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Are socials better than private meets?

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By *jay103 OP   Man
7 days ago

Dublin

Some people won’t meet without attending socials first, while others prefer one on one chemistry. Which approach works best, and why?

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 days ago

Belfast

Both work depending on those involved.

I prefer one to one socials for numerous reasons including actually being able to have a conversation but some feel more secure at large group socials.

I can honestly say in 10 years here that I've never once spoken to a woman who would only agree to meet me at a group social so it's not something I've ever worried about.

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By *om TangoMan
7 days ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

Social gatherings suits me. I don’t go out often so I make a night of it. Plus I’ve friends in the lifestyle that I only meet at socials. In saying that I’ve met some lovely people on one on one socials.

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By *og-ManMan
7 days ago

somewhere

Do you mean a social first with one person or just meeting for sex

Or going to socials with lots of others there

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By *iablo soloWoman
7 days ago

dub

I won't meet anyone anymore, unless I've previously met them at an actual social event. Too many time wasters on here and have been let down by lots.

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By *razy-CplCouple
7 days ago

Cork

I ,mrs crazy , do enjoy the odd solo meet , but i wont meet anyone new unless its a coffee social first before any meet is arranged , i do this for many reasons, to make sure the is sexual chemistry and we can actually have a chat and connect , nothing worse than arranging a play meet with a complete stranger and neither of us are attracted to.one another ,

Socials are very important in my eyes before a play meet

Mrs crazy

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By *jay103 OP   Man
7 days ago

Dublin


"Both work depending on those involved.

I prefer one to one socials for numerous reasons including actually being able to have a conversation but some feel more secure at large group socials.

I can honestly say in 10 years here that I've never once spoken to a woman who would only agree to meet me at a group social so it's not something I've ever worried about. "

To be honest I’ve nee had a situation of such either but heard from one or two guys who had similar situation which is why I made the post.

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By *jay103 OP   Man
7 days ago

Dublin


"Social gatherings suits me. I don’t go out often so I make a night of it. Plus I’ve friends in the lifestyle that I only meet at socials. In saying that I’ve met some lovely people on one on one socials. "

Surely that’s one of the benefit of social, you get to meet like minded people.

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By *jay103 OP   Man
7 days ago

Dublin


"Do you mean a social first with one person or just meeting for sex

Or going to socials with lots of others there "

Both, sometimes people some want to meet you in person to see if you have anything in common in person I guess.

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By *jay103 OP   Man
7 days ago

Dublin


"I ,mrs crazy , do enjoy the odd solo meet , but i wont meet anyone new unless its a coffee social first before any meet is arranged , i do this for many reasons, to make sure the is sexual chemistry and we can actually have a chat and connect , nothing worse than arranging a play meet with a complete stranger and neither of us are attracted to.one another ,

Socials are very important in my eyes before a play meet

Mrs crazy "

That’s understandable Mrs Crazy, security and chemistry is none negotiable. What if you’ve chat for a while, have chemistry and seen their face?

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By *jay103 OP   Man
7 days ago

Dublin


"I won't meet anyone anymore, unless I've previously met them at an actual social event. Too many time wasters on here and have been let down by lots."

Sorry to hear about your experience with time wasters, keep it that way unless you’re very sure about someone

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
7 days ago

East / North, Cork


"Some people won’t meet without attending socials first, while others prefer one on one chemistry. Which approach works best, and why?"

Look at a group social as a way of having quick one on one socials with loads of people in one night. It's a timesaver. Having a one on one social with no one else there and the chemistry isn't there is a waste. Time is short and babysitting is expensive

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By *hellyGWoman
7 days ago

Sandyford

I rarely do one on one fab meets these days. There are too many flakes and fakes to justify doing it. Meeting people through socials is generally easier, safer and usually more fun 🤷🏼‍♀️

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By *razy-CplCouple
7 days ago

Cork


"I ,mrs crazy , do enjoy the odd solo meet , but i wont meet anyone new unless its a coffee social first before any meet is arranged , i do this for many reasons, to make sure the is sexual chemistry and we can actually have a chat and connect , nothing worse than arranging a play meet with a complete stranger and neither of us are attracted to.one another ,

Socials are very important in my eyes before a play meet

Mrs crazy

That’s understandable Mrs Crazy, security and chemistry is none negotiable. What if you’ve chat for a while, have chemistry and seen their face?"

Chatting online and chatting in person are completely different , you cant get the same connection online than in person , i always send face pics and ask for face pics before the coffee social so i know who to look out for

Mrs crazy

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By *traightmaryWoman
7 days ago

cork

I much prefer someone who has been to an event , social or play .. I find they have a better understanding of how to engage in a respectful easy manner IMO . Means multiple ppl have sussed them out to be safe . And even then I would need a coffee meet before any play.

Just clarifying in case that’s what someone meant by “having a social “ under their belt .

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 days ago

Belfast


"Do you mean a social first with one person or just meeting for sex

Or going to socials with lots of others there

Both, sometimes people some want to meet you in person to see if you have anything in common in person I guess."

If you're talking about a social rather than straight to a play meet I even have it written on my profile that a coffee social is non-negotiable.

I don't meet anyone without at least one social first and if they have an issue with that we were never compatible to start with.

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By *dfabMan
6 days ago

Dunboyne

So I take it from this the days of "Howya! Do you fancy a ride" have dissappeared then?

Shame to see the old ways vanishing really

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
6 days ago

Louth

We do both, but for smaller socials it's pointless travelling any distance as 50% chance of no shows, at big socials it's 100% chance of a volume of people at it, just more difficult to pin point or get any real lenght of time with anyone.

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
6 days ago

turnrightstraightahead

Have experienced both tbh & a single 1 on 1 meet CAN be fruitless or it CAN be worth everything..but at a social there are more options to chat & meet other people, just go with an open mind & remember not everyone is your type & you're not everyone's type & enjoy it.

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By *ildAtlanticSecretCouple
6 days ago

around Clare, Galway, Limerick

Socials for us

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