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"Ok so I doubt this is a new topic but if someone messages you and you just ain't interested is it polite to reply and say sorry not interested or just ignore the message? Seems the polite way gets us either abuse or no reply at all. We get rejected...we take it in our stride" That's completely up to yourselves. I'm pretty sure you get lots of messages so replying to them all seems like unnecessary hassle, given that most will likely be unwanted in the first place. No reply suggests you're not interested so I wouldn't worry about it either way. | |||
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"I would say just ignore/delete any unwanted messages from the off. Follow-ups, BAMO/block and move on (if you haven't just blocked already). You don't owe replies to anyone and you're just wasting your own time." .... I am reluctant to comment on a post relating to the "Big B" as some will suggest that I have a hangup about it but I have to express my admiration for the "BAMO" acronym. It definitely takes the biscuit for fun Fabisms. | |||
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"Not replying is a reply 🤷🏻♀️ you don’t owe any unsolicited message a reply so don’t feel like you do. " Agreed. And if they spew hatred that just confirms not replying was the right choice, respect should be key, regardless of reply or not | |||
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"Keep it polite. I've probably annoyed a good few people at this but i think being polite doesnt cost much. If the other party isn't interested, just say it. Block-if you choose. I don't think a non-reply = not interested, (it could easily mean, i saw that, was thinking of replying, got ditracted and oh feck, sorry about that) For me, if someone isn't interested and says it, i'll block from my side to bother that person again. A bit of kindness doesnt do any harm. " A non-reply means whatever the recipient wants it to mean - not what the sender wants it to mean. | |||
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"I just message "No thanks but cheers for taken time out to message me x" if they persist i block....." When I usually go back with no problem, have fun be safe | |||
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"I just message "No thanks but cheers for taken time out to message me x" if they persist i block....." I think this is a fair response and when I get this I always thank them for the reply and wish them well. Im big enough to take the rejection, nobody deserves abuse for politely turning someone down. But it is good manners I think to respond either way, but I do get it if you get abused for a response you (couples and ladies) might be reluctant to do do so. | |||
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"Ok so I doubt this is a new topic but if someone messages you and you just ain't interested is it polite to reply and say sorry not interested or just ignore the message? Seems the polite way gets us either abuse or no reply at all. We get rejected...we take it in our stride" me personally i take rejection in my stride..I can’t believe people get abused just because they rejected another profile 🙀 | |||
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"But how do u get a message back it just seems like sending a nice message to a woman doesn't work" You see it's not just the nice message alone. It's the d-pic profile, the bio with little effort, age, likes, compatibility. There are so many other factors involved. I'm not in anyway suggesting this is why it doesn't work for you right now. | |||
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"I have spent (wasted?) a lot of time replying to say thanks for the message, but not for me, looking for closer, or for whatever particular reason I am not interested. It almost ruined fab for me when I joined first, it was an absolute chore making myself reply to every message I got and drew most of them on me again because I had replied at all. About 80% ignore what I say in my no thank you, they try to convince me that I don’t feel how I feel, don’t know what I’m missing, ask me why, etc. About 10% turn quite nasty(just the other day I got this message when I said I wasn’t interested ‘Of course you not interested you racist asshole bitch. You’re not pretty enough to have the audacity to be racist’🤣) The other 10% take it for what it is and either don’t reply or thank me for taking the time to respond. I do still try to respond if someone has made an effort with their message, but my advice would be not to bother because of what it leads to🤷🏻♀️ I can’t find them now but I’m sure the site rules specifically say no response is a response and while some might feel it’s unkind or not mannerly, that’s their choice to view it that way. It may cost nothing, but time is precious and one or two messages would be fine, but every ‘hi, what I would do to you’ message…I could have 50 a day and if they all think I’m ignorant, I’m ok with that, we’re not compatible anyway👍" Yes I do think the 2/3 word messages eg. Hi, how are you, don’t deserve a reply if you’re not interested in their profile. But for the rest of us that put in some effort in a message..a reply “sorry not interested “ would be appreciated. | |||
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"Ok so I doubt this is a new topic but if someone messages you and you just ain't interested is it polite to reply and say sorry not interested or just ignore the message? Seems the polite way gets us either abuse or no reply at all. We get rejected...we take it in our stride" I was answering every message (even though it's clearly stated in our profile what we are looking for), but after a while it gets a bit tedious, plus you have the repeat offenders, so I just stopped answering. | |||
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"You could write a sonnet and we still wouldn't reply if your only photo of a picture of wang" U do know that there are tons of dudes who have wang pics and have success on here. There are women on here who don't have a face pic or a pic at all but demand face pics from blokes. I have a face pic on my profile just I don't want it to be my profile pic | |||
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"You could write a sonnet and we still wouldn't reply if your only photo of a picture of wang U do know that there are tons of dudes who have wang pics and have success on here. There are women on here who don't have a face pic or a pic at all but demand face pics from blokes. I have a face pic on my profile just I don't want it to be my profile pic" .... ??? | |||
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"You could write a sonnet and we still wouldn't reply if your only photo of a picture of wang U do know that there are tons of dudes who have wang pics and have success on here. There are women on here who don't have a face pic or a pic at all but demand face pics from blokes. I have a face pic on my profile just I don't want it to be my profile pic" It is your profile picture | |||
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"You could write a sonnet and we still wouldn't reply if your only photo of a picture of wang" But.. but what if it's a really pretty wang?? | |||
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"You could write a sonnet and we still wouldn't reply if your only photo of a picture of wang U do know that there are tons of dudes who have wang pics and have success on here. There are women on here who don't have a face pic or a pic at all but demand face pics from blokes. I have a face pic on my profile just I don't want it to be my profile pic" Maybe it just depends on how you measure success? Some people will fuck anyone. Some people won't. We only fuck the people we want to fuck. Which, to be fair, is mostly just each other. The converse of that we wrote in our post above is that even with a face that could drop a woman's pants with a raised eyebrow, we still wouldn't reply if your message said 'I like your tits'. It's like getting angry at all the people who swipe left on dating apps. | |||
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"You could write a sonnet and we still wouldn't reply if your only photo of a picture of wang But.. but what if it's a really pretty wang??" Oh you...  | |||
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"So are u saying single lads shouldn't bother being on here cause when I say that usually u fuck each other for me it feels like an exclusive club " You've been on here a few times now and every time it ends badly for you. | |||
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"So are u saying single lads shouldn't bother being on here cause when I say that usually u fuck each other for me it feels like an exclusive club " No I mean that we, as a couple, pretty much only fuck west other. There are many, many, successful single men on fab so it's definitely not a waste of time for everyone but if nothing you are doing is working then getting annoyed at the people who won't engage with you is almost certainly going to be counter productive. | |||
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"But if ur constantly not having luck on here even though u changed ur profile pic ur bio and even put time into messages wouldn't u not be annoyed and question urself" Constantly...do you mean for the 6 weeks you've been on Fab? It's very early days! | |||
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"Those of you who think it’s only polite to reply one way or another, do you reply to spam mail saying thanks but I’m not interested in what you’re offering? I have better things to be doing with my life than responding to every unsolicited mail I get on here." • I would agree with this. In essence, a no reply represents the most 'absolute' reply of all. I don't buy into this hackneyed notion that "manners cost nothing". On here, that trait isn't viable because most women are inundated with messages. | |||
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"Wait please....what's a Wang? Im so uninformed. I shouldn't be on here either" You get a Wang when you send 12 cereal box tokens to the clique | |||
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