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By *unshineandrain OP   Man
6 weeks ago

City

So ladies like a good few other guys on here why is it so hard to just have a conversation, interact and see where it goes …

Most say it’s just like a closed society…

Let here all view points and how fab life can be more inclusive??

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By *ohng69Man
6 weeks ago

athenry

Fab is very inclusive. There's any amount of interactions happening. Go to a social and get chatting there.

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By *agic mike 1983Man
6 weeks ago

limerick

Fab the same as real world

Take ur time

Have respect ull get there

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
6 weeks ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

Get recent verifications from social events or help a fabber threads and update your profile

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By *he KakapoMan
6 weeks ago

A nice rock

There should be a rule that every message gets a mandatory reply or your account gets suspended..

Everyone should have all their filters open.

Meeting someone is guaranteed if you message them 5 times after 1am.

Problem solved

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By *ercuryMikeMan
6 weeks ago

Newtown / Oswestry


"There should be a rule that every message gets a mandatory reply or your account gets suspended..

Everyone should have all their filters open.

Meeting someone is guaranteed if you message them 5 times after 1am.

Problem solved"

Just as well I read your profile before commenting 😆

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By *obbie 99Man
6 weeks ago

Tullamore

Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

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By *og-ManMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣"

Is it not spelt clique

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
6 weeks ago

Newtownabbey


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

Is it not spelt clique "

Only if yer in it

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By *he KakapoMan
6 weeks ago

A nice rock


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

Is it not spelt clique "

Only by klick members

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By *lassy ladyWoman
6 weeks ago

tullamore

On my bio it states my age preference and if someone in that age group texts I rarely reply.. messages that come on with a dick pic or hi or someone telling me that they lick like lassie or asking initially what I like in bed dont be replied to....make an effort and ill reply..

Also when I first joined id 100s of messages not so much now so I dont believe that women here a while are bombarded with messages

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By *og-ManMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

Is it not spelt clique

Only if yer in it"

Whoops

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By *indenMan
6 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣"

Can you explain what this is and how to get in to it so we all know?

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By *eordie.Woman
6 weeks ago

The Sticks


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

Can you explain what this is and how to get in to it so we all know?"

You have such a fan club here we're not falling for this

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By *ust_us999Couple
6 weeks ago

Somewhere


"There should be a rule that every message gets a mandatory reply or your account gets suspended..

Everyone should have all their filters open.

Meeting someone is guaranteed if you message them 5 times after 1am.

Problem solved"

Done that for a while... But it gets quite tiring after a while plus all the repeat offenders make it more annoying. So stopped doing it and block the repeat offenders now 😂.

It's not hard to read a bio to see if the profile is even interested in single men

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By *indenMan
6 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

Can you explain what this is and how to get in to it so we all know?

You have such a fan club here we're not falling for this "

You misspelled van club there, Ford Transit all the way…. 🚐💪

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

Newry

It should be mandatory for every woman to meet 5 men each week. That'll sort it out.

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By *hreehuggerMan
6 weeks ago

galway

I think managing your expectations is probably pretty important on fab. No one owes anyone a ride or a reply.

From what I've seen here.

1. The quality of your profile is important. Good pics are a bonus.

2. Participation in forum, games, cams, socials etc will increase your exposure.

3. Sometimes nothing works and thats ok too.

4. If you're an asshole either here or in real life it will probably have a negative effect.

5. Everyone has their own reasons and they might not be the same as yours.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

Newry

Joking aside, because there are likely a dozen other men looking to chat and see where it goes. There were a dozen yesterday and there'll be another dozen tomorrow. No-one can sustain that many conversations and still make meaningful connections and build rapport.

Added to that most people are attracted to only a few people.

There are social events the length and breadth of the country. Maybe try one of those where you can chat to lots of different people in person and build connections that way

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By *he man from GenevaMan
6 weeks ago

The West


"It should be mandatory for every woman to meet 5 men each week. That'll sort it out.

"

Or one man 5 times each week?

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

Newry


"It should be mandatory for every woman to meet 5 men each week. That'll sort it out.

Or one man 5 times each week? "

Where do I sign up? 🤩

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By *lack FridayMan
6 weeks ago

Mayo, Sligo


"It should be mandatory for every woman to meet 5 men each week. That'll sort it out.

Or one man 5 times each week?

Where do I sign up? 🤩"

You were looking for me, I heard

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
6 weeks ago

Newry

In answer to your DM OP

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1748779#last

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By *eelight69Couple
6 weeks ago

donegal border

Its not easy on here for anyone, we would be lucky to get a message from a couple once a week, then they could be the opposite end of the country or they just aren't our type but I usually answer everyone if the message is more than "hi". 😘

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By *izard jigglesCouple
6 weeks ago

kildare Carlow

As a couple we get a few messsges but you can clearly see they are mostly from single men that haven’t read our profile so in this instance we block them.

Reading a profile is good manners as it’s the first step in getting to know the person.

We have found it difficult to meet other couples but we are going to our first social in May and we also engage on the forums and are always happy to meet for a social.

If you put the time in then hopefully you will get something back.

Enjoy LJ.

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By *nnocentguy69Man
6 weeks ago

somewhere near you

Try Tind€r or E harmony.

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By *rishCWoman
6 weeks ago

Cavan

I can only speak for myself..

My life is busy..so l dip in and out of Fab. I try to log on once a day if I'm busy. Other times it can be a few days.

There are people that I've already connected with.. they'll get my time first.. then I'll scroll through my messages.

Guys..it's all about the first message. Sometimes I can have 80+ new messages. Nobody has time to read/reply/ have a conversation with all of them. So l scroll..

If it's the usual "nice tits/wanna fuck/ I'm in your area today" type messages I delete without reading..

If you're below my age range l delete (read my profile ffs)

If you're TS/TV I delete (not my thing)

If you're too far away..l delete.

If you have no profile pic I delete (it just needs to be a pic of something to show you've made an effort)

But what I will say..if the first line of your message makes me want to read more..then all the above may not apply.

So if you have a fun, flirty, humorous opening line..you're halfway there.

Hope that helps.

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By *eelight69Couple
6 weeks ago

donegal border

Oh! I hate when a profile that has no pics, I will remember a profile from a pic quicker than a name.

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
6 weeks ago

The West

We've just started putting names in a hat and randomly banging five men a week.

It's the only thing we could do that felt fair.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
6 weeks ago

Castlebar


"We've just started putting names in a hat and randomly banging five men a week.

It's the only thing we could do that felt fair."

Like a lucky dip 🤣

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By *INTMan
6 weeks ago

Minutes from Somewhere Else


"We've just started putting names in a hat and randomly banging five men a week.

It's the only thing we could do that felt fair.

Like a lucky dip 🤣"

Surely the old car-keys-in-a-fishbowl hasn't gone out of style, has it?!

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By *orthdubcdTV/TS
6 weeks ago

swords

Plenty of socials here and in the UK also. I've not been to any yet but will likely go in man mode at some stage.

In my mind this place is no different to being in a nightclub filled with men and very few women. Not everyone is gonna get a dance 🫂

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By *rishCWoman
6 weeks ago

Cavan

Just to add.. if you get a "no thank you" response.. be gracious and move on.

Asking for a further explanation will earn a block everytime..

As the saying goes "she's just not that into you"

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
6 weeks ago

Westmeath The West.


"Your not in the fab "click" Op, it's the same problem most guys on here have🫣🫣🤣🤣

Can you explain what this is and how to get in to it so we all know?"

Are you not in the clique?

You should join, its great craic! But the initiation ceremony is tough!!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
6 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"So ladies like a good few other guys on here why is it so hard to just have a conversation, interact and see where it goes …

Most say it’s just like a closed society…

Let here all view points and how fab life can be more inclusive??"

The delusions of persecution and being excluded have a stink of incel and that will put off nearly 100% of women. Stop that for starters.

1 on 1 intimacy isn't inclusive nearly by definition. It's about 1 person who finds 1 other person attractive and is ready, willing, and able to have sex with them. Blaming the scene for being closed isn't the right way to be looking at it. If you are failing at attracting that person then you need to look at yourself and the offering you have put out there. Look at how you're selling yourself. Look at the opportunities you are giving yourself to be exposed to potential partners. Look at how your profile will be viewed by them.

If there is a problem then it's your problem not their problem. Rather than viewing this as a world that is closed to you by other people, see it as you haven't sold yourself well enough or that the product you are selling needs work.

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By *antra MassageMan
6 weeks ago

a village near you.


"So ladies like a good few other guys on here why is it so hard to just have a conversation, interact and see where it goes …

Most say it’s just like a closed society…

Let here all view points and how fab life can be more inclusive??

The delusions of persecution and being excluded have a stink of incel and that will put off nearly 100% of women. Stop that for starters.

1 on 1 intimacy isn't inclusive nearly by definition. It's about 1 person who finds 1 other person attractive and is ready, willing, and able to have sex with them. Blaming the scene for being closed isn't the right way to be looking at it. If you are failing at attracting that person then you need to look at yourself and the offering you have put out there. Look at how you're selling yourself. Look at the opportunities you are giving yourself to be exposed to potential partners. Look at how your profile will be viewed by them.

If there is a problem then it's your problem not their problem. Rather than viewing this as a world that is closed to you by other people, see it as you haven't sold yourself well enough or that the product you are selling needs work."

Good points. Well articulated.

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