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How come its so hard to actually get things started.

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By *akey2221 OP   Man
15 weeks ago

belfast

Ive tried my best to contact with people n couples but no one really wants to talk to you if you haven't been v

erified by someone. So leaves a situation that no one will talk or get up. Anyone any ideas on how to get my journey started 🙂

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Mayfair

Patience.

You're still relatively new. You've only been here three weeks.

The question is what are you doing, what are your methods on here, what are you looking to achieve?

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By *om365483Man
15 weeks ago

Dungannon/Belfast/Donegal

Get yourself to a social event or consider posting to the help a fabber out February thread and see if someone is willing to meet in the Belfast area for a social and to get you verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago


"Get yourself to a social event or consider posting to the help a fabber out February thread and see if someone is willing to meet in the Belfast area for a social and to get you verified. "

This 👆

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By *om TangoMan
15 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

Very hard for us single guys to hit the road running. I’d a couple profile starting out. Was easy enough getting started. When I started as a single fella it was a nightmare. I actually left Monaghan one Sunday and drove to Derry/London Derry begging for a social so I could go to social events. Got to Derry/London Derry and no luck. I was in a kik group at the time and posted in it what I was after doing. Lucky a lady in Belfast felt sorry for me and messaged that if I drove to Belfast she would meet me. To this day we have been good friends. So OP. To get going you have to make the effort of putting yourself out there as a single fella

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

As said before, your relative new. Only three weeks on the site.

Try and get to a social. Check forums for help a fabber out and newbies.

Men outway single men on her so they have their pick of guys.

Couples are already in an established relationship. So theyre letting someone else in. So look at how you'll engage them in a message. Trying to get verified will help you more OP as it'll show you're more genuine.

Remember it's a marathon and not a sprint on here, it takes work for any kind of meet

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
15 weeks ago

Newry

Adjust your expectations

Patience

Get involved in the forums

Get to socials

Work on your profile

Patience

Adjust your expectations

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By *trangerkissersCouple
15 weeks ago

dublin

Socials, socials and more socials. It’s the only way to do it.

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
15 weeks ago

KILDARE

39 women currently online and hundreds of men also online what are you doing to stand out from all the other messages woman are getting here?

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By *hatsgoingon888Man
15 weeks ago

Galway/Athlone


"39 women currently online and hundreds of men also online what are you doing to stand out from all the other messages woman are getting here? "
could do with help here too

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By *aid backMan
15 weeks ago

by a lake with my rod out

I find the best way to get noticed is to start a thread about how hard it is to get meets organised. This normally opens the flood gates of emails from women frotting at the gusset to meet you

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By *ednuts101Man
15 weeks ago

Finglas

Give it a couple of years..you never know it might get better..let us all know how you get on

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago


"I find the best way to get noticed is to start a thread about how hard it is to get meets organised. This normally opens the flood gates of emails from women frotting at the gusset to meet you"

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By *rnicaMan
15 weeks ago

Cork, Kerry, Waterford and surrounds

Someone above suggested adjusting your expectations - this is solid advice.

Id expand a little more on that and suggest approaching Fab and the Lifestyle with a mindset of;

- Community First

- Friendship Second

- Sex Last

Put the effort in daily contributing/becoming part of a community (Socials, Meet & Greets, Help out other Fabbers, patience & tolerance, inclusive attitude and genuine interest in other people regardless of sex/attraction etc).

From this will spring connection with like-minded people, some of whom you will utterly digg and may even become lifelong friends with.

If you prioritize Community and Friendship, you will invariably stand out by virtue of being your own authentic self. This is an extremely attractive quality for any man or woman.

(But don't neglect the housekeeping either - make sure your profile is informative, tasteful and current 😉)

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
15 weeks ago

The West


"Someone above suggested adjusting your expectations - this is solid advice.

Id expand a little more on that and suggest approaching Fab and the Lifestyle with a mindset of;

- Community First

- Friendship Second

- Sex Last

Put the effort in daily contributing/becoming part of a community (Socials, Meet & Greets, Help out other Fabbers, patience & tolerance, inclusive attitude and genuine interest in other people regardless of sex/attraction etc).

From this will spring connection with like-minded people, some of whom you will utterly digg and may even become lifelong friends with.

If you prioritize Community and Friendship, you will invariably stand out by virtue of being your own authentic self. This is an extremely attractive quality for any man or woman.

(But don't neglect the housekeeping either - make sure your profile is informative, tasteful and current 😉)"

This man Fabs.

We wholeheartedly agree.

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
14 weeks ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

Sooo in other words didn’t take advice on how to get verified previously lols

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By *a1970Man
14 weeks ago

East cork


"Socials, socials and more socials. It’s the only way to do it."
this is so right

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By *a1970Man
14 weeks ago

East cork


"Someone above suggested adjusting your expectations - this is solid advice.

Id expand a little more on that and suggest approaching Fab and the Lifestyle with a mindset of;

- Community First

- Friendship Second

- Sex Last

Put the effort in daily contributing/becoming part of a community (Socials, Meet & Greets, Help out other Fabbers, patience & tolerance, inclusive attitude and genuine interest in other people regardless of sex/attraction etc).

From this will spring connection with like-minded people, some of whom you will utterly digg and may even become lifelong friends with.

If you prioritize Community and Friendship, you will invariably stand out by virtue of being your own authentic self. This is an extremely attractive quality for any man or woman.

(But don't neglect the housekeeping either - make sure your profile is informative, tasteful and current 😉)

This man Fabs.

We wholeheartedly agree."
well said

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