FabSwingers.com forum: advice please

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if your next door neighbor is a swinger that u have met before you moved to that property and kept asking u too meet him/her constantly asking is that ok or is that pushing the limits with the hole being discreet an so on we feel we have bin let down over the being discreet part i dunno but whats ur advice an comments on this one any would be very helpful thanks everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having trouble getting the gist of this exactly, cos that was all one long sentence, so let me see if understand you.

you've moved next door to someone you've already met.

you dont want to meet them again.

they keep asking you

you keep telling them no?

have i got it right?

If thats the case, then no, it's not ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well yes and also if this person is having a meet they incist of us going in and joining them....

also if where haven a meet this persons is looking out to see whos coming in and whos going out of our property....

so i was just wondering if its abit over the top doing this on us and is it ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm having trouble getting the gist of this exactly, cos that was all one long sentence, so let me see if understand you.

you've moved next door to someone you've already met.

you dont want to meet them again.

they keep asking you

you keep telling them no?

have i got it right?

If thats the case, then no, it's not ok."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The person must think they have hit the jackpot here..tell them to politely feck off and stop annoying ye

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The person must think they have hit the jackpot here..tell them to politely feck off and stop annoying ye "

we all ready did but this persons keeps mail and mailing us are u up for fun and even hinting at us if we walk in and out of the property its very very strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bit of a mad one there lol ... ic u dnt want to meet then whats the difference than sayin it to sumone here just let then know the craic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then a line has been crossed.

are they a single or a couple?

just tell them that their behaviour is making you uncomfortable and that when you say no, you mean no.....and follow that up with:

"...and while we'd very much like to avoid it, if you cant respect our wishes, we're gonna have problems"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well we personally dont want too meet that person...

we have however explained it that where not intrested in any meets whats so ever...

but its the same every time we have a meet its like he/she is jelus or something...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"then a line has been crossed.

are they a single or a couple?

just tell them that their behaviour is making you uncomfortable and that when you say no, you mean no.....and follow that up with:

"...and while we'd very much like to avoid it, if you cant respect our wishes, we're gonna have problems""

its a single person but when ever he/she is having a meet they just incist we go in which both some times 3 people mail us to go in which is not fair on us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then tell them firmly but politely that you have no interest in meeting them again and to please stop asking, and if they dont comply that you will have to take more serious steps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"then tell them firmly but politely that you have no interest in meeting them again and to please stop asking, and if they dont comply that you will have to take more serious steps."

i could try my very best but i do know it wont stop... its getting to a stage now where id say that we are being stalked

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Definitely a line has being crossed

id be nervous seeing some from here on the street in case i saluted nd they though it inappropriate,or i don't salute and they think u bollox

but u have told them ur wishes and they keep crossing the line time to get ruthless i think.u need to spell it out in a mail explaining while ur happy to be neighbours u want to explore other avenues and u hope they will respect ur wishes

yes go so far as to say its not worth falling out as neighbours over but it will happen

best of luck guys its an awkward one maybe even send them this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely a line has being crossed

id be nervous seeing some from here on the street in case i saluted nd they though it inappropriate,or i don't salute and they think u bollox

yes go so far as to say its not worth falling out as neighbours over but it will happen

best of luck guys its an awkward one maybe even send them this thread"

very out straight there lol but we dont want too fall out over it but at the same stop it needs to be stopped i did inform the person that we no longer want anything got to do with them or and there people who they meet that person has since said ok no problem etc but im wondering if will keep happening to us.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if your next door neighbor is a swinger that u have met before you moved to that property and kept asking u too meet him/her constantly asking is that ok or is that pushing the limits with the hole being discreet an so on we feel we have bin let down over the being discreet part i dunno but whats ur advice an comments on this one any would be very helpful thanks everyone "

Yeah there's been a total lack of respect done with regards the discretion part

And the constant asking to meet is probably bordering on harassment pity you didn't find out what your neighbour was like sooner!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah there's been a total lack of respect done with regards the discretion part

And the constant asking to meet is probably bordering on harassment pity you didn't find out what your neighbour was like sooner! "
yeah we think its reached the hara

ssment they now know that we will not meet for sexual fun

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Yeah there's been a total lack of respect done with regards the discretion part

And the constant asking to meet is probably bordering on harassment pity you didn't find out what your neighbour was like sooner! yeah we think its reached the hara

ssment they now know that we will not meet for sexual fun

result nice one now u can proceed with ur desires and fantasy

happy swinging

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"The person must think they have hit the jackpot here..tell them to politely feck off and stop annoying ye "

let them know its too to home and it has to end there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty id just move!

Bit extreme but hey its worth it for peace and quiet and discretion.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty id just move!

Bit extreme but hey its worth it for peace and quiet and discretion.....

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