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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " Loads of married men here unsurprisingly. I even live with one  | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought Loads of married men here unsurprisingly. I even live with one "Are you having second thoughts  | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought Loads of married men here unsurprisingly. I even live with one "🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " you should repost that to how many would meet a married woman on here. Your reply would be a massive contrast | |||
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"I wouldn't meet anyone without a second thought, married or not "well said! | |||
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"...So how do you know if his married or not?..." Ring on his finger? Talk about his wife? Calling you the wrong name before, during or after? Photo of 'the other women' in his pocket? Tattoo with heart and some name on his arse? Checking his watch constantly? ...as long as he doesn't leave a few banknotes on the locker after the session, all is fine 
And, yes, no, I have no issues meeting married men... But, pub meets don't count, or do they? | |||
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"Most married men can keep a secret better than single guys
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " I’m sure there are plenty of women on here and in life that would meet a married man. There is also plenty of married women on here and judgement is never passed on them at all. I see plenty of profiles with won’t meet attached men or married men but never see a female profile who is bisexual or bicurious have written on their profile that they won’t meet married or attached women, it’s just assumed, men on here are cheaters. 🤠 | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought I’m sure there are plenty of women on here and in life that would meet a married man. There is also plenty of married women on here and judgement is never passed on them at all. I see plenty of profiles with won’t meet attached men or married men but never see a female profile who is bisexual or bicurious have written on their profile that they won’t meet married or attached women, it’s just assumed, men on here are cheaters. 🤠" The simple fact is that it's married men who constantly draw attention to themselves in the forum whether it's to have a whinge or justify their actions. Women seem to keep their head down and get on with it. | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought I’m sure there are plenty of women on here and in life that would meet a married man. There is also plenty of married women on here and judgement is never passed on them at all. I see plenty of profiles with won’t meet attached men or married men but never see a female profile who is bisexual or bicurious have written on their profile that they won’t meet married or attached women, it’s just assumed, men on here are cheaters. 🤠 The simple fact is that it's married men who constantly draw attention to themselves in the forum whether it's to have a whinge or justify their actions. Women seem to keep their head down and get on with it. " That’s so true. Different sides of the brain it seems. The lads need to keep their heads down. | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought I’m sure there are plenty of women on here and in life that would meet a married man. There is also plenty of married women on here and judgement is never passed on them at all. I see plenty of profiles with won’t meet attached men or married men but never see a female profile who is bisexual or bicurious have written on their profile that they won’t meet married or attached women, it’s just assumed, men on here are cheaters. 🤠" there are very few single bi sexual women on here and in all my 6 years on and off here I've only ever been contacted by maybe a handful of women its usually couples or single men so to answer your hypothesis there is not much call for single women to put on there profile won't meet attached or married women because when it comes down to it what man in a relationship would say no to having his cake and eating it with his partner consenting and join the fun its all about trust and respect | |||
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"That's a point I never thought of so I'm off to update our profile now I just never thought of it to state it x " It doesn't matter whether you say it or not, take it from me  | |||
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(living my best life these days though - so in hindsight he kinda did me a favour, just didn't feel like that back then!)
Everyone has different opinions and boundaries and all that matters at the end of the day is about respecting that. Sadly, there are those who don't or won't take no for an answer...so they get the block button | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " Nope. Nor singles. Don't mind a married lady. | |||
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"Each to their own but attached/married men possibly are most suitable for attached/married ladies. Similiar circumstances, discretion likely guaranteed also.🤷♂️Let’s be having you. " Yep, married guys less likely to spill the beans
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"Each to their own but attached/married men possibly are most suitable for attached/married ladies. Similiar circumstances, discretion likely guaranteed also.🤷♂️Let’s be having you. Yep, married guys less likely to spill the beans
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" On fab, once people are open from the start, generally we are all here for the same reason, friendship and fun, not a relationship or to get emotionally attached. Be open and honest on here, some people will suit each other and some won't. Be kind and move on. " When you say "from the start", where is the start? Is it answering a direct question when asked, or does it mean putting it on your profile? Because the latter would be my interpretation of "from the start" and yet not one attached/married guy who has commented on this thread has indicated this on their profiles. It's like drawing blood from a stone if you are 'lucky' and they actually admit it. Mrs. | |||
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"My status is on my profile from day one. At least it gives people a choice whether to interact or not, or hit the block button " | |||
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"The simple fact is that it's married men who constantly draw attention to themselves in the forum whether it's to have a whinge or justify their actions. Women seem to keep their head down and get on with it." • I couldn't agree more. Married men on here unwittingly reveal themselves to the point of utter disdain from other people. Last year every woman I chatted to, 'met' or socialised with was married. Half of them were from the forums but didn't advertise their circumstances. | |||
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"Definitely wouldn't meet married or attached men unless in a couples situation but his partner would have to be with him and as most women know unless there honest how are we to know or not " I may just get myself a notarized letter with her signature. | |||
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"I’d wager that most married men on here would give anything to be here with their wife, I know I would. but life doesn’t always work out the way you’d like or wish!! " · Equally so, I would wager most married women •wouldn't• want their husbands to be on here. | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " Yes I would, i don't need to know about their situation or their private life | |||
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"I’d wager that most married men on here would give anything to be here with their wife, I know I would. but life doesn’t always work out the way you’d like or wish!! " Yep, same. Tried but wasn't interested | |||
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"I’d wager that most married men on here would give anything to be here with their wife, I know I would. but life doesn’t always work out the way you’d like or wish!! · Equally so, I would wager most married women •wouldn't• want their husbands to be on here. "Very true | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought Yes I would, i don't need to know about their situation or their private life " Nice to see someone say it as it is!! Ps… your not actually 51 are you?? | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " No I wouldn't but each to their own | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought Yes I would, i don't need to know about their situation or their private life Nice to see someone say it as it is!! Ps… your not actually 51 are you??" Maybe | |||
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" Nice to see someone say it as it is!! " This basically just means "nice to see someone say what I agree with" I hate that phrase | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought Yes I would, i don't need to know about their situation or their private life Nice to see someone say it as it is!! Ps… your not actually 51 are you?? Maybe "• Psst!....she's 50½. 🤫 | |||
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"I don’t speak for all but most women on here are on here for themselves why should they care about someone’s private life or situation at home, on the other hand some women on here have been probably been cheated on previously so they don’t want to see married men as they will see themselves as home wreckers. " I disagree with the comment. If I'm playing with a married guy, I consider him a home wrecker, not me. But no, we wouldn't go there. | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought Yes I would, i don't need to know about their situation or their private life Nice to see someone say it as it is!! Ps… your not actually 51 are you?? Maybe
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"I don’t speak for all but most women on here are on here for themselves why should they care about someone’s private life or situation at home, on the other hand some women on here have been probably been cheated on previously so they don’t want to see married men as they will see themselves as home wreckers. " The women are the home wrecker?? Really?? Not the cheating husbands?? Jesus. | |||
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"I don’t speak for all but most women on here are on here for themselves why should they care about someone’s private life or situation at home, on the other hand some women on here have been probably been cheated on previously so they don’t want to see married men as they will see themselves as home wreckers. The women are the home wrecker?? Really?? Not the cheating husbands?? Jesus." That's taken what he said slight out of context. And yes women on here who have been cheated on have often said they wouldn't want to be the cause or contribute to the same happening to another woman. | |||
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"I don’t speak for all but most women on here are on here for themselves why should they care about someone’s private life or situation at home, on the other hand some women on here have been probably been cheated on previously so they don’t want to see married men as they will see themselves as home wreckers. The women are the home wrecker?? Really?? Not the cheating husbands?? Jesus. That's taken what he said slight out of context. And yes women on here who have been cheated on have often said they wouldn't want to be the cause or contribute to the same happening to another woman." I accept that - apologies OP. | |||
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"I’d wager that most married men on here would give anything to be here with their wife, I know I would. but life doesn’t always work out the way you’d like or wish!! " 👍 | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is " This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is " I think you're confusing judgment with preferences. Easily done.. by some. | |||
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" On fab, once people are open from the start, generally we are all here for the same reason, friendship and fun, not a relationship or to get emotionally attached. Be open and honest on here, some people will suit each other and some won't. Be kind and move on. When you say "from the start", where is the start? Is it answering a direct question when asked, or does it mean putting it on your profile? Because the latter would be my interpretation of "from the start" and yet not one attached/married guy who has commented on this thread has indicated this on their profiles. It's like drawing blood from a stone if you are 'lucky' and they actually admit it. Mrs." I think from the start of the conversation is a fair place to call "the start". It only becomes your business or concern at that point. Before then, you don't need to know. | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is I think you're confusing judgment with preferences. Easily done.. by some." Well I get its preference in some cases and where someone says not for me that’s perfect. But lots of profiles use judgy language like not interested in cheaters ect .. | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. " Not really attitude more an observation. There may be more to a persons Story than just married = cheater | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. Not really attitude more an observation. There may be more to a persons Story than just married = cheater" Thats fair and everyone's story is their own. However where there is no gray area for alot of people is consent. And regardless of the circumstances if you are creating a non monogamous relationship without the consent of your partner alot of people will not want to meet | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought " Cough cough | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. Not really attitude more an observation. There may be more to a persons Story than just married = cheater Thats fair and everyone's story is their own. However where there is no gray area for alot of people is consent. And regardless of the circumstances if you are creating a non monogamous relationship without the consent of your partner alot of people will not want to meet " I agree 100% just there is a fair bit of judgement around it too .. just surprising that’s all. | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. Not really attitude more an observation. There may be more to a persons Story than just married = cheater Thats fair and everyone's story is their own. However where there is no gray area for alot of people is consent. And regardless of the circumstances if you are creating a non monogamous relationship without the consent of your partner alot of people will not want to meet I agree 100% just there is a fair bit of judgement around it too .. just surprising that’s all. " Why are you surprised though? Its not really a widely applauded way to act | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought I’m sure there are plenty of women on here and in life that would meet a married man. There is also plenty of married women on here and judgement is never passed on them at all. I see plenty of profiles with won’t meet attached men or married men but never see a female profile who is bisexual or bicurious have written on their profile that they won’t meet married or attached women, it’s just assumed, men on here are cheaters. 🤠" That's a fact. | |||
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"So who on here would meet a married man without a second thought I’m sure there are plenty of women on here and in life that would meet a married man. There is also plenty of married women on here and judgement is never passed on them at all. I see plenty of profiles with won’t meet attached men or married men but never see a female profile who is bisexual or bicurious have written on their profile that they won’t meet married or attached women, it’s just assumed, men on here are cheaters. 🤠 The simple fact is that it's married men who constantly draw attention to themselves in the forum whether it's to have a whinge or justify their actions. Women seem to keep their head down and get on with it. " I disagree..I tell people straight away I'm married in an open relationship, that my wife does the same. It saves loads questions in the future. I don't feel the need to explain myself after that. There are some married women on here that cheat, I say some not all. Not all married people on here cheat. | |||
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" On fab, once people are open from the start, generally we are all here for the same reason, friendship and fun, not a relationship or to get emotionally attached. Be open and honest on here, some people will suit each other and some won't. Be kind and move on. When you say "from the start", where is the start? Is it answering a direct question when asked, or does it mean putting it on your profile? Because the latter would be my interpretation of "from the start" and yet not one attached/married guy who has commented on this thread has indicated this on their profiles. It's like drawing blood from a stone if you are 'lucky' and they actually admit it. Mrs. I think from the start of the conversation is a fair place to call "the start". It only becomes your business or concern at that point. Before then, you don't need to know." But your profile is your shop window, no? And people advise time and time again to put effort into your shop window to attract the right people, no? Isn't it better to attract those who prefer to meet married men and women with your profile and be better up front so as not to waste other peoples time? This is why it gets frustrating..... you'd have to be Sherlock Holmes at times to discover that a guy is on here without his partners consent and that's a red line for so many here looking for ENM i.e. swinging. | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. Not really attitude more an observation. There may be more to a persons Story than just married = cheater Thats fair and everyone's story is their own. However where there is no gray area for alot of people is consent. And regardless of the circumstances if you are creating a non monogamous relationship without the consent of your partner alot of people will not want to meet I agree 100% just there is a fair bit of judgement around it too .. just surprising that’s all. " Can you explain why you're surprised by that? Did you think swingers would be more ok with cheating than other people? What leads you to think that? | |||
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"Surprised how judgy people are. Given the type of site it is This attitude always confuses me. Being open about sex doesn't mean doing so without regard to consequences or to someone else potentially being hurt as a result. The 'E' in the 'ENM' is important to a lot of people. Not really attitude more an observation. There may be more to a persons Story than just married = cheater Thats fair and everyone's story is their own. However where there is no gray area for alot of people is consent. And regardless of the circumstances if you are creating a non monogamous relationship without the consent of your partner alot of people will not want to meet I agree 100% just there is a fair bit of judgement around it too .. just surprising that’s all. Can you explain why you're surprised by that? Did you think swingers would be more ok with cheating than other people? What leads you to think that?" On seeing this debate over and over. The general consensus is that it is cheating. Though in my opinion it seems that here, on fab.Male cheaters are looked upon in a worse light than the females cheaters. The married women are alot more successful in their pursuit of pleasure, all be they are fewer. | |||
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" On fab, once people are open from the start, generally we are all here for the same reason, friendship and fun, not a relationship or to get emotionally attached. Be open and honest on here, some people will suit each other and some won't. Be kind and move on. When you say "from the start", where is the start? Is it answering a direct question when asked, or does it mean putting it on your profile? Because the latter would be my interpretation of "from the start" and yet not one attached/married guy who has commented on this thread has indicated this on their profiles. It's like drawing blood from a stone if you are 'lucky' and they actually admit it. Mrs. I think from the start of the conversation is a fair place to call "the start". It only becomes your business or concern at that point. Before then, you don't need to know. But your profile is your shop window, no? And people advise time and time again to put effort into your shop window to attract the right people, no? Isn't it better to attract those who prefer to meet married men and women with your profile and be better up front so as not to waste other peoples time? This is why it gets frustrating..... you'd have to be Sherlock Holmes at times to discover that a guy is on here without his partners consent and that's a red line for so many here looking for ENM i.e. swinging." Agreed. Hence my honest profile | |||
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"im married and have it on my profile what im looking for. I dont message anyone who says no attached and ill always make sure to discuss before meeting. most of the ladies ive met have been married or recently split because it suits us both to be discrete. " Nothing at all wrong with meeting a recently split lady. | |||
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"I wrote in bio that I am married said the true but it was a mistake. No reply for any messages I sent better lie from the beginning I think "Why is telling the truth a mistake ? there are Women here that see the big picture & in my opinion most women will not go down the road of bringing hurt or being responsible for bringing hurt into other women's lives IF the other spouse or partner does not know of their activities, they simply will not go down that road because they themselves are women & would not want that done to themselves. | |||
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"I wrote in bio that I am married said the true but it was a mistake. No reply for any messages I sent better lie from the beginning I think
Why is telling the truth a mistake ? there are Women here that see the big picture & in my opinion most women will not go down the road of bringing hurt or being responsible for bringing hurt into other women's lives IF the other spouse or partner does not know of their activities, they simply will not go down that road because they themselves are women & would not want that done to themselves."Id agree with most of that, except that this isn't something that's specific to women. Many times men are also able to see see that bringing hurt to someone by facilitating betrayal isnt something they want to be part of. Obviously wives cheat also and men are able to have empathy for other men who could be devastated by the impact of this. Don't get me wrong, I'm not Mr perfect and I've cheated and been cheated on in the past and it doesn't feel nice... but what I'm trying to say is that this isn't really a question of how men are Vs how women are and that both are responsible for their own actions and choices according to their own ethics. | |||
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"I wrote in bio that I am married said the true but it was a mistake. No reply for any messages I sent better lie from the beginning I think "Being married and being on here os your own business but its perfectly ok for others to choose that they dont want that. Doesnt make it a judgement just not what they are looking for. Everyone is entitled to set their own boundaries but lying to circumvent those isnt ok. Consent is key, if you start off on a lie you are taking away the other persons choice to consent fully. Just a thought - Trouble | |||
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"Flip the question...Do people have issues meeting married women... 🙄 " I would imagine the same as above. Some don't, some don't. Only.... I never see a married woman starting a thread about it, so it doesn't get talked about as often | |||
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"Actually think people have a more relaxed attitude when it's women..maybe because the numbers are so biased...not sure " You probably aren't wrong. There is so alot of guys on here that would attempt to meet just about anyone But it all goes back to the same answer of some will some won't. | |||
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" On fab, once people are open from the start, generally we are all here for the same reason, friendship and fun, not a relationship or to get emotionally attached. Be open and honest on here, some people will suit each other and some won't. Be kind and move on. When you say "from the start", where is the start? Is it answering a direct question when asked, or does it mean putting it on your profile? Because the latter would be my interpretation of "from the start" and yet not one attached/married guy who has commented on this thread has indicated this on their profiles. It's like drawing blood from a stone if you are 'lucky' and they actually admit it. Mrs. I think from the start of the conversation is a fair place to call "the start". It only becomes your business or concern at that point. Before then, you don't need to know. But your profile is your shop window, no? And people advise time and time again to put effort into your shop window to attract the right people, no? Isn't it better to attract those who prefer to meet married men and women with your profile and be better up front so as not to waste other peoples time? This is why it gets frustrating..... you'd have to be Sherlock Holmes at times to discover that a guy is on here without his partners consent and that's a red line for so many here looking for ENM i.e. swinging. Agreed. Hence my honest profile "Thank you. Honesty is always best. You'll find your tribe that way | |||
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"Is this site not all about discretion, how many married couples are on here that play with other mates? How many married women are on here that play? Why take it out on the married man?" You can't honestly be trying to compare a couple that are into swinging with a married person, male, or female who are meeting people behind their partners back? | |||
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"Is this site not all about discretion, how many married couples are on here that play with other mates? How many married women are on here that play? Why take it out on the married man? You can't honestly be trying to compare a couple that are into swinging with a married person, male, or female who are meeting people behind their partners back?" Swinging is ethical non monogamy, it is ETHICAL. Its about open and honest communication, consent, respectful of peoples boundaries. It's not dirty, secret, lying, being underhand. That is the opposite of open and honest communication. Cheating at all, and I don't care about anyone's dead bedroom situation (your problem, you address that through counselling and effort as a partner) is just gross. You think we are being judgey? Yes we are.... Why would we want to play with someone who has no ethics or values. | |||
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