FabSwingers.com forum: How long left?

By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

None of ous know how long we have left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

*us

*or yous...whatevs

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I'll just come back as me like I did the last time.

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By *adger BrocMan
40 weeks ago

North Cork

Getting nearer the exit...

Nothing I can do about the passage of time except live in the moment and enjoy life's pleasures whenever they present themselves.

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
40 weeks ago

Midlands

"None of us know how long we have left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?"

If you didn't know the date you were born, what age would you be ?

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By *rRiosMan
40 weeks ago

dublin

As I get older I think about it more and more because people around me disappear. But then I force it out of my head. When someone close to me dies I get an awful sense of dread for a moment though, I think it’s only human though

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By *he gentleman 1000Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"None of ous know how long we have left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?"
I think about would I rather know when I'm going die or not which is better and still not sure I think known has it's benefits obviously can say goodbyes etc

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By *eaAndBenCouple
40 weeks ago

Dublin

"None of ous know how long we have left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?"

I think about it a lot. Dying doesn't worry me. I just hope (probably like everyone) that it’s quick and painless and that my kids will be ok without me.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Yep, think about it a fair bit as I have stage IV incurable cancer. Not life threatening in itself, like having a chronic illness. Trish Goddard, the English talk show host has it also.

Eh...suppose it has taught me what is valuable in life, what to spend time on & what not to. To take no BS, drama in my life. To hug the people you love while you can.

To do sth nice for yourself every day.

If you are unhappy, figure out why & try to change that.

We dont need so much material stuff in our lives. It wont make ye any happier.

Your health really is your wealth. I cannot buy to have the cancer in me removed. My kids are 15 & 16....trust me when I say it breaks my heart knowing Im not going to be around forever for them.

I've told my twin sister what to do with me after I go ❤️

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By *rish-blacksmithMan
40 weeks ago

Cork

I hope to have a fair while left but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't given thoughts to an exit strategy if things go badly.

I find the idea of swift easy end pretty comforting

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Look at Quantum Immortality Theory

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By *og-ManMan
40 weeks ago

somewhere

Have the music picked out for the crematorium

Always told the family that one day I wanted to say goodbye to everyone and get on a place to Switzerland to be put asleep peacefully

I always said I'd do it when I was 70 ....just old enough to have enjoyed life before it stops being enjoyable

It always seemed far away but now that Im 60....it doesn't

My kids always say that I told them I'd do it when I was 60 ....I went on holidays with Toxic to the canaries for my 60th

My kids were wondering where I was going

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Getting nearer the exit...

Nothing I can do about the passage of time except live in the moment and enjoy life's pleasures whenever they present themselves. "

Very true. It can be difficult to live in the moment all the time, but if you can then it's the way to do it.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"If you didn't know the date you were born, what age would you be ? "

You kept the fact that you're a Zen master very quiet. Like a true Zen master, I guess 😁

When did "you"* begin to exist?

*or anyone

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"I'll just come back as me like I did the last time. "

If it ain't broke, don't fix it 😜

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By *earuisceMan
40 weeks ago

south sligo

"None of us know how long we have left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?

If you didn't know the date you were born, what age would you be ? "
what a brilliant question!!!

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"As I get older I think about it more and more because people around me disappear. But then I force it out of my head. When someone close to me dies I get an awful sense of dread for a moment though, I think it’s only human though "

I would have had suicidal ideations when I was in the thick of my drinking problem but subsequently as part of meditation practice I would have contemplated it in a more healthy way.

I really tried to imagine what it would be like if today was my last day. I never truly managed to imagine it but it definitely helped to change my perception on a lot of things.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

" I think about would I rather know when I'm going die or not which is better and still not sure I think known has it's benefits obviously can say goodbyes etc "

Ya, it's a good question.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
40 weeks ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

After a recent ayahuasca retreat, I thought about this a lot

We’ve only one go at this, we’ve to make the most of it, regardless of we may think we are not in this alone and we should enjoy the time we have with others, it’s never too late to start living

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By *affa31Woman
40 weeks ago

Galway

I don’t think about my own death but I am acutely aware of my parents, my aunts and uncles, and the parents of my closest friends, getting older and that, realistically, sad things are going to start happening in the next few years.

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By *rutus321Man
40 weeks ago

Offaly

Enjoy it while I can,lots of stuff to see and do

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yc5AWImplfE

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I think about it a lot. Dying doesn't worry me. I just hope (probably like everyone) that it’s quick and painless and that my kids will be ok without me."

I think about that sometimes. Part of me thinks I'd like to be aware at the time it happens (preferably without pain obviously) just to experience it, but ultimately I think quick and painless or better still, in my sleep.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Yep, think about it a fair bit as I have stage IV incurable cancer. Not life threatening in itself, like having a chronic illness. Trish Goddard, the English talk show host has it also.

Eh...suppose it has taught me what is valuable in life, what to spend time on & what not to. To take no BS, drama in my life. To hug the people you love while you can.

To do sth nice for yourself every day.

If you are unhappy, figure out why & try to change that.

We dont need so much material stuff in our lives. It wont make ye any happier.

Your health really is your wealth. I cannot buy to have the cancer in me removed. My kids are 15 & 16....trust me when I say it breaks my heart knowing Im not going to be around forever for them.

I've told my twin sister what to do with me after I go ❤️"

Shit ML, sorry to hear that.

I can't even begin to imagine how that would change your outlook on life, but it sounds like you're looking at things pretty clearly.

Was it a process to get to that place or did you already have that perspective on life?

Obviously, only share what you feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

My 1st cancer diagnosis in 2017 was a wakeup call....found out 6mnths later (with sisters help) that my husband was having an affair. Knew he was, just needed the proof. So I divorced him.

2nd diagnosis in 2020 that it has spread to my bones was a shock. Nobody warned me. I dont see that point of this diagnosis tbh! 😅 I'd already learnt my lesson.

Im a very practical person: get done what I need to,do whatever treatment my oncologist tells me to. I've been in counselling for years so I can talk about my own death,fears, regrets etc.

I do consider myself lucky to be alive. It could be a lot worse for me. It still isnt fair; I'm such a good person & all the crap I have been & am still dealing with.....its unfair. But hey,thats life & I look at poor children starving in Gaza. Now thats unfair.

Death awaits us all. Just live your life true to yourself. Be yourself. Be happy. Be nice, f@ck it costs nothing to smile,be pleasant.

I hug the people I care about. Tell my kids all the time Im proud of them. Have no regrets telling the people you love that you love them. Cause one day, you wont be able to do all that & you dont want to regret not hugging your kids enough or telling them you love them.

Thats what I've learnt from facing my own mortality 😘❤️

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By *rystalsswingCouple
40 weeks ago

Galway /West / Dublin

Anyone can drop tonight, tomorrow or the next day.

Live your life, be a nice person, treat people well.

And do your thing ❤️

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By *rystalsswingCouple
40 weeks ago

Galway /West / Dublin

"My 1st cancer diagnosis in 2017 was a wakeup call....found out 6mnths later (with sisters help) that my husband was having an affair. Knew he was, just needed the proof. So I divorced him.

2nd diagnosis in 2020 that it has spread to my bones was a shock. Nobody warned me. I dont see that point of this diagnosis tbh! 😅 I'd already learnt my lesson.

Im a very practical person: get done what I need to,do whatever treatment my oncologist tells me to. I've been in counselling for years so I can talk about my own death,fears, regrets etc.

Death awaits us all. Just live your life true to yourself. Be yourself. Be happy. Be nice, f@ck it costs nothing to smile,be pleasant.

Thats what I've learnt from facing my own mortality 😘❤️"

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By *easingTimMan
40 weeks ago

Loughlinstown

"None of ous know how long we have

left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?"

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"Might be less days ahead of me than behind me"

...is a quote I use to make better use of each day of my life

I look to spend less time for time wasters and hang out with positive people as time is my most important commodity now

However, when it's time to go its time to go

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By *astelloWoman
39 weeks ago

Far far away

Since l hit 50 l think about this more. Less ahead than behind and l regret some of my choices. But lve come to accept we only have the present and the future.

Seeing life ebb away from a family member in their 40s made me evaluate the importance of experience over possessions. Memories are more important than material things.

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By *acDeMan
39 weeks ago

Castledermot

"None of us know how long we have left, in life.

Do you ever think about it and how does it make you feel?

If you didn't know the date you were born, what age would you be ? "

Very good

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By *ammerandthongsCouple
39 weeks ago

Limerick

You're dying from the moment you take your first breath some are fortunate enough to experience everything life has to offer good & bad whether it be decades or moments or anything else inbetween so on that basis I live everyday as it's potentially my last and look to try find a positive in every situation life throws at me.

Amy

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By *attooYouMan
39 weeks ago

just about northside

"My 1st cancer diagnosis in 2017 was a wakeup call....found out 6mnths later (with sisters help) that my husband was having an affair. Knew he was, just needed the proof. So I divorced him.

2nd diagnosis in 2020 that it has spread to my bones was a shock. Nobody warned me. I dont see that point of this diagnosis tbh! 😅 I'd already learnt my lesson.

Im a very practical person: get done what I need to,do whatever treatment my oncologist tells me to. I've been in counselling for years so I can talk about my own death,fears, regrets etc.

Death awaits us all. Just live your life true to yourself. Be yourself. Be happy. Be nice, f@ck it costs nothing to smile,be pleasant.

Thats what I've learnt from facing my own mortality 😘❤️"

Brilliant Brilliant Brilliant

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By *exyScientistsCouple
39 weeks ago

Castlebar

Too many people are taken too soon without warning. Take your opportunities while you can and enjoy every moment because nothing lasts forever.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
39 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"After a recent ayahuasca retreat, I thought about this a lot

Where did you do the Ayahuasca retreat?

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By *ettaMan OP Man
39 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"I don’t think about my own death but I am acutely aware of my parents, my aunts and uncles, and the parents of my closest friends, getting older and that, realistically, sad things are going to start happening in the next few years. "

Ya, I know what you mean.

It was the approaching anniversary of my cousin's passing that must've prompted this thread - it was only afterwards I thought about it. He was the same age as myself.

But I'd say there will be a few people in that older age bracket, close to me, for whom that time is approaching.

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By *ettaMan OP Man
39 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"My 1st cancer diagnosis in 2017 was a wakeup call....found out 6mnths later (with sisters help) that my husband was having an affair. Knew he was, just needed the proof. So I divorced him.

2nd diagnosis in 2020 that it has spread to my bones was a shock. Nobody warned me. I dont see that point of this diagnosis tbh! 😅 I'd already learnt my lesson.

Im a very practical person: get done what I need to,do whatever treatment my oncologist tells me to. I've been in counselling for years so I can talk about my own death,fears, regrets etc.

Death awaits us all. Just live your life true to yourself. Be yourself. Be happy. Be nice, f@ck it costs nothing to smile,be pleasant.

Thats what I've learnt from facing my own mortality 😘❤️"

What a shit thing to have to deal with, on top of the diagnosis.

You sound like you're facing it head on when it would be easier to wallow.

Thank you for sharing your unique insight.

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By *ing PaddyMan
39 weeks ago

South County Dublin

You are amazing Maybe Lady and all you have to go thru with.

I had a scare in my late 20's lucky to be alive.

Your health is definitely your wealth. You just never know when the game is up. The simple things in life are the best.

I'm amazed since covid how some people behave. There is a lot of aggression out there and people demanding their Rights. You have one right in life the right to die with dignity.

My dad died a tragic death and my mother died from parkinson. It was a slow death.

I don't think about it. But I would hate to get old and not be active and just sitting in a nursing home. Although today I've no get up and go.

Keep going Maybe Lady you have been through a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

❤️😘

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
39 weeks ago

DUBLIN

I know and accept I will be dead one day, but I hope it's not for another 25 years. I have lots of plans involving travel, buying a particular car next year to go for an epic road trip in, maybe even fall madly in love and get married! Well, ya never know!

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