about 3 weeks the day before she was keen n looking forward to it all

In the day in he evening went cold what did she gain in all this can't understand other than get her ego boosted

thats not pleasant granted. But would you rather she was uncomfortable meeting you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you mean 'went cold'?

Stopped chatting, got cold feet, stood you up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why arrange something for weeks then goes cold as your about to meet ?"

Any apology explanation or excuse get?

btw. a nice Easter weekend to all

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Was supposed to pick her up at a hotel nr chams have a quick drink then go in the evening she turned her phone off

Went cold

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you mean 'went cold'?

Stopped chatting, got cold feet, stood you up?"

let him cold down ..i guess ???

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

She's from cork came over for a short break things were goin good just shows what a large proportion of fab people r like

My mate said just come to a club with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was supposed to pick her up at a hotel nr chams have a quick drink then go in the evening she turned her phone off

Went cold "

Aw now that's not on... So did she even get to the hotel I wonder? Sounds like a set up cos if i got cold feet the last min after travelling I'd at least admit it and make the most of it over a drink.

Then again, maybe there wad someone else she was communicating with same time.

Either way not nice.

She been online since?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing "

So no excuses .. that seems to be the game Do not bother, do not have too high expectations here

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I didn't travel it was a 50 mile run from Leicester to chams

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

Thats a rough break brother. Feel bad for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go "

Would have been that your first meeting? Why then immediately order a room ? Why not just meet at a cafe to see if the chemistry is right? or am I too old fashioned or what ....?

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I'm not really bothered but 3 weeks of texting what a waste

Deleted her on fab and mobile

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

She was in Lincoln for a few day then London then the day we are going to club she is in brum. At 4 pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really bothered but 3 weeks of texting what a waste

Deleted her on fab and mobile "

yeah indeed .. a waste of time and money,not nice ... Ok I look around here, have also met a few women at a cup of coffee, with one I would soon arrange something .... let's see.Actually, I meet women prefer in everyday life..while shopping work etc ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the lady in question.....and she's definitely not a time waster!! Im sure she had her reasons....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go "

I would think the above might be the reason? You didnt exactly show much trust towards her. If a woman was risking travelling to meet and get YOU into Chams, as a couple, then the least you could do is book a hotel for her?

I don't really blame her at all.....

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go

I don't really blame her at all.....

So what ur saying is that he should have paid for the privalige to have HER take him to a club , what aload of bollicks

is this an esscort service or what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go

I don't really blame her at all.....

So what ur saying is that he should have paid for the privalige to have HER take him to a club , what aload of bollicks

is this an esscort service or what

No....what i'm saying is by her agreeing to meet him, he gets into Chams...without her he doesn't. Also as she's paying to get there, would only be polite to offer to pay for the accommodation. Who mentioned paying her anything??

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go

I don't really blame her at all.....

So what ur saying is that he should have paid for the privalige to have HER take him to a club , what aload of bollicks

is this an esscort service or what

fact that shes traveling from Ireland a little local knowledge on hotels doesn't go astray also if she text u shes in brum and the phone went dead is possibly a clue that something else happened or went wrong i would at least given her a chance to msg and explain

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go

I don't really blame her at all.....

So what ur saying is that he should have paid for the privalige to have HER take him to a club , what aload of bollicks

is this an esscort service or what

not paying cash to her but footing her hotel bill counts just as much

Now we are heading to Vagas in a few days but since we are traveling maybe we should just put up a meet looking for a guy and hope the guy pays our hotel , as thats is what u seem to be saying

We travel all over for meets and never expect anyone to pay for our hotel and i was also a single female for yrs before i met mr crazy and i never let a guy pay for anything but maybe a drink as this is a swing site and there is going to cost involved as to meet the right prople or go to clubs , u have to travel .

Not taking a dig at you but everyone knows whats involved when they sign up to swing sites and i hate to see guys been made a fool of especially the genuine ones as there are not too many of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wanted me to book hotel for her I said no as I've not met u n might not be interested in u but will go to the club seems she had a few on the go

I don't really blame her at all.....

So what ur saying is that he should have paid for the privalige to have HER take him to a club , what aload of bollicks

is this an esscort service or what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be odd then because I would always pay, or at least offer to pay, for a girl's hotel and taxi's etc but I don't view that as treating her like an Escort??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must be odd then because I would always pay, or at least offer to pay, for a girl's hotel and taxi's etc but I don't view that as treating her like an Escort??"

No your just being a gentleman and I'd offer to do the same thing. The talk of escorts is off topic

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

She needed the hotel more than me

I was more than happy to go chasm as a couple n if anything happened between us then it's a bonus I told her this

She needed the hotel till Tuesday as she flys back to Ireland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give her the benefit of the doubt as something may have happened to her phone or in real life especially as she has been in contact beforehand. However as a single female I would never expect a guy to cover my room costs as I would prefer to book it myself and have that security that I definitely have a roof over my head. If he wished to contribute towards it for staying over not a problem but it wouldn't be expected.

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Never mind shite happens a lot on here or is it just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She needed the hotel more than me

I was more than happy to go chasm as a couple n if anything happened between us then it's a bonus I told her this

She needed the hotel till Tuesday as she flys back to Ireland "

Why not previously meet in a public café, booking together, at common sympathy , a hotel and share the cost? We live in the age of emancipation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mind shite happens a lot on here or is it just me "

I do not think it depends on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never mind shite happens a lot on here or is it just me "

It does happen but all you can do is move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone travels all the way from Ireland to go clubbing in the UK, they're doing a tremendous effort so they must be quite ' motivated'. Dont forget that she was doing you a favor as without her you wouldnt even get into Chams on a Saturday night. I know there seems to be a lot of time wasters on here but theres the same amount of genuine people on here.

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

As a result of this n other let downs just going to go clubbing from now on its all there take it pic

Planned this 4 weeks ago hence taking a little hard but that's life u never got what u want on a plate lol people enjoy ur Easter xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone travels all the way from Ireland to go clubbing in the UK, they're doing a tremendous effort so they must be quite ' motivated'. Dont forget that she was doing you a favor as without her you wouldnt even get into Chams on a Saturday night. I know there seems to be a lot of time wasters on here but theres the same amount of genuine people on here. "

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I wonder how many other guys she was doin a fav anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She needed the hotel more than me

I was more than happy to go chasm as a couple n if anything happened between us then it's a bonus I told her this

She needed the hotel till Tuesday as she flys back to Ireland "

Think you'll find you actually needed her to get into Chams and as for your last comment, sounds like youve spat the dummy out, thrown the toys out of the pram and have a big dose of sour grapes. I'm sure the girls will be queuing up, even though the need the hotel rooms more than you do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay my own way ., id feel like a prostitute if I asked a guy to pay for my room ..

If sharing a room it's always 50/50 ! Only way to go .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always pay my own way ., id feel like a prostitute if I asked a guy to pay for my room ..

If sharing a room it's always 50/50 ! Only way to go . "

50/50 is always best policy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always pay my own way ., id feel like a prostitute if I asked a guy to pay for my room ..

If sharing a room it's always 50/50 ! Only way to go . "

great ..good girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find,on this site,it is common for women to change their minds about meeting.unfortunately it happens too often.dont worry mate it does happen to most,and not just the women ,men get cold feet as well.just move on and put it down to experience.and no don't ever book a room ahead,as most will be let downs,meet in public first,and see if their is a spark.if neither can accom,Dutch is the way.dont listen to people saying she must have such and such an excuse,obviously just another timewaster,looking to boost her ego.dont worry there are some genuine women on here,they aren't all fickle

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

No worries thanks all for ur advice maybe I took it the wrong way other opportunities. Will come just goin to be more careful as what happens next time as a single man to go clubbing is a chance in a lifetime as not a member of chams

We could have both gone n had a laugh but wasn't meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No worries thanks all for ur advice maybe I took it the wrong way other opportunities. Will come just goin to be more careful as what happens next time as a single man to go clubbing is a chance in a lifetime as not a member of chams

We could have both gone n had a laugh but wasn't meant "

If you posted the full story not half a tale people would understand more.....wouldn't you agree!!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We could have both gone n had a laugh but wasn't meant

If you posted the full story not half a tale people would understand more.....wouldn't you agree!!?!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's an old saying:

"there are three sides to every story: yours, mine and the truth"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe she got hit by a meteor/struck by lightning/fell off a cliff/fell out of a plane/spontaneously combusted/all of the above?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe she got hit by a meteor/struck by lightning/fell off a cliff/fell out of a plane/spontaneously combusted/all of the above?"

Or maby she gave him plenty of notice and is very sick alone in a hotel room on supposed holidays feeling like shit and medicated!! But fuck that she should have went to chams.......annoyed when i hear guys going on about girls who cancel! At the end of the day if a hotel is booked she or he has always the right to say no...for a good reason or none at all!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why arrange something for weeks then goes cold as your about to meet ?"

maybe they just changed their mind,but i know what its like tho

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Ok my fault

Contact was made she was ill with fever I asked her if she still wanted to go basically left it to her

I had a runny. Nose

She said let's rearrange for tonight

I said can't do tonight but Monday

She said let's leave it

I said take care

Got deleted straight away on fab

In return deleted her number n fab

That's it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok my fault

Contact was made she was ill with fever I asked her if she still wanted to go basically left it to her

I had a runny. Nose

She said let's rearrange for tonight

I said can't do tonight but Monday

She said let's leave it

I said take care

Got deleted straight away on fab

In return deleted her number n fab

That's it "

how many times did use rearrange it?

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Just once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just once "

well if she deleted u off her friends list i wudnt bother with her,ive had a few times were guys keep asking to meet,u arrange to meet them and then they cancel and u never hear frm them again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok my fault

Contact was made she was ill with fever I asked her if she still wanted to go basically left it to her

I had a runny. Nose

She said let's rearrange for tonight

I said can't do tonight but Monday

She said let's leave it

I said take care

Got deleted straight away on fab

In return deleted her number n fab

That's it "

so she did contact you? you said initially she didnt contact you just turned her phone off? Im confused??

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Texted her sat afternoon about 2 ish she was on a train from London to brum texted her at 5 to see where she'd got to no reply tried again at 8

Got a reply at 9 fever fell asleep

Called her aswell as I had to travel

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

Just have a thomas and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Texted her sat afternoon about 2 ish she was on a train from London to brum texted her at 5 to see where she'd got to no reply tried again at 8

Got a reply at 9 fever fell asleep

Called her aswell as I had to travel "

well if she didnt reply or call u bak id just forget it and move on!

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Hi all made up called her misunderstanding all went to pot

Hope she's well tommorow so we both can go chams

Bit of her fault

Bit of mine but kissed up n made up thanks to all the peeps for the replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all made up called her misunderstanding all went to pot

Hope she's well tommorow so we both can go chams

Bit of her fault

Bit of mine but kissed up n made up thanks to all the peeps for the replies

now i hope theres not a thread up tomorrow saying "got stood up" lol

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Hi all made up called her misunderstanding all went to pot

Hope she's well tommorow so we both can go chams

Bit of her fault

Bit of mine but kissed up n made up thanks to all the peeps for the replies

knew she come trough not all time wasters go to the trouble of traveling that far

hope ye have a ball

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

If she's well enough she will be shown chams if not we both made a effort to make up and amend the drama looks like it turned out well off both lol

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Happy ending n happy landing

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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago

Cougarville

I've arranged meets and they don't show , no explanation either . It's unfair on genuine site members .

Courtesy to communicate and say you can't make it.

It's really easy . 1 text message is all it takes .

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

No it was a miss understanding from her had a war but made up n had a good time she was ill with fever on the night just shows not all people r the same but we both kind of made up didn't go clubbing as no events on but made up together under the sheets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people seem happy to chat for a few days or weeks then just disappear or block , seems to be their way of kicking back at life, gets frustrating after awhile.

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By *picyrod OP Man
over a year ago

liverpool

It does happen a lot on here bug on this occasion every thing worked out fine bug just makes u wonder in general what they get out of it lol

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