FabSwingers.com forum: Some introspection

By *atManXX OP Man
5 weeks ago

Hell

Maybe 30 years is not a full life.

Or may be at this age I have seen everything.

Maybe I am a failure.

Or maybe success and failure never really mattered the way I thought they did.

I did try.

Or at least I kept telling myself I did.

Maybe it was never enough.

I am just tired. Tired of starting over and ending up in the same place.

People move on. And I stay behind, trying to understand where it all went wrong.

I don’t even know if there was ever a path.

Or if I just convinced myself there was one.

God is not that kind.

Or maybe He already showed the way out… and I didn’t take it.

All I can wish is everyone is happy.

Even if I am not part of it.

“Door shuts.”

The end.

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By *agneyandhutchCouple
5 weeks ago

lucan

Christ, the drama. Welcome to adult life life love. Now either your door shuts or you get on with it. C

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By *indenMan
5 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Christ, the drama. Welcome to adult life life love. Now either your door shuts or you get on with it. C"

What a wonderful community spirit….

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By *he General 2 0 2 5Man
5 weeks ago

Limerick City

Not even joking , I think ive a pair of underpants there somewhere that are 30 years old ffs 😳.

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By *eadMeisterMan
5 weeks ago

near you...

From 40, I’d tell you this: 30 feels heavy when you’re inside it, but from here it looks young.

At 30, many think the scoreboard is final—career, love, money, purpose.

By 40, you realise most people were improvising, restarting privately, and pretending certainty publicly.

Failure at 30 is often just unfinished growth.

Success at 30 is often temporary confidence.

Neither is permanent.

You say you’re tired of starting over, but later you learn starting over is not a curse, it’s a skill.

The people who learn to rebuild themselves often become the strongest.

And those people who seem to have moved on?

Sometimes they’re only moving faster, not deeper.

Time reveals that.

As for the “door shuts” ending—many doors that close at 30 turn out to be exits from the wrong room.

It’s not the end;

it’s the age where life stops accepting fantasy and starts asking for something real.

Peace

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By *atManXX OP Man
5 weeks ago

Hell

I am choosing to shut the doors

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By *atManXX OP Man
5 weeks ago

Hell

"Christ, the drama. Welcome to adult life life love. Now either your door shuts or you get on with it. C"

I would choose shutting the door. You see drama but I feel the pain.

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere

So much to look forward to .....

Make some phone calls if you need to talk to someone or talk to a good friend or family member

It definitely gets better the older you get

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By *rRiosMan
5 weeks ago

dublin

Truth is, no one really has it figured out dude! Without know specifics it’s hard to offer advice but there are people who are out there that can give some perspective on you issues.

If you want to reach out privately feel free, but I’m not sure what use I’ll be

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By *eadMeisterMan
4 weeks ago

near you...

It definitely gets better

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By *heXxXWoman
4 weeks ago

Dublin

I don’t really know the right words but I didn’t want to just scroll past this.

It sounds like you’re exhausted and like you’ve been carrying it alone for a long time.

But this doesn’t have to be the end of your story even if it feels like it right now.

Please don’t close the door like that. Stay.

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By *earuisceMan
4 weeks ago

south sligo

I am well qualified to comment on this thread (as in having experienced the loss of someone very close to me) I would suggest less of the subtext and actually talk about what’s going on with your life OP. Furthermore! Looking for counselling on here is not where you need to be . Talk to some qualified professionals . Every day can be a good day

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

Newry

OP please reach out to someone qualified to help.

You have a whole life ahead of you, you just don't know it yet. We're all forever a work in process; none of us has this game of life constantly licked; we all ebb and flow.

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By *apoleons_noseMan
4 weeks ago

belfast

It’s always good to talk, find someone to talk to. Tough times never last but tough people do. Chin up try to look at positivity

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By * BlackMan
4 weeks ago

Laois/ Dublin

Op, reads like you're having a tough time at the moment and maybe experiencing isolation.

Engaging with professional supports is worth considering to help you create change and a different pattern.

Day at a time

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By *exyScientistsCouple
4 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Op, reads like you're having a tough time at the moment and maybe experiencing isolation.

Engaging with professional supports is worth considering to help you create change and a different pattern.

Day at a time

This ⬆️

Also doors shut. But they also open. That's how doors work....

Choose to open the door ❤️

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By *om365483Man
4 weeks ago

Dungannon/Belfast/Donegal

Wouldn’t say saying shutting the door was an option at 30. Speaking as a 48 year old there’s still to much of life I’ve not experienced. You can’t have been to every country in the world and met everyone in it. So much to learn, so many different cultures, views, ideas, experiences. Infinite possibilities, endless opportunities, experiences. Even if you were immortal you couldn’t experience it all. You need a plan, good ideas and you should be more selective towards what you want to do and why you want to do it. Try surrounding yourself with positive people.At 30 I moved to Australia, failed miserably, couldn’t get a job for love nor money out there. Ended up back at home living in my parents house, miserable, depressed and feed up with life. In the I decided fuck it, I’m going to do what I want, went back to the tech at night. Did loads of different courses. Didn’t exactly change my life in any major way, but it did tell me I can do anything I want to when I put my mind to it.

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By *om365483Man
4 weeks ago

Dungannon/Belfast/Donegal

"Not even joking , I think ive a pair of underpants there somewhere that are 30 years old ffs 😳. "

Think I’ve also got underpants somewhere that are 30 years old. Note to self, be kind to yourself start with realistic goals like buying yourself new underwear. Set realistic expectations, plan where you want to go to buy your new underwear and why. Who knows you could end up dancing around the you to I’m sexy and I know it by LMFAO. Do a little wiggle here! Is this post really about underwear OP. What do you think?

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