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By (user no longer on site) OP
15 weeks ago

Quick question for the Katie's here;how often do ye generally meet people? Would you say you meet someone from here once a week, 2 weeks etc?

Also gentlemen, compared to the amount of women you message, how many respond, let alone you end up meeting?

Been messaging a good few woman, who seem to be looking for my type, and they either don't read my message or read and ignore me. Im currently in a b&b away from home and was looking forward to meeting someone to help pass the time, but no such luck

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By *og-ManMan
15 weeks ago

somewhere

Dont think there's many Katie's on here

What was your expectations when you joined the site

What did you think would happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
15 weeks ago

* ladies, Katie was an autocorrect

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
15 weeks ago

The West

We get quite a few 'I'm in a hotel if you wanna fuck' messages and while we can appreciate being alone in a room like that and feeling rambunctious it must feel like a irresistible proposition, the truth is for us, we'd rather stay home for all sorts of reasons. Not least because we just wouldn't make all that effort for a stranger.

Maybe lower your expectations and pimp up your profile so people can get a good look at you?

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By *adger BrocMan
15 weeks ago

North Cork

"* ladies, Katie was an autocorrect "

.....

LPBYF....

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By *rRiosMan
15 weeks ago

dublin

"* ladies, Katie was an autocorrect"

LadyKate in prime position to Offer her thoughts

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By *eroLondonMan
15 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...Also gentlemen, compared to the amount of women you message, how many respond, let alone you end up meeting?

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90% of my dates have been on the back of women sending the first message. I rarely message first. Last year I must have sent a handful of messages to women and most of them responded.

If they're not replying to your message then I suspect they find you incompatible or there is nothing in your profile that stands out for them.

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By *adbod2020Man
15 weeks ago

galway

"Quick question for the Katie's here;how often do ye generally meet people? Would you say you meet someone from here once a week, 2 weeks etc?

Also gentlemen, compared to the amount of women you message, how many respond, let alone you end up meeting?

So personally in my experience I suppose because I send a face pic and I don’t expect instant meets or even responses I normally get replies. Unfortunately lately I’ve yet to make proper plans to meet mainly due to my hectic life or theirs. But, I still enjoy making connections because I know if the person I’m talking to gets a good vibe or comfortable with me at some point possibly the opportunity does arise where a spontaneous meet may occur.

But for me, there is nothing like planning a meet and looking forward to it. Building up some sexual tension beforehand

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By *aradeaneWoman
15 weeks ago

Enfield

I'd think your profile is a factor here. One photo which shows very little of you, so you could enhance this and give some more information about yourself and what you're looking for. Meets usually take time and planning. Good luck, K

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
15 weeks ago

Newry

How often do I meet in general? Well last year it was 3 people in a year. The year before it was one.

I'd never respond to someone staying local to me looking to hook up if I didn't already know them and had met them previously. Even at that it would be unlikely, mostly because I don't exist on the daily in a state of readiness for meeting someone for sex, and because there's work and family to consider also. You've always got to consider that just because you're available right now, it doesn't mean the person you're messaging will be - especially midweek

I also prefer to meet someone socially in the first instance without expectation of it going beyond that, and I like some time after a social to reflect rather than "meet socially and see what happens".

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
15 weeks ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

Am curious as what your opening message is?!

Does it stand out from the crowd?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
15 weeks ago

What would be a good opening message? I mean being direct can be rash, but I still don't want to be misleading

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
15 weeks ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

"What would be a good opening message? I mean being direct can be rash, but I still don't want to be misleading "

Well that don’t answer the question 🙈🤣

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By (user no longer on site) OP
15 weeks ago

Yeah if there's nothing to stand out in the profile description I'd normally just use the standard stuff like " hey I saw you around, here's a face pic, I'd love to need up but if yer not interested then no worries ". Which yes I see the flaws with a copy paste type greeting so I'll be more creative now

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By *ealitybitesMan
15 weeks ago

Belfast

I would say that only a small proportion of people would be meeting someone new every week or even every couple of weeks.

Even for those meeting people they already know it's probably not as frequent as that.

I haven't been meeting by choice for 6 years and haven't sent a single opening message in that time.

When I was meeting and messaging, more than half my messages were replied to and if I had wanted I probably could have met 5 or 6 times a year but I didn't have the time or inclination so it was more like 2 or 3.

First meets are always a social though because that's what I insist on.

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By *om TangoMan
15 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

I rarely send messages to anyone on here unless they have something on their status that interests me. I stick to socials tele groups for chatting and if getting on with someone I’d ask if I can DM them. If and when I do message it’s usually a message asking if they would be interested in a coffee/tea social. I’m not interested in hump and dump meetings. I’m a social butterfly kinda person

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By *td123Woman
15 weeks ago

Dublin

"Quick question for the Katie's here;how often do ye generally meet people? Would you say you meet someone from here once a week, 2 weeks etc?

Also gentlemen, compared to the amount of women you message, how many respond, let alone you end up meeting?

I'm a Katie🤣🤣🤣

I'm not speaking for every woman on Fab on this, just my own personal experience.

I never do a spontaneous meet with someone I haven't met socially.

I work full time and have a busy life. I generally only reply to fab messages that catch my attention. I don't have the time or energy to reply to every message.

I much prefer social events to 1:1 socials.

Again, this is my personal preference. Other Katies/Ladies may do things completely differently

Katie

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By *rRiosMan
15 weeks ago

dublin

"What would be a good opening message? I mean being direct can be rash, but I still don't want to be misleading "

Hey baby, you look so sexy in your pics! Mmmm Are you down for a hot and steamy session. I will go down on you for hours and then fuck you hard so that you squirt gallons! Mmmm I am available tonight between 18:15 and 19:00 See you then sexy kitten xoxo

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
15 weeks ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

"What would be a good opening message? I mean being direct can be rash, but I still don't want to be misleading

🤣🤣🤣🤣 ohh whoops the knickers flew off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
15 weeks ago

Ok, so I don't want to be misleading, or sound incredibly desperate lmao 🤣

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By *antra MassageMan
15 weeks ago

a village near you.

I rarely send a first message. Women and couples find me by browsing, or referrals from those who've met me. I prefer repeat meets, so usually average one meet a month here on Fab. I wouldn't have time for more. I've been to one social in recent years which led to multiple meets. Contributing on the forums will attract interest also, and may lead to meets over time ( as I write this 29,715 are online , salivating over my words, and gagging to meet me.!) .

All you need is 1 woman to find you interesting enough to start a chat which will lead to a meet.

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By *amsevenMan
15 weeks ago

cork

"Quick question for the Katie's here;how often do ye generally meet people? Would you say you meet someone from here once a week, 2 weeks etc?

Also gentlemen, compared to the amount of women you message, how many respond, let alone you end up meeting?

At an estimate I think I received 1 reply for every 20 messages I sent, maybe. Iv sent every kind, short and sweet, longish and detailed. And most replies were one or two word replies. I haven't messaged (bar wishing someone happy birthday) a female here in well over a year at least, I think. Not having a whinge. People can reply to whomever they want.

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