FabSwingers.com forum: Why do us married men swing to bi mode from time to time

By *teve bull77 OP Man
4 weeks ago

cavan

I often wonder why as a married man I occasionally swing into bi curious mode is there a many guys the same way

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By *heonixrising500Man
4 weeks ago

Barnsley

Yes

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

Perhaps because you're bi-curious...? 🤷🏻‍♂️

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And no, some men may do, I don't.

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By *he shamMan
4 weeks ago

Galway

For sure

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By *elle111Woman
4 weeks ago

Could it be because in this world many like pushing boundaries, new experiences or just being in the moment. Then we revert back to normal life.

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By *teve bull77 OP Man
4 weeks ago

cavan

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By *teve bull77 OP Man
4 weeks ago

cavan

Thank you _elle111

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

Id always consider myself bicurious before I joined the site and the site gave me a chance to explore that side of my sexuality

I still remember the first time I mentioned that I was bisexual on a forum post after my first bi mmf

First time ever admitting it to anyone publicly

Got nothing but encouraging words and understanding from everyone that posted after me

A tiny tiny percentage of men are bi or bi curious its just a bit more open on a site like this

Just be yourself and true to who you are or can be.

Its better for your mental health in the long run

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By *o strings but a G-stringMan
4 weeks ago

city

There's a lot less stigma when women go bi-curious. People just think it's hot.

If a guy does it once to experience it he will be labelled bisexual.

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
4 weeks ago

Craigavon/dublin

Nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality i adore bi guys

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By *o strings but a G-stringMan
4 weeks ago

city

"Nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality i adore bi guys "

Exactly. We only live once. Imagine if the one thing we were always afraid to try would have been the thing that gave greatest pleasure...

It's that thing in life that causes us to not try new things, not the fear of failure, but the fear of success

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By *itch Buchannon84Man
4 weeks ago

Cork

Yeah I think Belle hit the nail on the head above. I would never have considered myself bi but when you are on this and chatting to people, you can just build a connection and start to see beyond their gender and just be attracted to the person that they are

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
4 weeks ago

Craigavon/dublin

"Yeah I think Belle hit the nail on the head above. I would never have considered myself bi but when you are on this and chatting to people, you can just build a connection and start to see beyond their gender and just be attracted to the person that they are"
exactly why do people always need to put labels on things just do what gives you pleasure and feels good to you life is too short and if people want to judge you for it let them thry ate just jealous because thry dont have the balls to do it themselves

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By *xstevenxxMan
4 weeks ago

dublin

Never put a label on it

What happens between consenting adult behind a closed bedroom door is no one else’s business bar those involved

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By *ccasionalSwingersCouple
4 weeks ago

East Anglia

If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob?

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By *ickwoodMan
4 weeks ago

Naas

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob? "

I reckon you just nailed it..!! Does it really matter - it's all about having fun surely.!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Plenty of married men are bisexual. Repressed urges have a way of leaking out now and then.

I guess also if you're playing away then it may be easier to find a promiscuous willing man rather than a woman.

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob? "

As long as all the boundaries have been discussed first then no I suppose

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
4 weeks ago

Lucan

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob? "

There's the small issue of consent in that case.

Also, straight men tend not to agree with this theory.

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
4 weeks ago

The West

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob?

I reckon you just nailed it..!! Does it really matter - it's all about having fun surely.!"

Of course it does. I'm heterosexual. That's what that means.

And I've had plenty of group sex with bi men in the mix. I never gave a second thought to it and I'm sure they didn't either because, you know, respect, consent etc.

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By *enerationfornicationMan
4 weeks ago

not far from

There has always been a double standard in how society treats certain issues.

Think back and correct me if I am wrong...

-Women experimenting is often sexualised and framed as "hot"

The porn industry frames it as a performance for the enjoyment of others - i.e. It's what "real men" are into (I knew a lady who did a lot of F&F films. She told me that for some of the stuff, she was paid extra for anal)

-Traditional masculinity pressures men to appear and behave heterosexual; there is no deviating as it threatens your "status and invites labels" (I knew several people in school who were gay, possibly bi, but had to conform to being heterosexual - thar t was the Ireland of the time and it still is to an extent)

For a man, there can be a greater social stigma, potential ridicule, or doubt about what masculinity is when their sexuality is fluid.

Someone mentioned somewhere, does it matter who's touching your knob (or something to that effect) - it depends on the consenting adults, but I'd see consent and boundaries as important discussion points.

A single experience doesn't automatically define your orientation as gay/bi.

Sexual preference can shift. (I knew a fella who was big into body building and was paid to partake in a M & M film a few years back, his take on it was, the money was good so why the feck not - that was his choice)

Let's be honest, if some guys think 2 women playing together is hot, why is it not possible for a woman to also think 2 guys playing is hot?

Is it wrong for her to sit, watch, enjoy and perhaps partake?

It comes down to choice

Is it fetishisation? 🤷

If its consensual, wheres the harm?

Finally, someone, somewhere is going to say 🐂 💩 that I know / knew people involved in the adult entertainment side of stuff, I don't care (one of them is here but I'm not outting that person) - The world outside of Ireland is not parorical - the same rules don't apply.

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By *eil for YouMan
4 weeks ago

coleraine

"Could it be because in this world many like pushing boundaries, new experiences or just being in the moment. Then we revert back to normal life. "

I think this definitely describes how it is with me. The thought of oral bi for The Lady's voyeuristic pleasure is mind-blowing - whilst not actively interested in men, or fancying them - I've now found myself at the stage if looking at the 🐓 and saying to myself, yep I would or no I wouldn't lol

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By *eil for YouMan
4 weeks ago

coleraine

"I often wonder why as a married man I occasionally swing into bi curious mode is there a many guys the same way "

Can definitely agree. Frightens me at times but definitely on my bucket list

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By *eil for YouMan
4 weeks ago

coleraine

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob? "

This: 💯🔥

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By *eil for YouMan
4 weeks ago

coleraine

"Nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality i adore bi guys "

*Curtseys... Lol

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By *ccasionalSwingersCouple
4 weeks ago

East Anglia

Ask yourselves this question fellas: If you could suck your own knob, would you do so?

If the answer is yes, then surely it's not that great a leap to imagine sucking someone else's in certain circumstances?

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By *ramerMan
4 weeks ago

I to lately find myself thinking that if everyone is playing and enjoying and a man sucks my cock in play maybe I might like to try it to see if I like it or not .

But I would only consider it if I like the look of the cock.

I've meet couples where the man's cock looked quite impressive and inviting.

And ive also meet couples where i didn't think his cock done it for me

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By *heeky-69Man
4 weeks ago

Dublin

Id consider myself bi but im not attracted to men im only attracted to crossdressers

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By *rgoodnbadMan
4 weeks ago

greenock

"Ask yourselves this question fellas: If you could suck your own knob, would you do so?

If the answer is yes, then surely it's not that great a leap to imagine sucking someone else's in certain circumstances?"

By this logic, all men will be thinking of wanking off other men.

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By *ccasionalSwingersCouple
4 weeks ago

East Anglia

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By *ccasionalSwingersCouple
4 weeks ago

East Anglia

"I to lately find myself thinking that if everyone is playing and enjoying and a man sucks my cock in play maybe I might like to try it to see if I like it or not .

But I would only consider it if I like the look of the cock.

I've meet couples where the man's cock looked quite impressive and inviting.

And ive also meet couples where i didn't think his cock done it for me"

That's pretty much how I feel about it.

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By *amsevenMan
4 weeks ago

cork

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob? "

Yes

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By *ramerMan
4 weeks ago

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob?

Yes"

I think you just have to be comfortable with who you are as a person. I certainly am with myself

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
4 weeks ago

The West

I dunno. I'm pretty comfortable with myself and I still don't want to suck cock or have any kind of a sexual contact with men.

And I've tried. Twenty five years ago. Men do nothing for me.

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves.

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By *om TangoMan
4 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

I’ve no problem saying I have had my penis touching another man’s penis during a few 3somes. Didnt bother me. I’ve help guide a man’s penis back into her, no problem, during a 3some the lady asked if the other guy could suck on my penis and at first I said no but eventually give it ago. Would I try more. Fucking sure I would but to date I’ve no desire to meet a male one on one, nor is anything going up my bum. I honestly don’t think I could suck another man off.

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By *ramerMan
4 weeks ago

"I’ve no problem saying I have had my penis touching another man’s penis during a few 3somes. Didnt bother me. I’ve help guide a man’s penis back into her, no problem, during a 3some the lady asked if the other guy could suck on my penis and at first I said no but eventually give it ago. Would I try more. Fucking sure I would but to date I’ve no desire to meet a male one on one, nor is anything going up my bum. I honestly don’t think I could suck another man off. "

Totally agree with you Dom

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By *amesbernard32Man
4 weeks ago

Mayo

Its probably because you're older and getting less sex at home. Also the lure of the new. Once you're of a certain age you get fewer offers and also a part of you might feel it's not really cheating with a man

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By *ofusplusCouple
4 weeks ago

Limerick

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves."

This is also widely assumed about women. People watch (and believe in) too much porn these days

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By *ornypaul88Man
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

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By *ornypaul88Man
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

Maybe just maybe it's lack of pussy! When guys want it they want it! So maybe it's just for sexual gratification this has been going on since humans have been around so it's nothing new in my opinion

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By *on Draper2.0Man
4 weeks ago

Maynooth

"I often wonder why as a married man I occasionally swing into bi curious mode is there a many guys the same way "

Overamped sexual drive perhaps? If you go too long without seeing a woman, you maybe just go into ill fuck anything mode?

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By *unboy75Man
3 weeks ago

Dublin

I’m happily married , started for me when MsP and I were looking for a 3rd to join us realized I had a thing for men’s anatomy

Since then I’ve played solo with men and as part of a mmf

Whatever floats your boat as they say…

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By *uicyboobiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Newtownbutler

" This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves."

Agree 100%. I have zero interest in touching or been with another woman and I tried in my early 20s but knew it wasn't for me.

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By *amsevenMan
3 weeks ago

cork

"If there are two couples naked on a bed does it really matter who's hand is playing with your knob?

Yes

I think you just have to be comfortable with who you are as a person. I certainly am with myself "

As am I good sir.

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By *ipantyloverMan
3 weeks ago

wicklow

Love playing with both male and female, together is even better. I think as we get older we look for different things to stimulate us, bi being one of them

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By *otwife85Couple
3 weeks ago

Sligo

"I dunno. I'm pretty comfortable with myself and I still don't want to suck cock or have any kind of a sexual contact with men.

And I've tried. Twenty five years ago. Men do nothing for me.

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves."

Sounds like you were a little bit bi in the right circumstances 25 years ago

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
3 weeks ago

The West

"I dunno. I'm pretty comfortable with myself and I still don't want to suck cock or have any kind of a sexual contact with men.

And I've tried. Twenty five years ago. Men do nothing for me.

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves.

Sounds like you were a little bit bi in the right circumstances 25 years ago"

I was curious. And my curiosity being satisfied I have found myself to be pretty happy and secure in my sexuality since.

I thought men smelled odd, kissed to rough, I didn't like stubble against my and most importantly, I just didn't like cock.

But hey I tried.

I tried vegetarian food once too and I'm not even a vegetarian!

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By *immy123xxxMan
3 weeks ago

donegall

"I dunno. I'm pretty comfortable with myself and I still don't want to suck cock or have any kind of a sexual contact with men.

And I've tried. Twenty five years ago. Men do nothing for me.

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves.

Sounds like you were a little bit bi in the right circumstances 25 years ago

I was curious. And my curiosity being satisfied I have found myself to be pretty happy and secure in my sexuality since.

I thought men smelled odd, kissed to rough, I didn't like stubble against my and most importantly, I just didn't like cock.

But hey I tried.

I tried vegetarian food once too and I'm not even a vegetarian!

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A bit off a difference between vegetarian food and cock.

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
3 weeks ago

The West

"I dunno. I'm pretty comfortable with myself and I still don't want to suck cock or have any kind of a sexual contact with men.

And I've tried. Twenty five years ago. Men do nothing for me.

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves.

Sounds like you were a little bit bi in the right circumstances 25 years ago

I was curious. And my curiosity being satisfied I have found myself to be pretty happy and secure in my sexuality since.

I thought men smelled odd, kissed to rough, I didn't like stubble against my and most importantly, I just didn't like cock.

But hey I tried.

I tried vegetarian food once too and I'm not even a vegetarian!

A bit off a difference between vegetarian food and cock. "

It's true. Vegetarian food tastes better.

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By *immy123xxxMan
3 weeks ago

donegall

"I dunno. I'm pretty comfortable with myself and I still don't want to suck cock or have any kind of a sexual contact with men.

And I've tried. Twenty five years ago. Men do nothing for me.

This idea that everyone is a little bit bi under the right circumstances is only ever espoused people who are bi themselves.

Sounds like you were a little bit bi in the right circumstances 25 years ago

I was curious. And my curiosity being satisfied I have found myself to be pretty happy and secure in my sexuality since.

I thought men smelled odd, kissed to rough, I didn't like stubble against my and most importantly, I just didn't like cock.

But hey I tried.

I tried vegetarian food once too and I'm not even a vegetarian!

A bit off a difference between vegetarian food and cock.

It's true. Vegetarian food tastes better."
LOl I take your word for that.

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By *dfabMan
3 weeks ago

Dunboyne

Dunno. If there's always a condom involved then perhaps but I'm just mentally not attracted to guys. Can't help being who I am, can I?

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By *d111Man
3 weeks ago

d22

It's nice to be adventurous and enjoy different sex

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