FabSwingers.com forum: Someone I know from here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right ppl, I'm going to a social event on Monday night in a local hotel. A lady I know is on here is going. She does not know me that we'll. But and here is the but I recognise her pics and know its 100% her. Should I mention it too her? She's not been on fab in weeks..

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"Right ppl, I'm going to a social event on Monday night in a local hotel. A lady I know is on here is going. She does not know me that we'll. But and here is the but I recognise her pics and know its 100% her. Should I mention it too her? She's not been on fab in weeks.. "

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on the person. Id like to know but that's me some ppl would freak if they saw someone they knew and some laugh it off as both are on the same site.

think of it this way would you prefer her to freak out infront of everyone or over a mail.

with the mail she can decided then what to do.

but if she would laugh it off then say nothing be funny to see the face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened me last yr went to a party and then a cpl i know frm my town who i knew the fem walked in nothing was said but u could see shock frm both of us but i think it would have been good to know it wouldnt have stoped me frm goin just perpared do to speak

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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Ok im confused. Will she recognise you? Do you know why she hasn't been on here in weeks? Is she in a relationship and will he be with her on the night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok im confused. Will she recognise you? Do you know why she hasn't been on here in weeks? Is she in a relationship and will he be with her on the night?"
hi Kim she may recognise me. We swapped msgs but she not been on since. She's in relationship yes. She will be alone. See I was thinking when or if we get time alone I say..." Oh I think I know you from somewhere"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"depends on the person. Id like to know but that's me some ppl would freak if they saw someone they knew and some laugh it off as both are on the same site.

think of it this way would you prefer her to freak out infront of everyone or over a mail.

with the mail she can decided then what to do. She not been onto read mail!! She will laugh it off I hope!!!!

but if she would laugh it off then say nothing be funny to see the face.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"Ok im confused. Will she recognise you? Do you know why she hasn't been on here in weeks? Is she in a relationship and will he be with her on the night? hi Kim she may recognise me. We swapped msgs but she not been on since. She's in relationship yes. She will be alone. See I was thinking when or if we get time alone I say..." Oh I think I know you from somewhere" "
on the night?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sure that's different u don't know her only frm site that's no different then anyone one of us meeting at a party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone was able to identify me from my pics I would like to know cos then I would remove or crop the pics or put up other pics.

This actually happened to me on a different site. I was in the chatroom when a guy said he recgnised me. Asked me if I worked in a particular place etc (very specific). I had worked there so I knew he did recognised me but I just bluffed it saying no it wasnt me. I checked my pics.....most were body pics but one showed me from my mouth down. I left the site shortly after. But it made me realise to be more careful with cropping my pics. People can be recognised by their features!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Hmm, it probably won't sound at all creepy, but then again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If some fella came up to me at a non fab event and said they knew me from fab I would be raging and freaked out.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"If someone was able to identify me from my pics I would like to know cos then I would remove or crop the pics or put up other pics.

...and what features they are too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and what features they are too.

:* Michael. I'll show you mine if you show me yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and get in touch on here, no need to surprise her especially if she's expecting privacy. Or try to pick her up without mentioning fab, discretion is a wonderful thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sorry but I think you would be bang out of order saying anything at anytime to her

This is a social event that has nothing to do with fab

Discretion demands that you you forget that you have even seen her in here, let alone have swapped messages

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

"I sorry but I think you would be bang out of order saying anything at anytime to her

This is a social event that has nothing to do with fab

Discretion demands that you you forget that you have even seen her in here, let alone have swapped messages"

I gotta agree with this!! Real life v fab life??? You have to agree that with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive meet neighbours and old school mates was bit strange at first but then it moved on and the craic was funny.. suggest go enjoy the party or contact them on here.. but either way there on here for same reasons as you

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

Listen I'm just going to get a little serious ok? As a hetro male I find it really sad that gay people still have to "come out". I think you're sexual preferences are your own and as soon as you form them, it shouldn't be an issue. But the fact is, that it IS. It's not right in my book at all. And, right or wrong, it's kinda the same thing with swinging. How would you feel if they turned around and said "I know him! I met him on a swingers site!" And shouted it all over the room?

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

How about u go to the social event say nothing and when and if u ever get to meet her off fab it can be used as a conversation piece

like feck i seen u at ...... Dam u looked sexy i was hoping it was ur profile i was admiring

she keeps her dignity ur discreet and u can laugh about it

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

You've also posted this query in "The Lounge"....where you were roundly condemned by right thinking people for even considering this course of action.

In our humble opinion, the fact that you ARE actually considering potentially ruining this lady's night speaks volumes..you obviously have no discretion (or maturity) whatsoever.

Anyhoo, thanks for making it so easy to block another potential drama queen / problem maker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go and say nothing as ye are both in the same boat.

ireland is a small little place so this is bound to happen

maybe approach her at the event and have a friendly chat and if she is worried about bumping into someone she knows reassure her she has nothing to worry about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've also posted this query in "The Lounge"....where you were roundly condemned by right thinking people for even considering this course of action.

In our humble opinion, the fact that you ARE actually considering potentially ruining this lady's night speaks volumes..you obviously have no discretion (or maturity) whatsoever.

Anyhoo, thanks for making it so easy to block another potential drama queen / problem maker.

What also is amazing are the amount of people on this forum who think its perfectly ok for him to contact her

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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago

Cougarville

It would be creepy , it's happened to me and I certainly didn't like or respect the guy for asking me at the bar , his partner was there with him and he only did it because she was at the ladies , discretion should be used at all public events unless it's pre agreed by both parties to speak or not to speak .

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

You've also posted this query in "The Lounge"....where you were roundly condemned by right thinking people for even considering this course of action.

In our humble opinion, the fact that you ARE actually considering potentially ruining this lady's night speaks volumes..you obviously have no discretion (or maturity) whatsoever.

Anyhoo, thanks for making it so easy to block another potential drama queen / problem maker.

What also is amazing are the amount of people on this forum who think its perfectly ok for him to contact her

Ant they've been noted Nippy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"go and say nothing as ye are both in the same boat.

ireland is a small little place so this is bound to happen

maybe approach her at the event and have a friendly chat and if she is worried about bumping into someone she knows reassure her she has nothing to worry about."

Do you not get that this is a non fab social event? Would you want to be at some kind of vanilla event with possibly family or work colleagues and some numpty walks up to you and says " here, I recognized your pictures on fab, I think you are so hot, fancy hooking up?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

creepy as u like why would u think this is a good idea ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've also posted this query in "The Lounge"....where you were roundly condemned by right thinking people for even considering this course of action.

In our humble opinion, the fact that you ARE actually considering potentially ruining this lady's night speaks volumes..you obviously have no discretion (or maturity) whatsoever.

Anyhoo, thanks for making it so easy to block another potential drama queen / problem maker.

What also is amazing are the amount of people on this forum who think its perfectly ok for him to contact her

Ant they've been noted Nippy

And then you have the guys who bemoan the lack of women on here. Any wonder when guys really don't get what discretion is about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right ppl I've heard all the arguments now and it's noted not to do it. But this lady has clearly put face pics of herself on this site! Is she being discreet no. Furthermore she is using her real name on this site. Discreet? No. So in my eyes she has no consideration for her own discretion. Am I going to walk up and say "hey missus I seen you put your face pic up on a swingers site do you fancy a fuck?" Off course not! If mention it in passing and if she bites she bites! If not I'd not mention it. But thank you all for your valued input!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"go and say nothing as ye are both in the same boat.

ireland is a small little place so this is bound to happen

maybe approach her at the event and have a friendly chat and if she is worried about bumping into someone she knows reassure her she has nothing to worry about.

whoa??? i thought this was a fab social event?

thanks for pointing it out nippy. i only ready the original post.

jesus say nothing then mate. you would be way out of order

and could never be trusted again

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

You've also posted this query in "The Lounge"....where you were roundly condemned by right thinking people for even considering this course of action.

In our humble opinion, the fact that you ARE actually considering potentially ruining this lady's night speaks volumes..you obviously have no discretion (or maturity) whatsoever.

Anyhoo, thanks for making it so easy to block another potential drama queen / problem maker.

What also is amazing are the amount of people on this forum who think its perfectly ok for him to contact her

Ant they've been noted Nippy

And then you have the guys who bemoan the lack of women on here. Any wonder when guys really don't get what discretion is about

Still "Private Notes" allows you to keep a note of who thinks it's ok to accost ordinary people at social events in the hope that they're going to get a quickie in the service elevator.... sometimes we really do despair....

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Right ppl I've heard all the arguments now and it's noted not to do it. But this lady has clearly put face pics of herself on this site! Is she being discreet no. Furthermore she is using her real name on this site. Discreet? No. So in my eyes she has no consideration for her own discretion. Am I going to walk up and say "hey missus I seen you put your face pic up on a swingers site do you fancy a fuck?" Off course not! If mention it in passing and if she bites she bites! If not I'd not mention it. But thank you all for your valued input! "

Watch out you don't trip up on the carpet as you back track there fella

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Have to say guys he did ask advice not to be spit roasted hope u take the advice and use it

discretion is the better part of valour after all

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Have to say guys he did ask advice not to be spit roasted hope u take the advice and use it

discretion is the better part of valour after all"

I hear ya CJ, but the fact that he actually had to ask speaks volumes,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a fake profile to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've also posted this query in "The Lounge"....where you were roundly condemned by right thinking people for even considering this course of action.

In our humble opinion, the fact that you ARE actually considering potentially ruining this lady's night speaks volumes..you obviously have no discretion (or maturity) whatsoever.

Anyhoo, thanks for making it so easy to block another potential drama queen / problem maker.

What also is amazing are the amount of people on this forum who think its perfectly ok for him to contact her

Yep, very surprising indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutly do not approach the woman.If she had wanted to contact you ,she would have done so through this site.Your profile states that you are discreet,live up to that.

I'd go very easy with the booze on the night too and not get more than tipsy,for fear of showing yourself up.

If she has left this site maybe she just has gone off the idea of this type of play or has other reasons and that should be respected.

If she does come onto the site at some time in the future,you could message her to to say that you were at the event and tell her how hot she looked on the night.I'd tell her that you had a hard time being in the same room as her without even allowing yourself catch her eye across the room.

Imagine how much you would go up in her estimation of you with this approach.You may even get a coffee meet.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

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she has been busy with work

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

she has been busy with work "
how do you know this???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

she has been busy with work how do you know this???"
a mutual friend told me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a bit stalkerish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people kinda get a kick out of the 'I know something you don't know' thing...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"sounds a bit stalkerish"
it does!!!

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

she has been busy with work how do you know this??? a mutual friend told me "
a mutual friend on here???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

she has been busy with work how do you know this??? a mutual friend told me a mutual friend on here???"
yes he on her also

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

she has been busy with work how do you know this??? a mutual friend told me a mutual friend on here??? yes he on her also "
and you don't think he has told her about you??? Because confidentiality doesnt seem to be his strong point!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

she has been busy with work how do you know this??? a mutual friend told me a mutual friend on here??? yes he on her also and you don't think he has told her about you??? Because confidentiality doesnt seem to be his strong point!!!

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he may have told her about me!

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

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"I noticed the op didn't answer my question asking does he know why she hasn't been on here in weeks!!!!

he may have told her about me! "
well theirs your solution isn't it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sorry but I think you would be bang out of order saying anything at anytime to her

This is a social event that has nothing to do with fab

Discretion demands that you you forget that you have even seen her in here, let alone have swapped messages

I gotta agree with this!! Real life v fab life??? You have to agree that with each other.

Have to agree. ... is not the time or place. ... we all have lives of fab... if you messaged her before and nothing came off it leave well alone

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