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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick

So chatting with a lovely woman, things were going well on both sides I believed. Then getting blocked when you suggest meeting up. A simple no would have been fine. I've been on and off here a long time. I understand how it works. This one just left me hanging out there.. the joys of fab. You never really know.

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By *om TangoMan
32 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

May I just say if you have been on and off here you should have at least learn to have a profile picture. Plus we’re expected you take your side of the story. What did you say about meeting up. Was it a social? Was it to play. So much details missing from this. And count yourself lucky that you actually got a lady to get involved with a conversation with you on here. Thats rare enough so well done on that

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
32 weeks ago

South

Just move on. You’ll rack the brain otherwise wondering why when you have the option of just moving on to the next target. Women rule the roost here because of numbers. Nothing can be done about that and they’re also wired differently in the context of what occurs from this website and what a man says/does. The slightest thing could put them off in a lot of cases. Just put a line through it and target the next woman who takes your fancy.

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick

I totally understand her choice and been here before. But you can normally see it coming. This one just left me hanging. Drawing a line.

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
32 weeks ago

DUBLIN

Get over it and stop complaining-it happens to everyone, for whatever reason. I got blocked last week after my first message-all I did was say hello and a few sentences of introduction! Go figure!

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
32 weeks ago

Newry

.I'd suggest that being blocked is pretty much the antithesis of being left hanging

Whether you know it or not, there'll be a reason. Trying to figure out why? Therein lies the road to madness!

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By * tale of 2 citiesCouple
32 weeks ago

Belfast

Some people don't like saying goodbye and just think feck it...block

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By *inkyDragonMan
32 weeks ago

D15 / Meath border

I block people all the time, for many reasons, even after chatting and didnt go anywhere. If I try to view a profile and I’m blocked, I don’t worry about it. Maybe she took your message up the wrong way. Maybe she read it and wasn’t interested and didn't want you showing up again or contacting her again. It’s not a big deal and she’s probably done both of you a favour.

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick

So I got the Irish goodbye.

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By *ant111Man
32 weeks ago

Dublin 6


"So chatting with a lovely woman, things were going well on both sides I believed. Then getting blocked when you suggest meeting up. A simple no would have been fine. I've been on and off here a long time. I understand how it works. This one just left me hanging out there.. the joys of fab. You never really know."

Theres lots of reasons why it might have happened so i wouldnt waste too much time agonising over it

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By *onnie129Woman
32 weeks ago

Galway/Mayo

I have rules for blocking personally. If your younger than my kids or start with hi. If your on FAB over a year with no pictures and no verifications. If I say im interested in a coffee meet and you lead with dirty chat. I just want to connect first see if we have an attraction. Try and try to tell guys this but they will continue to do it anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

They're just not interested, think its fine personally. Would be useful if you could block profiles so they no longer appear at all - I'm constantly clicking into profiles for women who only want BBC or tall guys, and it'd be handy just to filter out the results for my own sanity.

I only ever blocked one person I think - but they were worryingly interested in childrens underwear

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By *outhbelMan
32 weeks ago

Near Carryduff

Same happened to me a long time back. It was a great chat and asked for a pic. Sent . . . Then, message back "i know you" and instant block.

I guess we were in the same prayer group lol

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"I have rules for blocking personally. If your younger than my kids or start with hi. If your on FAB over a year with no pictures and no verifications. If I say im interested in a coffee meet and you lead with dirty chat. I just want to connect first see if we have an attraction. Try and try to tell guys this but they will continue to do it anyways.

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Hey bonnie, totally agree and we all need them. I was doing the whole connect , it was going great. Must have something I said. I know lots don't take rejection well and it's probably easier then having to deal with that. I'm used to people being a bit more respectful when they drop you. Thanks for the reply

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"They're just not interested, think its fine personally. Would be useful if you could block profiles so they no longer appear at all - I'm constantly clicking into profiles for women who only want BBC or tall guys, and it'd be handy just to filter out the results for my own sanity.

I only ever blocked one person I think - but they were worryingly interested in childrens underwear"

Totally understand. This place still surprises me after years on here

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"Same happened to me a long time back. It was a great chat and asked for a pic. Sent . . . Then, message back "i know you" and instant block.

I guess we were in the same prayer group lol"

You knew why you were getting blocked it happens, you can understand why. Ive had that as well. It's a very small world

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By *outhbelMan
32 weeks ago

Near Carryduff


"Same happened to me a long time back. It was a great chat and asked for a pic. Sent . . . Then, message back "i know you" and instant block.

I guess we were in the same prayer group lol

You knew why you were getting blocked it happens, you can understand why. Ive had that as well. It's a very small world "

Have to say left me very uncomfortable for quite a while

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"Same happened to me a long time back. It was a great chat and asked for a pic. Sent . . . Then, message back "i know you" and instant block.

I guess we were in the same prayer group lol

You knew why you were getting blocked it happens, you can understand why. Ive had that as well. It's a very small world

Have to say left me very uncomfortable for quite a while "

That it does ,but we're all here for the same reason. You only hope people can respect each other's privatise. You do find yourself wondering who it was. I went to a meeting and greet once, that opened my eyes about local meet and greets.

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By *allie99_99Man
32 weeks ago

Loughrea

Totally agree....always (odd exception) need a social first to see if there is a connection. More for them than me....my hunchback and artificial eye put some off

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By *nna and CorkianCouple
32 weeks ago

Laois

Yeah blocking can feel harsh for the person on the receiving end, but it's definitely best not to take it personally. It's a useful mechanism and everyone uses it in different ways.

But look at it this way - it removes any doubt! If you're blocked, they're definitely not interested!

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"Yeah blocking can feel harsh for the person on the receiving end, but it's definitely best not to take it personally. It's a useful mechanism and everyone uses it in different ways.

But look at it this way - it removes any doubt! If you're blocked, they're definitely not interested!"

Absolutely 100% agree I've no interest in looking to pursue in any way, a simple sorry, not for me, would have been nice. I get why she blocked me, her choice no issues with that. Ok it's probably a respect thing for me. I showed respect, I kind of expected I'd receive the same back. We were a little further along then one or two messages, pics exchanged we seemed to be on the same page. It's not my first dance. Fab has changed I'm probably a little old fashioned for it. I do like to treat women with respect. That's just me.

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By *inkyDragonMan
32 weeks ago

D15 / Meath border


"Yeah blocking can feel harsh for the person on the receiving end, but it's definitely best not to take it personally. It's a useful mechanism and everyone uses it in different ways.

But look at it this way - it removes any doubt! If you're blocked, they're definitely not interested!

Absolutely 100% agree I've no interest in looking to pursue in any way, a simple sorry, not for me, would have been nice. I get why she blocked me, her choice no issues with that. Ok it's probably a respect thing for me. I showed respect, I kind of expected I'd receive the same back. We were a little further along then one or two messages, pics exchanged we seemed to be on the same page. It's not my first dance. Fab has changed I'm probably a little old fashioned for it. I do like to treat women with respect. That's just me. "

Perhaps, she thought if she said you didn’t float her goat, you’d come back with an abusive mail. It does happen, you see status updates from women about the shite they get from saying no interest. Also you’re reading far too much into this, she blocked you, you probably block people, you’ll never know why and it’ll start to get in on you if you don’t let it pass. Her loss, your loss, who knows but it probably won’t be the first block you get. I know what I’ve written might seem harsh, it’s not meant like that but it’s the reality here unfortunately.

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"Yeah blocking can feel harsh for the person on the receiving end, but it's definitely best not to take it personally. It's a useful mechanism and everyone uses it in different ways.

But look at it this way - it removes any doubt! If you're blocked, they're definitely not interested!

Absolutely 100% agree I've no interest in looking to pursue in any way, a simple sorry, not for me, would have been nice. I get why she blocked me, her choice no issues with that. Ok it's probably a respect thing for me. I showed respect, I kind of expected I'd receive the same back. We were a little further along then one or two messages, pics exchanged we seemed to be on the same page. It's not my first dance. Fab has changed I'm probably a little old fashioned for it. I do like to treat women with respect. That's just me.

Perhaps, she thought if she said you didn’t float her goat, you’d come back with an abusive mail. It does happen, you see status updates from women about the shite they get from saying no interest. Also you’re reading far too much into this, she blocked you, you probably block people, you’ll never know why and it’ll start to get in on you if you don’t let it pass. Her loss, your loss, who knows but it probably won’t be the first block you get. I know what I’ve written might seem harsh, it’s not meant like that but it’s the reality here unfortunately."

Not harsh, in anyway it's all very true. Looking at it now a few days later ,I agree 100%. It did confirm, that for myself I'm expecting a lot more from people then I should. That's why I think it's time for a break from fab. You know how this place gets. I'll be back next year.

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By *inkyDragonMan
32 weeks ago

D15 / Meath border


"Yeah blocking can feel harsh for the person on the receiving end, but it's definitely best not to take it personally. It's a useful mechanism and everyone uses it in different ways.

But look at it this way - it removes any doubt! If you're blocked, they're definitely not interested!

Absolutely 100% agree I've no interest in looking to pursue in any way, a simple sorry, not for me, would have been nice. I get why she blocked me, her choice no issues with that. Ok it's probably a respect thing for me. I showed respect, I kind of expected I'd receive the same back. We were a little further along then one or two messages, pics exchanged we seemed to be on the same page. It's not my first dance. Fab has changed I'm probably a little old fashioned for it. I do like to treat women with respect. That's just me.

Perhaps, she thought if she said you didn’t float her goat, you’d come back with an abusive mail. It does happen, you see status updates from women about the shite they get from saying no interest. Also you’re reading far too much into this, she blocked you, you probably block people, you’ll never know why and it’ll start to get in on you if you don’t let it pass. Her loss, your loss, who knows but it probably won’t be the first block you get. I know what I’ve written might seem harsh, it’s not meant like that but it’s the reality here unfortunately.

Not harsh, in anyway it's all very true. Looking at it now a few days later ,I agree 100%. It did confirm, that for myself I'm expecting a lot more from people then I should. That's why I think it's time for a break from fab. You know how this place gets. I'll be back next year. "

Fab is Fab at the end of the day. Take a few weeks break and come back fresh and chase those women.

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By *r.bold OP   Man
32 weeks ago

Limerick


"Yeah blocking can feel harsh for the person on the receiving end, but it's definitely best not to take it personally. It's a useful mechanism and everyone uses it in different ways.

But look at it this way - it removes any doubt! If you're blocked, they're definitely not interested!

Absolutely 100% agree I've no interest in looking to pursue in any way, a simple sorry, not for me, would have been nice. I get why she blocked me, her choice no issues with that. Ok it's probably a respect thing for me. I showed respect, I kind of expected I'd receive the same back. We were a little further along then one or two messages, pics exchanged we seemed to be on the same page. It's not my first dance. Fab has changed I'm probably a little old fashioned for it. I do like to treat women with respect. That's just me.

Perhaps, she thought if she said you didn’t float her goat, you’d come back with an abusive mail. It does happen, you see status updates from women about the shite they get from saying no interest. Also you’re reading far too much into this, she blocked you, you probably block people, you’ll never know why and it’ll start to get in on you if you don’t let it pass. Her loss, your loss, who knows but it probably won’t be the first block you get. I know what I’ve written might seem harsh, it’s not meant like that but it’s the reality here unfortunately.

Not harsh, in anyway it's all very true. Looking at it now a few days later ,I agree 100%. It did confirm, that for myself I'm expecting a lot more from people then I should. That's why I think it's time for a break from fab. You know how this place gets. I'll be back next year.

Fab is Fab at the end of the day. Take a few weeks break and come back fresh and chase those women. "

Fab is a beast, here a long time. I know all too well. I just think women and men have lost a lot of respect for each. Please and thank you goes a long way. I get there's some strange ones on fab, men and women. Drawing a line moving on.

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By *rickyringoMan
2 weeks ago

Enfield

Same here, people are very strange.

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By *udntulovetoknowMan
2 weeks ago

turnrightstraightahead

The main thing here is DO NOT let anything that happens affect your well being, if a person has blocked you they have done so for their reason ,whatever it is , let it slide, if a person was to worry or concerned about that happening here, 🙄🙄...

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
2 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"The main thing here is DO NOT let anything that happens affect your well being, if a person has blocked you they have done so for their reason ,whatever it is , let it slide, if a person was to worry or concerned about that happening here, 🙄🙄..."

Sage advice right here

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
2 weeks ago

The West


"The main thing here is DO NOT let anything that happens affect your well being, if a person has blocked you they have done so for their reason ,whatever it is , let it slide, if a person was to worry or concerned about that happening here, 🙄🙄..."

Or...

Hear me out...

Become so obsessed with the people that have blocked you that you mention it in every single thread you can and also make constant oblique references about those women.

Become a cautionary tale!

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By *adger BrocMan
2 weeks ago

North Cork

Swap the "bl" for "c" and all will be well.

🐓 .v. ⛔️

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By *on Draper2.0Man
2 weeks ago

Maynooth

I understand it can be confusing and hurtful when this happens. It can leave you wondering if you said something that was deemed to be offensive. The truth is it doesn't matter. If someone blocks you and you're certain you weren't offensive then it's a them problem, if it's a problem at all.

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By *lassy ladyWoman
2 weeks ago

tullamore


"Get over it and stop complaining-it happens to everyone, for whatever reason. I got blocked last week after my first message-all I did was say hello and a few sentences of introduction! Go figure!"

Your handy yourself at blocking people for no reason...

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
2 weeks ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring


"Get over it and stop complaining-it happens to everyone, for whatever reason. I got blocked last week after my first message-all I did was say hello and a few sentences of introduction! Go figure!

Your handy yourself at blocking people for no reason..."

💯💯

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By *unandgames111Couple
2 weeks ago

lucan


"So chatting with a lovely woman, things were going well on both sides I believed. Then getting blocked when you suggest meeting up. A simple no would have been fine. I've been on and off here a long time. I understand how it works. This one just left me hanging out there.. the joys of fab. You never really know."

There are so many wasters and chancers on this site, we made a profile and stand by it 100% but sometimes we get a reply saying “yes read everything and agree” 10 minutes later “are you free tonight” or something stupid means they are thinking with their dick. Really we get 100s of replies so, no goodbye, no why would you say that or do that etc just blocked. Our profile clearly says the reason you will be blocked and guys still ruin it for everyone else.

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
2 weeks ago

Louth

Blocks are used for many reasons, for us its for poeple we would never meet or zero in common. Wouldn't overthink this.

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By *og-ManMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere


"Blocks are used for many reasons, for us its for poeple we would never meet or zero in common. Wouldn't overthink this. "

This....it shouldn't make a difference to your life to be blocked by people you'll never meet

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By *ookAndDorkCouple
2 weeks ago

The West


"Blocks are used for many reasons, for us its for poeple we would never meet or zero in common. Wouldn't overthink this.

This....it shouldn't make a difference to your life to be blocked by people you'll never meet "

Yeah and no. Lot's of people use the block function as a filter which is grand but if people are getting blocked repeatedly they might what to that a step back and look at how they are approaching people.

In general we only block men that are pestering us or are known to be pests.

Even then it's usually the third 'Hi I'm having a wank and don't remember you saying no politely twice already' message that gets the block.

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By *og-ManMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere


"Blocks are used for many reasons, for us its for poeple we would never meet or zero in common. Wouldn't overthink this.

This....it shouldn't make a difference to your life to be blocked by people you'll never meet

Yeah and no. Lot's of people use the block function as a filter which is grand but if people are getting blocked repeatedly they might what to that a step back and look at how they are approaching people.

In general we only block men that are pestering us or are known to be pests.

Even then it's usually the third 'Hi I'm having a wank and don't remember you saying no politely twice already' message that gets the block."

So one or two wanks is fine

Takes notes

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By *adger BrocMan
2 weeks ago

North Cork

"3 strokes and you're out"

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By *ntrigue2110Woman
2 weeks ago

Cork

I used rarely block unless someone is rude, etc, however now it’s just easier to block if I know I’m not interested in someone, it’s not a reflection of the person being blocked (more often than not) just my preference

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By *iscuits8Man
2 weeks ago

Dublin / Meath / Birmingham

If I find I'm blocked by someone I just have a little cry and then go through all the possible reasons for it in my head for a few hours and then book a day off work to allow myself to recover fully. I tend to binge on a lot of comfort food, and sometimes alcohol.

Ah I'm only messing, I get on with it and think of all the other people whose heads I can melt

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

If someone blocks me I try to make more of an effort going forward.

I've been here 10 years and if they're only getting around to blocking me now I must have been doing something wrong all these years.

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