FabSwingers.com forum: How long is too long

By *astello OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Far far away

Before meeting.

Days, weeks, months..

Does the interest wane or grow post meet?

It is worth meeting quickly or the slow hello?

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Ps for those guys who thought it related to penis length..gotcha

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By *ozzlesMan
3 weeks ago

galway

I run out of conversation if I don't meet someone. I never run out of conversation in person but online is difficult to maintain imo without some real life references.

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By *eadMeisterMan
3 weeks ago

near you...

7-10 days...else...something is fishy

Except we're too busy

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By *astello OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Far far away

Agreed. Need to keep momentum going.

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I've met after chatting for a few days and in a couple of cases we chatted for months before meeting for a coffee.

Most meets though have been within a few weeks and it was just the next logical step at the time.

I've had one meet the day after we first chatted and skipped the social and went straight to her hotel room.

It's not something I would want to repeat though for a few reasons so I'll stick with the tried and tested method.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

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By *exyScientistsCouple
3 weeks ago

Castlebar

Depends on the person. It can be a few days or weeks. It can be exciting leading to meeting but also I can tell when it's run it's course. Especially if there is no definite plans to meet.

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By *eturning MGMan
3 weeks ago

mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland

Each situation is different. Iv met after months of chatting on telegram and it was amazing. Im met after short messaging on fab and id never want to meet again.

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By *s LollyWoman
3 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Few day's ideally but usually a few weeks, if it starts running into months i loose interest rapidly...

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By *earuisceMan
3 weeks ago

south sligo

If it’s interesting chat I’ve no problem with how long, you can usually tell where it’s going after a couple of days. Instant sexting get boring quickly if it’s going nowhere so then I’d make a polite exit

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By *hristianGray2005Man
3 weeks ago

Galway

It really depends on how comfortable you both are. Some people may need weeks - some days. No harm in either case, as long as you’re both comfortable by the time you meet, and interest hasn’t started to dip.

I’ve no problem in investing time into a solid foundation.

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
3 weeks ago

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Depends. My work schedule is shocking so can be chatting for a while. Or could meet within a day. Don't think the conversation weans by any means.

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By *adger BrocMan
3 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Meets are like household repairs. If you put off doing them for too long they never get done.

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By *arbles00Man
3 weeks ago

Area 54

"Few day's ideally but usually a few weeks, if it starts running into months i loose interest rapidly..."

Years Lolly....years 🤣🤣🤣

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By *ubadubdubWoman
3 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"Before meeting.

Days, weeks, months..

Does the interest wane or grow post meet?

It is worth meeting quickly or the slow hello?

Thoughts

Ps for those guys who thought it related to penis length..gotcha

I prefer to meet socially in a matter of weeks. I've a short attention span and can get bored/turned off if chats go on too long.

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By *infulWinksMan
3 weeks ago

harolds cross,

I prefer to meet socially in a matter of weeks. I've a short attention span and can get bored/turned off if chats go on too long.

Isn’t it better to get bored or turned off or what ever else it’s called here then it happening in person. It is usually clear after a couple of days messaging if there is something there or not in my opinion

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By *ustBoWoman
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I definitely chat for a while before I meet anyone. I had a bad experience meeting someone socially after only chatting for a day.

It's usually a couple weeks before I've met anyone else, sometimes it's been longer.

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By *affa31Woman
3 weeks ago

Galway

Sooner rather than later for me in the majority of cases.

I’m happy to wait if the conversation is engaging but it’s not always easy to keep it going.

I’d rather meet and get the vibe in person.

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
3 weeks ago

DUBLIN

Think if there is a good positive message floor, then a phone chat to get a sense of the person, then meet for a coffee or a drink if the phone call is positive. I think two to four weeks as then the thing goes off the boil.

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By *P_80Man
3 weeks ago

Waterford

It takes a special kind of spark to keep a message conversation going.

I tend to let the woman bring up the prospect of meeting as I don't want to push anything.

I don't need to meet quickly so am happy to chat for a while.

The problem is almost all the time the conversations get to the point where they feel they have to be dragged and it just fizzles out. Especially when chatting with someone who's a distance away.

In that case, it's very difficult to keep the interest, for both parties, enough to eventually meet.

Ideally it would be chatting for a few weeks and then meet while there's still plenty to talk about in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

As someone else said , a week to ten days,a face to face chat is a better guage of chemistry

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By *om TangoMan
3 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

I don’t get many replies from fab so I’ve a kinda giving up. But I’ve messaged a lady before and 20 mins later we were meeting for a coffee. Have stayed in touch and have met a few times for coffee. Another special lady on here I’m chatting to since soon after Xmas. Messaging started on a telegram group so not here. We have met a few times and it’s normally weeks apart before we can meet again. But we chat every morning and almost every night depending on her job. Lately we have started video calling that lasts for hours. So I suppose it all depends on the connection and how each other gets on. I check in daily with other lady that I’ve gotten to know from meeting at socials and we wouldn’t see each other very often. Kinda depends what each other wants out of the lifestyle. Personally I enjoy the friendship and not just the sex. Myself and another female fabber meet up most weekends for a coffee and we only text each other on a Friday to arrange a time for a coffee over the weekend. We haven’t even kissed but we enjoy each others company over a coffee.

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By *endi LiquorTV/TS
3 weeks ago

newry

Many factors depends on the lenght of the conversation for me.

Work, distance, real life stuff.

Diaries lining up.

I do like to chat for a bit. Get the lay of the land as they say.

As ive had a few disastrous meets.

Think after a few days you can guage how the conversations going and if it's leading towards a meet.

When it starts to dry up and feel like you're pulling teeth. Then I just call it a day.

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By *elfastDMan
3 weeks ago

belfast

I’m a slow burn kinda guy

And then boom, it’s all over in no time

Catch me at the right time and I’ll move from your inbox to your coffee table in record time

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
3 weeks ago

Louth

"Before meeting.

Days, weeks, months..

Does the interest wane or grow post meet?

It is worth meeting quickly or the slow hello?

Thoughts

Ps for those guys who thought it related to penis length..gotcha

Op we would say all options are possible with us! Life normally gets in the way, distance I'd say is the biggest hindering factor, but we typically plan in advance of when we are free and if it's a few hours, over nighter or even all weekend.

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By *antra MassageMan
3 weeks ago

Galway

I like to meet within a month of the initial message. All the admin and logistics of a meet can be planned in that time, usually, so then it's just chatting until we both can meet up. Within that month, I'll be planning the meet for the following month, perhaps with somebody else, or maybe a repeat meet, if there's no new interest . If the conversation dies out, I'm ok with that, it's normal. And I leave her with an open invitation to get back in touch when it suits.

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By *oveat1stfeelMan
3 weeks ago

around here somewhere

I think if within a week if meeting isn't talked about or mentioned well then that's it , please note a meet itself does not have time happen in a week , discussing it is fine , life can decide other BUT to me if chatting & if it's not mentioned ...move on..at the end of the day it's what the end result should be ,a meet , even if it's just a coffee.

There is nothing worse than being strung along by someone who knows themselves that they're NEVER gonna met you because they never had any intention from the start.

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