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"I still hold doors for anyone coming through regardless of gender but I've had abuse a handful of times from women for doing so. Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? She was half my age. " Had simular experience whitch promped my post. | |||
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"Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt?" I hope your reply was, “Are yours?” | |||
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"It's a fine line depending on how far they are from the door. If you help them it's polite, if you make them rush to the door because you're holding it open, it's annoying. Just gotta judge it" Ah no, that's grand actually. When that happens I just bend down and start sprinting towards the door, watching fear and realisation build up in their eyes in slow motion leading to a release of the door in a futile attempt to turn around and flee as I finally breach the contact perimeter and rugby tackle them to the ground. The HR department loves me.  | |||
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"I don't get the passive aggressive "your welcome" if they don't say thanks. Are you doing it to be kind or to be thanked?" Manners, costs nothing to say thanks to someone else holding a door for you. If someone serves you a pint, coffee, food etc most peole would say thanks as well | |||
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"I don't get the passive aggressive "your welcome" if they don't say thanks. Are you doing it to be kind or to be thanked? Manners, costs nothing to say thanks to someone else holding a door for you. If someone serves you a pint, coffee, food etc most peole would say thanks as well " It costs nothing and most people would yes. But it doesn't mean if they don't I'm gonna act put out by it or mutter under my breath about it | |||
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"I don't get the passive aggressive "your welcome" if they don't say thanks. Are you doing it to be kind or to be thanked? Manners, costs nothing to say thanks to someone else holding a door for you. If someone serves you a pint, coffee, food etc most peole would say thanks as well It costs nothing and most people would yes. But it doesn't mean if they don't I'm gonna act put out by it or mutter under my breath about it" Not aggressive and not muttering. Manners is free and personally i dont like bad manners. I dont do it for reward. If i was id get a job as a porter. | |||
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"I will always hold the door open for the person behind me, even if theyre a little bit further away. I was only saying yesterday is this becoming a thing of the past. I was in a coffee shop and was leaving with my child in the buggy and as I was approaching to pull the door open a man came to the door at the same to enter. He got to the door first so I thought great he will at least hold the door save me trying to open, hold with my foot and pushed the buggy out. Nope he walked in and left the door close, there is no way he didn't know i was leaving. So had to open the door again, hold with foot and manoeuvre the buggy out! So rude. " I hate this. Drives me mental. | |||
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"I don't get the passive aggressive "your welcome" if they don't say thanks. Are you doing it to be kind or to be thanked? Manners, costs nothing to say thanks to someone else holding a door for you. If someone serves you a pint, coffee, food etc most peole would say thanks as well It costs nothing and most people would yes. But it doesn't mean if they don't I'm gonna act put out by it or mutter under my breath about it Not aggressive and not muttering. Manners is free and personally i dont like bad manners. I dont do it for reward. If i was id get a job as a porter. " Agree it's just bad manners. None of us hold the door for a pat on the back but a thank you doesn't cost anything. | |||
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"I always hold or open for ladies when I am in guy mode" Just ladies? Or anyone? | |||
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"I don't get the passive aggressive "your welcome" if they don't say thanks. Are you doing it to be kind or to be thanked? Manners, costs nothing to say thanks to someone else holding a door for you. If someone serves you a pint, coffee, food etc most peole would say thanks as well It costs nothing and most people would yes. But it doesn't mean if they don't I'm gonna act put out by it or mutter under my breath about it Not aggressive and not muttering. Manners is free and personally i dont like bad manners. I dont do it for reward. If i was id get a job as a porter. Agree it's just bad manners. None of us hold the door for a pat on the back but a thank you doesn't cost anything." I'm not arguing that it's bad manners not to thank someone. I just think by making something out of it that doesn't need to be to other person becomes as bad | |||
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"It's a fine line depending on how far they are from the door. If you help them it's polite, if you make them rush to the door because you're holding it open, it's annoying. Just gotta judge it" Yeah this... I hate it when someone holds the door forcing me to speed up. I'm happy to open a door myself. I generally slow down or look away so they don't. Also I'm very impatient, and always in a hurry and if I'm stood there waiting for them to speed up I'd be worried I'd just give up 🙈 And where I work it's all security doors and it's not a good idea to hold them open for just anyone. | |||
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"Its polite. Doesnt matter who its for. But i have to say it bugs me when they dont say thanks or acknowledge it. If they dont i always say "your welcome" and make sure they hear me. " You'd kinda ruin your act of good manners by getting smart about it if they don't reciprocate though. I know it's rude when someone doesnt acknowledge your considerate action but that's on them. Who knows what's going on there. You do you!
I hold the door for others, especially buggy pushers! I've been that soldier😂 | |||
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"I always hold or open for ladies when I am in guy mode" Perhaps you can describe the difference between how you would treat men Vs women in this situation? | |||
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"Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? I hope your reply was, “Are yours?”" No I didn't reply at all or lower myself to her level. If she had said nothing I would have thought she was rude but again I wouldn't have said anything. If she wasn't capable of acknowledging another human being for a 2 second act of courtesy there was a good possibility that any form of response was just going to trigger her completely. On 2 different occasions that I've had mild abuse it was when there were a group of women and it was done to embarrass me in front of their friends. Both times the women were in their late 40s or early 50s and it was more of an announcement than a passing comment. One of my grandsons who is 12 held a door for a woman a few weeks ago and she asked him if he was gay because a real man would never hold a door for anyone. His 10 year old brother was once shouted at for holding a door by a man who told him he was more than fit to open a door and didn't need some child doing it for him. | |||
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"Is holding a door for a lady or persons unknown still polite or has it become sexist too." Always for anyone. | |||
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"I hold it for anyone , I was taught that from a young age by my parents " Yup, taught from a young age to be polite. Maybe that one small gesture will lift a bad day. It's a genderless thought, when everybody seems to be out for themselves so much(Bus cuers, I'm looking in your direction). | |||
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"I still hold doors for anyone coming through regardless of gender but I've had abuse a handful of times from women for doing so. Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? She was half my age. " Wtf?! How did you respond to that?? Or did you? I don’t know what I’d say in that situation. What’s an appropriate response? | |||
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"It's a minefield!😳 My gym is upstairs. If there's someone ahead of me on the stairs, I like to keep well back, so they don't feel like I'm staring at their arse! 👀 But then.. if they hold the door at the top of the stairs, I'm like 'oh fuck'... now I have run up these stairs 🥵 - so they're not holding it too long 😫 I'll still say (an out of breath) thanks, but I'll be quietly raging!!🤣🤣 Minefield 🤦♂️" Methinks you're doing the gym wrong if taking the stairs gets you out of puff🤔😂😂 | |||
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"It's a minefield!😳 My gym is upstairs. If there's someone ahead of me on the stairs, I like to keep well back, so they don't feel like I'm staring at their arse! 👀 But then.. if they hold the door at the top of the stairs, I'm like 'oh fuck'... now I have run up these stairs 🥵 - so they're not holding it too long 😫 I'll still say (an out of breath) thanks, but I'll be quietly raging!!🤣🤣 Minefield 🤦♂️ Methinks you're doing the gym wrong if taking the stairs gets you out of puff🤔😂😂 " Yeah i thought that on reading! Then i seen the photos 🥵🥵🥵 | |||
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"It's a minefield!😳 My gym is upstairs. If there's someone ahead of me on the stairs, I like to keep well back, so they don't feel like I'm staring at their arse! 👀 But then.. if they hold the door at the top of the stairs, I'm like 'oh fuck'... now I have run up these stairs 🥵 - so they're not holding it too long 😫 I'll still say (an out of breath) thanks, but I'll be quietly raging!!🤣🤣 Minefield 🤦♂️ Methinks you're doing the gym wrong if taking the stairs gets you out of puff🤔😂😂 Yeah i thought that on reading! Then i seen the photos 🥵🥵🥵" Top marks for effort though!! 🏆 | |||
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"Is holding a door for a lady or persons unknown still polite or has it become sexist too." Polite. I love old school politeness Misses | |||
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"Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? I hope your reply was, “Are yours?” No I didn't reply at all or lower myself to her level. If she had said nothing I would have thought she was rude but again I wouldn't have said anything. If she wasn't capable of acknowledging another human being for a 2 second act of courtesy there was a good possibility that any form of response was just going to trigger her completely. On 2 different occasions that I've had mild abuse it was when there were a group of women and it was done to embarrass me in front of their friends. Both times the women were in their late 40s or early 50s and it was more of an announcement than a passing comment. One of my grandsons who is 12 held a door for a woman a few weeks ago and she asked him if he was gay because a real man would never hold a door for anyone. His 10 year old brother was once shouted at for holding a door by a man who told him he was more than fit to open a door and didn't need some child doing it for him. " Where are these arseholes living? Whatever about not saying thanks, but to make a deal of it! I hold the door and also will say 'you're welcome' if they don't say thanks. And yes I am making something of it. Seems manners are a thing of the past, definitely dying out. It reflects the quality of society, and Dublin is shocking. C | |||
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"Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? I hope your reply was, “Are yours?” No I didn't reply at all or lower myself to her level. If she had said nothing I would have thought she was rude but again I wouldn't have said anything. If she wasn't capable of acknowledging another human being for a 2 second act of courtesy there was a good possibility that any form of response was just going to trigger her completely. On 2 different occasions that I've had mild abuse it was when there were a group of women and it was done to embarrass me in front of their friends. Both times the women were in their late 40s or early 50s and it was more of an announcement than a passing comment. One of my grandsons who is 12 held a door for a woman a few weeks ago and she asked him if he was gay because a real man would never hold a door for anyone. His 10 year old brother was once shouted at for holding a door by a man who told him he was more than fit to open a door and didn't need some child doing it for him. Where are these arseholes living? Whatever about not saying thanks, but to make a deal of it! I hold the door and also will say 'you're welcome' if they don't say thanks. And yes I am making something of it. Seems manners are a thing of the past, definitely dying out. It reflects the quality of society, and Dublin is shocking. C " Was just thinking, where are these people living! As I said above I hold the door open for anyone regardless of age or gender, have never gotten abuse. | |||
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"Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? I hope your reply was, “Are yours?” No I didn't reply at all or lower myself to her level. If she had said nothing I would have thought she was rude but again I wouldn't have said anything. If she wasn't capable of acknowledging another human being for a 2 second act of courtesy there was a good possibility that any form of response was just going to trigger her completely. On 2 different occasions that I've had mild abuse it was when there were a group of women and it was done to embarrass me in front of their friends. Both times the women were in their late 40s or early 50s and it was more of an announcement than a passing comment. One of my grandsons who is 12 held a door for a woman a few weeks ago and she asked him if he was gay because a real man would never hold a door for anyone. His 10 year old brother was once shouted at for holding a door by a man who told him he was more than fit to open a door and didn't need some child doing it for him. Where are these arseholes living? Whatever about not saying thanks, but to make a deal of it! I hold the door and also will say 'you're welcome' if they don't say thanks. And yes I am making something of it. Seems manners are a thing of the past, definitely dying out. It reflects the quality of society, and Dublin is shocking. C Was just thinking, where are these people living! As I said above I hold the door open for anyone regardless of age or gender, have never gotten abuse." I will always hold the door, I have never once received abuse or anything close to it. How could you abuse someone for something like that!? Absolutely unhinged carry on 😂🙈 | |||
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"Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? I hope your reply was, “Are yours?” No I didn't reply at all or lower myself to her level. If she had said nothing I would have thought she was rude but again I wouldn't have said anything. If she wasn't capable of acknowledging another human being for a 2 second act of courtesy there was a good possibility that any form of response was just going to trigger her completely. On 2 different occasions that I've had mild abuse it was when there were a group of women and it was done to embarrass me in front of their friends. Both times the women were in their late 40s or early 50s and it was more of an announcement than a passing comment. One of my grandsons who is 12 held a door for a woman a few weeks ago and she asked him if he was gay because a real man would never hold a door for anyone. His 10 year old brother was once shouted at for holding a door by a man who told him he was more than fit to open a door and didn't need some child doing it for him. Where are these arseholes living? Whatever about not saying thanks, but to make a deal of it! I hold the door and also will say 'you're welcome' if they don't say thanks. And yes I am making something of it. Seems manners are a thing of the past, definitely dying out. It reflects the quality of society, and Dublin is shocking. C Was just thinking, where are these people living! As I said above I hold the door open for anyone regardless of age or gender, have never gotten abuse. I will always hold the door, I have never once received abuse or anything close to it. How could you abuse someone for something like that!? Absolutely unhinged carry on 😂🙈" The world is gone mad. | |||
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"Where are these arseholes living? Whatever about not saying thanks, but to make a deal of it! I hold the door and also will say 'you're welcome' if they don't say thanks. And yes I am making something of it. Seems manners are a thing of the past, definitely dying out. It reflects the quality of society, and Dublin is shocking. C Was just thinking, where are these people living! As I said above I hold the door open for anyone regardless of age or gender, have never gotten abuse. I will always hold the door, I have never once received abuse or anything close to it. How could you abuse someone for something like that!? Absolutely unhinged carry on 😂🙈 The world is gone mad." I think arseholes have existed since the dawn of time, they just find new and inventive ways of plying their trade!  | |||
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"It's a minefield!😳 My gym is upstairs. If there's someone ahead of me on the stairs, I like to keep well back, so they don't feel like I'm staring at their arse! 👀 But then.. if they hold the door at the top of the stairs, I'm like 'oh fuck'... now I have run up these stairs 🥵 - so they're not holding it too long 😫 I'll still say (an out of breath) thanks, but I'll be quietly raging!!🤣🤣 Minefield 🤦♂️" I’d have let the door close just as you got there……..🖕😂😂 | |||
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"I can’t believe some of the stories of abuse here, holy fuck, what sort of a world are we living in. Thankfully I’ve never experienced anything more than not being acknowledged for holding a door open, and I thought that was rude, but I’ll continue to do it and teach the next generation to do the same. Manners, courtesy and sense are not as common as they once were…….. " | |||
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"I still hold doors for anyone coming through regardless of gender but I've had abuse a handful of times from women for doing so. Some were just rude about it and made some snide comment but one asked me if my parents were proud of raising a cunt? She was half my age. " Really? Maybe she was talking to herself | |||
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" Wow, I'm shocked by the level of abuse some people have experienced, I've had a little but nothing to these levels. I'll always hold the door open for anyone and everyone. I don't remember being taught it growing up, it just seems the right thing to do. Can get a little embarrassing when lots of people come through at once and you're stood there a while. I held the door open for a fella coming the other way in a busy shopping centre yesterday...I'm still here now. " Brilliant | |||
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