FabSwingers.com forum: Spoil me

By *ikey2022Eire OP Man
32 weeks ago

Clare

Been chatting to an older lady for a while and were due to meet today actually but something came up and I had to cancel, that is life sometimes.

However, during the week she mentioned wanting to be spoiled, not only in a sexual way but with gifts and trips etc etc etc.

It was in a general sense like not aimed at me fully but as if she hadnt had it before but wanted to meet a fella that fitted that bill.

She also says do you think I'm a gold digger.

Ive got fok all to give like that.

Wanted to throw it out there to all, is this a red flag or was I reading too deep into it?

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Could have been a general sharing or a checking of your boundaries. Personally I wouldn't see it as a red flag. It's up to you how you respond really.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
32 weeks ago

Castlebar

Everyone likes to be spoiled surely and that works both ways but I wouldn't be saying it to people I'm meeting on Fab? Unless the conversation is about dating or looking for a partner??

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By *rRiosMan
32 weeks ago

dublin

I would see it as an orange flag but context is key really. Was she steering the conversation this way continually or was it just a general remark. Does she mention money often. Does she ask about your finances etc etc.

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By *og-ManMan
32 weeks ago

somewhere

Big red flag ......if that was a conversation I had with a woman before I met her then it wouldn't go any further

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
32 weeks ago

Midlands

"Been chatting to an older lady for a while and were due to meet today actually but something came up and I had to cancel, that is life sometimes.

However, during the week she mentioned wanting to be spoiled, not only in a sexual way but with gifts and trips etc etc etc.

It was in a general sense like not aimed at me fully but as if she hadnt had it before but wanted to meet a fella that fitted that bill.

She also says do you think I'm a gold digger.

Ive got fok all to give like that.

Wanted to throw it out there to all, is this a red flag or was I reading too deep into it?"

Tell her that being spoiled is a two way street.

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By *ealitybitesMan
32 weeks ago

Belfast

She'd have spoiled her chances if she started that conversation.

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By *aura200TV/TS
32 weeks ago

Limerick

Run. You will have to bring gifts anytime you want some sex. Well if it suits you then everyone's a winner.

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By *assionate InfernoCouple
32 weeks ago

Dublin

I think it all depends on the context of the conversation. "Spoiling" for me means showing attention, closeness, warmth, adoration, hugs, kisses, kind gestures, tenderness, being treated special, not gifts... but everyone is different, it can be interpreted ambiguously... maybe you should ask her directly what she meant. Mia

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By *ohnboy74712Man
32 weeks ago

DUBLIN

Spoiling us fine if it is a 2 way thing. Unless the context was spoiling with attention, affection, etc, I would see it as half way to a red flag, if all she meant was she wanted you to spend money on her. At this stage of a conversation it is an odd thing to bring up. But giving her the benefit of the doubt she may have meant that she likes someone to be physically attentive!

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By *oldByMarCouple
32 weeks ago

playa de ingles

Chatting with a female the other morning and she asked for a manicure to be paid for in her local salon in exchange for a meet

Asked how much she needed?

Replied €55 and my number to WhatsApp

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Well seen as how she straight up said she wanted to be spoiled with gifts and trips I would say that is about as red as a flag can get if you don't want that kind of relationship.

Of course it your into that sort of thing and you have the disposable income to pull it off. Then more power to you.

My friend was recently whisked off to Malta by her sugar daddy and she couldn't be happier about it.

The thing is my friend didn't ask for a holiday. And yer one messaging you isn't being classy at all. She's just gold panning. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *astelloWoman
32 weeks ago

Far far away

"Big red flag ......if that was a conversation I had with a woman before I met her then it

wouldn't go any further "

What it l brought you turf... quid pro quo for a donut x

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
32 weeks ago

KILDARE

Once had a random guy messaging saying he'd love to spoil me. He had saved up all his Tesco club card points and wanted to have me over for dinner. Who said romance was dead on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I'd see that as a red flag for sure.

There would be no way I'd be saying that to a guy before we met. Gold digger alert.

Run.

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By *he KakapoMan
32 weeks ago

A nice rock

Id only a red flag if its not something you want as part of a relationship/dynamic.

The person had agreed to meet regardless of your reaction to what she said.

And she is also clearly being upfront about her preferences and what she likes and is looking for

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By *og-ManMan
32 weeks ago

somewhere

"Big red flag ......if that was a conversation I had with a woman before I met her then it

wouldn't go any further

What it l brought you turf... quid pro quo for a donut x"

Did we not do that already

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By *indenMan
32 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Once had a random guy messaging saying he'd love to spoil me. He had saved up all his Tesco club card points and wanted to have me over for dinner. Who said romance was dead on Fab

And I’m still waiting on the reply….🥺

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By *og-ManMan
32 weeks ago

somewhere

"Once had a random guy messaging saying he'd love to spoil me. He had saved up all his Tesco club card points and wanted to have me over for dinner. Who said romance was dead on Fab

And I’m still waiting on the reply….🥺"

You could have got more for you points in Milano's

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By *indenMan
32 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Once had a random guy messaging saying he'd love to spoil me. He had saved up all his Tesco club card points and wanted to have me over for dinner. Who said romance was dead on Fab

And I’m still waiting on the reply….🥺

You could have got more for you points in Milano's "

Do they accept club cards?…..😲🤞🤞🤞

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By *idpunkMan
32 weeks ago

East Antrim

"Once had a random guy messaging saying he'd love to spoil me. He had saved up all his Tesco club card points and wanted to have me over for dinner. Who said romance was dead on Fab

And I’m still waiting on the reply….🥺"

That's sort of sweet

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

Angus & Findhorn

Please report

asking for gifts is not allowed

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

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By *og-ManMan
32 weeks ago

somewhere

"Once had a random guy messaging saying he'd love to spoil me. He had saved up all his Tesco club card points and wanted to have me over for dinner. Who said romance was dead on Fab

And I’m still waiting on the reply….🥺

You could have got more for you points in Milano's

Do they accept club cards?…..😲🤞🤞🤞"

You get treble value vouchers in milano's on your club card

So 50 euro of club card points gets you 150 euro to spend in Milano's

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

I'd say to her that the only gift she's getting from me is my cum dumped in her mouth and if that isn't good enough for her she can go and write her list to Santa.

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By *indenMan
32 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I'd say to her that the only gift she's getting from me is my cum dumped in her mouth and if that isn't good enough for her she can go and write her list to Santa. "

Chicks love that……

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"I'd say to her that the only gift she's getting from me is my cum dumped in her mouth and if that isn't good enough for her she can go and write her list to Santa.

Chicks love that……

Yeah cheep cheap

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By *indenMan
32 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I'd say to her that the only gift she's getting from me is my cum dumped in her mouth and if that isn't good enough for her she can go and write her list to Santa.

Chicks love that……

Yeah cheep cheap "

I have club card points……

I’d split a milkshake with you any time….

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