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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

heyy beautiful people!

I am a single guy who is curious about entering this scene. I was hoping if any long time fabbers had any wisdom to share with me. Any and all advice would be appreciated but I would love specific tips on how to improve my profile and make connections that will lead to real life meets.

Would love to hear from some of the ladies on this site about things guys have messaged you that were instant turn-offs so I can avoid the same mistakes.

Feel free to tell me if I have no chance of actually meeting up with someone genuine through this site. Give me the hard hitting truths.

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this post. xoxo.

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By *ensualDivaWoman
1 day ago

Galway, Mayo

Always read the profile

Don't be a pest

Don't be rude or crude

Don't take offence to having messages deleted or not replied to.

Socials and events can work to get you on the verified ladder.

Chatting on forums can help to show the kind of peraon you are.

It is difficult to find the right people but you can only keep trying and hope you meet them

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

okay

would you say that verifications are important on this site?

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By *rish-blacksmithMan
1 day ago

Cork


"okay

would you say that verifications are important on this site?"

Yes. But meeting irl humans and not being a creep is the important part of the verifications.

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
1 day ago

The West

We liked your bio. Good job.

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

okay I getchu.

any advice on pitfalls I can avoid in order to not be a creep. any phrases or kinks that are generally looked down upon in this community that I should know about?

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

Thank you. Sent u guys a dm in you're interested.

Can I ask what you like about it? And do I need more photos?

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By *opharkCouple
1 day ago

South Dublin

Liked your bio 👏👏

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

Thank you.

I see in yere profile that ye are only looking for guys above six foot so I won't try hit up yere dms but do ye have any advice on how to make my profile more appealing? Apart from getting tallness surgery.

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By *affa31Woman
1 day ago

Galway


"okay I getchu.

any advice on pitfalls I can avoid in order to not be a creep. any phrases or kinks that are generally looked down upon in this community that I should know about?"

I would say own your kinks. You’ll find people who are put off by the more vanilla kinks, right up to ones who have kinks you’ve never even knew were possible. Don’t force your kinks on anyone but be open about your likes and dislikes.

Just be you, engage with people, talk to them like your average person on the street.

Do be aware that there are a lot of people here who won’t meet guys your age. Just focus on the ones who will and who are interesting to you too.

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
1 day ago

The West

Did you see in our bio that you were also out of our age range?

We don't mind your message all that much but guess the point is you should respect preferences and don't hit people up when you are outside them.

Or do. But I wouldn't expect a positive response in those cases. That's a path well trodden my many other men who who really don't care to check out preferences and it wears thin.

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

okay great. that seems like solid advice.

I did have one question I would love an expert fabber's opinion on though if you don't mind.

Because there are so many on here who will not meet a guy of my age or a single guy at all do you think I should cut my losses and maybe attempt to enter this scene at a later stage in life? Basically just wondering if in your like time in this scene have you ever come across people who would be looking for a guy like me or is it considered super rare?

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By *hynot xCouple
1 day ago

Woop Woop


"okay great. that seems like solid advice.

I did have one question I would love an expert fabber's opinion on though if you don't mind.

Because there are so many on here who will not meet a guy of my age or a single guy at all do you think I should cut my losses and maybe attempt to enter this scene at a later stage in life? Basically just wondering if in your like time in this scene have you ever come across people who would be looking for a guy like me or is it considered super rare?"

I think there's an increasing number of folk in your age bracket, from the threads posted. You just need to find your people and respectfully reach out to them. Good luck

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By *affa31Woman
1 day ago

Galway


"okay great. that seems like solid advice.

I did have one question I would love an expert fabber's opinion on though if you don't mind.

Because there are so many on here who will not meet a guy of my age or a single guy at all do you think I should cut my losses and maybe attempt to enter this scene at a later stage in life? Basically just wondering if in your like time in this scene have you ever come across people who would be looking for a guy like me or is it considered super rare?"

I’m sure there’s plenty of people happy to meet a young guy. There’s also plenty of people your age around.

But, not only are you up against the age factor, you’re up against the single male factor. There’s a lot of you so it’s hard to stand out of the crowd. You will need to put effort in, try to go to events etc.

I joined a swing site when I was 21 but things were very different back then and I benefit from having boobs 😂 I wouldn’t necessarily, in hindsight, recommend joining that young.

It all depends what you want from the place. If it’s just casual sex, you will find that easier elsewhere.

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

okay I get you. I guess I got a lotta competition. thank you for the response and good luck to you guys as well.

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
1 day ago

The West


"okay great. that seems like solid advice.

I did have one question I would love an expert fabber's opinion on though if you don't mind.

Because there are so many on here who will not meet a guy of my age or a single guy at all do you think I should cut my losses and maybe attempt to enter this scene at a later stage in life? Basically just wondering if in your like time in this scene have you ever come across people who would be looking for a guy like me or is it considered super rare?"

Messaging is a particular thing because people make decisions in a split second after glancing through a profile and that might happen a few times a day so its mostly very inconsequential for the people your reaching out to.

I would say in that scenario rejection is the default as it is with nearly all messages sent by nearly all men.

However, if you go to an event no one is going to ask what age you are.

Events aren't for everyone but if you can make it work you would, at the very least, start making friends and that's often the thing that underpins success for guys who are in a more niche demographic.

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

Thank you for the advice I will take that all into consideration.

I saw you are organising a coffee social in cork soon, can I come lol?

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
1 day ago

Cork

yeah that makes sense. thank you for all the advice and help it is appreciated.

Seems the consensus from the replies I got is that meets and socials are the way to go, I'll have to look into that.

Thanks again xoxoxo.

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By *rishmanabroadMan
24 hours ago

Belfast Dublin

Its so disorientating when you start. I can't imagine take my my first steps on here at 22 when theres still so many other things to understand and tie down in life. The advice you've got is solid; go to socials, meet people. Be open. Connect. Listen to people. Verifications are everything for a single guy.

Make sure you consciously explore the wider world too. The next ten to fifteen years of your life are so important. Be curious and adventurous and the rest of it takes care of itself.

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
24 hours ago

Cork

Thanks man, I'll try my best.

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By *rRiosMan
14 hours ago

dublin


" …I joined a swing site when I was 21 but things were very different back then and I benefit from having boobs 😂 I wouldn’t necessarily, in hindsight, recommend joining that young."

What was you username back then?

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By *affa31Woman
13 hours ago

Galway


" …I joined a swing site when I was 21 but things were very different back then and I benefit from having boobs 😂 I wouldn’t necessarily, in hindsight, recommend joining that young.

What was you username back then? "

Nice try

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By *razy-CplCouple
13 hours ago

Cork

I enjoyed reading your Bio , u do seem alot more mature for you age, there are more people your age comming into the scence, but some dont undertand it and think its like Dial-a-Ride , its far from that. Coffee socials are also a great way to meet people , to just have a chat

Mrs crazy

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
10 hours ago

Cork

haha thank you so much. I have been told I am an old soul before. That has been my experience as well with the messages I've got from single guys, Dial-a-Ride is exactly what they seem to think. I will definitely have to try out the socials, just hope I'm not the youngest in the room.

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By *he General 2 0 2 5Man
7 hours ago

Limerick City

Hi 👋.

Become a site supporter. First things first. I think for 15 cuid you can do alot more on here than without it. Thats a start. See 👀 who views you. See videos. All that shit.

Next, id reign in the ""ill do anything lines"". Seems a lil desperate. I know you're only learning. But give it time. As previous people have mentioned, theres specific nichés on here also.

Next id get onto DV8 and see when their next unverified night for new people is. And try go to that. Get on the board. Veris are someway important and on the flip side a load of auld shite too. Make up your own mind here on people, and let them make up their own minds on you.

Interact in the forums...always a good way to get yourself out there. Get more photos 📸. Have private photos and a private video. Unless their your friend....peeps cant see them. People will add you to see your shit.

Good luck kid 👍.

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By *ab00boy OP   Man
5 hours ago

Cork

Thanks man.

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