FabSwingers.com forum: Recognising Fabbers

By *exyScientists OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Castlebar

If you recognised a fellow fabber in public or at work would you say something? Drop a hint or maybe mention their profile name and see if they react? Or straight up say something?

Is that creepy? Would that panic you? And its always quite likely at a social event - has happened to us a few times. But then that's OK?

I think it would make me uncomfortable if I was at work or in Tesco but I do think Ireland is so small that it probably happens often to people.

Has anyone got a message saying "I saw you in....."

I know I've had that once or twice and it didn't bother me too much.

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By *asheaMan
4 weeks ago

Killarney

I spotted one fabber and knew who she was. It was my brothers wife. They have since spilt up but I never told anyone that I spotted her on fab.

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By *ealcoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

"If you recognised a fellow fabber in public or at work would you say something? Drop a hint or maybe mention their profile name and see if they react? Or straight up say something?

Is that creepy? Would that panic you? And its always quite likely at a social event - has happened to us a few times. But then that's OK?

I think it would make me uncomfortable if I was at work or in Tesco but I do think Ireland is so small that it probably happens often to people.

Has anyone got a message saying "I saw you in....."

I know I've had that once or twice and it didn't bother me too much.

No but we often get messages from people who are convinced they seen Claire somewhere when it genuinely wasnt her at all lol. We have often seen people in public we would never say anything or drop any hints. Depending on how much we have chatted to have recognised them we may drop them a message later, but if we haven't chatted and just recognise from a pic that has been posted or sent to us we wouldnt say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Nope ,my business is my own ,so is theirs

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By *ookwhoitishaMan
4 weeks ago

Donegal Border

I'd have a mini panic attack but would drop a wee smile and a nod and go on about my business.

But then i'd frantically check my fab to see if they sent a message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I met someone I’d regularly cross paths with through work at one of my first socials. We both said hello and went on about our evening. Haven’t mentioned it since anytime we’ve met.

And I’d agree Ireland is a small country, we’re bound to know someone on here from real life

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

Ive had fabbers that I already know say hello to me in work ...

That's fine .....Ive had a few messages while working wondering are we in the same place but I dont usually answer

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By *ickmeplease78Woman
4 weeks ago

galway

I have met quite a few fabbers out and about or have had people I know message me. Sometimes I make them aware that I know who they are other times I don’t bother if I don’t think it will be of any benefit.

If someone said it to me out and about I’d probably shrivel up inside lol

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
4 weeks ago

KILDARE

I spot Fabbers in the gym all the time some I already know so I will say hello to. The ones I don't know I wouldn't say anything to. I've gotten the creepy I've seen you in public messages one guy said he followed me around Supervalu. I've also gotten the I know where you work and know where you live messages that made me delete my profile.

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By *man1044Man
4 weeks ago

North Galway

We all here to have some fun i hope so be nice to people and hope for a more interesting meet .

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By *exyScientists OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Castlebar

"I spot Fabbers in the gym all the time some I already know so I will say hello to. The ones I don't know I wouldn't say anything to. I've gotten the creepy I've seen you in public messages one guy said he followed me around Supervalu. I've also gotten the I know where you work and know where you live messages that made me delete my profile. "

Oh no! I know we've had those too claiming to know where we work or live but they are caught out fairly fast when you ask the right questions. Being followed round the shops is another level of sinister though.

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
4 weeks ago

Louth

"Nope ,my business is my own ,so is theirs"

This

Yes i met people from Fab in real life, we are here for same reasons.

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By *orthern_donkMan
4 weeks ago

Carrick

Definitely think say something as relieves any awkward tension wondering and like alternative says people are here for similar reasons.

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By *rish_vixenWoman
4 weeks ago

kerry

All the time!!

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By *ornyharry67Man
4 weeks ago

Drogheda

Discretion is assured and expected so I'd say nothing

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"Definitely think say something as relieves any awkward tension wondering and like alternative says people are here for similar reasons."

I hate to think someone would say something.. my kids could be right behind me, or my Mum.

Nobody has the right to approach a person like that.

I've had messages asking was I in a place at a time, by people I've never even met. Creepy!

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By *ealitybitesMan
4 weeks ago

Belfast

I've recognised a couple of people from fab socials when out and about but I would never acknowledge them because for various reasons including the fact they probably don't know who I am and I'm not going to start explaining in the middle of Lidl.

In the last year I've had FB friend suggestions for people I know through fab which can't be linked to anything because the phone number on my FB account is an old work number that doesn't exist anymore and it's a completely different email address.

None of those people have my name or number and some I've never met so I block them on there.

I've heard too many stories of people being followed home from socials or getting messages saying they had seen them somewhere to ever think it's a good idea.

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

By the way to those wondering how someone else finds you on social media

Last weekend I joined Tiktok to watch videos about my job ....I'm in some of them

Since last Saturday the app has recommended about 30 fabbers to me to be friends

I dont have their phone numbers on my phone

Some of them are using their real names on Tiktok

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By *ustBoWoman
4 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I personally wouldn't say anything if I was out and about and saw someone who I thought might be on fab. I think it's completely inappropriate.

If it was someone I know well then I'd probably just say hi in passing and let it up to them if they want to chat or not.

I absolutely hate those creepy messages people send saying they saw me somewhere and to be fair so far it's not been me on any of those occasions. I even had one guy argue with me and insist I was this other woman and telling me in future he would just saw it to me when he thought he saw me. I pity that poor woman having some randomer coming up trying to insist she is on a site.

So no I wouldn't approach anyone just because I think they are on here because it is creepy as hell in my opinion.

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By *habMan
4 weeks ago

Boomtown

Lying in my hospital bed when a nurse walks by, she's on my holistic, I just said hello, embarrassing

This morning at 8am

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

"Lying in my hospital bed when a nurse walks by, she's on my holistic, I just said hello, embarrassing

This morning at 8am "

Hope you're better soon ....just wondering when you get a bed bath veri

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

3 people I work with are on fab.

2 know that I'm on it, the other doesn't.

The 2 that know doesn't mention fab to me.

But one of them was very embarrassed when she messaged me after she put up a video of herself

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By *wingme22Man
4 weeks ago

Galway

I have seen a few while out and about, just smile and keep going.

Maybe we should have a secret wave so we know but no one else knows. ....

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By *ozzlesMan
4 weeks ago

galway

I'm not aware of seeing anyone from fab in real life but if I did I'd behave as I normally would. What someone else does in their private life is none of my concern.

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By *arbles00Man
4 weeks ago

Area 54

Because of where I work I've met a few local fabbers. Some will quietly acknowledge and others say nothing. If you can't respect someone's privacy then you shouldn't be on fab.

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By *affa31Woman
4 weeks ago

Galway

It’s creeps me the fuck out when guys message me to say I saw you today or use my name and tell me they’ve seen me on another app. All when I’ve had zero interactions with them before.

It baffles me how they don’t realise that it’s creepy as fuck.

They always get very defensive when I point it out.

I have no problem if it’s someone I’ve met giving me a nod or a smile. If I know them well, I’m happy to stop for a chat if we’re both by ourselves. Otherwise, fuck off and leave me alone.

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By *om TangoMan
4 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

"By the way to those wondering how someone else finds you on social media

Last weekend I joined Tiktok to watch videos about my job ....I'm in some of them

Since last Saturday the app has recommended about 30 fabbers to me to be friends

That’s happened me also. 3 of them I call friends and would have their phone number. Few others I don’t have their numbers

I dont have their phone numbers on my phone

Some of them are using their real names on Tiktok

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By *om TangoMan
4 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

There is a couple close by to me and every now and again they will message saying they seen me here or there. I have no clue who they are.

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By *ensualDivaWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Some sensual out West

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By *ensualDivaWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Some sensual out West

I'd hate to be in that position. Being messaged just to make a point. Like they know and you dont

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
4 weeks ago

KILDARE

Yes it was I deleted profile after that. The main reason I've deleted profile over the last few years is because of messages like these

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By *imdm101Man
4 weeks ago

Galway

I don't get it. How would you know someone you met on the street is someone from Fab? Even if they are a friend on Fab or on your hotlist. I guess I can understand if they have a face pic, but if they only have body pics, how would you know?

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By *habMan
4 weeks ago

Boomtown

Thanks Bogman, looking like a pacemaker from dealing with all the excitement of FAB 🤣🤣

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
4 weeks ago

KILDARE

"I don't get it. How would you know someone you met on the street is someone from Fab? Even if they are a friend on Fab or on your hotlist. I guess I can understand if they have a face pic, but if they only have body pics, how would you know?"

The time it happened to me I had taken a pic of a pair of distinct unusual gym leggings and posted on Fab months before. I know one girl got outed in her local town for posting a pic on her stairs which again were very distinct. So now I'm careful what's in the background and what I'm wearing.

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By *imdm101Man
4 weeks ago

Galway

Ah, OK. As you say, guess you have to be careful of what detail you include in your pics. Thanks.

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By *elixMan
4 weeks ago

tralee

Messaging someone to say I saw you would be creepy I feel but that's just my opinion.

If I saw someone I had met previously socially or privately, which where I live I have, I just nod, if they want to chat fine if not that's fine too.

If I just knew them from pics or profiles I wouldn't say anything

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
4 weeks ago

shankill

Love the thought of it, but the reality may be different depending on various things

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By *teph102Woman
4 weeks ago

Derry

I had a message last week asking if I was out walking a dog in my local area (I was indeed just in from walking the dog) I blocked them

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
4 weeks ago

shankill

"I had a message last week asking if I was out walking a dog in my local area (I was indeed just in from walking the dog) I blocked them "

That’s way too creepy. Ffs lad

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
4 weeks ago

kinkytown

We've had them where they have seen me in work or have seen me out shopping. Used to run into some regularly in my old job years ago. We don't pay heed to them tbh just have cop on not to approach in public

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By *oradMan
4 weeks ago

Dublin Kildare

Discretion is key. Would never approach anyone from here IRL without consent

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By *r.AnonymousMan
4 weeks ago

Tipperary

Unless they are good friends with me I don’t try to initiate a conversation with them even if I recognise others

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By *estmeathKinkyCoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Westmeath

Our local delivery drive sent us a message with face pictures asking to meet us.

He doesn't know who we are.

But we know him

We would never say anything to anybody.

Your business is just that.

Discretion in this lifestyle is a must.

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By *rutus83Man
4 weeks ago

naas

"If you recognised a fellow fabber in public or at work would you say something? Drop a hint or maybe mention their profile name and see if they react? Or straight up say something?

Is that creepy? Would that panic you? And its always quite likely at a social event - has happened to us a few times. But then that's OK?

I think it would make me uncomfortable if I was at work or in Tesco but I do think Ireland is so small that it probably happens often to people.

Has anyone got a message saying "I saw you in....."

I know I've had that once or twice and it didn't bother me too much.

I'd say hi that's about it.

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By *mup4itareyouMan
4 weeks ago

Dublin / Wexford

I recognised my next door neighbour on here… I haven’t and never will say anything to her, it’s her personal life so have to respect that

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By *hristianGray2005Man
4 weeks ago

Galway

Nope, wouldn’t say a word. Being in contact with a person “in these circles” is fine, but out there in the real world/ civilian life - discretion is key. Will look straight through a fabber in the Tesco’s aisle rather than say hello.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
4 weeks ago

Portstewart

"If you recognised a fellow fabber in public or at work would you say something? Drop a hint or maybe mention their profile name and see if they react? Or straight up say something?

Is that creepy? Would that panic you? And its always quite likely at a social event - has happened to us a few times. But then that's OK?

I think it would make me uncomfortable if I was at work or in Tesco but I do think Ireland is so small that it probably happens often to people.

Has anyone got a message saying "I saw you in....."

I know I've had that once or twice and it didn't bother me too much.

Quite simply op we wouldn't. Unless we are going somewhere to meet a particular fabber we would never just walk up to someone we know from here as we wouldn't know if they were in a position to chat or not with us. We have seen some fellow fabbers when we have been out and have met previously and if we happen to catch there eye or they catch ours we would just give them a subtle nod and carry on with what we were doing. Now if this happened in a suitable club we would gesture to see if they wanted to join us for whatever but in public we never give more than a nod as neither party has knowledge of the reason for the other party being there and we wouldn't want to be rude and interrupt

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By *ornySouthTippMan
3 weeks ago

clonmel

Not gonna say where I’ve seen them but have seen two different people I’ve talked to on here, gave them the polite nod,, smile and hello and nothing else.

I’m not meeting people on here to be besties in my personal life and I expert it’s the same for the majority, so a small bit of decency goes along way.

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By *ariaxxxxCouple
3 weeks ago

Kent/London/Greater London

I've never recognised anybody, I keep a low profile & don't go to socials or parties because my privacy is paramount to me.

But a guy did once mail me here & asked was I in such a supermarket & the 'creepy' thing is I actually was........🤔

(I was a little 'free' with my face pics before & they got into the 'wrong' hands & were shared without me knowing, so that's how I was recognised I'd say)

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By *idslad69Man
3 weeks ago

Athlone

"Our local delivery drive sent us a message with face pictures asking to meet us.

He doesn't know who we are.

But we know him

We would never say anything to anybody.

Your business is just that.

Discretion in this lifestyle is a must. "

That’s hot! Hope he’s hot as well

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By *ogladyWoman
3 weeks ago

The bog

I can't really say anything because I have face pics in my profile..

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By *boylanTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Everywhere

Absolutely not.

Discretion is what everyone wants on here.

If I was approached myself, simple thing would be does he or she, or they appeal to me.

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By *licat.2Woman
3 weeks ago

Not Belfast but NI

I have seen one or two fabbers in shops and just smiled.

I would never mention Fab.

Strangest thing happened to me. I started chatting to a guy and we exchanged face pics after a while, we had never chatted before. Then he asked me did I have a good holiday in Benalmadena a few months previously!

Turned out he had been sitting near us in the airport coffee lounge and recognised me from then.

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By *aradiselost747Couple
3 weeks ago

dundonald

We get recognised regular as we have a very public facing job within events some big volumes of people. We also share our face pics here publicly.

We have also recognised or been recognised on here by neighbours, family school teachers and friends.

We love meeting people we know from here as the meet is usually electric but yes pick your moment to tell us. Don’t come up in Asda when I have my child and tell me my latest video swallowing 3 cocks was fab

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By *he gentleman 1000Man
3 weeks ago

santry

"I spotted one fabber and knew who she was. It was my brothers wife. They have since spilt up but I never told anyone that I spotted her on fab. "
was your brother on here too

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3 weeks ago

"I can't really say anything because I have face pics in my profile.."

Oops

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By *estmeathKinkyCoupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Westmeath

"Our local delivery drive sent us a message with face pictures asking to meet us.

He doesn't know who we are.

But we know him

We would never say anything to anybody.

Your business is just that.

Discretion in this lifestyle is a must.

That’s hot! Hope he’s hot as well

Would be hot if he was our type.

Unfortunately he isn't.

Everytime he turns up we giggle.

Not sure if he knows, that we know..

But jokes aside - we know he is married with kids - and would NEVER say anything

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
3 weeks ago

Dublin City

Unless we know each other well and by name we just pretend we dont know dabbers. Me misses have recognised many and said nothing as would hate if someone would come over to me specially if in work or with friends and family

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By *onny17Man
3 weeks ago

dublin

I have came across a few in the past fre months. As much as it kills me to say nothing I normally just pop online to show my location if they want to message then they can. Don't like putting anyone under pressure

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By *ubFunHuntersCouple
3 weeks ago

dublin

Yeah we have meet people we have met in the scene and industry events and the real world but it’s always a polite smile and move on unless we know them well and have a solid cover story’s.

We also know a few canners and us use the same gym but would never approach or say anything, for us the lifestyle is private for a reason so why enter it into the public domain. Just get on with your reps

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By *haddyMan
3 weeks ago

Galway

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By *haddyMan
3 weeks ago

Galway

Well...I suppose the climax of it for me was during my previous employment, I spotted my boss's wife at a social that ended up as a play party. For starters, he was no where in sight, so that made the whole situation even creepier.

Both of us recognised each other straight away but not a single word was said.

To me discretion is the main thing on fab, and that MUST be respected at all times, unless both parties mutually agree to be less discreet about it.

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By *haosQueenWoman
3 weeks ago

Galway

It happens a lot to me, but that’s a risk i take knowingly, as it’s just the nature of my life to be well known, both here and in my real life.

It doesn’t bother me, I am a single woman, and I don’t give a shit what people think of my sexual preferences. I imagine it’s a bit harder for couples.

What I don’t like is a dm from a stranger telling me they know who I am, or saw me somewhere - grow some balls and say who you are, otherwise don’t be annoying me.

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By *uddermeIspinMan
3 weeks ago

city centre

I once saw myself in the reflection of a shop window as I was walking down the street, I didn't dare say anything though, just in case.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
3 weeks ago

Newtownabbey

I see a couple of local people from here quite regularly when out and about and don't acknowledge them in any way.

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
3 weeks ago

around here somewhere

"If you recognised a fellow fabber in public or at work would you say something? Drop a hint or maybe mention their profile name and see if they react? Or straight up say something?

Is that creepy? Would that panic you? And its always quite likely at a social event - has happened to us a few times. But then that's OK?

I think it would make me uncomfortable if I was at work or in Tesco but I do think Ireland is so small that it probably happens often to people.

Has anyone got a message saying "I saw you in....."

I know I've had that once or twice and it didn't bother me too much.

Nope ,l think it's a person's personal & private issue.

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By *rRiosMan
3 weeks ago

dublin

"I once saw myself in the reflection of a shop window as I was walking down the street, I didn't dare say anything though, just in case. "

Better save that sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"I once saw myself in the reflection of a shop window as I was walking down the street, I didn't dare say anything though, just in case.

Better save that sorry!

Is it not “better safe than sorry”???

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By *P_80Man
3 weeks ago

Waterford

I recognize someone on here but I have no reasons to ever bring it up with them.

If they've seen my profile they probably recognize me too.

There's two women that work in the same place as me who are on the fet site.

Again, I have no reasons to bring it up.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
3 weeks ago

A town near you

We have recognised several locals on here, couples and singles.

We would never approach them or drop hints.

We wouldn't like it if it were the other way around.

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