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"A few simple rules. Lenght of time on fab, pics on profile, and also verifications start of with these and go from there." Thanks Debbie.. i guess we need to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt. | |||
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"You live on opposite ends of the country and have to arrange to meet each other as well as someone else Easiest thing for you is to go to socials if you can and then meet people going to them while you're all in the same room " Absolutely this ☝🏻 We usually have to travel for events. If you're meeting up with someone new and you click great, but if not you know you're going to have a good time and meet up with friends. | |||
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"Thanks as we said we not really into socials yet ... are there any bi social events?" Yes all walks of life socials | |||
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"A few simple rules. Lenght of time on fab, pics on profile, and also verifications start of with these and go from there. Thanks Debbie.. i guess we need to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt." Dm sent | |||
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"What we meant is we dont want to start chatting and ask people are they bi each time. Prefer to be at event when all bi men women and couples " I prefer socials that's just me and busty blue eyed redheads. I can't find them either annoyingly. I just prefer events where it's just me and them. | |||
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"What we meant is we dont want to start chatting and ask people are they bi each time. Prefer to be at event when all bi men women and couples I prefer socials that's just me and busty blue eyed redheads. I can't find them either annoyingly. I just prefer events where it's just me and them. " Well if we're getting to choose, I'd like one where everyone is over 6ft and has perfect forearms. Cheers! | |||
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"Very true as we said we need to be more critical and stop giving people the benefit of the doubt x" We go with Mindys gut instinct, it's usually right but an issue is if we won't give people the benefit of the doubt, how do we meet | |||
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"Thanks all but kinda getting off topic. So just again to ask ..... What are your red flags on here prior to meeting that you dont cross? Asking this as I think we may need to be harsher in who we chat to or allow message us ..." We check for things like have they very few photos and are all their photos dick pics and is there hardly any bio. Then we also have a policy of only replying to verified people who have available pics (not a shadow pfp). We also prefer to meet people who do attend socials because that means they have put the effort in to the scene and are less likely to be married, and more likely to test regularly. Being involved in the community side of things is kind of like the scene has already done a lot of the vetting for us. | |||
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"Thanks all but kinda getting off topic. So just again to ask ..... What are your red flags on here prior to meeting that you dont cross? Asking this as I think we may need to be harsher in who we chat to or allow message us ..." For me, there's saddest thing is a guy has to go through situations BEFORE he sees the truth , for me the biggest red flag is timewasters but you dont find out till you've wasted time talking to someone that NEVER was interested or going to meet in the 1st place.. | |||
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"Yea thinking more about it the photo verification rule should be a must for us, its so easy to do and anybody that doesn't do it there is definitely something amiss. Verifications themselves can be hit and miss especially if shy newbies that just dont like social meets n greets. " "Yea thinking more about it the photo verification rule should be a must for us, its so easy to do and anybody that doesn't do it there is definitely something amiss. Verifications themselves can be hit and miss especially if shy newbies that just dont like social meets n greets. " Is there definitely something amiss if someone isn't photo verified? I'm not photo verified 🤷 I tend not to be too specific with regards to red flags and I find that spelling then out explicitly here tends to do nothing except provide a handy cheat sheet for those looking to hone their craft. That said, I won't engage with those who share photographs of other people where I can't ascertain that consent to do so has been given. I don't engage in sex chat either beyond checking we're looking for similar things and as a single woman, I won't meet for sex without meeting socially first. For me, sussing out who I'm going to invest time in is much more subtle than a list of yays and nays. It's more about the vibe and gut feeling. If at any point something niggles me, I'm jettisoning. | |||
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"Interesting food for thought" If you use the reply and quote button your replies will make more sense and we will know who you are speaking to | |||
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"Profiles who are obviously just looking for wank material. They want details, photos, chat app usernames and they always push the pace. There are PLENTY of couples profiles being driven by one person who always want to move quickly and immediately stop replying as soon as they see it's not happening. We think that's why your bio is important. If your getting messages from people who obviously haven't read it then that's your first red flag right there. I agree with the poster above about the forum too. Some people are just negative craic and you can see it when they post. "  | |||
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"Non consistency in conversation would be a red flag. The biggest red flag I found when I was meeting was when I agreed to meet for a social the chat then turned completely aexual as though it was guaranteed we would have sex. A social for me is to see if we get on enough to take it farther. " If there’s no connection or chemistry there’s definitely no going any further.. that’s why the social aspect of it is much more important than the actual physical thing | |||
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"Someone that’s lives their life around fab and on it 24/7 commenting about various things that’s really none of their concern Would definitely be a RED flag 🚩 " ..... Ouch.........for a friend obviously.  | |||
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"Profiles who are obviously just looking for wank material. They want details, photos, chat app usernames and they always push the pace. There are PLENTY of couples profiles being driven by one person who always want to move quickly and immediately stop replying as soon as they see it's not happening. We think that's why your bio is important. If your getting messages from people who obviously haven't read it then that's your first red flag right there. I agree with the poster above about the forum too. Some people are just negative craic and you can see it when they post. " Totally agree re bio | |||
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"Brilliant replies all keep them going tyvm ..all have their own validity" .... Validation, verification, vindication, vilification... Various versions of victory on Fab. | |||
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"Someone that’s lives their life around fab and on it 24/7 commenting about various things that’s really none of their concern Would definitely be a RED flag 🚩 ..... Ouch.........for a friend obviously. "And your point is ????  | |||
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"Any one else got red flags before meeting that could be of help?" The available photos being from 2016 The 'been on before, lost all my verifications' The 'I'm in your area' which you just know you were one of 50 copy and paste messages while they got a hotel on company time. | |||
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"Hi just an ask the audience one here. We are a fab couple and being on fab previously have seperate red flags as do most people PRE MEET. You know the things like contradicting themselves over time in chat, or changing the goal posts or even stadium lol. What are your red flags on here prior to meeting that you dont cross? We have had so many disappointments in a short time as a couple here but we also have met some wonderful people. The heartbreak here is wasting so much time chatting to someone and then been fooled by guys pretending to be women, or couples, or bi, or people turning out to be fantasists and letting us down. At the end of the day we just want respectful bi fun where all are equal and give and receive equally... its not rocket science lol PLEASE KEEP ON TOPIC ALL." Always trust your instincts, any red flag is enough to walk away | |||
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"Hi just an ask the audience one here. We are a fab couple and being on fab previously have seperate red flags as do most people PRE MEET. You know the things like contradicting themselves over time in chat, or changing the goal posts or even stadium lol. What are your red flags on here prior to meeting that you dont cross? We have had so many disappointments in a short time as a couple here but we also have met some wonderful people. The heartbreak here is wasting so much time chatting to someone and then been fooled by guys pretending to be women, or couples, or bi, or people turning out to be fantasists and letting us down. At the end of the day we just want respectful bi fun where all are equal and give and receive equally... its not rocket science lol PLEASE KEEP ON TOPIC ALL. Always trust your instincts, any red flag is enough to walk away" We try to re instincts but need to trust red flags too ty | |||
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"Any one else got red flags before meeting that could be of help? The available photos being from 2016 The 'been on before, lost all my verifications' The 'I'm in your area' which you just know you were one of 50 copy and paste messages while they got a hotel on company time. " Lol | |||
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"Someone that’s lives their life around fab and on it 24/7 commenting about various things that’s really none of their concern Would definitely be a RED flag 🚩 ..... Ouch.........for a friend obviously.
And your point is ???? ".... My point is that a comment about frequent use of the site and posts on a variety of threads being considered as a red flag might be a tiny bit hurtful to some of my Fab friends who regularly do so. It's a forum for the expression of opinions and if regular contributors were limited in their use of the forums it would be a far less interesting, entertaining and fun place. Those wishing to restrict the use of the forums through over zealous "forum policing" or who don't want opinions, differing from their own, being posted might be better off using other platforms. That way they would have more control over the content they might be exposed to. | |||
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"Hi guys as requested can we keep it on topic please... otherwise it descends into he said she said...drama free zone please" If anyone brings any kind of Drama ...red flag all day 🚩 | |||
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"Hi guys as requested can we keep it on topic please... otherwise it descends into he said she said...drama free zone please If anyone brings any kind of Drama ...red flag all day 🚩" Pmsl | |||
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"We're not big fans of poorly put together profiles on here , theyre our first catch, pushy or disrespectful people. We're a team but I normally have the final say ...Mrs KB "Yea its essential to have a united front | |||
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"It's not red flags as such, there is always something that just feels.... Off. I can't put my finger on it, but you will notice if it's the real deal or not" Yea but doesn't always work we find | |||
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"Very true as we said we need to be more critical and stop giving people the benefit of the doubt x We go with Mindys gut instinct, it's usually right but an issue is if we won't give people the benefit of the doubt, how do we meet " A few years back now when I was first on this site, with no fab friends, only unverified experience so not useful as it came across as bull shsh it. A lovely lady gave me the benefit of the doubt. Since then I have seen lots of sh it on here with individuals and couples who waisted all the good will given. But at some stage if no one ever gives the benefit of doubt no one needs gets in! | |||
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"It's not red flags as such, there is always something that just feels.... Off. I can't put my finger on it, but you will notice if it's the real deal or not Yea but doesn't always work we find" I don't think any of this can be foolproof though. Things fall through, fizzle out or don't materialise; sometimes what seems great online doesn't work in person; occasionally people turn out to be not what you thought they'd be. It's the nature of the beast and sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith with those you think are worth it. | |||
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"It's not red flags as such, there is always something that just feels.... Off. I can't put my finger on it, but you will notice if it's the real deal or not" The l think if chatting to a person, within a week if they haven't mentioned meeting in any way then to me they dont have any intention , now meeting could be down the road or at a certain time when they can (life ) but its mentioned in some way but if not they have no intention of ever meeting or if its said to them ..they disappear..that tells a story | |||
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"It's not red flags as such, there is always something that just feels.... Off. I can't put my finger on it, but you will notice if it's the real deal or not Yea but doesn't always work we find I don't think any of this can be foolproof though. Things fall through, fizzle out or don't materialise; sometimes what seems great online doesn't work in person; occasionally people turn out to be not what you thought they'd be. It's the nature of the beast and sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith with those you think are worth it." Thats really it. But because our time to meet is precious we want to do all the legwork here before we arrange a play meet. | |||
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"Speaking of time. People who are only available to talk/meet during work hours and never on weekends are probably hiding something from someone and that may or may not be something you want to engage with." Well we only meet on the weekends we are together. At the same time we fully appreciate others cant due to real life commitments things like kids, caring, work etc. | |||
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"Speaking of time. People who are only available to talk/meet during work hours and never on weekends are probably hiding something from someone and that may or may not be something you want to engage with. Well we only meet on the weekends we are together. At the same time we fully appreciate others cant due to real life commitments things like kids, caring, work etc. " Or due to spouses that don't know they are on Fab. As I said that may or may not be a red flag for you. | |||
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"Speaking of time. People who are only available to talk/meet during work hours and never on weekends are probably hiding something from someone and that may or may not be something you want to engage with. Well we only meet on the weekends we are together. At the same time we fully appreciate others cant due to real life commitments things like kids, caring, work etc. Or due to spouses that don't know they are on Fab. As I said that may or may not be a red flag for you." Very true but each to their own. Xxx | |||
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