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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My 11 y/o daughter was giving a phone recently from her grandad (after I warning everyone not to get her one)

It accidentally fell down the toilet recently.

Thoughts please.

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

"My 11 y/o daughter was giving a phone recently from her grandad (after I warning everyone not to get her one)

It accidentally fell down the toilet recently.

leave it there

Thoughts please. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers mikitiki

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I perfer mine to have them as they go on school buses and gives me piece of mind if im late to pick them up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I perfer mine to have them as they go on school buses and gives me piece of mind if im late to pick them up"

For that, its great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be thinking 11 is too young for a mobile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it's appropriate for kids to have them til secondary school at least. My child's friends all have them at 7 which there's no need for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 11 y/o daughter was giving a phone recently from her grandad (after I warning everyone not to get her one)

It accidentally fell down the toilet recently.

Thoughts please. "

Firstly what was your reason for not wanting your daughter to have a phone. Secondly what was everyone else involved in her life's view on her having a phone. All the facts have to be weighed up before one can have a proper insighted opinion on this.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

My worry with phones now, is that the internet is too easily accessed. No monitoring. Easily bullied/or bully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My worry with phones now, is that the internet is too easily accessed. No monitoring. Easily bullied/or bully.

What part of the internet would worry you most, as for social media sites can be accessed readily in any school if it is cyber bullying that worries you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whatever about the internet, I dont even like that they have cameras on them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My concerns:

1. I see kids in my classes with them/trying to sneak them

2. Serious Distraction For Kids

3. Personally I think society today can't communicate/interact in person too well because of mobile phones.

4. Pick Up Poor Grammar/Text Speak.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"My worry with phones now, is that the internet is too easily accessed. No monitoring. Easily bullied/or bully.

What part of the internet would worry you most, as for social media sites can be accessed readily in any school if it is cyber bullying that worries you"
computer time in schools is monitored and social media sites are blocked. It's monitoring in general.

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By *penyoureyes2722Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Is there not a children's range of non smart phones. I saw them in toysRus. All they can do is call or text. I think it's all an under 14 should be allowed to have.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"whatever about the internet, I dont even like that they have cameras on them

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true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eldest got one at 13 purely because he was in an after school program two towns away and rang home when finished. Phone was put away when got home.

In our local school 8 years bringing phones to school and bullying problems with text and snap chat..my 8 girl has asked for phone.. Not going to happen!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My concerns:

1. I see kids in my classes with them/trying to sneak them

2. Serious Distraction For Kids

3. Personally I think society today can't communicate/interact in person too well because of mobile phones.

4. Pick Up Poor Grammar/Text Speak. "

Can totally agree with 1 and 2, however i think that phones can be used for better communications, as for text speak, is it not up to us as parents and teachers to ensure that our kids know the difference between proper grammar and bad grammar, There is an ongoing weekly article in the Irish Times every Saturday that will teach you all the bad grammar you need. Ross O Carroll Kelly has some of the worst grammar ever to grace paper. My one big gripe with a kids phone is the same reason we have school uniforms. To place every child on a level that is the same, not one child having a better phone because their parents can afford it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there not a children's range of non smart phones. I saw them in toysRus. All they can do is call or text. I think it's all an under 14 should be allowed to have."

there is, and also any phone provider can limit the access to certain topical sites. They can also limit the numbers that can be reached

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By *penyoureyes2722Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

There is a school beside where I work and I sometimes run into some of the pupils in the local shops etc. It always amazes me when they pull out the latest iPhone and they are aged about 12. Who seriously would buy a child a £500 phone. Some parents with more money than sense out there it seems!

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By *urious fem ddWoman
over a year ago

dublin

I too have an 11 year old. She's not allowed a phone either. She got one at 8 and I simply removed the sim. She has music on it, camera etc...but no internet,calling or texting function. Her friends don't know it has no sim...she just says shes out of credit.

She bought herself an ipod a year later. I had wi-fi removed from the house, and politely knocked on a few neighbours doors and asked them to put passwords on theirs. A few looked at me funny, but I didn't care.

In my day (god I'm old) the house phone was in the hall, and if I didn't want to talk...my brothers said I was busy. End of... being accessible 24/7 isn't healthy.

A friend of mine takes phones away when the kids get in the door....

Its between your daughter, her mam and yourself to decide whats best...but your daughter needs a say too or she'll rebel. I hope I didn't go on too much...but I know exactly where you're coming from x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Curious fem dd - Did we just become best friends there?

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

my 12 year old son got one last year just has it when to be picked up from training or incase of an emergency. its always left in his bag as any time i ring it he never has it on him lol. all depends on the child and what there into in my opinion. mr crazy . btw my 10 year old son wont be getting one till he is 15 as he would be on it all the time

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

Maybe she thought the phone was shit and that the toilet was the appropriate place for it

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By *urious fem ddWoman
over a year ago

dublin

"Curious fem dd - Did we just become best friends there?"

I'm sure the request is in the mail...

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

"Is there not a children's range of non smart phones. I saw them in toysRus. All they can do is call or text. I think it's all an under 14 should be allowed to have.

there is, and also any phone provider can limit the access to certain topical sites. They can also limit the numbers that can be reached"

Save yourself the money. No child over 7 will use these 'baby' phones. Phone providers can not monitor internet accessed through WiFi. Kids are tech savvy and know the apps to download to get past restrictions.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Both my lads have fones cpl years now.11 and 12.so I cud ring them anytime mainly.or vice versa

I only have them every 2nd day so its a must

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Curious fem dd - Did we just become best friends there?

I'm sure the request is in the mail...

It's not!!!

I'm asking now

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By *urious fem ddWoman
over a year ago

dublin

You are shaming me into 'will you be my friend'. I always wanted to be your friend too...I'm just shy n didn't like to ask first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are shaming me into 'will you be my friend'. I always wanted to be your friend too...I'm just shy n didn't like to ask first

Deal

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

I had the same prob last year with the grandparents gettin them behind my back I threw them in the bin in front of them last month for both there bdays 10 and 11 I got them phones but only to be able to contact me wen there stayin in friends houses I check them randomly everyday aswel no Facebook snapchat or any of them apps are aloud on the phones either so they eventually got bored with them now they hardly pick them up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 11 y/o daughter was giving a phone recently from her grandad (after I warning everyone not to get her one)

It accidentally fell down the toilet recently.

Thoughts please. "
leave it in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grandparents did the same for ours at 11 (maybe they're on commission to top up their pensions) after being told not to, hubs handed them straight back.

Secondary school, forget it.

The only way we found to limit the use was to make them pay for the credit so they had to do without something else if they wanted it.

One last nugget...sometimes providers will 'give' you a free phone for minors if you put them on a sub-contract to yours, immediately put a spending limit on the account as apparently they can send over 2000 texts in a single month!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I am having a argument with my ex our daughter is 7 and he told her he would buy her a mobile phone so he can ring her .

There is no issue he can ring the landline or my mobile to speak to her but told her I will buy u a mobile phone so u can ring me anytime you want.

Im totally against it I think its mad I mean she is 7 .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am having a argument with my ex our daughter is 7 and he told her he would buy her a mobile phone so he can ring her .

There is no issue he can ring the landline or my mobile to speak to her but told her I will buy u a mobile phone so u can ring me anytime you want.

Im totally against it I think its mad I mean she is 7 . "

It is mad but is it worth aggro over? Just make sure you make it clear to them both that you will not be buying credit for it.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"I am having a argument with my ex our daughter is 7 and he told her he would buy her a mobile phone so he can ring her .

There is no issue he can ring the landline or my mobile to speak to her but told her I will buy u a mobile phone so u can ring me anytime you want.

Im totally against it I think its mad I mean she is 7 .

It is mad but is it worth aggro over? Just make sure you make it clear to them both that you will not be buying credit for it."
thats is it even he asked her what phone she asked for a iPhone 5 lmfao.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're going to get your kids phones regardless of age then you're gonna have to learn those phones back to front so you can monitor or block unsuitable content.

Anything less is lazy parenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a phone that justs makes phone calls and texts, no intenet, no camera, no Picture capabilties etc...Nokia 3210 any of the old phone, or the new Nanny phone, with pre-dialled number only can be used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're going to get your kids phones regardless of age then you're gonna have to learn those phones back to front so you can monitor or block unsuitable content.

Anything less is lazy parenting."

Absolutely, parents MUST know the password/s and pattern locks of their children's phones. & content has to be checked periodically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My worry with phones now, is that the internet is too easily accessed. No monitoring. Easily bullied/or bully.

What part of the internet would worry you most, as for social media sites can be accessed readily in any school if it is cyber bullying that worries you"

You will find most schools have accesses still f***book etched blocked .

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

U can get phones that can jus save 3 numbers and only receive the calls from them 3 numbers no camera no apps no messages think it's called a firefly phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our school monitors the bookface accounts of the kids in the school. They also confiscate phones until the end of term/half term if caught being used in the school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U can get phones that can jus save 3 numbers and only receive the calls from them 3 numbers no camera no apps no messages think it's called a firefly phone "

Yep and they're so uncool that no kid wants them.

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By *0shadesofashWoman
over a year ago

DUBLIN

"U can get phones that can jus save 3 numbers and only receive the calls from them 3 numbers no camera no apps no messages think it's called a firefly phone

Yep and they're so uncool that no kid wants them."
haha I think it's a great first phone for kids weather they like it or not I'm sure they would rather it than hav none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 11 y/o daughter was giving a phone recently from her grandad (after I warning everyone not to get her one)

It accidentally fell down the toilet recently.

Thoughts please. "

my son has a phone since he was 10,their great for keeping track of were they are,when he goes anywere i always make sure he has it!

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

I've a 9 year old. I'm thinking confirmation present. . Just that little bit too young yet for a couple of years. .

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

well i got my daughter one so i could contact her or she could contact me as i cant just drop around to see her as she lives 3 hours away

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

I'm single but got massive amounts of respect for mom. I dunno.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 11 y/o daughter was giving a phone recently from her grandad (after I warning everyone not to get her one)

It accidentally fell down the toilet recently.

Thoughts please. "
Just aswell shes way too young for a mobile phone I think

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ..."

Apparently it's one of the most common ways of damaging phones. I've done it myself, and I know three other people who've done it as well. The guy in the insurance company told me it was their number one problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

mine fell dwn the loo twice!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

mine fell dwn the loo twice!"

It probably came out better from your loo

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

mine fell dwn the loo twice!"
I'm accepting that as a guilty plea...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

mine fell dwn the loo twice!I'm accepting that as a guilty plea..."

If it was their number two problem it would be really messy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

mine fell dwn the loo twice!I'm accepting that as a guilty plea...

If it was their number two problem it would be really messy

yukky,no i had a wee both times,but my urine poisoned my phones,they died soon after

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By *ateatnight1055Man
over a year ago

Ballybrit

"If the phone gets flushed she's either too young or too pissed ...

mine fell dwn the loo twice!I'm accepting that as a guilty plea...

If it was their number two problem it would be really messy

yukky,no i had a wee both times,but my urine poisoned my phones,they died soon after

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and your user name is what!! Thefuck... jasus save me cause I must be evil! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a phone u can buy with just mam and dad button no internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I collect kids from school there is a very large box at reception of school full of mobile phones for kids to collect on leaving school at the end of the day. The oldest kid in the school is only 11 so its obviously something that isn't a problem for the vast majority of parents that buy their kids the phones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a child so some people probably will say I'm not allowed to have an opinion on this (especially if it's not theirs)

Call me old fashioned but the negatives are really outweighing the positives here. Why can people not use the landlines when calling their children? Or as someone said the ex partner can call their partners mobile to chat with the children if needed.

It worked 10 years ago, so why not now?

It's hard enough to protect a child when they use a laptop but on a phone it's almost impossible. Remove the sim as someone said because this seems to more a peer pressure thing than anything else.

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

"I don't have a child so some people probably will say I'm not allowed to have an opinion on this (especially if it's not theirs)

It worked 10 years ago, so why not now?

It's hard enough to protect a child when they use a laptop but on a phone it's almost impossible. Remove the sim as someone said because this seems to more a peer pressure thing than anything else.

This may b hard to believe sweet some parents use their kids as weapons and if parents are arguing 1 stops the other from talkin to them

Often good reasons for no contact

All too often not

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Well my ex got our daughter one yesterday which I'm not happy with no problem him ringing her on my mobile or the landline and to be fair the type of phone he got her is there very same as my 17 yr old one she got for Xmas

I totally against it

If I was being a bitch and not letting him speak to her fair enough but that's not the case at all.

But to get the same phone as my oldests who waited till Xmas to get hers is lousy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't have a child so some people probably will say I'm not allowed to have an opinion on this (especially if it's not theirs)

It worked 10 years ago, so why not now?

It's hard enough to protect a child when they use a laptop but on a phone it's almost impossible. Remove the sim as someone said because this seems to more a peer pressure thing than anything else.

This may b hard to believe sweet some parents use their kids as weapons and if parents are arguing 1 stops the other from talkin to them

Often good reasons for no contact

All too often not"

Yeah can also mean that while you want to talk to your child you may not want to talk to the ex. My sons too young yet to have a mobile but I will be giving him one when he's old enough. I do have good contact but the downside is also means I have to bite my tongue with the ex to maintain it.

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By *longshottMan
over a year ago

Limerick

No phone til 21

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok Ive read the thread and I understand all parents concerns. Primary school is too young for a phone. But come secondary school kids need to learn resposibility and I personally dont think that limiting and controlling our kids helps them to get on in life. Talking to them and keeping an open relationship does. Mine are 18 and 14 btw. Different story at that age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may b hard to believe sweet some parents use their kids as weapons and if parents are arguing 1 stops the other from talkin to them

Often good reasons for no contact

All too often not"

it's not hard to believe at all, I was one of those kids who were in between divorced parents. I was still able to talk to my dad on the landline though...

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

This may b hard to believe sweet some parents use their kids as weapons and if parents are arguing 1 stops the other from talkin to them

Often good reasons for no contact

All too often not

it's not hard to believe at all, I was one of those kids who were in between divorced parents. I was still able to talk to my dad on the landline though..."

Not always the case tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may b hard to believe sweet some parents use their kids as weapons and if parents are arguing 1 stops the other from talkin to them

Often good reasons for no contact

All too often not

it's not hard to believe at all, I was one of those kids who were in between divorced parents. I was still able to talk to my dad on the landline though...

Not always the case tho"

Sorry to hear that Hal! I'm just mainly worried about kids having access to the internet without much control. Nowadays they're much more tech savvy than we are and it's easy to delete browse history before you check it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Primary NO

Secondary YES

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

This may b hard to believe sweet some parents use their kids as weapons and if parents are arguing 1 stops the other from talkin to them

Often good reasons for no contact

All too often not

it's not hard to believe at all, I was one of those kids who were in between divorced parents. I was still able to talk to my dad on the landline though...

Not always the case tho

Didnt happen to me.Iv had my lads 50/50 since split

Happens to alot of ppl tho

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