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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, It seems depression is a subject being discussed far more openly in recent times then ever before. What are your thoughts on depression/mental illness ? Have you suffered with it in the past ?

I have never said it publicly so nobody would know but i personally have battled depression and know the pain it puts people through! I firmly believe loads of people do however but most just never discuss it openly!

Its great to see it being discussed more openly in recent times

Has it ever affected you or someone you know ?

Sorry if iam bringing down the mood guys haha Just a subject i never saw mentioned here

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

I think everyone goes threw it at some point I had it as a teenager think them stupit tabs they give for it make u worse but I'm fine now havin suffered from it since I get down from time to time but nothin I can't pick myself up from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the support for depression & mentally ill people is woeful.

How did you find help for your bouts of depression Op?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think everyone goes threw it at some point I had it as a teenager think them stupit tabs they give for it make u worse but I'm fine now havin suffered from it since I get down from time to time but nothin I can't pick myself up from "

I agree that people will feel down from time to time but i consider that normal! If its so bad it affects the quality of your life to the point you wish you were dead, thats when it becomes a serious issue! Ive heard some people say that if tabs for depression dont work it can be a sign that the problem is not depression but another mental illness but not sure i believe that as loads of people have said they felt worse after taken meds , They are handed out far too easy anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the support for depression & mentally ill people is woeful.

How did you find help for your bouts of depression Op?"

Just blurted it out to a doctor one day ha My mam suffers bad with mental illness so i always believed in my case that it was summit hereditary that i was doomed to get ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sorry have to disagree if ur sick meds are the only way to deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is always good to talk and break down the stigma. .

I'm a highly functioning depressive but it took me a long time to get to this point and be able to recognise if I start to slide into it. ... learnt some great coping mechanisms and one thing I learnt was being more or less celibate at home wasnt helping!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, It seems depression is a subject being discussed far more openly in recent times then ever before. What are your thoughts on depression/mental illness ? Have you suffered with it in the past ?

I have never said it publicly so nobody would know but i personally have battled depression and know the pain it puts people through! I firmly believe loads of people do however but most just never discuss it openly!

Its great to see it being discussed more openly in recent times

Has it ever affected you or someone you know ?

Sorry if iam bringing down the mood guys haha Just a subject i never saw mentioned here "

my dad and my sister suffered frm depression throughout their lives,they say it can be genetic and run in families,thank god i never suffered frm it,i have had times were i felt really down and fed up but it wasnt depression!when ppl say they are depressed it usually means their down or just fed up but not really depressed!depression is an ilness and person can barely get out of bed,cant eat or sleep and sumtimes need medication,manic depression is awful too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the support for depression & mentally ill people is woeful.

How did you find help for your bouts of depression Op?

Just blurted it out to a doctor one day ha My mam suffers bad with mental illness so i always believed in my case that it was summit hereditary that i was doomed to get ha "

And have you felt you got the help you need from the Doctor?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"im sorry have to disagree if ur sick meds are the only way to deal with it "

In alot of cases they certainly help but not all,Ye have to remember that most mental illness is diagnosed through guess work, theres no blood test for example so your prescription meds are based on what someone THINKS you have, This is a big problem as often people are prescribed meds for a condition they dont have and thus never get proper treatment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry have to disagree if ur sick meds are the only way to deal with it "

not necessarily for mental ilness,my sister was on meds for depression and it didnt help her much at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry have to disagree if ur sick meds are the only way to deal with it

In alot of cases they certainly help but not all,Ye have to remember that most mental illness is diagnosed through guess work, theres no blood test for example so your prescription meds are based on what someone THINKS you have, This is a big problem as often people are prescribed meds for a condition they dont have and thus never get proper treatment "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the support for depression & mentally ill people is woeful.

How did you find help for your bouts of depression Op?

Just blurted it out to a doctor one day ha My mam suffers bad with mental illness so i always believed in my case that it was summit hereditary that i was doomed to get ha

And have you felt you got the help you need from the Doctor?"

Truthfully,iam not sure! He helped in any way he could help i suppose but 90% of it is down to the individual! For example over the past few months i have began training , eating healthy etc and it has made a bigger difference to any pill i ever took!! Alot of whats wrong in a person thats depressed is that they are not leading the life they want , If you start leading a more fulfilling life , you generally tend to feel much better! Easier said then done of course

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By *irkmcquickleyMan
over a year ago

drogheda

Had it pretty bad in my early 20's. Bleak times thank god I never done anything stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is always good to talk and break down the stigma. .

I'm a highly functioning depressive but it took me a long time to get to this point and be able to recognise if I start to slide into it. ... learnt some great coping mechanisms and one thing I learnt was being more or less celibate at home wasnt helping!"

The last part of your statement DG. 2 people I know blossomed after changing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had it pretty bad in my early 20's. Bleak times thank god I never done anything stupid"

good for u,great u got over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know all abt it as in past 6 months my son has a mental illness and yes his on meds and for that illness its the only way to get sum kind of normal life

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By *irkmcquickleyMan
over a year ago

drogheda

Toung men suicide rate in this country is so high. Men find it hard to open up, I know I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is always good to talk and break down the stigma. .

I'm a highly functioning depressive but it took me a long time to get to this point and be able to recognise if I start to slide into it. ... learnt some great coping mechanisms and one thing I learnt was being more or less celibate at home wasnt helping!

The last part of your statement DG. 2 people I know blossomed after changing this."

Me too. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know all abt it as in past 6 months my son has a mental illness and yes his on meds and for that illness its the only way to get sum kind of normal life "

sorry to hear tht,hope hes doing well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hang on, are people saying having more sex helped? Iam the opposite, havent had it in god knows how long and iam happier now then ever haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes his on 60 mg of Prozac and his life is much better now leading a normalish teanage life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has had those dark times...some more than others....but talking to ANYONE helps so much. The stigma attached to depression and mental health in general in ireland is shameful.it prevents people from seeking the help they soarly need leading them to do irreversable damage to themselves and others....the simple fact that people have a connection to ano ther person be it on here or ananyother site is a step in the right direction for the sufferer. nobody know what goes on in any other persobs life and has no right to judge them but we have a duty of care as human beings to help someone who needs it. im always free to chat as are many others and people shouldnt be afraid to open up to the likes of me just because this is a sex site

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Different degrees help with mental illness some medication can make depression some what worse until it's balanced out properly.

I thank god have not had to deal with any medication for depression I get low days like us all.

Mental awareness depression should be made aware more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the support for depression & mentally ill people is woeful.

How did you find help for your bouts of depression Op?

Just blurted it out to a doctor one day ha My mam suffers bad with mental illness so i always believed in my case that it was summit hereditary that i was doomed to get ha

And have you felt you got the help you need from the Doctor?

Truthfully,iam not sure! He helped in any way he could help i suppose but 90% of it is down to the individual! For example over the past few months i have began training , eating healthy etc and it has made a bigger difference to any pill i ever took!! Alot of whats wrong in a person thats depressed is that they are not leading the life they want , If you start leading a more fulfilling life , you generally tend to feel much better! Easier said then done of course "

Sounds as though you may have found your Magic Bullet. Glad the good food & exercise is working for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes his on 60 mg of Prozac and his life is much better now leading a normalish teanage life "

Glad to hear it x

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By *irkmcquickleyMan
over a year ago

drogheda

Bang on curvy. Eloquently put

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bang on curvy. Eloquently put "

thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hang on, are people saying having more sex helped? Iam the opposite, havent had it in god knows how long and iam happier now then ever haha "

Maybe it was the type of sex you were having.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

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i do it every year for the last 3 years

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes his on 60 mg of Prozac and his life is much better now leading a normalish teanage life "

I know someone that is on prozac and likewise is doing great or at least they seem to be and ironically they have lost weight, i always thought prozac increased appetite and therefore weight gain but maybe not ha

My experience with meds wasnt good, I went insane on lexapro and after coming off it, years later had to go on seroxat which seemed to work at first but then felt like it did nothing!

I felt all the meds did was numb the emotions ye felt , the problem was the life i was living wasnt the life i wanted and i knew no med could change that! Coming off them wasnt easy either but when i did, and started to get more involved in training and eating healthy, It was 10 times more beneficial then anyone can imagine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hang on, are people saying having more sex helped? Iam the opposite, havent had it in god knows how long and iam happier now then ever haha

Maybe it was the type of sex you were having."

hahaha maybe :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hang on, are people saying having more sex helped? Iam the opposite, havent had it in god knows how long and iam happier now then ever haha "

Tbh.....my hubby and I have slept in separate rooms last ten years although happy in every other way. ..I found missing sex and touch and physical contact very hard and it didn't help depression so I decided to do something about it and I find it..... fulfils a need and I'm happier..... like everything else depression is different for everyone and I found the gym. . And occ sex better than medication

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

i do it every year for the last 3 years"

Good stuff, this will be my first year Hoping to run it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer frm depression have battled it with years nearly cost me my life a few years back but I'm doing great now medication helps plus proper therapy it's good to talk get shit outta your head I see a hypnotherapist once in a while find it brill so all good now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hang on, are people saying having more sex helped? Iam the opposite, havent had it in god knows how long and iam happier now then ever haha

Tbh.....my hubby and I have slept in separate rooms last ten years although happy in every other way. ..I found missing sex and touch and physical contact very hard and it didn't help depression so I decided to do something about it and I find it..... fulfils a need and I'm happier..... like everything else depression is different for everyone and I found the gym. . And occ sex better than medication"

Well physical activity does release dopamine so it makes sense i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

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Be there as usual. Its 04:15, grab another snooze!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

i do it every year for the last 3 years

Good stuff, this will be my first year Hoping to run it "

good man....awareness is key.i feel so passionate about this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suffer frm depression have battled it with years nearly cost me my life a few years back but I'm doing great now medication helps plus proper therapy it's good to talk get shit outta your head I see a hypnotherapist once in a while find it brill so all good now "

Its terrible when you hit rock bottom and can see no way out.medication obly does so much the rest is up to you and the support around you and knowing that " fuck im actually loved". medication is nothing without a good support network.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup himself has deppression since he started talking about it it has got easer on him he never talked to anyone before and its only in the last 3 years he has which is great for him it does help him alot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

i do it every year for the last 3 years

Good stuff, this will be my first year Hoping to run it

good man....awareness is key.i feel so passionate about this. "

Defo To think your alone in the world when your in a dark place is one painful place to be! To know that so many people are feeling the same way , going through the same shit might not "cure" you but it sure as hell can save your life and make ye realise that there is people out there that understand your pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done to the op for this thread good stuff

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well done to the op for this thread good stuff"

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism.."

Situations like that need good parenting so go you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never suffered it myself but my brother does. Luckily he's very open about it and is getting help. Always try to give him an ear if he needs it though wish i could do more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never suffered it myself but my brother does. Luckily he's very open about it and is getting help. Always try to give him an ear if he needs it though wish i could do more "

Knowing you're there for him if the dark comes will be enough.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Never suffered it myself but my brother does. Luckily he's very open about it and is getting help. Always try to give him an ear if he needs it though wish i could do more

Knowing you're there for him if the dark comes will be enough."
yep just listening helps sometimes the problem talked

about is better things might not seem as bad

a problem shared is a problem halved.

Talking is great getting out in the open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive suffered with it since 08 when my daughter died. bad place to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism.."

awh poor little thing,must be hard on u too letme xx

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Ive suffered with it since 08 when my daughter died. bad place to be."
ohhh jesus curvy god love ya.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im sorry have to disagree if ur sick meds are the only way to deal with it "

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism..

awh poor little thing,must be hard on u too letme xx"
aww iy was classy as s mum we always want bto make it better hopefully she never go there again. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never suffered it myself but my brother does. Luckily he's very open about it and is getting help. Always try to give him an ear if he needs it though wish i could do more

Knowing you're there for him if the dark comes will be enough. yep just listening helps sometimes the problem talked

about is better things might not seem as bad

a problem shared is a problem halved.

Talking is great getting out in the open

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Same advice a friend gave me and it seems to help him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never suffered it myself but my brother does. Luckily he's very open about it and is getting help. Always try to give him an ear if he needs it though wish i could do more

Knowing you're there for him if the dark comes will be enough. yep just listening helps sometimes the problem talked

about is better things might not seem as bad

a problem shared is a problem halved.

Talking is great getting out in the open

Same advice a friend gave me and it seems to help him. "
depends on the level of depression, sure sometimes a chat helps!but sometimes the pills are the only answer!

Some sad loses here with kids and that.

my heart goes out to yas xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered from depression many years ago and was hospitalised twice with it, it can take a while to find the right meds as what works for one person might not work for another. Thankfully it was a long time ago and i have never been happier than i am now. But would never like to go back to them dark lonely days,i can truly smypathise with anyone who has suffered with this invisible illness.

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By *exyfuntimes2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin/Carlow

Talk about it to someone, talk more and then talk about it even more. Awareness is crutical. My friend suffers from depression and it a cruel, debilitating and invisible affliction.

She finally spoke to me about it, broke down in tears and we both just sat there and cried together for ages. She said it was a great relief for her. Just someone to sit with. She also started exercising and eating right and she is a changed woman.

Not saying its a one fits all solution but it working for her and I love to see her smile. She has the most beautiful smile you'll ever see. And she's happy now...which is all that someone who suffers from depression wants to be. Great thread and great seeing the honesty here. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female of greynsweet

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

I used to be a facilitator for a depression help charity years back, and I also have suffered depression and talking does help, helps a lot, back in the 90s and early 00s it was a taboo subject and people were always made to feel like something was wrong with them, depression is a disease, it doesn't care what lifestyle you have or how rich/poor or nice/nasty person you are, it gets you,

im glad to see it been openly discussed on forums and on tele aand in pubs and recently in schools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive suffered with it since 08 when my daughter died. bad place to be."
hugs so sorry too learn of that xxx know too well

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By *lo1 slo2Couple
over a year ago

newry

I have suffered for years every baby I lost I got lower. until I couldn't see anyway out but with the support and love of my soul mate I gradually got better and had a son.

My other angels I love and think off everyday but as I was getting better I didn't notice my rock getting worse. Until an accident occurred, later he confessed it wasn't an accident he tried to do something foolish.

We talked for days and agreed that whatever it is no matter how small we share our feelings and its been good. We realised there is no shame asking for help. So please ask (pips) smaratins just a call can help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost both family an friends too depression. Cut rope on my brother an saved him .. An now from that situation I was faced with have been diagnosed with full blown depression but between wanting the help more than could wish for as I love an respect myself people an life so much I got counselling adult occupational therapy too bream my habits cognitive therapy . Counselling phsycatrists phsycologist for extreme every second too third day meetings was on lexapro anti depressant bisop too calm the heart an dispersal anti phsycotic for my mixed feelings now years later because of getting help an advice needed I now help talk an advise groups one On one in such area it's all about been open an honest with yourself I never was one too judge an think this helps so much when people have this they just need too feel someone somewhat understands or gets them an from a friendly smile too a shoulder too lean on or an ear too wig I always stride too offer mine too those who now need it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive suffered with it since 08 when my daughter died. bad place to be. ohhh jesus curvy god love ya."

oh its a most horrible experience but unfortunately its life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just got a message from a girl in the uk that seen this thread and iam not sure why but she thanked me and explained her partner took his life 2 months ago! I didnt think for one minute this thread could help someone feel better but if it does or did... great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just got a message from a girl in the uk that seen this thread and iam not sure why but she thanked me and explained her partner took his life 2 months ago! I didnt think for one minute this thread could help someone feel better but if it does or did... great "
nice of her too msg an say so well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism.."

So feel for you. My eldest grandson had just been diagnosed as in the autistic spectrum and emotions are something he struggles with and his other grandad is end stage cancer and I feel so powerless to know how to help him except by being there and taking it a step at a time and see how it goes

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

mr here .i suffered from depression 3 years ago . from my personal experience the people i went to see in hospital were totally brillant and i no i can ring them personally any time day or night if needs be , thankfully i dont . medication is only one of a number of things that helped me , having someone that is willing to sit down and just listen, not judge or give advice but just to listen to what going on in ur head is so much better. the one and only good thing that has come out of this recession is people have a bit of time just to sit down have a chat and listen, something which was gone during the celtic tiger.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism..

So feel for you. My eldest grandson had just been diagnosed as in the autistic spectrum and emotions are something he struggles with and his other grandad is end stage cancer and I feel so powerless to know how to help him except by being there and taking it a step at a time and see how it goes"
a u can do that's the hardest thing yi explain illness death I remember my mother having chemotherapy and her hair falling out and my daughter saw her without her wig.

My mum said its the medicine making nanny better that why hair gone.

To this day my daughter won't take medicine.

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over a year ago


"My daughter went throw mild depression last ye brought on by grief.

The fact she has autism too it was sad to watch I did not want to put her on medication....thankfully she has pulled through and hopefully went occur again

Already having to deal with a condition I was advised to see how she went it was grief and it's hard to explain grief to a child with autism..

So feel for you. My eldest grandson had just been diagnosed as in the autistic spectrum and emotions are something he struggles with and his other grandad is end stage cancer and I feel so powerless to know how to help him except by being there and taking it a step at a time and see how it goesa u can do that's the hardest thing yi explain illness death I remember my mother having chemotherapy and her hair falling out and my daughter saw her without her wig.

My mum said its the medicine making nanny better that why hair gone.

To this day my daughter won't take medicine. "

my son is the same.asd too.theres no grey areas with an autistic child.everything is either black or white.

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over a year ago

I realised a few years ago that I've been suffering on and off from depression since I've been a teenager. I had these phases of being quite low, demotivated and being withdrawn. Sometimes I wasn't able to function properly and had to take time off work. I found it really hard to be honest about it with friends and family. Even when I had a bad spell a few years ago it took me weeks until I told anyone. That's what depression does to you, you know you should be active and talk to people but everything inside you tells you to just stay in bed and ignore the world around you.

I've been on meds but they actually made me worse every time I've tried them. At some point they even made me suicidial which I've never felt before.

I've done councelling as well for a year but I still felt it wasn't the solution for me. Only when I started meditating and breathing exercises I could really see a real improvement. I've improved my negative thought pattern and can handle stress much better which before often led to anxiety and then to depression.

I feel for everyone who goes through it.

thanks all for sharing

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over a year ago


"I realised a few years ago that I've been suffering on and off from depression since I've been a teenager. I had these phases of being quite low, demotivated and being withdrawn. Sometimes I wasn't able to function properly and had to take time off work. I found it really hard to be honest about it with friends and family. Even when I had a bad spell a few years ago it took me weeks until I told anyone. That's what depression does to you, you know you should be active and talk to people but everything inside you tells you to just stay in bed and ignore the world around you.

I've been on meds but they actually made me worse every time I've tried them. At some point they even made me suicidial which I've never felt before.

I've done councelling as well for a year but I still felt it wasn't the solution for me. Only when I started meditating and breathing exercises I could really see a real improvement. I've improved my negative thought pattern and can handle stress much better which before often led to anxiety and then to depression.

I feel for everyone who goes through it.

thanks all for sharing"

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over a year ago


"I just got a message from a girl in the uk that seen this thread and iam not sure why but she thanked me and explained her partner took his life 2 months ago! I didnt think for one minute this thread could help someone feel better but if it does or did... great "

Have to say it, Hats off to you Hifi!!

Great thread!!

Depression has affected each and every one of us in one way or another, whether directly or indirectly.

I've lost so many friends though it because they thought they was nobody there for them.

Contrary to belief, people DO actually care!

I hid my own 'condition' away for years, believing it was Taboo!

My 'dark' period lasted from 94 to 97, then was diagnosed with PTSD.

At last I could move forward again, got my life back on track!

Never forget, it really IS good to talk!

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By *umpstyleMan
over a year ago

North


"Toung men suicide rate in this country is so high. Men find it hard to open up, I know I did."
I read somewhere that it can be attributed to when a young boy cries they're told big boys don't cry which in later life leads them not wanting to talk about their feelings when they feel depressed. I lost my best friend to suicide 5 years ago and seen the fall out from it first hand and now me and my mates will always turn to each other for support when we need it because of it.

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By *umpstyleMan
over a year ago

North

Is anyone going to do the darkness in to light walk next month? Pietta House are doing great things to race awareness with this and the mind our men campaign

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over a year ago


"Ive suffered with it since 08 when my daughter died. bad place to be. ohhh jesus curvy god love ya.

oh its a most horrible experience but unfortunately its life. "
Hey CC , No one knows whats going on in each others lives until they come out and tell something like what uv gone through !!! I liked u up to now........now I love u even more !!!! Come here and give us a BIG HUG !!!!!!! Ur the best !!!

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over a year ago


"Is anyone going to do the darkness in to light walk next month? Pietta House are doing great things to race awareness with this and the mind our men campaign"

Have been thinking about signing up to it, think the concept is brilliant and very positive.

(clark) I suffered from a bout of depression a few years back, probably brought on by a very stressful situation I found myself in.

I found the meds helped to bring me back to a level field, and from there talking honestly to friends, family and a counsellor did the rest. I was blown away by how many of my buddies had had a similar experience, but just had kept it all to themselves.

I'd also recommend aware.ie and the CBT courses they run, really help to shine a light on your thinking

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over a year ago


"Is anyone going to do the darkness in to light walk next month? Pietta House are doing great things to race awareness with this and the mind our men campaign

Have been thinking about signing up to it, think the concept is brilliant and very positive.

(clark) I suffered from a bout of depression a few years back, probably brought on by a very stressful situation I found myself in.

I found the meds helped to bring me back to a level field, and from there talking honestly to friends, family and a counsellor did the rest. I was blown away by how many of my buddies had had a similar experience, but just had kept it all to themselves.

I'd also recommend aware.ie and the CBT courses they run, really help to shine a light on your thinking"

The life skills CBT course they do is brilliant and its also free and well well worth it!

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over a year ago


"Ive suffered with it since 08 when my daughter died. bad place to be. ohhh jesus curvy god love ya.

oh its a most horrible experience but unfortunately its life. Hey CC , No one knows whats going on in each others lives until they come out and tell something like what uv gone through !!! I liked u up to now........now I love u even more !!!! Come here and give us a BIG HUG !!!!!!! Ur the best !!!"

awww thank you so much.

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over a year ago


"I just got a message from a girl in the uk that seen this thread and iam not sure why but she thanked me and explained her partner took his life 2 months ago! I didnt think for one minute this thread could help someone feel better but if it does or did... great

Have to say it, Hats off to you Hifi!!

Great thread!!

Depression has affected each and every one of us in one way or another, whether directly or indirectly.

I've lost so many friends though it because they thought they was nobody there for them.

Contrary to belief, people DO actually care!

I hid my own 'condition' away for years, believing it was Taboo!

My 'dark' period lasted from 94 to 97, then was diagnosed with PTSD.

At last I could move forward again, got my life back on track!

Never forget, it really IS good to talk!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said curvy cat...ur kind...jus try get out in nature too,and think how precious life is..there always hope and people to care nd help xx

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over a year ago


"well said curvy cat...ur kind...jus try get out in nature too,and think how precious life is..there always hope and people to care nd help xx"

well i know one thing and that is that im here for anyone and i do not judge. I have alot of people whom i just chat to for nothing other than to have someone listen to them and who can relate to their torment.its good to talk. im a chatter box anyway

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over a year ago


"well said curvy cat...ur kind...jus try get out in nature too,and think how precious life is..there always hope and people to care nd help xx

well i know one thing and that is that im here for anyone and i do not judge. I have alot of people whom i just chat to for nothing other than to have someone listen to them and who can relate to their torment.its good to talk. im a chatter box anyway "
Hey CC, I'll have a chatterbox anyday !! Way better than someone who's full of themselves and badmouths you to their " friends " when there's actually two sides to every story !!! xxxxxx

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over a year ago


"well said curvy cat...ur kind...jus try get out in nature too,and think how precious life is..there always hope and people to care nd help xx

well i know one thing and that is that im here for anyone and i do not judge. I have alot of people whom i just chat to for nothing other than to have someone listen to them and who can relate to their torment.its good to talk. im a chatter box anyway Hey CC, I'll have a chatterbox anyday !! Way better than someone who's full of themselves and badmouths you to their " friends " when there's actually two sides to every story !!! xxxxxx"
oh sweetheart you get that in every aspect of life.its the nature of the beast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression is very hard on the man or woman family cos they have seen dis person sick and its true they hurt the ones they love. . And for new and full moons fuck them anyway it effects them big time with moods..

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By *iancarr69Man
over a year ago

city

sooner people in ireland open up about this the better in men seems like they think its a weekness in them if they dont talk about it this will go away

mental illness is a serious thing i have had a family member breakdown to point of nearly killing them selfs goverment here dont put money into this change needs to happenfrom top anyone whos suffers form anything like this i wish them well find someone to open up too and change this

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over a year ago


"sooner people in ireland open up about this the better in men seems like they think its a weekness in them if they dont talk about it this will go away

mental illness is a serious thing i have had a family member breakdown to point of nearly killing them selfs goverment here dont put money into this change needs to happenfrom top anyone whos suffers form anything like this i wish them well find someone to open up too and change this "

i dont think its the government pumping money i think it the attitude of the irish people that needs to change.its seen as weakness and shrugged off.seeking help according to the older generation is "telling your business" and therefore bread into us as something not to do.no amount of government money will change that.

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over a year ago


"Hi guys, It seems depression is a subject being discussed far more openly in recent times then ever before. What are your thoughts on depression/mental illness ? Have you suffered with it in the past ?

I have never said it publicly so nobody would know but i personally have battled depression and know the pain it puts people through! I firmly believe loads of people do however but most just never discuss it openly!

Its great to see it being discussed more openly in recent times

Has it ever affected you or someone you know ?

Sorry if iam bringing down the mood guys haha Just a subject i never saw mentioned here

my dad and my sister suffered frm depression throughout their lives,they say it can be genetic and run in families,thank god i never suffered frm it,i have had times were i felt really down and fed up but it wasnt depression!when ppl say they are depressed it usually means their down or just fed up but not really depressed!depression is an ilness and person can barely get out of bed,cant eat or sleep and sumtimes need medication,manic depression is awful too!"

Totally agree...sometimes medication is needed and you feel like your getting some help. Theres a Big difference in depression and having an off day...and i speak from experience. The duvet becomes your best friend bed is the only place you want to be because you cant cope with reality. Suffered serious deppression for several years but meds and counselling and the desire to be 'normal' and i cracked it...i live mow by 'The Secret'. Heart goes out to those still suffering

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over a year ago


"I think the support for depression & mentally ill people is woeful.

How did you find help for your bouts of depression Op?

Just blurted it out to a doctor one day ha My mam suffers bad with mental illness so i always believed in my case that it was summit hereditary that i was doomed to get ha

And have you felt you got the help you need from the Doctor?

Truthfully,iam not sure! He helped in any way he could help i suppose but 90% of it is down to the individual! For example over the past few months i have began training , eating healthy etc and it has made a bigger difference to any pill i ever took!! Alot of whats wrong in a person thats depressed is that they are not leading the life they want , If you start leading a more fulfilling life , you generally tend to feel much better! Easier said then done of course "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe me the attitude towards mental health problems is the same in the country where I'm originally from. Actually, I think awareness is here much higher, seeing posters, ads on the telly etc.

I'm not saying it's great here, but I think it's a general world thing where people feel they can't open up about it.

But just talking from my own experience, it was 90% myself who was judging myself and not others. Some of my friends didn't understand it but they were still supportive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So good to see this being talked about so openly.

I've been battling it since I was 17 and it was triggered again by a break up last year. I had always found counselling worked best for me over the years but last year I hit a new low and needed both counselling and medication. It worked. The medication numbed the pain I was feeling enough for me to be able to talk openly about what was going on.

Having a good support network is vital in recovery. I was blessed with my friends and family who took care of me. Having even one person that you can pick up the phone to and say "I feel shit, just because", is half the battle.

Always make that call. There will always be someone to listen to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if yer still feeling down

Don't forget music, listen to ur fav tunes every day as music is a great healer and keeps the mind focused in difficult moments!

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Sometime just taking meds isn't enough and you need therapy too. Plus you need to find a medication right for you. I have had counseling to deal with a difficult childhood. Group therapy to learn to be more open and able to talk aboutmy troubles and ni in psychotherapy to learn to deal with emotions. I have tried about 4 different meds and finally found one that stops all my irrational thinking and helps me to function normally.

I have no shame in admitting I am diagnosed bipolar and I have come to terms now that it is something I have had ti learn to live with and not get over. It has been years of treatment but I'm better than I ever have been. Just take it slow as there is no quick fix for a real mental illness and it can take years to find yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about meds... I've taken three different types over the years but I really hated myself on them and coping now without them.

One of the side affects of the meds for me was losing my libido to some degree but the worst part was that I wasn't able to orgasm anymore. That actually made my depression worse.

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By *m11Man
over a year ago

Armagh


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

Be there as usual. Its 04:15, grab another snooze!"

I'm actually disgusted there's nowhere in Armagh or Antrim to do this. It sounds like a fantastic activity to boost moral and raise awareness! As a person suffering from depression I definitely feel that more awareness should be raised about depression and not just when a celebrity is found to be suffering from the illness.

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By *urferniMan
over a year ago

Antrim


"By the way guys, I just read summit about suicide in one of your comments! If any of you are not doing the darkness to light walk this year, GET ON IT

Its on the 10th of may and raises money for suicide prevention!! Theres a 5k walk done at 4am in the morning every year and its done in over 30 locations throughout the country

Be there as usual. Its 04:15, grab another snooze!

I'm actually disgusted there's nowhere in Armagh or Antrim to do this. It sounds like a fantastic activity to boost moral and raise awareness! As a person suffering from depression I definitely feel that more awareness should be raised about depression and not just when a celebrity is found to be suffering from the illness. "

Just Googled it and there are no walks up North

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i suffer from it since 2007 finally got some proper help and went to see someone it tough talking about problems to even family and friends sometimes.still have my bad days tho so i try and keep busy as much as i can that helps alot.

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over a year ago


"i suffer from it since 2007 finally got some proper help and went to see someone it tough talking about problems to even family and friends sometimes.still have my bad days tho so i try and keep busy as much as i can that helps alot."

Keep the head up an don't let it beat u.

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By *ike_365Man
over a year ago

sligo

I have worked in the services for years and I have to say Ireland is shit as a provider. Insight and being able to recognise the onset is important, support from family and friends is more important and far better than any medication as most medication carries their own dangerous side effects

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