FabSwingers.com forum: Do you need connection to have sex with someone

By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

Seen this mention a lot do you need connection to have sex with someone I personally don't need to once I'm attracted to them or am I reading the connection wrong lol

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By *og-ManMan
40 weeks ago

somewhere

Is attraction not a connection

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By *riveronMan
40 weeks ago

And you have to connect part P into part V (M and A) if its your birthday!

Thats a connection!

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

Connection like a one pin plug?

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By *heeky_and_TroubleCouple
40 weeks ago

Dublin

A connection is subjective. For me if there isnt a personality behind the look its a no but thats a what would one do between rounds kinds thing.

It doesnt have to be a big planets aligning to create earth shattering connection thing - T

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By *avey444Man
40 weeks ago

portlaoise

I would have to be attracted to the person and have a connection aswell to be able to chat and to get to know them a bit,coffee or social meet first is best way for me anyway to find out if there is a connection

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By *exyScientistsCouple
40 weeks ago

Castlebar

Attraction, connection, a spark, chemistry....

They all hopefully have the same result...💋😋😈

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By *onny17Man
40 weeks ago

town

"Attraction, connection, a spark, chemistry....

They all hopefully have the same result...💋😋😈"

100% couldn't have sex without a connection. Otherwise everything would be boring and meaningless right? Also respect myself and others more than that to just throw my cock around like a toy.

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By *ettaManMan
40 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I'd have to have some bit of flirting beforehand.

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By *ustBoWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I would think being attracted to someone is part of a connection but,they also have to be someone I can talk to and not feel awkward around and can have a bit of craic with. So yes that much of a connection is needed for me.

If I found someone attractive but I didn't like as a person I would not want to get naked with them as I have never felt that desperate (for lack of a better word)to have sex.

It does not mean I want a relationship with everyone I have had sex with but means at that time I need to like more than just their looks.

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"Is attraction not a connection "
that's what thought but they like deep connection what's that mean dunno lol

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"I would think being attracted to someone is part of a connection but,they also have to be someone I can talk to and not feel awkward around and can have a bit of craic with. So yes that much of a connection is needed for me.

If I found someone attractive but I didn't like as a person I would not want to get naked with them as I have never felt that desperate (for lack of a better word)to have sex.

It does not mean I want a relationship with everyone I have had sex with but means at that time I need to like more than just their looks."
that's fair enough . Different gravy for different people that's what it's all about

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"Attraction, connection, a spark, chemistry....

They all hopefully have the same result...💋😋😈

100% couldn't have sex without a connection. Otherwise everything would be boring and meaningless right? Also respect myself and others more than that to just throw my cock around like a toy."
now now throw it around like boomerang lol

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

My things is different between sex and relationship with sex if women incredible attractive I could have sex with them . But relationship I need things like trust is important have to have banter , be caring don't want ice queen no thanks , be polite can't be dealing with bitchy women lol

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"A connection is subjective. For me if there isnt a personality behind the look its a no but thats a what would one do between rounds kinds thing.

It doesnt have to be a big planets aligning to create earth shattering connection thing - T"
this on point

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"And you have to connect part P into part V (M and A) if its your birthday!

Thats a connection! "
be serious you wee bollox this serious convo lol

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
40 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Yes

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By *ubcityswingersCouple
40 weeks ago

City

It's a yes from us too

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I think it’s more about compatibility. And what type of effect we have on each other. Clicking like

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

We're swingers not a dating site,fuck n go !!

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By *riveronMan
40 weeks ago

"And you have to connect part P into part V (M and A) if its your birthday!

Thats a connection! be serious you wee bollox this serious convo lol "

Putting part P anywhere without permission is a serious issue too! Just keeping yas right!

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"And you have to connect part P into part V (M and A) if its your birthday!

Thats a connection! be serious you wee bollox this serious convo lol

Putting part P anywhere without permission is a serious issue too! Just keeping yas right!

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lol

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By *ealmc1973Man
40 weeks ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

What does term 'connection' means, though?

Mutual attraction and chemistry helps a lot, however I don't need to know my play partner/s' hobbies, interests, political views, favourite holiday destinations and similar.

However if the conversation will touch these subjects...why not?

...if connection is being used as synonym for 'chemistry' and 'attraction' then 'YES'! Mind, body, soul and attitude in harmony works on me anytime.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
40 weeks ago

Newtownabbey

Yes

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By *heCatWhoGotTheCream2024Man
40 weeks ago

Funville

Connection to me means being able to have conversations that keeps the interests of both parties, feeling like it's natural to chat and laugh together, feeling a level of trust and of course there has to be physical attraction.

Would I meet someone for sex that I couldn't have a basic conversation with and/or didnt find attractive? No.

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By *usicman1982Man
40 weeks ago

Coalisland

I think there needs to be something, either attraction or connection. Both is awesome, but with neither, I wouldn’t see the point

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Not on fab. In real life yes.

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I won't have sex with someone I'm not attracted to and I'm not attracted to women that I don't have some form of connection with.

If we aren't on the same wavelength we won't be compatible and if we aren't compatible they won't be getting anywhere near little RB.

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"Not on fab. In real life yes. "
that's true. Don't think need connection unless In relationship for me anyway. If I'm very attractive to someone can have sex with them without a connection / deep connection

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"What does term 'connection' means, though?

Mutual attraction and chemistry helps a lot, however I don't need to know my play partner/s' hobbies, interests, political views, favourite holiday destinations and similar.

However if the conversation will touch these subjects...why not?

...if connection is being used as synonym for 'chemistry' and 'attraction' then 'YES'! Mind, body, soul and attitude in harmony works on me anytime.

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not sure lot women say they need deep connection to have sex with a guy so that means more then been attracted to them women and men are wired differently lol

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By *orth and south69Couple
40 weeks ago

clonmel

Mrs here i definitely need a connection to have sex with someone

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By *obSexyBMan
40 weeks ago

Clare

The word connection means different things to different folk. Lust,now there is a word that could be used. There must be a lustful desire. We lust after many things in life. It could and is by many derived soley from someones appearance and can lost when you see what's behind the appearance.

Lust can be for someone's confidence, even they're lack of confidence, their mannerisms and their words to name just a few.

Connections are built and can't be equated in commen interests and vice versa.

So like minded people who leave lustful desires please.

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By *ake3legsMan
40 weeks ago

Omagh

To be honest I need connection to be fair, I think you need to meet and see first to see if there is with a person or persons before going any further,I would want too enjoy it and have fun as well

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"What does term 'connection' means, though?

Mutual attraction and chemistry helps a lot, however I don't need to know my play partner/s' hobbies, interests, political views, favourite holiday destinations and similar.

However if the conversation will touch these subjects...why not?

...if connection is being used as synonym for 'chemistry' and 'attraction' then 'YES'! Mind, body, soul and attitude in harmony works on me anytime.

not sure lot women say they need deep connection to have sex with a guy so that means more then been attracted to them women and men are wired differently lol "

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

If I was just looking for sex it would have been pretty easy since joining fab.

I'm not looking for a relationship either.

In 9 years on fab I've had sex with 6 different people and turned down about 20 others either because I wasn't physically attracted to them, I didn't like their personality or we were on different journeys.

I'm fussy who I get naked with and I'm attracted to women who are equally as fussy.

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By *he_Boyfriend_ExperienceMan
40 weeks ago

Dublin

"Seen this mention a lot do you need connection to have sex with someone I personally don't need to once I'm attracted to them or am I reading the connection wrong lol "

Nope, I don't need any connection just to have sex.

As long as the hygiene is spot on, I get aroused pretty eaay.

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
40 weeks ago

santry

"What does term 'connection' means, though?

Mutual attraction and chemistry helps a lot, however I don't need to know my play partner/s' hobbies, interests, political views, favourite holiday destinations and similar.

However if the conversation will touch these subjects...why not?

...if connection is being used as synonym for 'chemistry' and 'attraction' then 'YES'! Mind, body, soul and attitude in harmony works on me anytime.

not sure lot women say they need deep connection to have sex with a guy so that means more then been attracted to them women and men are wired differently lol

Not sure about this. In my mind. I’m connected to my partner. The guys on fab are there to fuck me. I’m not looking for a relationship with them just a good few hours. I’m sure they’re not looking for a relationship with me either so everyone leaves happy. Ms"
exactly I just want fuck you as your already in happy relationship makes sense to me . There just fuck abs have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Well it depends if you are with the person you wanna have a connection to them to be with them but if it's only for sex then that's different because that just sex

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By *antra MassageMan
40 weeks ago

a village near you.

I probably could perform without a connection. But it's just that, a performance. I'm only interested in connections first, and maybe sex after. Sex without connection and intimacy doesn't interest me anymore.

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
40 weeks ago

DUBLIN

These days, yes! That fuzzy feeling you can't explain.

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By *isnameismargaretMan
39 weeks ago

Dublin

Yeah but you're probably not going to get as far as a meet if there's no connection between the two people.

I know it's a sex site but the usual rules and dances of matching up still apply, even if the conversation is allowed to be a bit more open due to the platform.

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
39 weeks ago

Sligo/Galway/limerick depends on the day

A connection is good but ive often had sex with ppl just to get rid of them.

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By *witch121Man
39 weeks ago

Cork

Yes, it's always been like that have tried the whole flings, got odd, don't need to be in a relationship but do need to know the person.

Also to have good communication too, that takes a bit of time.

Though no need to be exclusive, just take the time, when the time is there.

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By *isnameismargaretMan
39 weeks ago

Dublin

"A connection is good but ive often had sex with ppl just to get rid of them. "

Post cum fleeing is a very real thing.

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By *obSexyBMan
39 weeks ago

Clare

"A connection is good but ive often had sex with ppl just to get rid of them. "

Haha riding yourself of me in that case

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
39 weeks ago

santry

"A connection is good but ive often had sex with ppl just to get rid of them. "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I've been to group parties and seen a few males getting dressed and legging out the door. No manners or thought for the women at the party. I thought it a very selfish act

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Sex without some connection...spark... chemistry etc is just Sex ..there is no RESPECT on any side & if both want to fuck without anything there that's absolutely no problem but don't expect anything else only going through the motions Sex.

A lady has to feel more that just being a piece of meat ..no ?..has to feel more than " it's an honour for her to be fucked by whatever guy "..to me Sex with a connection , whatever it is , means Sex is more enjoyable for the people involved & could lead to repeats but Sex with a connection is wayyyyy better than Sex without .

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"What does term 'connection' means, though?

Mutual attraction and chemistry helps a lot, however I don't need to know my play partner/s' hobbies, interests, political views, favourite holiday destinations and similar.

However if the conversation will touch these subjects...why not?

...if connection is being used as synonym for 'chemistry' and 'attraction' then 'YES'! Mind, body, soul and attitude in harmony works on me anytime.

not sure lot women say they need deep connection to have sex with a guy so that means more then been attracted to them women and men are wired differently lol

Yes of course you have your needs met by guys on fab BUT even though you might not realise it, you have a connection already ,as in you won't fuck every unless they meet your requirements & you won't fuck guys if you don't find them attractive so by that alone you have a connection with them , you DONT have to have a relationship with them , because you'd have a connection with them doesn't mean you want a relationship with them , maybe l'm wrong here but l don't think you'd have Sex with just anyone , you have your criteria written on your profile to the type of guy you want & that's absolutely perfect , your mind ,your body, to me when you let a guy fuck you you have a connection even if it's only a physical attraction..you're attracted to him .. he's attracted to you ..that's a physical connection straight away.

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By *hiaZen7.5Man
39 weeks ago

Centre

ADHD helps me form connection quicker with the right person... we find each other

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By *obSexyBMan
39 weeks ago

Clare

"A connection is good but ive often had sex with ppl just to get rid of them.

Haha riding yourself of me in that case

Bloody predictive text 'rid'

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By *rystalsswingCouple
39 weeks ago

Galway /West / Dublin

Attraction, connection and a personality 👌

Not as easy to find as one would think!

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By *m158Couple
39 weeks ago

Cork

"Attraction, connection and a personality 👌

Not as easy to find as one would think!"

💯 have to have but yes, definitely not easy to find

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By *otel CaliforniaCouple
39 weeks ago

Dirty old town

A connection for a relationship, an attraction or lust for a ride! Banter is obviously a bonus. I’m going to have that Bloodhound Gang song stuck in my head now…. Mrs

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By *rystalsswingCouple
39 weeks ago

Galway /West / Dublin

"A connection for a relationship, an attraction or lust for a ride! Banter is obviously a bonus. I’m going to have that Bloodhound Gang song stuck in my head now…. Mrs"

You n me baby ain't nothing but mammals so let's do it like they do on the Discovery channel 😎

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"A connection for a relationship, an attraction or lust for a ride! Banter is obviously a bonus. I’m going to have that Bloodhound Gang song stuck in my head now…. Mrs

You n me baby ain't nothing but mammals so let's do it like they do on the Discovery channel 😎"

Brilliant..!👌👌😂😂

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By *rodigal funCouple
39 weeks ago

Antrim Down Derry Tyrone Armagh

There has to be a connection for sure...we'd have an idea by the initial few messages.

Social meet in person then determines if there is a spark, craic, personality, attraction.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
39 weeks ago

Portstewart

Simple answer is for us personally yes

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By *uppy2017Woman
39 weeks ago

galway

I find it very hard to just jump into bed with someone

That’s why I like a coffee and a chat 1st to see if I feel anything towards them

I know it doesn’t suit everyone but that’s how this swinger swings

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By *hePixieAndTheBearCouple
39 weeks ago

Galway

Yes, absolutely. Wish it were different as it'd make things a lot easier, but can't help it.

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
39 weeks ago

santry

"Sex without some connection...spark... chemistry etc is just Sex ..there is no RESPECT on any side & if both want to fuck without anything there that's absolutely no problem but don't expect anything else only going through the motions Sex.

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
39 weeks ago

santry

"I find it very hard to just jump into bed with someone

That’s why I like a coffee and a chat 1st to see if I feel anything towards them

I know it doesn’t suit everyone but that’s how this swinger swings "
I get the coffee meet make sure dude not a complete dickhead

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By *hocoholicWoman
39 weeks ago

The big D

Not in the swinging world, a fuck is a fuck. I do want to have an attraction to them but also if I'm blindfolded I wouldn't care what they look like. In my personal life tho it's a definite.

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
39 weeks ago

santry

"Not in the swinging world, a fuck is a fuck. I do want to have an attraction to them but also if I'm blindfolded I wouldn't care what they look like. In my personal life tho it's a definite. "
exactly I think same in here for sex not relationship and obviously id be very respectful in way have sex treat women with respect when we're doing it for those that think cause I want sex or sex site makes me disrespectful and not good guy lol

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By *a1970Man
39 weeks ago

East cork

I do need a connection

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By *ace400Man
39 weeks ago

near knock

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

We’ve had fun when it’s been just sex but nothing compared to meets where there’s been proper connection.

We’re at stage now where we want something more than just sex performance to something more meaningful

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By *om TangoMan
38 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

"We’ve had fun when it’s been just sex but nothing compared to meets where there’s been proper connection.

We’re at stage now where we want something more than just sex performance to something more meaningful "

Not hard to make a connection with yous two. Very first social and very first couple I met at a social as a single guy.

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By *rishmanabroadMan
38 weeks ago

Dublin Belfast

I learned a lot through Fab. One of those things was that I need a connection to have sex but for me that's all based on 'energy'. How you feel around the people, what the atmosphere is like between you

I've posted before on here about 'erotic blueprints'. These are 'sexual styles' that people might have... There are some people that can just fuck and it's all about genital pleasure (and fair play to them). There are other types where more is required to really enjoy the experience (kinky, sensual, energetic are three examples). People can crossover and be shapeshifters too)...

Anyways key takeaway of the above is to learn about your own sexual style and seek to become literate/aware of other types/styles... gamechanger for compatibility and avoiding misunderstandings...

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By *yesgreenMan
38 weeks ago

north and south

Anyways key takeaway of the above is to learn about your own sexual style and seek to become literate/aware of other types/styles... gamechanger for compatibility and avoiding misunderstandings..."
What ever happened to car keys in the bowl and getting what comes to you ! No if’s and butts lol continuity spontaneity experience excitement ! It’s not as if you ever want to meet afterwards it’s swinging

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By *he gentleman 1000 OP Man
38 weeks ago

santry

"I learned a lot through Fab. One of those things was that I need a connection to have sex but for me that's all based on 'energy'. How you feel around the people, what the atmosphere is like between you. Apparently don't do that in Ireland more like bleeding dating site like tinder etc lol

Anyways key takeaway of the above is to learn about your own sexual style and seek to become literate/aware of other types/styles... gamechanger for compatibility and avoiding misunderstandings...What ever happened to car keys in the bowl and getting what comes to you ! No if’s and butts lol continuity spontaneity experience excitement ! It’s not as if you ever want to meet afterwards it’s swinging "

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By *onny 1000Man
38 weeks ago

Belfast

No I’m happy to do any one if I think there nice looking

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