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By *adformunching OP   Man
2 weeks ago

clare

Massage or maybe more..

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

Absolutely not. Whether it's a massage or a sex worker I don't believe there should be any stigma attached if everyone consenting and safe. Of course breaking the law is breaking the law and there is no avoiding that.

But I do think prostitution should be legal. Sex and physical contact is a basic human need and everyone should have access to this in my opinion. I also believe sex workers should be protected and have the same rights as every other worker.

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh

I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

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By *offeeaddictMan
2 weeks ago

Bandon


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available "

I've a rate card significant discount for locals

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By *enny100300Man
2 weeks ago

cork


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

You must be looking in the wrong places

Alas, nothing available "

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

You must be looking in the wrong places

Alas, nothing available "

Message me with a link so I can find what I'm looking for

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

I've a rate card significant discount for locals "

As I'm paying, all the criteria mentioned on my profile must be met

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
2 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I guess it's kinda sad that people can't find what they are looking for out of mutual pleasure. That would be the ideal situation. I guess when that's not available then there is no reason not to have your needs met in other ways, as long as noone is getting hurt.

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By *offeeaddictMan
2 weeks ago

Bandon


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

I've a rate card significant discount for locals

As I'm paying, all the criteria mentioned on my profile must be met "

Thats me scuppered...🤯 dad bod all day

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Dublin


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available "

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

I've a rate card significant discount for locals

As I'm paying, all the criteria mentioned on my profile must be met

Thats me scuppered...🤯 dad bod all day "

Sorry. dad bods don't do it for me. Plenty of women on here who love that body type - you're spoiled for choice

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange "

I've considered going to London, but I'm a bit scared to be honest.

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By *adformunching OP   Man
2 weeks ago

clare

Glad im not alone,was getting abit conserned i was doeing wrong.yes i have fun on sites in many guises but sometimes you just need it now.im no gen z but think im being turned.just like to give pleasure to pleasure me sometimes.life is short.x

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
2 weeks ago

KILDARE


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange

I've considered going to London, but I'm a bit scared to be honest."

My very vanilla best friend shocked me recently by telling me she hired a hot guy that came from London she said it was expensive but totally worth it. He actually flew back and gave her a freebie

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By *oo32Man
2 weeks ago

tipperary

As long as all parties involved are safe and consenting I can't see a problem

I read last week there was a national operation where gardai went to a lot of houses to make sure the people working there were safe

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange

I've considered going to London, but I'm a bit scared to be honest.

My very vanilla best friend shocked me recently by telling me she hired a hot guy that came from London she said it was expensive but totally worth it. He actually flew back and gave her a freebie "

Oh tell me more. My birthday is coming up

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By *ichaelKorMan
2 weeks ago

Cork

Everyone pays one way or another. The only exceptions to that are the delusional

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"Everyone pays one way or another. The only exceptions to that are the delusional "

Really? How so?

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By *riginal_FlirtWoman
2 weeks ago

Ballymena

If a man takes a woman on a date, buys her flowers, pays for dinner and drinks and they get a taxi to her place, she thanks him and gets out of the taxi saying goodnight, she sends him a message the next morning stating she had a lovely time but cant see it going anywhere, all he has paid for is her company.

If the same man wants sex sure he can book a sex worker and get exactly what he wants for probably the same money.

We all have needs and i see nothing wrong with paying for what you really want.

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By *he gentleman 1000Man
2 weeks ago

santry


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available "

interesting

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By *ooking2099Man
2 weeks ago

city


"If a man takes a woman on a date, buys her flowers, pays for dinner and drinks and they get a taxi to her place, she thanks him and gets out of the taxi saying goodnight, she sends him a message the next morning stating she had a lovely time but cant see it going anywhere, all he has paid for is her company.

If the same man wants sex sure he can book a sex worker and get exactly what he wants for probably the same money.

We all have needs and i see nothing wrong with paying for what you really want."

I worked with an older guy when i was 18, he never settled down , no gf , no children, and one evening after work up in the pub,his phone rang he looked at whoo it was and said sorry lads got to go, my friend is back in town. After he left the other older lad explained, once ot twice a year he meets an working lady and does the dinner date thing, but doesnt p a y for sex, just her company.

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By *idslad69Man
2 weeks ago

Athlone

If I’m looking for something and someone else is providing what I’m looking for, and for whatever reason I can’t find it elsewhere for free then why wouldn’t I pay if I can afford to?

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
2 weeks ago

KILDARE

I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster "

🤣🤣🤣 I’ve gotten some offers too in the past. I need to work on my replies though. Yours are on point 😁

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available interesting "

In what way?

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By *ecretSilverlinkMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Absolutely not sad. Do what makes you happy and don’t let the opinion from others affect what you get pleasure from

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By *adyforlady!Couple
2 weeks ago

Carrick

Think it's grand

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By *hristianGray2005Man
2 weeks ago

Galway

No not sad at all. It should be a legalised & regulated profession- and not one that has associated taboos. Good old Catholic ireland still ingrained.

As long as the girls (and guys I guess) in the industry are well looked after (not trafficked etc) and no harm is being done - what’s the big deal?

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By *adformunching OP   Man
2 weeks ago

clare

Reading all these genuine replise to my quandry is makeing me want to treat myself.or someone.x

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By *adyforlady!Couple
2 weeks ago

Carrick

Go for it

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By *og-ManMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere

Op I've mentioned before that the first sexual experience I had off fab was paying a woman for a massage with a happy ending

She was recommended by another fab profile and was the owner of the spa that I went to which put my mind at ease slightly

Go for it if you want to ....there's no shame in paying for a sexual service in my opinion

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By *hristianGray2005Man
2 weeks ago

Galway


"Op I've mentioned before that the first sexual experience I had off fab was paying a woman for a massage with a happy ending

She was recommended by another fab profile and was the owner of the spa that I went to which put my mind at ease slightly

Go for it if you want to ....there's no shame in paying for a sexual service in my opinion

"

What part of the country was that, bogman? Asking for a friend lol

But yeah op, go for it.

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By *man1044Man
2 weeks ago

North Galway

Agreed that it should be legal then the state get their share as well and workers would have rights ,otherwise its the black economy and exploitation.

Typical Irish sweep it under the carpet and pretend its not there.

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"Reading all these genuine replise to my quandry is makeing me want to treat myself.or someone.x"

I'd just make sure this woman isn't being mistreated, etc.

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By *P_80Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford

It's fine if all parties consent. Just another service being sold.

The dark side of it can't be ignored though. Probably can't discuss it here, but you know what I mean.

I think the laws in this country regarding it are just lazy and do nothing to make this kind of work more safe for the workers.

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By *d909123Man
2 weeks ago

lucan

is there a “pretty woman” influence here ?

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By *d909123Man
2 weeks ago

lucan


"Reading all these genuine replise to my quandry is makeing me want to treat myself.or someone.x

I'd just make sure this woman isn't being mistreated, etc."

how??

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"Reading all these genuine replise to my quandry is makeing me want to treat myself.or someone.x

I'd just make sure this woman isn't being mistreated, etc.

how?? "

Like with anything else: observation, probing questions, the woman’s demeanour, etc.

It’s obviously not bulletproof, but you know best effort to actually caring to determine.

Don’t be facetious 😏

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By *ombikerMan
2 weeks ago

the right side of the river


"I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster "

Well there I was thinking that was extra ha ha.

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By *amsevenMan
2 weeks ago

cork


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

I've a rate card significant discount for locals

As I'm paying, all the criteria mentioned on my profile must be met "

Well I'm 6'4, in heels

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By *d909123Man
2 weeks ago

lucan


"Reading all these genuine replise to my quandry is makeing me want to treat myself.or someone.x

I'd just make sure this woman isn't being mistreated, etc.

how??

Like with anything else: observation, probing questions, the woman’s demeanour, etc.

It’s obviously not bulletproof, but you know best effort to actually caring to determine.

Don’t be facetious 😏"

i dont think a guy who ends up in the same room with the idea of paying for pleasure will give a tinkers curse about the victims welfare .

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By *ichaelKorMan
2 weeks ago

Cork

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By *ichaelKorMan
2 weeks ago

Cork


"Everyone pays one way or another. The only exceptions to that are the delusional

Really? How so?"

There isn't a man or woman alive that at some stage hasn't made 'allowances' to get what they want sexually.

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By *electableicecreamMan
2 weeks ago

The West

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By *r GadgetMan
2 weeks ago

centre

I know more lads that have paid for sex or a massage than those who haven't. It's a normal part of life these days, not spoken about much publicly but then again neither is swinging

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By *ombikerMan
2 weeks ago

the right side of the river


"I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster

🤣🤣🤣 I’ve gotten some offers too in the past. I need to work on my replies though. Yours are on point 😁"

So how many owes of a free trial have you got today already

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By *ombikerMan
2 weeks ago

the right side of the river


"I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster

🤣🤣🤣 I’ve gotten some offers too in the past. I need to work on my replies though. Yours are on point 😁

So how many owes of a free trial have you got today already

Offers not owes.

Spellcheck gets me again

"

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By *oo32Man
2 weeks ago

tipperary


"I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster "

Liked and shared

Is this offer still available?

Asking for a friend

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By *om TangoMan
2 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

I’ve never paid for a sex worker but I did come very close to it. I’d went 5 years without as much as a hug or a kiss and I was craving it so much. So i looked around to see how to find a sex worker and all that kinda stuff. 3 local enough. But I wasn’t after the sex, I wasn’t even confident enough to have sex. I just wanted to be held and hugged. So i did go ahead. Like how do I tell a sex worker I just wanted to be to get naked and hug each other.

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I’ve never paid for a sex worker but I did come very close to it. I’d went 5 years without as much as a hug or a kiss and I was craving it so much. So i looked around to see how to find a sex worker and all that kinda stuff. 3 local enough. But I wasn’t after the sex, I wasn’t even confident enough to have sex. I just wanted to be held and hugged. So i did go ahead. Like how do I tell a sex worker I just wanted to be to get naked and hug each other. "

I’d have no problem with getting paid to be naked and hug a man. Just as long as it was clear that is always that was to happen

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By *nesexywomanWoman
2 weeks ago

wexford


"Massage or maybe more.."

Yes.

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By *adyKarmennTVTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Dublin


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

I know 3 guys that do it for ladies

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange

I've considered going to London, but I'm a bit scared to be honest.

My very vanilla best friend shocked me recently by telling me she hired a hot guy that came from London she said it was expensive but totally worth it. He actually flew back and gave her a freebie

Oh tell me more. My birthday is coming up "

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

It’s not sad but my only caveat is how can anyone be sure that the sex worker is making the decision free from coercion, threat or as a result of poverty or addiction.

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By *om TangoMan
2 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area


"I’ve never paid for a sex worker but I did come very close to it. I’d went 5 years without as much as a hug or a kiss and I was craving it so much. So i looked around to see how to find a sex worker and all that kinda stuff. 3 local enough. But I wasn’t after the sex, I wasn’t even confident enough to have sex. I just wanted to be held and hugged. So i did go ahead. Like how do I tell a sex worker I just wanted to be to get naked and hug each other.

I’d have no problem with getting paid to be naked and hug a man. Just as long as it was clear that is always that was to happen "

Pity you are so far away because that’s something I crave so much at times. I’ve absolutely no problem making boundaries and sticking to them.

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By *adformunching OP   Man
2 weeks ago

clare

As im bi i never said it would be with a woman.just sayn but i do like wemon.

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"It’s not sad but my only caveat is how can anyone be sure that the sex worker is making the decision free from coercion, threat or as a result of poverty or addiction. "

My thoughts exactly

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By *atonaWoman
2 weeks ago

Meh


"I’ve never paid for a sex worker but I did come very close to it. I’d went 5 years without as much as a hug or a kiss and I was craving it so much. So i looked around to see how to find a sex worker and all that kinda stuff. 3 local enough. But I wasn’t after the sex, I wasn’t even confident enough to have sex. I just wanted to be held and hugged. So i did go ahead. Like how do I tell a sex worker I just wanted to be to get naked and hug each other.

I’d have no problem with getting paid to be naked and hug a man. Just as long as it was clear that is always that was to happen

Pity you are so far away because that’s something I crave so much at times. I’ve absolutely no problem making boundaries and sticking to them."

Cork is a lovely place to visit

That aside, I don’t think any sec worker would mind only holding you to be honest

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By *antra MassageMan
2 weeks ago

Galway


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available "

I have an acquaintance who is a 3rd level student, and offers companionship service to women. He is strikingly handsome, cultured and great company. Very popular, and only available through referrals from clients. I was considering doing this a few years ago, and found there were only two men in Ireland offering this service. I don't think the demand is there.

As regards paying for pleasure...why not?

I know men who who have regular "girlfriends", see them every two months and have a lovely time. They tell me, that on a long term basis, it's fun, affordable and very safe.

In Ireland we still have a shame around pleasure,as if it's something we reward ourselves with, only after a suitable period of penance or suffering. So, OP, go for it, take your pleasure where you find it, and paying for what you want is ok.

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By *ung-stallionMan
2 weeks ago

northeast

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By *he gentleman 1000Man
2 weeks ago

santry

Nothing wrong with it I live somewhere we're some them literally live across road from me so be rude not to use them lol.

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By *m1203Couple
2 weeks ago

chelmsford


"Massage or maybe more.."

Not wrong in my opinion. You should go for it if it feels like the right thing to do for now. I’m definitely in the camp of sex workers being made legal and in turn getting more protection. It’s a human need that’s always going to be catered for in one way or another so why not in the safest way possible.

We have payed in the past with one of our first experiences. We just wanted it sorted easy without all the messaging back and forth etc. she was lovely. it was a pleasant experience.

Mrs M x x

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I have found my life has decided for me that relationship won't work for the time being....I have thought paying for sex is my best option ...but I also am aware of financing crime....inwould love to find a true independent worker that I could visit.....I'd rather my money go to some one that's doing it for the right reasons

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2 weeks ago

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By *P_80Man
2 weeks ago

Waterford

Just so everyone who maybe thinking about it is clear, it's against the law to pay for a sexual service in Ireland.

And that isn't restricted to money. It extends to anything that can be considered a payment, ie a gift.

A new bill was passed about a decade ago that makes it kinda legal to sell sex, but fully illegal to buy it.

If convicted, you will end up on an offenders list.

Just something to bear in mind.

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
2 weeks ago

Midlands

It should be legalised to protect the workers.

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By *onny1969Man
2 weeks ago

local

Paying is not the stigma, the obvious concerns are if the person is being trafficked, forced by partner or through drug dependency. Today’s law is selling sex is not illegal but to buy it is an offence

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By *enerationfornicationMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere in...

I know a person that worked in that area at one stage. A really interesting person who you could spend hours chatting with. Many of the clients were ordinary people who just wanted someone to chat with without stigma.

Aside from that, there are a good many people who are trafficked into this situation. It's hard to find the healthy balance but pushing it underground makes it a difficult safety issue

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By *emonbuttercreamWoman
2 weeks ago

Dublin

Honestly, yes. I think it's pretty sad that someone has to pay. I understand why it happens, and I’m not saying it’s wrong, but it just feels so empty to me. Sex, to me is about real and mutual desire, not something you have to buy. If the only way someone can experience that kind of intimacy is through payment, I find that genuinely bleak. A loneliness that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, but I also can’t pretend it’s not a little desperate.

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By *enerationfornicationMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere in...


"Honestly, yes. I think it's pretty sad that someone has to pay. I understand why it happens, and I’m not saying it’s wrong, but it just feels so empty to me. Sex, to me is about real and mutual desire, not something you have to buy. If the only way someone can experience that kind of intimacy is through payment, I find that genuinely bleak. A loneliness that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, but I also can’t pretend it’s not a little desperate."

If you consider fab as being something akin to toyboywarehouse, then you can possibly see the dilemma. Both are full of guys trying to fight it out in a dick pic gladiatorial contest.

From the women's perspective, she has to figure a way to sort the wheat from the chaff (not an easy task) - add the quiet reserved fella and he's lost in a sea of sharks.

Now perhaps consider the individual (female or male) with additional needs. This person has unmet sexual desires. There may or may not be issues around sexual orientation, emotional intimacy, communication, or possible health issues.

It's not ideal, but perhaps the only solution for them is to enter into a financial transactional agreement. Yes it maybe "sad" to someone looking in, but for the person, it is their only option.

No matter what way you look at it, the wrongs can be putted against the rights in this moral dilemma. It's a catch 22 paradox where I'm not sure what the answer is

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

If some one wanted to pay me I'd defo be up for it ...now that will never happen....but I would love to have a arrangement with some one that would like to benefit from two adults looking for the same thing ...

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By *tesset69TV/TS
2 weeks ago

belfast

I do full on body massage for those who can accom.

Have to do it for free as its illegal to charge for anything in the north.

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By *mperialcolinMan
2 weeks ago

cork, kerry, limerick

Looking at prices is a good indicator of how an economy is going.

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By *tevie-wonderboyMan
2 weeks ago

Limerick

I assure you there are many if u look in the right spots for men who offer services to women I have tried this but not many take the job seriously or only hunt for pics

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By *dfabMan
2 weeks ago

Dunboyne

Isn't there a site called something akin to (Old Ford Model) Ireland that should satisfy these needs for both sexes?

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By *opcattMan
2 weeks ago

co down

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By *opcattMan
2 weeks ago

co down


"Massage or maybe more.."
genuinely thought about paying for sex to see if its any better. Just can't get the hold of my wallet

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By *asheaMan
2 weeks ago

Killarney

Just be careful paying for it. Just recently got scammed so there is alot of scum out there waiting to get one over on guys

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By *ionycusMan
2 weeks ago

Babylon

Legalize it and tax it.

Same as class B and some A.

Take it out of the hands of criminal gangs.

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By *enusalMan
2 weeks ago

tipperary Limerick London,Germany


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange

I've considered going to London, but I'm a bit scared to be honest."

No need for London. I can fulfil your criteria...mmmmmmh

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By *oredmarried2022Man
2 weeks ago

wicklow


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available "

There are a few men on E*corts Ireland the very odd time, they are there for women only

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By *otmature58Man
2 weeks ago

cork

Its a shame more people don't join this group and open their thoughts and feelings, there are so many that need hugs,kisses and to feel needed, and to be wanted,as so many are in boring, loveless relationships and marriages.i find once we reach a certain age,on this app ,(i am 60.) 99% of replies are deleted.its like a best before date has been reached, regardless of a person's age they need intimacy and human contact,

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By *nribanMan
2 weeks ago

Sligo

Personally I think the law in Ireland is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard.

It's illegal to 'buy', but perfectly legal to 'sell'.

How can you buy something without a seller?

Societal norms have spent 2,000yrs+ shaming women as whores, sluts, family breakers etc. When that failed to stop prostitution the govt has reversed the stigma onto men as sex offenders.

And true to form, it has completely failed to stop prostitution.

I say legalise it, regulate and license it, educate men and women about it. Provide security for sex workers, safe passage in and out of the industry.

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By *outh_of_EdenMan
2 weeks ago

Fota


"If a man takes a woman on a date, buys her flowers, pays for dinner and drinks and they get a taxi to her place, she thanks him and gets out of the taxi saying goodnight, she sends him a message the next morning stating she had a lovely time but cant see it going anywhere, all he has paid for is her company.

If the same man wants sex sure he can book a sex worker and get exactly what he wants for probably the same money.

We all have needs and i see nothing wrong with paying for what you really want."

So the girl in the date got home safely, the guy maybe felt a little hard done by but accepts her choice.

The sex worker hands the money to her pimp. He most likely slaps her around or r apes her on occasion. Most likely she was trafficked

There's everything wrong with that!!

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By *og-ManMan
2 weeks ago

somewhere


"If a man takes a woman on a date, buys her flowers, pays for dinner and drinks and they get a taxi to her place, she thanks him and gets out of the taxi saying goodnight, she sends him a message the next morning stating she had a lovely time but cant see it going anywhere, all he has paid for is her company.

If the same man wants sex sure he can book a sex worker and get exactly what he wants for probably the same money.

We all have needs and i see nothing wrong with paying for what you really want.

So the girl in the date got home safely, the guy maybe felt a little hard done by but accepts her choice.

The sex worker hands the money to her pimp. He most likely slaps her around or r apes her on occasion. Most likely she was trafficked

There's everything wrong with that!!"

You're assuming every single sex worker has a pimp or is trafficked

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
2 weeks ago

DUBLIN

Drinking beer is a pleasure.

Eating fine food is a pleasure

Going on a nice holiday is a pleasure

Owning a nice car is a pleasure.

Having a massage is a pleasure

No problem paying.

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By *j47Man
2 weeks ago

Ballybunnion


"Looking at prices is a good indicator of how an economy is going.

"

I think you will find the price of

Chicken

Bread

Milk

Housing

Would take presendence over the price of a ride

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
2 weeks ago

Merseyside


"Honestly, yes. I think it's pretty sad that someone has to pay. I understand why it happens, and I’m not saying it’s wrong, but it just feels so empty to me. Sex, to me is about real and mutual desire, not something you have to buy. If the only way someone can experience that kind of intimacy is through payment, I find that genuinely bleak. A loneliness that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, but I also can’t pretend it’s not a little desperate."

This is how I feel aswell. I’m all for legalisation and legislation to protect sex workers and there are many cases where both sides are fully consenting and happy with the arrangement, and fair enough. Would love to live in a world where men and women both fuck because they want to and not for financial gain. I’ve said many times it’s a fucking shame that there aren’t more women on here and in the swinging scene, they don’t know what they’re missing

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By *ornyCouple2049Couple
2 weeks ago

Cockermouth

It's a shame sex work isn't seen as a recognised trade, better protection, ability to make payments legally, recognition of work and less stigma surrounding it. We as a species need/love sex and it should be more openly discussed. It could eliminate some of the incel culture, help people work if they want to work in that field and probably help society.

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
2 weeks ago

Merseyside


"It's a shame sex work isn't seen as a recognised trade, better protection, ability to make payments legally, recognition of work and less stigma surrounding it. We as a species need/love sex and it should be more openly discussed. It could eliminate some of the incel culture, help people work if they want to work in that field and probably help society. "

Well it is in the Netherlands but there are still associated problems with trafficking and pimping there

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By *nalleesaMan
2 weeks ago

Birkenhead


"I once had a fella message asking me for a blow job for a tenner told him I could give him a gummy special with the false teeth slipped out. Funny enough he blocked me calling me a time waster "
lol

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By *otmature58Man
2 weeks ago

cork

I agree 100%

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By *oru48Man
2 weeks ago

Tallaght

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By *oru48Man
2 weeks ago

Tallaght


"It's a shame sex work isn't seen as a recognised trade, better protection, ability to make payments legally, recognition of work and less stigma surrounding it. We as a species need/love sex and it should be more openly discussed. It could eliminate some of the incel culture, help people work if they want to work in that field and probably help society.

yes its a shame more people arent just open about sexual

desire

Well it is in the Netherlands but there are still associated problems with trafficking and pimping there"

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By *indenMan
2 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Is paying for pleasure sad."

Made me sad once, I ordered a couple of 40 year old @scorts off the internet and 2 Fords turned up on a flatbed truck…..😭🤦‍♂️

No, I don’t think it’s sad, or that there’s anything wrong with it, as long as all participants are doing so by their own free will and are happy.

Everyone has a canoe to paddle.

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By *21 funMan
1 week ago

Navan

Hey, not Sad at all. Everyone has reasons for paying for it, and it’s been around for Centuries now.

Often go for a Massage, with extras

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By *ody2000Man
1 week ago

Navan

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By *ody2000Man
1 week ago

Navan

BE CAREFUL, I’m just after been stung, €80 on steam cards, she sent the address, I went there and sent a message, profile was immediately deleted. Lesson learnt, although her photos and videos were great while they lasted.

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By *oredmarried2022Man
1 week ago

wicklow


"BE CAREFUL, I’m just after been stung, €80 on steam cards, she sent the address, I went there and sent a message, profile was immediately deleted. Lesson learnt, although her photos and videos were great while they lasted. "

NEVER pay until you meet, 99% never even in the country

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By *ubFunHuntersCouple
1 week ago

dublin


"I've searched for a male paid companian in Ireland before joining Fab. Unfortunately, only found available for men (females or gay men). None available for women. If one was available, I'd probably use it as it would be more straight forward.

Alas, nothing available

It’s not as easy mainly I think the market is so small! It’s strange

I've considered going to London, but I'm a bit scared to be honest."

Fair play for being open about your thinking

Have you ever considered clubs as maybe a test the waters into it?

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By *otmature58Man
1 week ago

cork

Great conversation to , air our thoughts and feelings of paying for it.we all need sex and human touch.we all pay for it.in one way or an other.thankfully Ireland is no longer in the dark ages.as it was, when sexual orientation is no longer to be hidden or to be ashamed of.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
1 week ago

Newry


"BE CAREFUL, I’m just after been stung, €80 on steam cards, she sent the address, I went there and sent a message, profile was immediately deleted. Lesson learnt, although her photos and videos were great while they lasted. "

Asking for or offering payment of any kind is against the site rules. You should have reported the profile. An expensive lesson learned.

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By *ody2000Man
1 week ago

Navan


"BE CAREFUL, I’m just after been stung, €80 on steam cards, she sent the address, I went there and sent a message, profile was immediately deleted. Lesson learnt, although her photos and videos were great while they lasted.

Asking for or offering payment of any kind is against the site rules. You should have reported the profile. An expensive lesson learned. "

SORRY I didn’t clarify, it wasn’t this site

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
7 days ago

around here somewhere

A guy l know asked a stunner out on a date , paid for everything, taxi , back & forth , meal , drinks ,both in the restaurant & pub afterwards, at the end of the evening got a goodnight peck on the cheek...tbh he thought he was gonna get laid , that she owed him something... sorry l said to him , it don't work like that ...with what the night cost him would it have been easier for him to go to where he would be guaranteed to get laid ?

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By *iamo69Man
7 days ago

South

Interesting post.maybe a gap in the market 😂

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By *aradiselost747Couple
7 days ago

dundonald

We have been paid more than once by voyeurs, to simply watch a couple have sex. They get off on the intimacy between a couple and pay so they find people who won’t giggle and mess them about.

It’s a win win

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By (user no longer on site)
7 days ago

It’s not sad at all. I have a busy life and a very occasional FWB. I miss intimacy dreadfully, so would be open to meeting with a male “companion”. I think some of you gents maybe missing out on a niche! Even all the chat and graft on Fab takes up too much time for me, between work and family.

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By *inger_SterlingCouple
7 days ago

Dublin

I'd say it's sad that one has to be reduced to having no other recourse but to compensate for sex to get a release and basic physiological need satisfied.

Ofcourse, it's way more complicated than that.

I have full sympathy for people who simply don't have another way to get that... And full respect for people that are willing to provide that kind of release and kindness either out of pure understanding and care for a fellow human being or for a compensation, if they decide this is what their meaning in life is.

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