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"Its not that hot a take and unfortunately the answer is pretty tepid. And it is one of those issues that has a clear answer. Everyone will set their own boundaries. The fun stop when it one person's boundaries do not synch with another's. No ones take in it is wrong, and no ones approach is inherently the right one. Also no its not becoming over regulated the couple you were speaking to just aren't a match for you" I agree with this however.... The 'no kissing rule' especially smacks of insecurity in the relationship and I don't buy the 'keeping something for ourselves' bit. What a couple will always keep for themselves is the intimacy and connection that they share as a committed couple. But we are all different I suppose. Mrs | |||
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"Its not that hot a take and unfortunately the answer is pretty tepid. And it is one of those issues that has a clear answer. Everyone will set their own boundaries. The fun stop when it one person's boundaries do not synch with another's. No ones take in it is wrong, and no ones approach is inherently the right one. Also no its not becoming over regulated the couple you were speaking to just aren't a match for you" | |||
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"Its not that hot a take and unfortunately the answer is pretty tepid. And it is one of those issues that has a clear answer. Everyone will set their own boundaries. The fun stop when it one person's boundaries do not synch with another's. No ones take in it is wrong, and no ones approach is inherently the right one. Also no its not becoming over regulated the couple you were speaking to just aren't a match for you I agree with this however.... The 'no kissing rule' especially smacks of insecurity in the relationship and I don't buy the 'keeping something for ourselves' bit. What a couple will always keep for themselves is the intimacy and connection that they share as a committed couple. But we are all different I suppose. Mrs | |||
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"I agree with you on that, Mrs — especially the “no kissing” thing. To me, that’s more about insecurity than preserving intimacy. The bond and connection you share as a couple is something no one else can replicate, kiss or no kiss. I get that everyone has their own comfort zones, but if you’re already sharing bodies, banning lips just feels a bit backwards 🤷♂️. Its not that hot a take and unfortunately the answer is pretty tepid. And it is one of those issues that has a clear answer. Everyone will set their own boundaries. The fun stop when it one person's boundaries do not synch with another's. No ones take in it is wrong, and no ones approach is inherently the right one. Also no its not becoming over regulated the couple you were speaking to just aren't a match for you I agree with this however.... The 'no kissing rule' especially smacks of insecurity in the relationship and I don't buy the 'keeping something for ourselves' bit. What a couple will always keep for themselves is the intimacy and connection that they share as a committed couple. But we are all different I suppose. Mrs Careful there about judging rules that others have. It's ok for them to have them. There are no bad rules, just compatible rules and in incompatible rules. | |||
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"Yes it's still swinging. It wouldn't be my choice (we don't have rules for each other) but it's their choice. " | |||
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"I don't have a problem with anyone setting rules on their own profile or having preferences clearly stated because I can make an informed decision whether to chat with them or not. I do however take issue when a profile I've never spoken to before sends an introductory message full of instructions and rules. I've found this is often the case with well verified profiles who feel that others are grateful for the attention and will go along with their list of rules in the hope of just being associated with them and their perceived status on fab. I'm all for preferences but telling someone you've never spoken to before that they have to book a room and fuck off after the missus gives them a BJ and let us enjoy the room isn't a preference. That's just a couple of arrogant pricks. Bullet point messages to Lose the beard or you won't be fucking me Play bi or phone no and facepic now, aren't rules either. And yes, all from "popular" forum users who often clutch their pearls on here in shock at how others act. " Surely it's better to hear about these rules up front rather than down the line? | |||
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"I don't have a problem with anyone setting rules on their own profile or having preferences clearly stated because I can make an informed decision whether to chat with them or not. I do however take issue when a profile I've never spoken to before sends an introductory message full of instructions and rules. I've found this is often the case with well verified profiles who feel that others are grateful for the attention and will go along with their list of rules in the hope of just being associated with them and their perceived status on fab. I'm all for preferences but telling someone you've never spoken to before that they have to book a room and fuck off after the missus gives them a BJ and let us enjoy the room isn't a preference. That's just a couple of arrogant pricks. Bullet point messages to Lose the beard or you won't be fucking me Play bi or phone no and facepic now, aren't rules either. And yes, all from "popular" forum users who often clutch their pearls on here in shock at how others act. " Do you ever have bad experiences with profiles that aren't well known well verified and popular 🤣 | |||
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"I don't have a problem with anyone setting rules on their own profile or having preferences clearly stated because I can make an informed decision whether to chat with them or not. I do however take issue when a profile I've never spoken to before sends an introductory message full of instructions and rules. I've found this is often the case with well verified profiles who feel that others are grateful for the attention and will go along with their list of rules in the hope of just being associated with them and their perceived status on fab. I'm all for preferences but telling someone you've never spoken to before that they have to book a room and fuck off after the missus gives them a BJ and let us enjoy the room isn't a preference. That's just a couple of arrogant pricks. Bullet point messages to Lose the beard or you won't be fucking me Play bi or phone no and facepic now, aren't rules either. And yes, all from "popular" forum users who often clutch their pearls on here in shock at how others act. Surely it's better to hear about these rules up front rather than down the line?" I agree but there is a difference between a passive list on a profile and an aggressive list sent in a PM to a complete stranger. I can ignore the former but the latter often comes with insults and threats when refused. | |||
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"I don't have a problem with anyone setting rules on their own profile or having preferences clearly stated because I can make an informed decision whether to chat with them or not. I do however take issue when a profile I've never spoken to before sends an introductory message full of instructions and rules. I've found this is often the case with well verified profiles who feel that others are grateful for the attention and will go along with their list of rules in the hope of just being associated with them and their perceived status on fab. I'm all for preferences but telling someone you've never spoken to before that they have to book a room and fuck off after the missus gives them a BJ and let us enjoy the room isn't a preference. That's just a couple of arrogant pricks. Bullet point messages to Lose the beard or you won't be fucking me Play bi or phone no and facepic now, aren't rules either. And yes, all from "popular" forum users who often clutch their pearls on here in shock at how others act. Do you ever have bad experiences with profiles that aren't well known well verified and popular 🤣" I can count on one hand the bad experiences I've had on fab. I don't class any of the above as bad experiences. They're just words on a screen. The well verified and popular comment is to highlight that shitty behaviour isn't limited to newbies but some have a level of expectation that others are happy to enable. | |||
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"I don't have a problem with anyone setting rules on their own profile or having preferences clearly stated because I can make an informed decision whether to chat with them or not. I do however take issue when a profile I've never spoken to before sends an introductory message full of instructions and rules. I've found this is often the case with well verified profiles who feel that others are grateful for the attention and will go along with their list of rules in the hope of just being associated with them and their perceived status on fab. I'm all for preferences but telling someone you've never spoken to before that they have to book a room and fuck off after the missus gives them a BJ and let us enjoy the room isn't a preference. That's just a couple of arrogant pricks. Bullet point messages to Lose the beard or you won't be fucking me Play bi or phone no and facepic now, aren't rules either. And yes, all from "popular" forum users who often clutch their pearls on here in shock at how others act. " | |||
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"As a not so newbie I am tightly clutching my pearls at the thought of receiving nasty messages from some entitled fabbers who have prohibitive lists of rules for those who they will meet. My jewels have never been so tightly gripped, in anticipation of an avalanche of abuse." | |||
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"Was chatting to a couple, who had so many rules I felt like I needed to sign a legally binding contract before touching their arm 🤷♂️😂 No kissing, no touching here, no touching there, no eye contact unless during a leap year… I get that boundaries are important, but at what point do rules kill the fun? Is the scene becoming too… over-regulated?🙄 Or do clear rules make the experience better? **It’s a hot take, go easy on me" yep those profiles that like small book take one look like fuck that here have fun not be given million rules to follow lol | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie." You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie " Or, in the absence of a woman, to an apple pie. | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie " apple crumbles more my style lol | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie apple crumbles more my style lol" How the cookie crumbles is more mine | |||
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"I have my rules that I stick by. My main one is that if someone keeps rescheduling or moving the goal posts I cut my losses as I know they don't respect me or my time. If someone is pushy then they aren't for me If someone treats me like a thank you who is next. I'd never meet them again. Though really they should be unwritten ruled for everyone here . " These rules could equally apply to all dating and even friendships other than the “thank you, next” | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie apple crumbles more my style lol How the cookie crumbles is more mine depend what type of cookie it is, I prefare the gooey ones | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie Or, in the absence of a woman, to an apple pie." | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie Or, in the absence of a woman, to an apple pie." I assumed that was implied | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie. You'd be surprised what I could do for free apple pie apple crumbles more my style lol How the cookie crumbles is more mine A gooey cookie 🍪 | |||
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"I feel like an excess of rules would indicate a kind of rigidity that I would find inhibitory and therefore negative craic for me personally. I do respect any couple that have found a way to negotiate an ENM relationship that works for them though." | |||
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"Each to their own regarding rules provided they say before arranging a meet we generally don't meet people with a list of rules purely as it doesn't suit what we look for as we don't do rules with meets and personally I like kissing which is the most common one which if I can't kiss someone I'm not going to want to shag them. Amy " | |||
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"The first rule of fab club, never start a thread questioning other people's approach to fab club (unless they're single males). The second rule of fab club, if you're a single male, always start a thread bemoaning the lack of replies." | |||
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"No fence sitters on this thread!! Ah yes, the ancient scripture of Fab Club, etched into stone tablets and handed down by the elders… right after they finished not getting any replies themselves. 😏haha Appreciate the reminder, sensei. Shall I bow before posting too, or is that the third rule? The first rule of fab club, never start a thread questioning other people's approach to fab club (unless they're single males). The second rule of fab club, if you're a single male, always start a thread bemoaning the lack of replies." | |||
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"No fence sitters on this thread!! Ah yes, the ancient scripture of Fab Club, etched into stone tablets and handed down by the elders… right after they finished not getting any replies themselves. 😏haha Appreciate the reminder, sensei. Shall I bow before posting too, or is that the third rule? " The third rule of fab club is, don't have too many rules. | |||
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"Anyone who can fuck someone without looking at them or kissing them should give themselves a round of applause, or maybe an apple pie." Totally agree with you!!! | |||
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"No fence sitters on this thread!! Ah yes, the ancient scripture of Fab Club, etched into stone tablets and handed down by the elders… right after they finished not getting any replies themselves. 😏haha Appreciate the reminder, sensei. Shall I bow before posting too, or is that the third rule? The third rule of fab club is, don't have too many rules." I thought its you dont talk about Fab club | |||
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" I thought its you dont talk about Fab club " That was amended, when they last updated the Ts & C's. They wanted to pursue a new growth strategy | |||
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" I thought its you dont talk about Fab club That was amended, when they last updated the Ts & C's. They wanted to pursue a new growth strategy " When the ladies post sexy videos that definitely encourages a growth strategy | |||
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"" The only rule is ...there are no rules " 🤣🤣" Well there's one very important rule and it's consent | |||
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" When the ladies post sexy videos that definitely encourages a growth strategy " Indeed. It's more than just the stock price that rises | |||
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