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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It can be quite daunting sending a message to really make an impression. What's the most common message you get and which one makes you interested. The most common I get is "nice cock" that's it lol. What's yours ??

Like what's good ?

What's bad ?

Some are very straight forward and wud make you laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can be quite daunting sending a message to really make an impression. What's the most common message you get and which one makes you interested. The most common I get is "nice cock" that's it lol. What's yours ??

Like what's good ?

What's bad ?

Some are very straight forward and wud make you laugh "

The most common one i get has to be , 'hi hun how's u wt u up2?' possibly the most boring question anyone can ask.

I like gettin messages with a bit of humour and originality, always draws my interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can you tell what age range a guy is from his vocabulary ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nice cock" has to be the most annoying message! .....where does a conversation go from there??....downhill usually !!! i think some people have never spoken to other people before going by some of the "conversations" iv had here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can be hard to judge. i sent a perfectly good message there an hour ago. put a thought into it. wasnt a copy and paste job but took the persons profile into account and it was respectful. I met all the persons guidelines but it was deleted without reply.

maybe the person does not want to meet any new fabbers so I think it is just best to put the effort in for every message and if its deleted then so be it and dont get disappointed about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's so true I done the exact same thing yesterday read a woman's profile for a good few minutes and sent a lovely thought out messages and it was deleted without reply. Can be abit of a knockback especially when she was really hot lol

Ah well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's so true I done the exact same thing yesterday read a woman's profile for a good few minutes and sent a lovely thought out messages and it was deleted without reply. Can be abit of a knockback especially when she was really hot lol

Ah well"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lads the ladies here can get 100s of messages a day so dont be too pissed off if she deletes your messages, its nothing personal. im not sure how you catch their attention in a mail to be honest. ive tried lots of different ways.

the best way to catch their attention or make an impression is by going to meet and greets. its by far the best way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the girls don't get 100% mails a day m8.. don't let them tell you they do.. have asked loads of girls weve met and they don't get 100s of mails a day.. its a myth....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the girls don't get 100% mails a day m8.. don't let them tell you they do.. have asked loads of girls weve met and they don't get 100s of mails a day.. its a myth...."

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By *lo1 slo2Couple
over a year ago

newry

it can be every bit as hard for a couple to message a lady we think it out and are always respectfull but 90% of the time they are deleted 1 time we got one back saying thank you but you arnt what i am looking for it was so nice just to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the girls don't get 100% mails a day m8.. don't let them tell you they do.. have asked loads of girls weve met and they don't get 100s of mails a day.. its a myth...."

There would be some that do. I don't. I get very few. And most I delete without opening because they are less then a line long and usually text talk. If there's no effort being sent I'm not putting any back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know a few who do get that many. ive seen some inboxes. 100s might not be accurate for most girls though, dozens would be more correct. especially girls with photos up.

youre coddin yourself if you dont thnk thats what goes on in here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'd at least reply if I get a message from any woman, if even to have a chat a laugh or just to say thanks but no thanks. Doesn't cost anything and goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it can be every bit as hard for a couple to message a lady we think it out and are always respectfull but 90% of the time they are deleted 1 time we got one back saying thank you but you arnt what i am looking for it was so nice just to get a reply "

Same here ..

I'm always mannerly . And I'm told by lots of people about how the hate one line or rude messages ...so if there deleted without answer fair enough ! ! But I think if someone takes time to write a mannerly message they at least deserve a no thanks back as an answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someone dont reply i wouldnt rant about it. id just build a bridge and get over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone is ranting

Just looking for some basic manners ..

Like mom and dad taught us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think anyone is ranting

Just looking for some basic manners ..

Like mom and dad taught us "

ive been polite to people before and said no thanks and a few still asking to meet wen ive said no. some dont take hints easily and some mails arent even worth a reply xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well being honest if we write hello how are you , how is Ur day I'm bla bla bla and I'm here for bla bla bla. It would be nice if we got a chance to chat. Tks have a nice day. It gets deleted lol

So does "fancy a fuck" mind you lol

Rightly so

But we can't win

But we won't stop.

Power of the pussy ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah if youre not in you cant win i guess. but so if everyone else throwing their hat into the ring.

go to the meets, my inbox was a lot less sadder after one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol how do you mean the meets mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the meet and greets, they are organised here in the forums every few months.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah grand I will keep an eye out. Cheers ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry meant

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Personal opinion. I think the first message should be simply about breaking the ice. I don't think wit, humour, originality, etc, is important in the first message. Those things are a two way street, and can often appear a bit contrived if thrown out at the start. Most conversations in the real world start with a simple hello, don't they?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wud of thought they start with hello yes but where do u go after that

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

It then becomes a conversation.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"It can be quite daunting sending a message to really make an impression. What's the most common message you get and which one makes you interested. The most common I get is "nice cock" that's it lol. What's yours ??

Like what's good ?

What's bad ?

Some are very straight forward and wud make you laugh

The most common one i get has to be , 'hi hun how's u wt u up2?' possibly the most boring question anyone can ask.

I like gettin messages with a bit of humour and originality, always draws my interest. "
dito

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's only if you get a reply Michael

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"It then becomes a conversation. "

sorry but,

hi hows things, hoys you today, well having much luck here, that is just lazy, in my opinion. and the love your pics, your wife is realy hot!!! people don't read profiles! so why when it is clear they didn't read, should they start a conversation with them? because that is what that would require, the people getting the one liners starting the conversation

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"That's only if you get a reply Michael "

Yes, but what I'm saying is that conversation develops over time. It doesn't just start out of the blue, and I think people are looking for too much in a first message. I don't see what the problem is with a one line message. I wonder how many people who've been chatted up in a bar or nightclub got a chat up line that consisted of three or four sentences comprised of prefect grammar? Not too many, I suspect.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"It then becomes a conversation.

sorry but,

hi hows things, hoys you today, well having much luck here, that is just lazy, in my opinion. and the love your pics, your wife is realy hot!!! people don't read profiles! so why when it is clear they didn't read, should they start a conversation with them? because that is what that would require, the people getting the one liners starting the conversation "

But why should "Hello, how are you?" be such a problem? Isn't that the opening line to most real life conversations?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Oh, and your wife really is hot

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Oh, and your wife really is hot "

hahaha you cheeky f***r lol, in a bar face to face there is body language, eye contact and more! here there is a type message that needs to count! you wouldn't walk up to a strange in the street stare and say hows you today if you don't know them!!! would you????? besides Michael you know you put effort into messages x

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Oh, and your wife really is hot

hahaha you cheeky f***r lol, in a bar face to face there is body language, eye contact and more! here there is a type message that needs to count! you wouldn't walk up to a strange in the street stare and say hows you today if you don't know them!!! would you????? besides Michael you know you put effort into messages x "

Aww thanks, but actually I do talk to people in the street like that.

Can't a hello be followed by a hello back if interested in conversing, and then see what develops? It's difficult to have to come up with something imaginative all the time.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Oh, and your wife really is hot

hahaha you cheeky f***r lol, in a bar face to face there is body language, eye contact and more! here there is a type message that needs to count! you wouldn't walk up to a strange in the street stare and say hows you today if you don't know them!!! would you????? besides Michael you know you put effort into messages x

Aww thanks, but actually I do talk to people in the street like that.

Can't a hello be followed by a hello back if interested in conversing, and then see what develops? It's difficult to have to come up with something imaginative all the time. "

it could it could also be met with a blank stare or worse! jesus I couldn't walk up to a total stranger and ask how they are !!!!!!

besides! getting away from the topic! most genuine people have a full profile including the list of interests, why would it be to much to expect people to read and tailor a message to them???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It then becomes a conversation.

sorry but,

hi hows things, hoys you today, well having much luck here, that is just lazy, in my opinion. and the love your pics, your wife is realy hot!!! people don't read profiles! so why when it is clear they didn't read, should they start a conversation with them? because that is what that would require, the people getting the one liners starting the conversation

But why should "Hello, how are you?" be such a problem? Isn't that the opening line to most real life conversations? "

Michael , the majority of.messages I get say hi how are you, I.used to reply to.them out if politeness then get a one line message again. after time it becomes incredibly dull so I think ill stick to my.filter of not answering such boring questions, worked for me after the 3 years I've been here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when the message saying

Hi what are you on this for! !!!!! .

I don't get that I sm hardly on looking for cooking recipes.

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By *endoverbeckyWoman
over a year ago

dublin


"I think when the message saying

Hi what are you on this for! !!!!! .

I don't get that I sm hardly on looking for cooking recipes. "

haha brilliant!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It then becomes a conversation.

sorry but,

hi hows things, hoys you today, well having much luck here, that is just lazy, in my opinion. and the love your pics, your wife is realy hot!!! people don't read profiles! so why when it is clear they didn't read, should they start a conversation with them? because that is what that would require, the people getting the one liners starting the conversation

But why should "Hello, how are you?" be such a problem? Isn't that the opening line to most real life conversations?

Michael , the majority of.messages I get say hi how are you, I.used to reply to.them out if politeness then get a one line message again. after time it becomes incredibly dull so I think ill stick to my.filter of not answering such boring questions, worked for me after the 3 years I've been here."

I so agree. If you want one line chat then head to the chat rooms. Today I got a "hi how's u doing " (sic) message from a certain car driver, went to read his profile and guess what? All he has in his profile is "hi hows u doing"

How on earth is a conversation supposed to develop from that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It then becomes a conversation.

sorry but,

hi hows things, hoys you today, well having much luck here, that is just lazy, in my opinion. and the love your pics, your wife is realy hot!!! people don't read profiles! so why when it is clear they didn't read, should they start a conversation with them? because that is what that would require, the people getting the one liners starting the conversation

But why should "Hello, how are you?" be such a problem? Isn't that the opening line to most real life conversations?

Michael , the majority of.messages I get say hi how are you, I.used to reply to.them out if politeness then get a one line message again. after time it becomes incredibly dull so I think ill stick to my.filter of not answering such boring questions, worked for me after the 3 years I've been here.

I so agree. If you want one line chat then head to the chat rooms. Today I got a "hi how's u doing " (sic) message from a certain car driver, went to read his profile and guess what? All he has in his profile is "hi hows u doing"

How on earth is a conversation supposed to develop from that?

"

Exactly nippy, and the way i look at it is, i am not on here for 'real life', it is about escapism and fantasy, so why would i want to have a banal conversation that i could have with the wee old man sitting beside me on the bus.

I am on here for something specific and i dont see why i should have to answer every question i get asked just because someone dredged up the energy to type 'hi hun u ok?x' and actually thought 'yeah , that will get things started!' lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It worked for joey out of friends.

Nippy. .. post some of our conversations in mail on here for a laff lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It worked for joey out of friends.

Nippy. .. post some of our conversations in mail on here for a laff lol.."

It's the way Joey says it tho, that wee cheeky glint in the eye, swoon lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes it isn't what's in the message. first impression is everything. we ignore the message initially and give profile a give scan. The if that passes the sanity test then read and reply to the message. The pics, the intro, the stats, opening few lines.

so what your profile says is more important than a first message. for us

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I just don't think there's a formula for what's guaranteed to work. If someone who sounds like an ass in their profile sends a message that Oscar Wilde himself might have composed, would that illicit a response? I don't think so. I just don't personally believe that hard and fat rules make sense in a place like this. Obviously it would be great if all messages were well thought out, but hey, live a little. I'm screwed altogether now I don't have the body of Adonis, nor do I have a 17 inch penis, or even the face of, I dunno, who's a really good looking man these days? and here I am advocating that we should be less critical of first messages... It could all end badly

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"sometimes it isn't what's in the message. first impression is everything. we ignore the message initially and give profile a give scan. The if that passes the sanity test then read and reply to the message. The pics, the intro, the stats, opening few lines.

so what your profile says is more important than a first message. for us "

That makes a lot of sense to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't think there's a formula for what's guaranteed to work. If someone who sounds like an ass in their profile sends a message that Oscar Wilde himself might have composed, would that illicit a response? I don't think so. I just don't personally believe that hard and fat rules make sense in a place like this. Obviously it would be great if all messages were well thought out, but hey, live a little. I'm screwed altogether now I don't have the body of Adonis, nor do I have a 17 inch penis, or even the face of, I dunno, who's a really good looking man these days? and here I am advocating that we should be less critical of first messages... It could all end badly "

I'm not sure what all of this means, but I'll just say lol

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"It then becomes a conversation.

sorry but,

hi hows things, hoys you today, well having much luck here, that is just lazy, in my opinion. and the love your pics, your wife is realy hot!!! people don't read profiles! so why when it is clear they didn't read, should they start a conversation with them? because that is what that would require, the people getting the one liners starting the conversation

But why should "Hello, how are you?" be such a problem? Isn't that the opening line to most real life conversations?

Michael , the majority of.messages I get say hi how are you, I.used to reply to.them out if politeness then get a one line message again. after time it becomes incredibly dull so I think ill stick to my.filter of not answering such boring questions, worked for me after the 3 years I've been here.

I so agree. If you want one line chat then head to the chat rooms. Today I got a "hi how's u doing " (sic) message from a certain car driver, went to read his profile and guess what? All he has in his profile is "hi hows u doing"

How on earth is a conversation supposed to develop from that?

"

Conversations develop. It's what they do. It's not a conversation until someone replies.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"I just don't think there's a formula for what's guaranteed to work. If someone who sounds like an ass in their profile sends a message that Oscar Wilde himself might have composed, would that illicit a response? I don't think so. I just don't personally believe that hard and fat rules make sense in a place like this. Obviously it would be great if all messages were well thought out, but hey, live a little. I'm screwed altogether now I don't have the body of Adonis, nor do I have a 17 inch penis, or even the face of, I dunno, who's a really good looking man these days? and here I am advocating that we should be less critical of first messages... It could all end badly "

I agree but, if it was directed at us with something, say, about what we like that could start a conversation!

if on the other hand it is bland, and a profile like I read earlier that said simpley blah blah blah

says a lot and I don't want to have to drag a convo out of people so it gets ignored

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

PS

I don't ignor people just bad intros! make an effort by reading peoples profiles! sometimes it is like pulling teeth trying to connect! to much to expect

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"PS

I don't ignor people just bad intros! make an effort by reading peoples profiles! sometimes it is like pulling teeth trying to connect! to much to expect "

Luckily I have only one tooth

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"PS

I don't ignor people just bad intros! make an effort by reading peoples profiles! sometimes it is like pulling teeth trying to connect! to much to expect

Luckily I have only one tooth "

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It worked for joey out of friends.

Nippy. .. post some of our conversations in mail on here for a laff lol..

It's the way Joey says it tho, that wee cheeky glint in the eye, swoon lol"

Gramma's chicken salad..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It worked for joey out of friends.

Nippy. .. post some of our conversations in mail on here for a laff lol.."

Nooooooooooooooooooo

Everyone thinks I'm a paragon of virtue on here. Lets not disilusion them ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we're missing the point

If someone takes time to write out a nice introduction. For first message even if you find it boring or don't like it , I don't think it's to much to ask to get a no thanks reply ,

If its a shit one line like " wanna fuck". Fair enough doesn't deserve an answer .

I know some people mite get lots of messages but I'm sure the can tell the difference between one that took time and one that didn't

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

.. and with all that women's lib nonsense these days, it's not as if they're busy washing the dishes or ironing the clothes anymore. Good be with the good old days when men were men, and women were in the kitchen. Aaahh.. memories!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One line messages are the product of a lazy mind and a lack of imagination. Unless they are witty then yes a reply should be given.

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Think we're missing the point

If someone takes time to write out a nice introduction. For first message even if you find it boring or don't like it , I don't think it's to much to ask to get a no thanks reply ,

If its a shit one line like " wanna fuck". Fair enough doesn't deserve an answer .

I know some people mite get lots of messages but I'm sure the can tell the difference between one that took time and one that didn't "

that wasn't the point the op made

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By *antyfetishTV/TS
over a year ago

Collooney/Sligo/Dublin

i am straight but love your pics....lol.....

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there


"Think we're missing the point

If someone takes time to write out a nice introduction. For first message even if you find it boring or don't like it , I don't think it's to much to ask to get a no thanks reply ,

If its a shit one line like " wanna fuck". Fair enough doesn't deserve an answer .

I know some people mite get lots of messages but I'm sure the can tell the difference between one that took time and one that didn't "

If the person man woman couple write a nice letter and has obviously read their profile, and makes the message personal to them! yes, it does deserve an acknowledgment!!! but it is their prerogative weather to reply or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think because it's a swinging site, most people go straight to the point with

Hey I wanna fuck U first message.

It's hard from a mans prospective.

But as a woman it's very hard to deal with messages that are crude and insulting.

If you dont reply I have been called every name under the sun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a serious note, the ones that get our attention are around a paragraph long.. 4 or 5 sentences.. states what theyre looking for, a pic attached, a mobile no etc etc.. always gets to the top of our list for replying

a message such as "how are you" just gets read and we go onto the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the girls don't get 100% mails a day m8.. don't let them tell you they do.. have asked loads of girls weve met and they don't get 100s of mails a day.. its a myth...."

In the beginning, when they 1st join they get the fresh meat syndrome.. Bombarded with messages and then it dies down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always put a little bit of thought into my message. It's infested with horny dudes on fab. You have to stand out from the crowd.

I never mail newbies because the are hammered with messages.. If I see someone I like the look of and their profile is cool.. I hotlist and contact them when the madness has passed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always put a little bit of thought into my message. It's infested with horny dudes on fab. You have to stand out from the crowd.

I never mail newbies because the are hammered with messages.. If I see someone I like the look of and their profile is cool.. I hotlist and contact them when the madness has passed. "

A little bit of thought goes a long way on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always put a little bit of thought into my message. It's infested with horny dudes on fab. You have to stand out from the crowd.

I never mail newbies because the are hammered with messages.. If I see someone I like the look of and their profile is cool.. I hotlist and contact them when the madness has passed.

A little bit of thought goes a long way on here "

Not when it's some of the things I'm thinking about..

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