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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Prompted by a post on the "Men's Self-esteem On Fab" thread on the Ireland forum.

While absolutely acknowledging the right of people to express their personal preferences....and obviously asking for a friend....

Is there an element of objectification of men's bodies on Fab. Is there a notion that a young Adonis, hung like a horse, gym-bod fit, with the stamina of a cheetah in pursuit of a gazelle across the savannah, is the desireable quality in a play partner, causing "Mr Fabaverage" to doubt his self-worth and questioning his ability to achieve success on here. Does it also partly explain the deluge of dic pics, which seemingly fall into ladies DM's on such a regular basis, which may be over compensation for perceived shortcomings in the area of attractiveness in relation to other physical features.

Can age difference also be viewed in a similar negative fashion leading to the undermining of male confidence in a similar way.

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh

Ah now, make objectification 😏

Gym-fit body? Yes please.

5”11 or over? Yes please.

Beyond these I don’t much care about age or dick size.

At least for me.

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"Ah now, make objectification 😏

Gym-fit body? Yes please.

5”11 or over? Yes please.

Beyond these I don’t much care about age or dick size.

At least for me. "

*male

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By *eturning MGMan
2 weeks ago

mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland


"Ah now, make objectification 😏

Gym-fit body? Yes please.

5”11 or over? Yes please.

Beyond these I don’t much care about age or dick size.

At least for me. "

Honest question does personality come into the equation at all? Im not actually joking.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

Doesn't everyone like to admire a beautiful body male or female? But I would think that a lot of people find that attractiveness is not just all about the physical and although a lot of men and women clearly have a specific body type that they prefer, many don't. I do hope that guys don't think that sending dick pics would distract a woman from a lack of a 6 pack. I'd rather see a nicely dressed guy than any kind of dick famous or otherwise.

I'd be much less likely to meet a younger guy with a 6 pack when someone my own age with some charm and humour would be far more appealing.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

*Fabulous dick, although a famous one would be acceptable 🤣

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"Ah now, make objectification 😏

Gym-fit body? Yes please.

5”11 or over? Yes please.

Beyond these I don’t much care about age or dick size.

At least for me.

Honest question does personality come into the equation at all? Im not actually joking. "

Yes, personality is definitely important. But I’d need initial physical attraction to be interested in getting to know the person. Especially as physical traits can only carry one so far.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

Newry

I appreciate a good looking, finely honed man. By the same token. I appreciate beauty in many things. Other people may find beauty in different things.

Trying to use that as an explanation for someone waggling their cock in my inbox though? Pfffft. Who's objectifying who in that scenario? Besides, my preferences in who I share my body with isn't to blame for a man's lack of impulse control and emotional intelligence.

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork

My OP was posted more to examine the possibility of men's confidence being undermined due to not being in possession of a Greek God like physique, or from being excluded due to age difference, by either being seen as too young or too old.

Is there a subtle undercurrent of body shaming and or ageism in existence on the site.

Can there be an element of negative profiling and would it cause and outcry if it were seen to be directed towards women on the site.

I again wish to state clearly that I absolutely support people's right to have preferences for whom they wish to engage with.

But in doing so does it create an unintended consequence of a negative vibe for those that fall outside the expressed preferences.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar


"

Is there a subtle undercurrent of body shaming and or ageism in existence on the site.

"

I think it applies to men and women 🤷‍♀️

It may be in a more subtle way with women but it definitely happens

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
2 weeks ago

DUBLIN

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
2 weeks ago

DUBLIN

My self-esteem is very healthy, thanks, even if at 56, I am just past the 55 age limit that many women have on their profiles.

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"I appreciate a good looking, finely honed man. By the same token. I appreciate beauty in many things. Other people may find beauty in different things.

Trying to use that as an explanation for someone waggling their cock in my inbox though? Pfffft. Who's objectifying who in that scenario? Besides, my preferences in who I share my body with isn't to blame for a man's lack of impulse control and emotional intelligence.

"

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I believe there is a distinction between the emotionally immature, willy waving morons, who get off on cramming their unsolicited appendage attributes into ladies DM's, and guys who genuinely feel the only way to overcome their failure to meet people on the site and their resulting lack of body confidence is to lead with their lads....

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"

Is there a subtle undercurrent of body shaming and or ageism in existence on the site.

I think it applies to men and women 🤷‍♀️

It may be in a more subtle way with women but it definitely happens"

......

I suspect you are correct.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

Newry


"My OP was posted more to examine the possibility of men's confidence being undermined due to not being in possession of a Greek God like physique, or from being excluded due to age difference, by either being seen as too young or too old.

Is there a subtle undercurrent of body shaming and or ageism in existence on the site.

Can there be an element of negative profiling and would it cause and outcry if it were seen to be directed towards women on the site.

I again wish to state clearly that I absolutely support people's right to have preferences for whom they wish to engage with.

But in doing so does it create an unintended consequence of a negative vibe for those that fall outside the expressed preferences.

"

I'm old, short, fat and often disagreeable. There are plenty of men who don't want to have sex with me. Because I'm a well adjusted adult, I understand that I'm not desirable to everyone and that's ok. There's no outcry from me...just ask any man that has ever messaged me who, in trying to big me up, has been insulting to those who are different to me. I'm not made of stone though, but I do know how to work through my emotions. I've never felt the need to send a photo of my vag to men here as part of that process

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"My self-esteem is very healthy, thanks, even if at 56, I am just past the 55 age limit that many women have on their profiles. "

......

There is a confidence that comes from lived experience which those that haven't yet reached that stage in life can only aspire to.

Older and bolder....

With age comes wisdom and wisdom earns respect.

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"My OP was posted more to examine the possibility of men's confidence being undermined due to not being in possession of a Greek God like physique, or from being excluded due to age difference, by either being seen as too young or too old.

Is there a subtle undercurrent of body shaming and or ageism in existence on the site.

Can there be an element of negative profiling and would it cause and outcry if it were seen to be directed towards women on the site.

I again wish to state clearly that I absolutely support people's right to have preferences for whom they wish to engage with.

But in doing so does it create an unintended consequence of a negative vibe for those that fall outside the expressed preferences.

I'm old, short, fat and often disagreeable. There are plenty of men who don't want to have sex with me. Because I'm a well adjusted adult, I understand that I'm not desirable to everyone and that's ok. There's no outcry from me...just ask any man that has ever messaged me who, in trying to big me up, has been insulting to those who are different to me. I'm not made of stone though, but I do know how to work through my emotions. I've never felt the need to send a photo of my vag to men here as part of that process"

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Such emotional maturity, and acceptance of who you are is most admirable ........ and that is not an effort at bigging you up.

But you do have the numerical advantage that the gender imbalance on the site brings.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
2 weeks ago

Castlebar

There are plenty of people on here that are not comfortable in their own skin for whatever reason. Fab can help and hinder this but does show that all body types can be attractive to all types of people 🧡 It's finding those people that's the tricky part

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
2 weeks ago

Newry


"My OP was posted more to examine the possibility of men's confidence being undermined due to not being in possession of a Greek God like physique, or from being excluded due to age difference, by either being seen as too young or too old.

Is there a subtle undercurrent of body shaming and or ageism in existence on the site.

Can there be an element of negative profiling and would it cause and outcry if it were seen to be directed towards women on the site.

I again wish to state clearly that I absolutely support people's right to have preferences for whom they wish to engage with.

But in doing so does it create an unintended consequence of a negative vibe for those that fall outside the expressed preferences.

I'm old, short, fat and often disagreeable. There are plenty of men who don't want to have sex with me. Because I'm a well adjusted adult, I understand that I'm not desirable to everyone and that's ok. There's no outcry from me...just ask any man that has ever messaged me who, in trying to big me up, has been insulting to those who are different to me. I'm not made of stone though, but I do know how to work through my emotions. I've never felt the need to send a photo of my vag to men here as part of that process

....

Such emotional maturity, and acceptance of who you are is most admirable ........ and that is not an effort at bigging you up.

But you do have the numerical advantage that the gender imbalance on the site brings.

"

Do I though? Because whether there's 1000 men, 100 men or 10 men, I'm only ever prepared to have sex with those with whom there is mutual attraction. And if that's no-one, I'll happily go without. It's not that big a deal for me.

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I have never been to a gym or at least not in many many years, I'm not hung like a horse I'm not over 6 foot and I'm 60 years of age.

I've never once, in 9 years on fab, had a conversation with a woman about any of the above.

I think the biggest problem is perception and many will use age, height, body shape and dick size as an excuse when others don't want to have sex with them.

In many cases none of the above have anything to do with being turned down.

Attitude and maturity will dictate how a conversation will go just as much as physical assets and attitude and maturity when a conversation finishes will dictate whether or not someone deserves to go on a block list.

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
2 weeks ago

around here somewhere


"Prompted by a post on the "Men's Self-esteem On Fab" thread on the Ireland forum.

While absolutely acknowledging the right of people to express their personal preferences....and obviously asking for a friend....

Is there an element of objectification of men's bodies on Fab. Is there a notion that a young Adonis, hung like a horse, gym-bod fit, with the stamina of a cheetah in pursuit of a gazelle across the savannah, is the desireable quality in a play partner, causing "Mr Fabaverage" to doubt his self-worth and questioning his ability to achieve success on here. Does it also partly explain the deluge of dic pics, which seemingly fall into ladies DM's on such a regular basis, which may be over compensation for perceived shortcomings in the area of attractiveness in relation to other physical features.

Can age difference also be viewed in a similar negative fashion leading to the undermining of male confidence in a similar way.

"

There are 2 sides to every biscuit ,so in my opinion yes ladies rule the Jungle here , it's their choice who they want to give their mind & body to , it's the ol' says " women can have Sex whenever they want , Men whenever they can " if they want certain criteria well then they're not gonna settle for anything less & if guys dont reach that level of criteria well then the lady is not gonna be interested thus it can lead to a guy having self doubts about himself BUT the other side of the biscuit is that a guy may not be interested in a lady because she may not reach his level of criteria either so even though a lady may be here if that level of criteria , for whatever reason , isn't reached , well then he's not gonna be interested either , everyone has a type , something that tweaks their Sexual interest, both men & Women & if ,as l said for whatever reason , it doesn't interest them ,well then it doesn't interest them , dont let it play on your mind , everyone here is here for their own reasons & nothing should spoil their fun here , everyone should look forward to being here & enjoy themselves here & look forward to logging on , in no way should being here affect a person's well being in any way , everything for them here should be fun .

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
2 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I don't think having physical preferences is the same thing as objectification.

Does the fact that not all other people want to have sex with me effect my self confidence? No. I don't want to have sex with everyone else either.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
2 weeks ago

Hereabouts


"Prompted by a post on the "Men's Self-esteem On Fab" thread on the Ireland forum.

While absolutely acknowledging the right of people to express their personal preferences....and obviously asking for a friend....

Is there an element of objectification of men's bodies on Fab. Is there a notion that a young Adonis, hung like a horse, gym-bod fit, with the stamina of a cheetah in pursuit of a gazelle across the savannah, is the desireable quality in a play partner, causing "Mr Fabaverage" to doubt his self-worth and questioning his ability to achieve success on here. Does it also partly explain the deluge of dic pics, which seemingly fall into ladies DM's on such a regular basis, which may be over compensation for perceived shortcomings in the area of attractiveness in relation to other physical features.

Can age difference also be viewed in a similar negative fashion leading to the undermining of male confidence in a similar way.

"

So many questions.

Do I admire some strong toned physiques - yes.

Does it lead me to reject 'average' - no.

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By *entleGent13Man
2 weeks ago

Somewhere

Personal preferences are just that. If thats what some people want...thats fine.

All desire is objectification of one sort or another.

I like women of all different shapes and sizes. But it's not because of that. Its to do with who they are. That's my objectification.

Basing everything on the purely physical makes things very temporary and facile IMO. It doesn't make any real connection.

But if thats your thing then crack on.

I could care less what others think of me. I just try not to be a dick and look for similar in others.

If you are truly worried about being "middled" by younger, differently shaped, more resilient young men then maybe FAB is not for you.

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

Not wanting to fuck someone who is too old for you or not attractive to you is neither aegist or body shaming though.

I fail to see how rejection is the leading cause of dick pics.

Men just love their dicks. I've seen a lot of dick on Fab. And some of those guys really should be leading with their dad bod instead of the dripping flaccid rodents that are so often on display.

And those young hard bodied charmers with dicks like a steel chisel are no less likely to be sending photos of their cock than any other man on Fab. In my humble opinion that is.

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By *antra MassageMan
2 weeks ago

Galway

All of the men I've met here are part of a couple, so haven't figured out the single guys. The men I've met, were certainly good company, believed they were attractive, were confident in their skin, had a wide variation of body shape, height, eye colour, ...in other words, the average man. And as part of a couple, we're successfully enjoying what fab has to offer, socials, parties, meets. My only interaction with single men here, is through messages I receive from them. And my overall impression is the average single guy hasn't learned how to engage .. not socialised, no charm, semi literate,and doesn't learn from past mistakes, continues to practise what doesn't work. They will become extinct if they don't adapt !

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By *astelloWoman
2 weeks ago

Far far away

Fab is one dimensional like most apps of this ilk. At least initially until some element of connection is found. But attraction is in the beholder, it's not based on penis size unless that's the only criteria that's important..

I often think of the tv show naked attraction. Where the selecting is based on dick..until they reveal the rest. Dick becomes dork.

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By *adger Broc OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Co. Cork


"There are plenty of people on here that are not comfortable in their own skin for whatever reason. Fab can help and hinder this but does show that all body types can be attractive to all types of people 🧡 It's finding those people that's the tricky part "

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Fab fully explained.

Wise words as always.

👍

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By *enitMan
2 weeks ago

Galway

Yes please

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