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By *og2018 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Letterkenny

Thought I'd make this thread for fellow neurospicy people for help or to talk about our experiences.

Dia daoibh agus fáilte.

Say hi.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

hey. can be a tough one alright

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By *og2018 OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Letterkenny

Absolutely, I do well with it but jesus it can be an absolute struggle

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By *ust_us999Couple
7 weeks ago

Somewhere

It's a superpower 😁

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By *apmCouple
7 weeks ago

navan

1 x ASD + 1 x ADHD = open minded fun couple (but not everyone gets us!) lol

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By *adybug71Woman
7 weeks ago

Meath & Dublin

Some days I love the neuro spicy part of me, some days I beat myself up for stuff like over sharing or speaking without thinking it through. It's a tricky one. Masking is so tiring too.

Then I meet another neurospicy person in life that just gets it and we both talk 100mph interrupting each other and both just in such a hurry to say what we have to say and talk without taking a breath.

It can be magical and also very tiring.

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By *obSexyBMan
7 weeks ago

Clare

Neurospicy I like it.

Finding out as an adult is enlightening. That penny dropping moment and the next penny dropping moment and so on. Haha

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By *ark horse 95Man
7 weeks ago

Cork

I have ADHD and Aspergers, fun combination and finding out did answer a few questions alright,

Im yet to actually meet another person that has this in this lifestyle but the social side is tricky to navigate sometimes even though, ironically, thats the part I want to practice more

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By *aterpistolMan
6 weeks ago

London

Diagnosed with both as an adult.

ADHD makes me avoidant but imaginative.

Autism makes me intense and focused.

I'm a fantastic shag but not so great as relationship material.

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By *readfred2024Man
6 weeks ago

just over here

My good god…. I would sit and wonder WTF is wrong, but this describes it to a T!! Thank you


"Some days I love the neuro spicy part of me, some days I beat myself up for stuff like over sharing or speaking without thinking it through. It's a tricky one. Masking is so tiring too.

Then I meet another neurospicy person in life that just gets it and we both talk 100mph interrupting each other and both just in such a hurry to say what we have to say and talk without taking a breath.

It can be magical and also very tiring. "

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By *og2018 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Letterkenny


"It's a superpower 😁 "

I would say it's a weapon more than a superpower 😂

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By *og2018 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Letterkenny


"1 x ASD + 1 x ADHD = open minded fun couple (but not everyone gets us!) lol "

I often find those couples are the best, a balancing act almost. I have AuDHD which has it's challenges

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By *og2018 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Letterkenny


"Some days I love the neuro spicy part of me, some days I beat myself up for stuff like over sharing or speaking without thinking it through. It's a tricky one. Masking is so tiring too.

Then I meet another neurospicy person in life that just gets it and we both talk 100mph interrupting each other and both just in such a hurry to say what we have to say and talk without taking a breath.

It can be magical and also very tiring. "

Relatable! I saw this video titled "two autistic people arguing" and it's just two people sacking a shuttle cock in badminton intensely

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By *og2018 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Letterkenny


"Neurospicy I like it.

Finding out as an adult is enlightening. That penny dropping moment and the next penny dropping moment and so on. Haha "

It's a game changer, so many questions asked but many more presenting themselves simultaneously

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By *og2018 OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Letterkenny

I've just started watching Love on the Spectrum (U.S), I am sooo invested in these people, I am rooting for them so hard.

What's everyone's thoughts on it?

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By *ELondonOralGiverMan
5 weeks ago

Bexley/London

Diagnosed ADHD combined presentation (hyperactive and inattentive) in Jan 2023

On meds and doing better most of the time, this week not so much though due to a work issue

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By *og2018 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Letterkenny


"Diagnosed ADHD combined presentation (hyperactive and inattentive) in Jan 2023

On meds and doing better most of the time, this week not so much though due to a work issue"

Work can be so debilitating and throws me off my form often

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
4 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Between us and the kids we have 3 x autism and 2 x ADHD. The baby is only just age 1 and just started hand flapping so that's probably another +1

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By *og2018 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Letterkenny


"Between us and the kids we have 3 x autism and 2 x ADHD. The baby is only just age 1 and just started hand flapping so that's probably another +1 "

Building an army of neurospicy folk to over throw the neurotypicals 😎

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By *enerationfornicationMan
4 weeks ago

In a place not far from...


"Between us and the kids we have 3 x autism and 2 x ADHD. The baby is only just age 1 and just started hand flapping so that's probably another +1

Building an army of neurospicy folk to over throw the neurotypicals 😎"

Seems reasonable ....

Introverts of fab, unite separately

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By *og2018 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

Letterkenny

Sadly I break the stereotype of being neurospicy and introverted, I'm a roaring introvert with a very limited social battery 😂

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By *og2018 OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Letterkenny

How's all my neurospicy brained people today?

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By *igJohnwants269withuMan
3 weeks ago

Devon

any life in this thread toDAY?

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By *og2018 OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Letterkenny

Doesn't seem to be but we keep going

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By *adybug71Woman
3 weeks ago

Meath & Dublin


"How's all my neurospicy brained people today?"

Very well thanks. Looking forward to the long weekend off.

The head is clear and the world is rosy.

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By *igJohnwants269withuMan
3 weeks ago

Devon


"Doesn't seem to be but we keep going "

Indeed we do

Anyone else tried the drummer and the great mountain podcast ?

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By *enerationfornicationMan
2 weeks ago

In a place not far from...


"Doesn't seem to be but we keep going "

This is good and I was a bit flippant earlier but that comes via my own bias.

Everyone thinks ADHD, is someone bouncing off the walls, who can't sit still and "rambles" - it isn't always like that and there can be environmental factors which play a role.

The DSM IV, reduced thr number of observations which lowered the threshold. What I say next will probably result in back lash, but feck it. In many sections of the community a form is produced just before upper secondary for "observations" to tally. I'm not down playing it or taking a swipe at someone but growing up there was always the quiet one, the emotional one, the bruiser, the good reader, the bad reader, the kid that tried and the one that didn't give a fuck who was going through thr motions to get the hell out of school as quick as possible.

There was a place for everyone and people cared (depending on the individual) - this is where my bias comes in. Now we have the excuse, I can't do A, B, C, D because I have ADHD and I'm dyslexic.

Well I've news, we all have some neurospicy trait. It can be hereditary/environmental (to an extent) or perhaps learned behaviours over time. It's forms part of our individuality / uniqueness - imagine it as an intersecting Venn diagram with you in the centre.

Im not trying to distract from those with needs who are very viable, but suddenly it has becomes "fashionable" to have something wrong instead of, well that's just Jimmy, he's always been like that but he's a decent skin.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
2 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Doesn't seem to be but we keep going

This is good and I was a bit flippant earlier but that comes via my own bias.

Everyone thinks ADHD, is someone bouncing off the walls, who can't sit still and "rambles" - it isn't always like that and there can be environmental factors which play a role.

The DSM IV, reduced thr number of observations which lowered the threshold. What I say next will probably result in back lash, but feck it. In many sections of the community a form is produced just before upper secondary for "observations" to tally. I'm not down playing it or taking a swipe at someone but growing up there was always the quiet one, the emotional one, the bruiser, the good reader, the bad reader, the kid that tried and the one that didn't give a fuck who was going through thr motions to get the hell out of school as quick as possible.

There was a place for everyone and people cared (depending on the individual) - this is where my bias comes in. Now we have the excuse, I can't do A, B, C, D because I have ADHD and I'm dyslexic.

Well I've news, we all have some neurospicy trait. It can be hereditary/environmental (to an extent) or perhaps learned behaviours over time. It's forms part of our individuality / uniqueness - imagine it as an intersecting Venn diagram with you in the centre.

Im not trying to distract from those with needs who are very viable, but suddenly it has becomes "fashionable" to have something wrong instead of, well that's just Jimmy, he's always been like that but he's a decent skin. "

I'm really not sure what your point here is. Are you saying that too many people are getting diagnosed and that this is a fashion? Should these people not have access to understanding and potential treatment / assistance? These things only come after diagnosis. Just because Jimmy has always been like that doesn't mean Jimmy couldn't do better with the right assistance. This whole "we are all a little different" shite really does a disservice to people who live with real and significant difficulties that mean everyday struggles for things that others don't even have to consider.

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By *he shamMan
2 weeks ago

Galway

Not easy putting this together.. I can almost instantly identify with this type off discussion we are all here because we’re not.. I love this site because I can see that there are others who have the same corrupt minds that I do when it comes to my fantasies and wants and needs. To all that think it’s just fashionable or trending to have a special title for me it’s quite the opposite, I always seen myself being very different although maybe to the so called normal folks not so much it’s hard in the real world to say what we want to Fabbswingers has given me the courage to engage with all types of people. The only drawback is I think that there are lots of people on here that are just wasting time for the spontaneous ones like myself x _he sham

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By *og2018 OP   Man
8 hours ago

Letterkenny

How's all my Spicy brained folk this weekend?

What's everyone's special interests?

Mines is home-brewing and languages, what's yours?

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By *eijaWoman
7 hours ago

City Centre


"Doesn't seem to be but we keep going

This is good and I was a bit flippant earlier but that comes via my own bias.

Everyone thinks ADHD, is someone bouncing off the walls, who can't sit still and "rambles" - it isn't always like that and there can be environmental factors which play a role.

The DSM IV, reduced thr number of observations which lowered the threshold. What I say next will probably result in back lash, but feck it. In many sections of the community a form is produced just before upper secondary for "observations" to tally. I'm not down playing it or taking a swipe at someone but growing up there was always the quiet one, the emotional one, the bruiser, the good reader, the bad reader, the kid that tried and the one that didn't give a fuck who was going through thr motions to get the hell out of school as quick as possible.

There was a place for everyone and people cared (depending on the individual) - this is where my bias comes in. Now we have the excuse, I can't do A, B, C, D because I have ADHD and I'm dyslexic.

Well I've news, we all have some neurospicy trait. It can be hereditary/environmental (to an extent) or perhaps learned behaviours over time. It's forms part of our individuality / uniqueness - imagine it as an intersecting Venn diagram with you in the centre.

Im not trying to distract from those with needs who are very viable, but suddenly it has becomes "fashionable" to have something wrong instead of, well that's just Jimmy, he's always been like that but he's a decent skin. "

I defo wouldnt say it's 'fashionable' there is just a lot more awareness and more people are being diagnosed these days which is great!

B x

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By *og2018 OP   Man
7 hours ago

Letterkenny

Absolutely agree, I'm glad there's more awareness but I just wish more would be done to accommodate undiagnosed adults, it's a struggle at times

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By *ickedBusinessCouple
7 hours ago

kilkenny

AuDHD here, late diagnosed for both in the last 5/6 years.

Explained everything about my experiences growing up, both good and bad.

Sorry to bring the mood down, but there is a study that reports 9 out of 10 autistic females have experienced sexual abuse or sexual violence.

I admin a group for adults on FB but im not overly active on it anymore.

Im medicated for the ADHD and attending OT to try basically help me get through my days meaningfully.

Im happy to speak about my experiences, and while people say its fashionable to get a diagnosis these days, or everyone wants a label, just let me tell you this.

I grew up knowing that I wasnt the same as my peers. Except I didnt know why, and the labels I gave myself were far far more damaging than a diagnosis label ever was.

Its like being a zebra in a field of horses. You might look much the same in terms of build etc, you might fit in with the herd, but deep down you are acutely aware that you neither belong there, nor fit in there.

And that has been more detrimental to my mental health than any label

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By *og2018 OP   Man
7 hours ago

Letterkenny


"AuDHD here, late diagnosed for both in the last 5/6 years.

Explained everything about my experiences growing up, both good and bad.

Sorry to bring the mood down, but there is a study that reports 9 out of 10 autistic females have experienced sexual abuse or sexual violence.

I admin a group for adults on FB but im not overly active on it anymore.

Im medicated for the ADHD and attending OT to try basically help me get through my days meaningfully.

Im happy to speak about my experiences, and while people say its fashionable to get a diagnosis these days, or everyone wants a label, just let me tell you this.

I grew up knowing that I wasnt the same as my peers. Except I didnt know why, and the labels I gave myself were far far more damaging than a diagnosis label ever was.

Its like being a zebra in a field of horses. You might look much the same in terms of build etc, you might fit in with the herd, but deep down you are acutely aware that you neither belong there, nor fit in there.

And that has been more detrimental to my mental health than any label"

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, it's so important to do so, hasn't brought the mood down at all.

I relate to so much to it especially the zebra in a field of horses, blew my mind!

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
6 hours ago

My town

I've dealt with autism for the best part of over 24 yrs. My daughter was diagnosed as a small child at 2. Being on the spectrum with ad, adhd,and now ocd has been thrown in the mix. I do think if most people was tested alot would show traits of being on the spectrum. Although the amount of celebrities coming out now saying they have adhd is mind blowing.

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By *og2018 OP   Man
2 hours ago

Letterkenny


"I've dealt with autism for the best part of over 24 yrs. My daughter was diagnosed as a small child at 2. Being on the spectrum with ad, adhd,and now ocd has been thrown in the mix. I do think if most people was tested alot would show traits of being on the spectrum. Although the amount of celebrities coming out now saying they have adhd is mind blowing. "

It makes sense why celebrities are neurodivergent the more I think about it

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