FabSwingers.com forum: No shows

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering if anyone else has the same problem with no shows? Chat to lads for ages, all going great, we get one great, when I comes to the crunch they don't reply to text/kik/email and in some cases delete their profiles. In other cases they keep their profiles here but cease all communication. Even after wks of chatting every day? Just getting beyond frustrated with it now and it's a shame as I've met so many great guys and gals here!! Would love to knee if anyone else had experienced the same or knows why lads do this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not just lads lollipop, to date ive had 24 no-shows, profile deletes or cancellations (this is my second profile)...its an extremely common issue and frustrates all of us but im afraid it would appear to be part n parcel of swinging, have learnt to accept and move on...but i feel ur pain...wanna wee rub there??...lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've experienced it with girls too so I know it's not just lads

just keeps happening and I can't understand it at all!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been lucky and never had a no show , but do hate when u have a gr8 conection with someone and chatting for a long time and the suddenly delete their profile , bummer!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True, I've had that happen too, then again sometimes it's hard to keep convos going with lads who have no pics on their profiles and so many use names sound the same!! God knows how many "dub guy" or "horny lad" I have chatted too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmao I've heard there a quite a few , so a tip to us guys to be origanal lol, in the name at least,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that or just attach a pic when mailing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that or just attach a pic when mailing!! "
as I did lol

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Profiles with no pics or vaires strike me as dodgy however there are lots here that have both should make ur path to a meet easier

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lmao I've heard there a quite a few , so a tip to us guys to be origanal lol, in the name at least,

You said it Manix!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

original user names aside!! The lads I had arranged to meet were veri'd and had pics and we swapped phone numbers etc. I see lads post status updates all the time about girls wasting time and not showing up, granted all my no shows are with lads I was meant to meet for a drink. Funny all the sex ones show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, I have chatted to a lot, all about meeting, then when try to confirm a date , nothing.

Sorry had to remove pics, had a close calll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man or men ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Man or men what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had the same problem with a few women and a couple aswell, chat exchange numbers etc and then no contact hand they don't answer, so frustrating!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Man or men what?"

The meet was it man as in one or men as in many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it is if you are interested in someone meet them

dont talk the talk and not the walk.

Were here to have a good time not waste time.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I have not had that happen to me neither but it happens.

Maybe the person got cold feet but a simple text or mail I would give them more respect instead of deleting or not answering back.

Classis case of time wasting

Move on and forget it just tell yourself his loss.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"not just lads lollipop, to date ive had 24 no-shows, profile deletes or cancellations (this is my second profile)...its an extremely common issue and frustrates all of us but im afraid it would appear to be part n parcel of swinging, have learnt to accept and move on...but i feel ur pain...wanna wee rub there??...lol

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fuck 24 no show meets .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd show up lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well its a common occurrence. . With my single profile before I(fem) deleted it no shows greatly outnumbered actual meets .. And anyone that knows me can vouch I don't even agree to meet for a coffee til I feel I sorta know the person.. and I agree with lollipop most lads want to skip the social meet straight to sex .. but I want to make sure there is a click there and he is who he says he is before the naughtiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to arrange coffee after only a few emails cos it's a very quick decider on a real meet.

About 2 in 5 arranged coffees don't show with no explanation, though still on the site.

Just ignore them after that, plenty others to chose from, but sometimes it does make you withdraw for a while.

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By *ungdublinguyMan
over a year ago

Dublin/Leitrim

Only one no show for me, across the street from her place for an hour while she has friends over.

This was after arranging a time that they'd be gone, and a bunch of messages saying they'll be gone in 10/15 minutes.

Very annoying

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Had a no show a couple of weeks ago no text no call and hey presto i see her status up today looking for a meet what to do

feck that i am going to lunch and a few pints no time wasting there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do agree.. You really need to have the connection so the coffee meeting is "de rigueur"..

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By *randub69Man
over a year ago

city

"Had a no show a couple of weeks ago no text no call and hey presto i see her status up today looking for a meet what to do

feck that i am going to lunch and a few pints no time wasting there

Lol ur starting early

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm glad it's not just me!! I only arrange the coffee meet after emailing for a while and kinda getting the feel for someone aswell. If there is chemistry when we meet in person then grand, let the fun begin

I've also arranged to meet lads and they pull a no show and post status looking for meets

And it's happened with singular men on multiple occasions biker

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"Had a no show a couple of weeks ago no text no call and hey presto i see her status up today looking for a meet what to do

feck that i am going to lunch and a few pints no time wasting there

Lol ur starting early"

early bird catches the worm fran

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

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By *SinfullyCuriousCouple
over a year ago

Co Antrim

"Profiles with no pics or vaires strike me as dodgy however there are lots here that have both should make ur path to a meet easier"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah story of my life

I'm not on here that often, and only managed to arrange 3 meets in the last 8 months and none of them showed up or had the decency to call and indeed left the site as well. Puts you right off, and makes you very wary of any other contacts but I'm a easy going sort so some day I'll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The messages I have gotten from profiles with no pics , veri's or even content asking did I fancy a meet; based on what exactly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had three "cancelations" this week alone. Havnt had meet in ages and arrange them and this happens. Never had a no show as i consider that to be at a place and other person not show. Least i hadnt gone to effort today.

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By *longshottMan
over a year ago

Limerick

I honestly think sometimes it's just nerves and shyness. Some people maybe come into scene that can't sell themselves in real world tthinking it's easier here. However I believe you need all the tools here you do in real world to score and probably more. Chatting and online etc easy but maybe face to face scares the Hell out of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe so!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good point, and I do understand nerves can play a massive part in meets!! It's just frustrating is all as I feel like I've gotten to know them and then boom, nada!! It leaves me feeling like a fool

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"Good point, and I do understand nerves can play a massive part in meets!! It's just frustrating is all as I feel like I've gotten to know them and then boom, nada!! It leaves me feeling like a fool

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don't feel like a fool. If no explanation given they the fool.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good point, and I do understand nerves can play a massive part in meets!! It's just frustrating is all as I feel like I've gotten to know them and then boom, nada!! It leaves me feeling like a fool

don't feel like a fool. If no explanation given they the fool.

very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best one I have had recently is someone I have met before arranging a met and then a few days before hand getting all aggro and bullish because I didnt have credit (after they demanded) I ring them And then come on here and try to continue with the behavior.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all kinds. I drove to a meet near cork. Texts been answered all way then at time of meet phone rang rang then tried again and was switched Off. It's very frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all kinds. I drove to a meet near cork. Texts been answered all way then at time of meet phone rang rang then tried again and was switched Off. It's very frustrating"

Yes and it's worse when you have had them in your bed and they turn out to be not the genuine person you though they were ....some people on here should just learn a bit of respect....although that's never happened to me Bert what a fucking horrible thing to do to some one especially all the way to cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a no show in pub yesterday

waiting two hours on my own;-)

Then advertised another meet in same pub

a very good looking young man turned up

so it ended up being better than i expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a no show in pub yesterday

waiting two hours on my own;-)

Then advertised another meet in same pub

a very good looking young man turned up

so it ended up being better than i expected

She that's the stye. Make the most out of a bad situation. In this case a no show

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"I had a no show in pub yesterday

waiting two hours on my own;-)

Then advertised another meet in same pub

a very good looking young man turned up

so it ended up being better than i expected

She that's the stye. Make the most out of a bad situation. In this case a no show

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blooming marvellous good for you

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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

cancel is one thing no show is not on unless their on life support in the hospital no reason is good enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a no show in pub yesterday

waiting two hours on my own;-)

Then advertised another meet in same pub

a very good looking young man turned up

so it ended up being better than i expected

Nice one... Though don't think I'd have waited 2 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a no show in pub yesterday

waiting two hours on my own;-)

Then advertised another meet in same pub

a very good looking young man turned up

so it ended up being better than i expected

Nice one... Though don't think I'd have waited 2 hours

2 hrs does seem excessive, surly you would have their mobile number and if they didnt respond just leave, that is what I would do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aw sorry you had to wait two hours but alls well that ends well if you met another chap

some of my best meets are ones I arrange at the last min due to no shows or cancellations!

Kitty, if he's being aggressive and demanding you call him then block him!! There's way too many here who would love to have a meet with you to be dealing with that kinda carry on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few no shows .

But one that gets me someone you've chatted to for a while and swaped photos with just suddenly stop all contact for absolutly no reason , this has happend more than a few times .

I think it's just basic manners if someone takes time to chat and especially send photos , that if you decide not to chat with them anymore which your entitled too , but at least tell them why !

I know some might get abuse back , if this happens just block .

Serious lack of manners from some on here .

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