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By *inkyDragon OP   Man
20 hours ago

Dublin

…….men’s mental health month.

I’ve not seen ‘advertised’ so to speak anywhere on any platforms, maybe I’ve missed it. This month, my employer has had 19 pieces about Pride, be that a social media post, an internal group email or a personal email. We’ve not had one about male mental health. We constantly have talks and emails about diversity, inclusion, respect and dignity in work and I know that’s something I have to take up with my employer which I will do on Tuesday when June is over. I appreciate that the ‘pink pound’ has value and dead people don’t, obviously but I do think, in public, not so much here, we should discuss men’s mental health and not just once a year.

Men are built differently to women and are supposed to be seen as strong and not show your emotions or cry in public as it’s seen as weak and the impression given that you are seen as not being strong.

Men die by their own hands much more than women do and maybe that is caused by not being able to speak out or seek help.

Maybe we need to end the stigma associated with it. Men do actually cry. Remaining silent is not being strong. You’re not alone.

Check in with a man in your life, be it your dad, your brother, your friend, and is a starting point and even those few words of ‘hello, how are you getting on?’ could mean the world of difference to someone who just needs that spark to ignite their concerns and fears and start to share with you. You might not be able to help or even understand, but it may just help.

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By *inglingPringle87Man
20 hours ago

city

Theres a saying Ive heard recently that I tell the lads in my life.

"Id rather have your tears on my shoulders any day instead of their coffin".

It sounds abit melodramatic but If i could have conversations with friends of mine again that Ive lost id not let male ego get in my way.

Talking is so important!

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By *ubadubdubWoman
20 hours ago

Hereabouts

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1714478

I had a post recently about men's support groups around the country.

You are not alone and it's good to talk

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By *tardog ChampionMan
19 hours ago

Sligo

This is a great post. I've been that lonely guy shedding tears. Hearing the words 'How are you doing?' can't be underestimated in terms of the difference it can make. Those four words may have reduced me to a blubbering mess but the also allowed me to open up and relieve myself of the emotional burden I was suffering.

May I add, the same applies to both men and women, those words are powerful.

There is help no matter what you are enduring and how hopeless a situation may seem. Each and every one of us deserve to be happy and it can all start with a those four words. Let's look out for each other.

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By *om TangoMan
19 hours ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

I’d love to set up a group for men’s mental health. Men don’t talk enough and unfortunately when we do most people don’t understand. I think it’s 4 out of every 5 suicides are men. men are more likely to die by suicide and less likely to seek help for mental health issues compared to women.I was very nearly one of those men. There is a light at the end of the tunnel lads. And you’re not alone. Big boys are aloud to cry. A simple hug for 5-8 seconds can help us men. It decreases depression and anxiety

It reduces feelings of loneliness A 3 minute 30 seconds phone call can also help. Please lads open up to someone you can trust. Let someone know how you feel and set a code in place like a text message asking have you 3-4 minutes to take a phone call. We’re told as kids to man up. Please nerve tell your sons to man up. Lady’s if yous have a man in your life’s that you might think is depressed all yous have to do is give him a simple hug. If he opens up to you just listen. Don’t try and tell him what to do. Just listen. I made the mistake off opening up to someone and in return she made my story all about herself. Don’t fucking do that to a man

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By *eralt80Man
18 hours ago

cork

We could do more to highlight that June’s men’s mental health awareness month. I for one did not realise it was.

I know I’ve had my struggles over the years and lost a good few years of my youth to anxiety and depression. But I’m glad to say that when the time came I did ask for help. We get so good at hiding our feelings that even those close to us can’t recognise the pain so more often than not it does fall on us to take that first step and sadly so many don’t.

I comes as little comfort those bereaved families but the numbers have been falling over the last few years so I’d like to think over all we’re getting better at expressing ourselves but there is still work to be done.

Not sure what the “pink pound” comment was about but I would strongly disagree and say a persons death certainly holds value

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By *P_80Man
17 hours ago

Waterford

I never knew it was Men's Mental Health Month.

Just goes to show how little it's talked about.

Here's a little story that might encourage someone to open up when they feel that they can't.

About 5 years ago my friend texted me and just asked if I was home as he needed to get some stuff off his chest. It was a strange message to get from him, but of course I told him to call over.

I won't go into details, but he laid it all out to me.

My guard immediately dropped and I told him some stuff that I had been holding in.

The sense of relief was astounding, and oddly enough, when what we said to each other came out of our mouths, we realised that holding it in was making it all seem worse than it was.

We now have a thing where we can freely talk to each other when we need to.

It's a wonderful thing to have.

So my point is, just talk to a family member or a friend, for two reasons.

1. There's a huge chance that you know someone who also needs to talk.

2. You may think you don't want to burden anyone with your problems, but you will never be a burden to a family member or to a friend.

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By *inkyDragon OP   Man
14 hours ago

Dublin


"Theres a saying Ive heard recently that I tell the lads in my life.

"Id rather have your tears on my shoulders any day instead of their coffin".

It sounds abit melodramatic but If i could have conversations with friends of mine again that Ive lost id not let male ego get in my way.

Talking is so important!

"

That’s a great saying MP and so very true but simple.

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