FabSwingers.com forum: trusting friends.

By *etmebeurfantasy OP Woman
over a year ago

My town

Would we or have we trusted telling anyone that your on a swinging site close friends etc..

Do u worry what people would think like a best friend;? Or is it a close secret. ???,.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

Mrs here , my best friend knows as i was a single fem before i met mr so i had to tell her for security reasons and she knew where i would be , she is not a bit into this life style but was understanding of my choices ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here my best friend knows again for safety reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only people that know we are on this site,or indeed live the lifestyle is the people we have met through here or clubs.its nobody elses business what we do in our private lives,be that family,friends neighbours or whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you dont want ANYONE knowing you're anything dont tell ANYONE only one of my mates knows im here .

Trust is a virtually impossible thing to come by anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive told a couple of friends but alot i would never tell, but also have a couple friends here for security, saying that nearly fell out with a male friend when i told him, was pretty judgemental about it all, and i didnt expect it, but agreed to disagree about the subject....my business at end of day....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive told a couple of friends but alot i would never tell, but also have a couple friends here for security, saying that nearly fell out with a male friend when i told him, was pretty judgemental about it all, and i didnt expect it, but agreed to disagree about the subject....my business at end of day....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend and her husband are on the site. A few others know but most of them don't due to the fact I think they will judge me

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By *etmebeurfantasy OP Woman
over a year ago

My town

That's it for safety reasons I would like to tell a close friend but would this person understand I don't think so; its a risk me saying it. I have been so close to tell this person but I just can't do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if shes ur best friend she will understand .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my best mates know. That's all. They haven't been judgemental at all. Although I think if I was female they would worry. I probably would too. I think all the ladies here would agree, that they would be bombarded by arseholes when they join. The fear would be jumping in too quickly. Personally I'm very picky who I meet. A social meet in public after chatting I think is very well advised to gauge a persons personality.

I would encourage you to tell your friend. If they are truely your friend they will understand I think. If they are discouraging it is more than likely, it is through concern for your well being.

Now stay safe fabbers x

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

No one knows and that's how we plan to keep it....we will never tell anyone..ever

For ladies I think for security it's a must that someone knows but if you feel uncomfortable with a friend get someone off the site to look out for you

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By *etmebeurfantasy OP Woman
over a year ago

My town

That's a good point I may tell my friend outside fab oneday; really logically im still me so hopefully she will understand.

Until I pluck up b the courage its a good idea to have a fab friend know who your meeting when and where.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a very close friend is on here.we can tell eachother anything but i wouldnt trust anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend abroad knows. Stopped telling my local friends what I'm doing as was too open and they couldn't deal with it lol. Like to have my own secret life. Unfortunately a text went out to my former neighbour about a foursome.....luckily I moved house...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best. Friend knows too again for safety reasons and have a few friend s on here too its our choice to add a bit of fun and. Excitement to our lives xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best friend abroad knows. Stopped telling my local friends what I'm doing as was too open and they couldn't deal with it lol. Like to have my own secret life. Unfortunately a text went out to my former neighbour about a foursome.....luckily I moved house..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe Fab could have a section like the Foreign & Commonwealth Office have for travellers abroad. When going on a meet. You register where you're going, what time and who you are planning to meet. Call it "Fab Locate"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand.......

We're off!!..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after reading on uk forums about a poor guy being left in a awful way after an attack at a party think everybody should be careful not just females, least when u organise a meet u have the security of telling someone where you are going with who ...but sadly these things can happen to anyone at anytime, how many people randomly pick up strangers on a saturday night and friends not having a clue....just keep your wits about you...and be safe!!

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By *etmebeurfantasy OP Woman
over a year ago

My town

"after reading on uk forums about a poor guy being left in a awful way after an attack at a party think everybody should be careful not just females, least when u organise a meet u have the security of telling someone where you are going with who ...but sadly these things can happen to anyone at anytime, how many people randomly pick up strangers on a saturday night and friends not having a clue....just keep your wits about you...and be safe!!"
totally agree its not just the ladies men too;

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my friends know that I have sex with different people but not in detail and that I'm on this site. I told them that I'm on POF and sometimes it leads to sex. I don't think they could handle this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True!!...

Who's to know that some guy/girl has just found out their partner has been cheating on them....

Creates a profile, to get back at someone!...

Hence the reason why verifications (real meets) are so important!!

Another reason why I don't meet 'last minute' or with people who I haven't chatted with but they request a meet!!

Goes for 'blind' friend requests too!...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for Ms. Slut but nobody I know knows what we're up to. Most of my friends would be quite liberal....and possibly curious about the lifestyle itself but would fake shock if I told them...as they would probably think it's the right reaction. They probably wouldn't judge me too harshly though.

My family on the other hand while quite open minded wouldn't be too impressed at my antics. They probably wouldn't cast me out though.

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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago

around

Im blaming my bf for my being here. She introduced me to it. All her fault. Probably why we're good friends....similar interests

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By *etmebeurfantasy OP Woman
over a year ago

My town

Can I just ask the people that tell fab friends who they meeting what information do u give

about the person your meeting. Chatting to another girl we have decided to become safety friends....... if u could either pm myself or give a few tips would be appreciated.

I know discretion is important but safety is s must too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have not told any of our friends what we do. It's not that they would be judgemental or anything like that we just want it kept private dont think they would believe us anyway even if we told them lol. But I do think its important that everyone has somebody that they can confide in to who they are meeting and where be it somebody your friends with on the site or a close personal friend

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

"Can I just ask the people that tell fab friends who they meeting what information do u give

about the person your meeting. Chatting to another girl we have decided to become safety friends....... if u could either pm myself or give a few tips would be appreciated.

I know discretion is important but safety is s must too. "

Who, when and where I am meeting as well as when I expect to be away from the meet and a password. Sent by email

When I leave the meet I send a text saying I am safe and giving the password, which differs for each meet.

Not perfect but better than nowt!

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By *lexakiMan
over a year ago

Tralee

Hi everyone , new to this , but interesting comments above , I would be very private anyways so would struggle to tell anyone , also because of small town Ireland I be very weary of chatting on here to anybody located near me. Maybe a protection thing as I am playing alone

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By *etmebeurfantasy OP Woman
over a year ago

My town

I personally think for people that have friends on site or on your friends list if only there was a alert signal on your profile that stated you was meeting a new person that's friends on you're friends list could see your meeting if u don't logg in and remove the alert.

And let's be honest I mean friends that have ur number on site could actually give a quick call or text saying are u ok. But only this alert can be seen by friends only

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Who's the computer whizz here there's an app for u to develop "help me" an app where u can put phone no of a few friends in and if u need then u click on the app and it sends texts to them

not only use full for fab but general use as ur kids could hit u with a text if in need

feckit i have just made some whizz kid a million haven't i

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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago

Cougarville

"Maybe Fab could have a section like the Foreign & Commonwealth Office have for travellers abroad. When going on a meet. You register where you're going, what time and who you are planning to meet. Call it "Fab Locate""

good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Himself has told two of his best friends and they're very liberal, but I wouldn't want him to tell anymore for fear of them discussing us and it becoming widely known.

I haven't told anyone or plan to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we or have we trusted telling anyone that your on a swinging site close friends etc..

Do u worry what people would think like a best friend;? Or is it a close secret. ???,. "

Wouldnt care about friends knowing. But would worrie about the kids finding out what mammy and daddy were at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we or have we trusted telling anyone that your on a swinging site close friends etc..

Do u worry what people would think like a best friend;? Or is it a close secret. ???,.

Wouldnt care about friends knowing. But would worrie about the kids finding out what mammy and daddy were at."
thats exactly it

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Same here my best friend knows again for safety reasons"

Ditto.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we or have we trusted telling anyone that your on a swinging site close friends etc..

Do u worry what people would think like a best friend;? Or is it a close secret. ???,.

Wouldnt care about friends knowing. But would worrie about the kids finding out what mammy and daddy were at.thats exactly it"

They always have to come first. And as a couple we have to do all we can to make sure our lifestyle is our lifestyle and NEVER gets in the way off our family life. Its ok i guess if ur single youve nothing to lose but married ppl with kids need to be extra carefull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby and best friend are on here which does help. I meet at my house because I feel secure and hubby is never far away. I have told a few friends and to be honest they have all been fine with it. One in particular is a Christian and very churchy and she was great about it. It is my business and I don't see why I should hide it unless the other person wants it that way.

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

"My hubby and best friend are on here which does help. I meet at my house because I feel secure and hubby is never far away. I have told a few friends and to be honest they have all been fine with it. One in particular is a Christian and very churchy and she was great about it. It is my business and I don't see why I should hide it unless the other person wants it that way. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we or have we trusted telling anyone that your on a swinging site close friends etc..

Do u worry what people would think like a best friend;? Or is it a close secret. ???,. "

i havent told any of my friends im on this site but a few of them know i meet guys online and have no problem with it!im single,having safe sex and not harming anyone so i dont even think id be tht bothered if they found out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would we or have we trusted telling anyone that your on a swinging site close friends etc..

Do u worry what people would think like a best friend;? Or is it a close secret. ???,. "

I told the local Bishop and he gave me some sound advice on how to put a profile together.

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By *exyfuntimes2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin/Carlow

We've told a few of our close friends. Lets just say they're getting more curious. You'd be amazed at the amount of couples who are interested in swinging but have yet to take the leap

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