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The mind of some single lads...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really need to get this off my chest, we are all this site for one reason only, to enjoy sexual experiernces or to open your options, fulfill fantasies etc weather you are a single male or female or a couple. Everyone has their reasons and everyone needs to respect that and to respect people

Everyone has a profile too that alot people dont bother to read, now im not saying this about all single men (please dont take an offence lads, not all are the same) but SOME MEN treat this site wrong and are clueless and rude. We are not prositutes, we are genuine people that have a life, may we be parents, good jobs etc swing is the personal part of our lives that we enjoy now and again or every weekend or weekday.

The point im getting at is why do some single men mail you the expect you to jump and say yes. Some say "hi where are you, ya horny lets fuck, what your address il drive to ya" or hi "what you into, where you live you wanna fuck" ?? Or do you live alone il be with you half an hour or an hour etc or what you doing now come meet me il fuck you or il cum in your face etc. Some of the single lads give the genuine lads a name. So annoying espically the very young lads but then you have all ages. I just think some men are here for a wrong reason and another thing that annoying is they send you a friend request without chatting and also wont respect you when you say (even though its written on most profiles) we like to meet for coffee first to see how that goes and if it went well, we would arrange a playdate. Some respond "its either now or forget it" or ah we will get on so lets fuck etc.

Am i over re-acting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, you've pretty much hit the nail on the head. the men you speak of aren't swingers, they're looking for an easy ride.

if only we could brand their profiles....

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Could not have said it better myself .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope, you've pretty much hit the nail on the head. the men you speak of aren't swingers, they're looking for an easy ride.

if only we could brand their profiles....

"

If only we could brand their profiles is right!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you could put something good up about us genuine single men. Perhaps the ones that aren't might learn something on how to mail you lot. I mail plenty and get a no reply it doesn't bother me there choice but I know the ones who I have met would be more than happy to tell how genuine I am.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I wanted to read it, I really did, but I kept getting stuck as my brain can only process a maximum of two sentences at one time. I'll put my knob away and try again in a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If only we could brand their profiles is right!!!"

Just had a quick look at your profile, if you're not looking for single guys though, why not do what we did and filter them? ahhh the peace...

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

As a single female its hard im. sure the ladies agree in this going through my mails the other day. And near enough one after the other I got fancy a fuck wanna meet now

Bluh fucking bluh.

Its so frustrating im not a piece of meet .

so I deleted the lot.

I would imagine that there was some thst had mailed with descent mails ie to start chatting. But I thought fuck this bulk delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 1 word well 2 "Youporn" Some lads think life is one big porno, if someone says hi or even looks at them, they automatically think they want to fuck them.

I was this person a long time ago and relised that life is not a prono.

But yes your right i'm sad to say, but there are some nice lads too as you said were not all the same.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Not looking at this as a negative thread but a positive every lady here has the same story(Cpl or single) i have since the time i joined made a decision not to cold mail profiles due to posts i read here near two years ago and the best thing about it is i now have friends and play mates i could never imagined i would have met in a vanilla setting

what i am trying to say is lads if ur looking an instant fuck ring a hooker otherwise woe and excite the ladies and cpls here as u would in a pub the dividends is well worth the effort

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By *hevkevMan
over a year ago

Bradford

It's not really fair that us men all get tarred with the same brush ,there is some decent among us

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By *ick and sexyCouple
over a year ago

any


"Could not have said it better myself . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you could put something good up about us genuine single men. Perhaps the ones that aren't might learn something on how to mail you lot. I mail plenty and get a no reply it doesn't bother me there choice but I know the ones who I have met would be more than happy to tell how genuine I am. "

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"Nope, you've pretty much hit the nail on the head. the men you speak of aren't swingers, they're looking for an easy ride.

if only we could brand their profiles....

"

You're dead right, I've heard a lot of stories lots of people I'm sure on here not realising what the scenes about. The distance allowed by making a connection online makes people think they can get away with being rude. News flash buddy, have fun playing with yourself!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the word respect is the big word missing in alot of this. be respectful to the person or people you are contacting. fully read their profile and think about what it says. dont just email someone because you think you can get your leg over. there if a profile here for everyone to hook up with and have FUN not just for a ride.

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By *arveygirthycockMan
over a year ago

town

Not just the single lads. I could go off in one here big time but ill just state this. (I'm divorced, very happy now solvent and single) Some: couples, think single lads here are desperate. Some couples think they have a better life than single lads here. Some couples think US single lads are desperate. Some think all us lads are inferior...

As stated above, I never/abstain initiating contact on here, very very seldom send a mail at all. It works for me. My profile is out there. If anyone likes what they see they can wink or mail me.

I have a great job also. I also have a great social life. I also have family. I also have kids. Why some couples think us single lads don't also have a life is beyond me...?

The thing that gets my goat the most is 99 percent of the mails I get off couples are always the same, single sentence mails.. You free, how are you, got a face pic for the wife etc etc etc yet we get the stick for that.

Respect works both ways..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not looking at this as a negative thread but a positive every lady here has the same story(Cpl or single) i have since the time i joined made a decision not to cold mail profiles due to posts i read here near two years ago and the best thing about it is i now have friends and play mates i could never imagined i would have met in a vanilla setting

what i am trying to say is lads if ur looking an instant fuck ring a hooker otherwise woe and excite the ladies and cpls here as u would in a pub the dividends is well worth the effort

"

Well said cj

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

So here's my rant someone just mailed

Wanna fuck ????

I mailed back seriously????

Him yeah so wanna

No replied

Him well I would not wanna fuck u any way I think u r slut .....

I think that what he was sayin but in brutal txt speech

Like really respect is both ways

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By *arveygirthycockMan
over a year ago

town

Message I got 2 days ago.

: wanna fuck my wife?

Me: right ok, wanna chat about it fella?

Reply: send your face pic and phone number.

Me: I don't mind swapping face pics mate, you wanna chat on kik as your not verified I dont really wanna give out my number yet.

Reply: fucking time wasting wanker:: Blocked!!

All in txt spk also.

I just filter the idiots out, always the good diamonds to be found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I look upon a profile that says no single guys I never reply or wink etc I never send anything other than a face pic with first message and am always polite on rejection .this is my way to go but some of the other idiots on here do get us single guys a bad rep .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i would agree it has to be both ways. i have bee emailed by some cpls and asked are you free now and when iv emailed back to say sorry iv been blocked im not upset about it i just wonder what do they think click their fingers and all the single guys come running.

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By *arveygirthycockMan
over a year ago

town


"If I look upon a profile that says no single guys I never reply or wink etc I never send anything other than a face pic with first message and am always polite on rejection .this is my way to go but some of the other idiots on here do get us single guys a bad rep ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We appreciate everyone can be on here for different reasons. However we believe most single guys miss the point. For them this is a sex site. For us it's a social site with sex. BIG difference....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

If only we could brand their profiles is right!!!

Just had a quick look at your profile, if you're not looking for single guys though, why not do what we did and filter them? ahhh the peace..."

Because there is genuine single lads that i have meet and others that i want to meet as we have been chatting etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well i would agree it has to be both ways. i have bee emailed by some cpls and asked are you free now and when iv emailed back to say sorry iv been blocked im not upset about it i just wonder what do they think click their fingers and all the single guys come running. "

Well thats just wrong 2 and you have been shown no respect. Couples like single male or female dont have a right to treat people like that. Its a site for adults to enjoy but i find the men from 18 to 25 big immature babies grrr and like i said there is very genuine decent single guys out there that are respectful and honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you all not realise, that the single guys have limited time away from their wives and girlfriends and that's why they're so pushy??

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"We appreciate everyone can be on here for different reasons. However we believe most single guys miss the point. For them this is a sex site. For us it's a social site with sex. BIG difference...."

hope fully the most will change (don't hold ur breath to long) but as some have stated respect is a two way street cpls and fems looking for face pics first msg i don't think so i have a right to privacy to they come with trust and respect as u said us singles (which is not the right word for me as i am married) enjoy the social side too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok whilst i agree with what ur saying,because i get the same type of mails, i do feel sorry for the blokes.they are on here for the same reason we are only its more difficult for them to actually get some given the ratio of men to women.yez sometimes i feel like saying to them im not a hooker however i ask myself how many mails did that person send to other women and got no reply.they may have wrote the nicest mail and got ignored and perhaps i was the next one they wrote to when they had had enough rejection.just a thought???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of good guys on here, there are idiots from all sides, males couples and women, you just have to sift through them unfortunately, the internet makes it so much easier for people to put zero effort in and also be as rude as they feel like as there is no chance of repurcussion. Face to face you are unlikely to get the same behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok whilst i agree with what ur saying,because i get the same type of mails, i do feel sorry for the blokes.they are on here for the same reason we are only its more difficult for them to actually get some given the ratio of men to women.yez sometimes i feel like saying to them im not a hooker however i ask myself how many mails did that person send to other women and got no reply.they may have wrote the nicest mail and got ignored and perhaps i was the next one they wrote to when they had had enough rejection.just a thought???"

I get the same kinda of messages from guys, what a bloody cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is true that respect goes both ways, and that there are idiot males, females and couples on this site.

I'll just say a few things though. In the swinging game couples and single bi fems are in a position of power. It is them that most of the single guys are after. That power can go to their heads sometimes, when everyone wants you.

When i was a single bloke swinging years ago, i was mannerly, discreet and respectful and it still took me over A YEAR to get my first meet, so let me say this to the single males reading who think they can get a quick fuck:

AS A SINGLE MALE SWINGING IS HARD WORK.

let me repeat that as some single males have a reading problem,

AS A SINGLE MALE SWINGING IS HARD WORK.

if you're prepared to put in the work, the rewards are great. If you want a quick fuck, hire a hooker.

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