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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi folks

Hope everyone is well. Just a short posting (and my first) needing a few pointers.

Been on a while now and consider myself polite and respectful but struggling with opening emails to people. I understand people not wanting to reply but wouldnt mind being told so I know how to go forward?

I'm sure everyone had had this starting out here.

Anyway take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U need a pic firstly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I've been thinking about that Cat. Have pics but all private and not sure what pic I should go with as a profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well send them over to me and i will guide you

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Well send them over to me and i will guide you "

greedy girl grabbing the newbie first

ur in good hands there but don't put up a cock pic and if u do u need one with the sky remote for effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well send them over to me and i will guide you

greedy girl grabbing the newbie first

ur in good hands there but don't put up a cock pic and if u do u need one with the sky remote for effect "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Upload some pictures, have a couple of you dressed nice (possibly a suit) and in underwear (but not showing face) and make any cock pics private, that way any potential interested parties can request them of you, or see them if you become friends (choice is up to you) Some people here like ass pics, so thats also an option.

2. Get verified, preferably by a meet. This can be the biggest hurdle and will require patience. I'd wait for a meet and greet, and mingle, make friends. Then, the next day, send a polite message saying you enjoyed meeting them and if they would be so kind as to verify you then you'd return the favour. If you cant wait for a m&g or there isnt one in your area for a while, see if someone (male or female) will meet you for coffee in order to verify you. Failing that, go on cam in the chatroom and ask could someone verify you in that fashion.

3. Hang out in the forums/chatroom. We get a good idea on the personality of people here in the forum, and especially single guys. If we like your style around here. we're more likely to message you.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol sky remote cracked me up there which has got the office wondering what I'm doing as I'm fairly sure laughter has been forbidden lately

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"1. Upload some pictures, have a couple of you dressed nice (possibly a suit) and in underwear (but not showing face) and make any cock pics private, that way any potential interested parties can request them of you, or see them if you become friends (choice is up to you) Some people here like ass pics, so thats also an option.

2. Get verified, preferably by a meet. This can be the biggest hurdle and will require patience. I'd wait for a meet and greet, and mingle, make friends. Then, the next day, send a polite message saying you enjoyed meeting them and if they would be so kind as to verify you then you'd return the favour. If you cant wait for a m&g or there isnt one in your area for a while, see if someone (male or female) will meet you for coffee in order to verify you. Failing that, go on cam in the chatroom and ask could someone verify you in that fashion.

3. Hang out in the forums/chatroom. We get a good idea on the personality of people here in the forum, and especially single guys. If we like your style around here. we're more likely to message you.

Hope this helps."

good advice but i wouldn't ask to be verified by going on cam and chatting with peeps it usually happens it self asking can get on some peoples nerve

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I'm pretty mindful of not wanting to pester people as it seems to happen a lot as per others profiles and postings. Also I wouldn't pester in person so can't see why I should behind a keyboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have no problem if someone asked me to veri them on cam, at least they're making an effort to be genuine.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I'd have no problem if someone asked me to veri them on cam, at least they're making an effort to be genuine. "

agreed but in chat u see people coming in and straight away asking to be verified this usually leads to them being ignored whereas when they join in the convo and are seen to be sound and can hold a conversation it usually ends up in a veri just my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hhhmmm i dunno i kinda disagree with yas all. Not very typical of me to disagree with anyone of course (jus thought id get that in there before youse vultures do lol).

Anyways i know what yas are saying but it all sounds so clinical - the man isnt applying for a job hes, I would assume, tryna meet someone he has a physical and mental connection with which will lead to a fun time.

So heres my 3 cent worth -:

1. As you said you are being respectful and yourself and chatting in the chatroom. Good start, make some friends. Yes get on cam so people can get the physcial impression of you.

2. Mailing inboxes - as a single fem i personally dont like the hi how are u - mails. Becos its a given that i am grand thanks very much lol. I would mail an introduction and ask if they fancy a chat tell them u hang out in the ireland chat room. Attach a face pic.

HTH

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Done all of that Red and still doing that (will continue to do so) think everyone has a different opinion if how to start a conversation in here.

It will all work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree with sending your photo via mail #1

(Even if it reduces your chances)

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You don't want your face floating around Cyber Space until you've gained (some) trust and even then its risky..

Grouphug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just get in the forums ppl will find out who you are and take it from there. I have made so many new friends in just a few weeks all thanks to the forums.

Best of luck mate and happy fabbing. Ps you should pass pics on to cat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree with sending your photo via mail #1

(Even if it reduces your chances)

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You don't want your face floating around Cyber Space until you've gained (some) trust and even then its risky..

Grouphug"

Well said my friend well said. Ps he should prob send in a request to join the ghb (grouphug brigade)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much for the friendly advice folks. Very much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree with sending your photo via mail #1

(Even if it reduces your chances)

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You don't want your face floating around Cyber Space until you've gained (some) trust and even then its risky..

Grouphug

He's more than welcome. You're the president of it Beav I'm only the Founder/Chief Executive

Well said my friend well said. Ps he should prob send in a request to join the ghb (grouphug brigade) "

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Nice public pic OP.

You sound like you know what your at!

Best of luck here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you links.

Might need a lot of luck it seems but it'll be fine whatever happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here a year now and not verified, I have met some nice people but not in person as work keeps getting in the way and life in general. I am still finding my feet and have had all the advice on cock pictures and what have you and in my experience it does not seem to matter if you have them public or not. If people want to talk to you they will and if not (obviously) they won't.

You will soon spot the picture collectors and time wasters, don't worry if people you ask to be friends suddenly vanish without notice (happens all the time ) and be wary of anyone who asks for face pics very quickly - especially if they have none of their own.

Finally a little trick if you use google chrome - right click on a picture and choose "search google for this image" If the person has used a stock internet photo as their profile image it will show up - and then ask yourself why would they use a fake photo?

Join in and have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank SDB

Some good advice there and certainly am wary. Still hoping to meet some interesting new people and sure I will.

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