FabSwingers.com forum: Why no reply

By *ongdong2222 OP Man
4 weeks ago

wexford

Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol

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By *ettaManMan
4 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol"

Just going on stuff I've read in the forum, a lot of women won't look at your profile if you've got a dick pic as your profile pic.

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By *ongdong2222 OP Man
4 weeks ago

wexford

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol

Just going on stuff I've read in the forum, a lot of women won't look at your profile if you've got a dick pic as your profile pic."
maybe that is a good point I dunno if it makes any difference doe

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By *exyScientistsCouple
4 weeks ago

Castlebar

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol

Just going on stuff I've read in the forum, a lot of women won't look at your profile if you've got a dick pic as your profile pic."

💯 for me anyway

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By *ongdong2222 OP Man
4 weeks ago

wexford

That you won't view a profile with cock pic as profile pic

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"That you won't view a profile with cock pic as profile pic"

Nope. Lots of us won't. And personally, I won't read messages from guys with a cock pic as their profile pic.

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
4 weeks ago

KILDARE

They're currently 42 ladies online for all of Ireland and hundreds of men as well so competition is stiff here. The average woman will check out your profile before even opening the message. I've not looked at your profile but so many guys put up one cock pic and one line bio and are baffled why they are not knee deep in fanny

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By *ongdong2222 OP Man
4 weeks ago

wexford

"They're currently 42 ladies online for all of Ireland and hundreds of men as well so competition is stiff here. The average woman will check out your profile before even opening the message. I've not looked at your profile but so many guys put up one cock pic and one line bio and are baffled why they are not knee deep in fanny "
that's very true I need to up my game by the sounds of it lol

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By *affa31Woman
4 weeks ago

Galway

What on your profile would make someone want to reply?

2 pics of your dick and your bio tells us nothing about you or what you’re looking for.

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By *ealmc1973Man
4 weeks ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

Girls getting, literately, 100s messages of variable quality every day. A plenty of those with some man's hose in them. I can imagine, those would be deleted right away by default.

And even if they are not, one can not expect to win lottery, meaning, that only handful of messages form the pile will get looked at and even less will get answer. This is how it is, no point sulking about it.

Changing your 3rd leg for something more creative would be a start

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol

Just going on stuff I've read in the forum, a lot of women won't look at your profile if you've got a dick pic as your profile pic.

💯 for me anyway

I wouldn't be bothered either

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By *orkman66Man
4 weeks ago

Portlaoise

This one actually made me laugh aloud ! Nothing quite like a coffee and a laugh to keep the damp morning at bay !

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

Sure don't they think we are gagging for it

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol"

Here's your chance. Tell us why we should reply.

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By *orkman66Man
4 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Sure don't they think we are gagging for it

You mean all the ladies here aren't???? Im shocked !!!!!! Shocked I tells ya !

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
4 weeks ago

London/Kent

"That you won't view a profile with cock pic as profile pic

Nope. Lots of us won't. And personally, I won't read messages from guys with a cock pic as their profile pic. "

^^^^^^^ This

I won't open dms with a dick pic profile photo........

Yup...... I so wish we could block the very explicit close up dick pics & not having to block all men

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

Sure don't they think we are gagging for it

You mean all the ladies here aren't???? Im shocked !!!!!! Shocked I tells ya !"

Not even for the strangers with a hotel room nearby

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By *owitsthetimeforme2025Man
4 weeks ago

new to mayo

I sent a message to a lady on here very polite genuine message asking if she was interested in a chat sometime no pressure at all . And her reply was go fuck yourself I had to read my message back again I cudnt believe it . Did I do something wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

"I sent a message to a lady on here very polite genuine message asking if she was interested in a chat sometime no pressure at all . And her reply was go fuck yourself I had to read my message back again I cudnt believe it . Did I do something wrong ? "

You mistook her for a lady

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
4 weeks ago

London/Kent

OMG really, that's terrible ignorant low life behaviour if that was 'Her' reply to you & you

(& She isn't a "Lady" if she behaves like that)

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
4 weeks ago

London/Kent

OMG really, that's terrible ignorant low life behaviour if that was 'Her' reply to you & you

(& She isn't a "Lady" if she behaves like that)"

*Reply to you not & you

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By *owitsthetimeforme2025Man
4 weeks ago

new to mayo

I went back and read my message 2 times to see if I had said anything wrong to which I didn't or ever would. It was crazy but it's not the first time it's happened to me I just find it so ignorant by someone to act like that

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

"I went back and read my message 2 times to see if I had said anything wrong to which I didn't or ever would. It was crazy but it's not the first time it's happened to me I just find it so ignorant by someone to act like that "

Online people think they can get away with being rude. There's no excuse for it. Its on her and not you

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By *owitsthetimeforme2025Man
4 weeks ago

new to mayo

It's costs nothing to just say no thanks not for me or anything like that . But I guess there's people on here who think there above others .

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 weeks ago

The West

It's not rude to not reply though. That's even written into the site FAQ's. It's much less disheartening when you proceed on that basis.

No one asked for your message.

It's like an ad coming in your letter box. Unsolicited mail is just trash unless it just happens to be what you want.

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By *ealmc1973Man
4 weeks ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself..."

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?

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By *assySirenWoman
4 weeks ago

near you

Obviously mens and women's experience on this site are very very different. With the amount of messages we get a day we have to apply our personal filters and boundaries.

For instance sending a dick pic as an introductory message along with "how was your weekend?" will be ignored by I'd imagine most women on here. For me personally foreplay starts at the first interaction.

If I do reply to someone it's because I was in the mood of chatting, their profile pic and profile stood out and the message was short and engaging.

It really would be impossible to reply to every message we get, so all I can say it try not to take the no replies as a personal rejection

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Coleraine

90% of the messages we get warrant no response they are so poor.

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By *ustBoWoman
4 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Like others above have said if someone messages me and their profile doesn't appeal then I don't reply.

In fact I rarely reply anymore because I'm not looking to meet anyone new,and I learnt on here that 99 per cent of people who claim they are happy just to chat, aren't. And within a few messages start pushing to meet just because I've replied to them. Even when I have clear from the start that I am not meeting anyone new at present.

So for me personally that's why I don't reply to most messages.

And yes like others has also said a dick pic as a profile pic is just meh and really doesn't stand out amongst the 1000s of other dick pics on here. And yes I know what the site is but you become dick blind on here and I've yet to see on that makes me want to meet or answer anyone on that alone .

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

Newry

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol"

Truthfully because your profile is dire.

It pretty much says that you have a cock. Nothing else. For me, the pertinent question is why you thought that that's enough to get people to engage with you. Until you figure out why it's not then I'm afraid you're doomed to languish unread in the inbox forever

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By *aid backMan
4 weeks ago

by a lake with my rod out

In my humble opinion and this goes to everyone. If your approach yo getting meets isn't working then your approach is wrong. My analogy is If you're fishing and you're not catching you either change your bait or your technique. You don't blame the fish for not catching

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

Newry

"It's costs nothing to just say no thanks not for me or anything like that . But I guess there's people on here who think there above others . "

I get so many messages (the majority) from people who say I'm exactly what they're looking for, or they love my profile, or variations along those lines, and when I look at theirs there's no semblance of them being what I'm looking for. So if they either don't care what I'm looking for, or they didn't bother reading my profile (or did and ignored it), is it still rude if I don't reply?

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By *uddermeIspinMan
4 weeks ago

city centre

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol

Just going on stuff I've read in the forum, a lot of women won't look at your profile if you've got a dick pic as your profile pic.

💯 for me anyway

I wouldn't be bothered either"

Yeah me either

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself...

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?"

Yes, it is by me anyway.

Why do guys think it's acceptable to put zero effort into their profile and expect us to interact??

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By *aid backMan
4 weeks ago

by a lake with my rod out

"It's costs nothing to just say no thanks not for me or anything like that . But I guess there's people on here who think there above others . "

No reply is a reply it used to be in the site's faq.

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By *owitsthetimeforme2025Man
4 weeks ago

new to mayo

Can you explain as to how I have zero effort gone into my profile?

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By *opcattMan
4 weeks ago

co down

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol"
because females have a choice of thousands of males and males barely have a choice, my profiles not perfect but if i don't get a reply I'm not fussed. Suppose if a profile catches someone's eye it wouldn't matter what the first msg you sent was. It's all image on here just like in real life.

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 weeks ago

The West

"Can you explain as to how I have zero effort gone into my profile? "

One photo and a ChatGPT bio.

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By *xplicitMan
4 weeks ago

donegal

Rarely message profiles, but if you're going to , make sure you've read their profile and make sure you fit into their preferences, if you not in their age bracket, not into their kink, or aren't prepared to send facepic straight off the bat and they're looking one, don't feckin mail them. Should be simple enough

Now, that said, can't fathom people being rude just because they are popular ( in their mind).

Remember it's just the internet untill you actually meet.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
4 weeks ago

Newry

"Can you explain as to how I have zero effort gone into my profile? "

I think you might find that the comment was in reply to the OP

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By *uddermeIspinMan
4 weeks ago

city centre

"Can you explain as to how I have zero effort gone into my profile?

One photo and a ChatGPT bio."

Wait hold on, you can use chatGPT for a bio ?? Awk that's where I've been going wrong. A little heads up would have been nice guys

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By *owitsthetimeforme2025Man
4 weeks ago

new to mayo

More then one photo if you paid any attention and as for your chat gpt whatever you have lost it again sadly

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"More then one photo if you paid any attention and as for your chat gpt whatever you have lost it again sadly "

Friends photos are irrelevant when you're looking at someone's profile.

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By *electableicecreamMan
4 weeks ago

The West

"More then one photo if you paid any attention and as for your chat gpt whatever you have lost it again sadly "

Hey look you asked. There's a number of things that are always present whenever ChatGPT or Gemini create a bio.

I suppose it could be a coincidence.

Also you have no profile picture.

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By * DareCouple
4 weeks ago

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Not a fan of the ChatGPT bios tbh love to see a natural bio that tells a little about the person(s).

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By *edLips71Couple
4 weeks ago

Navan

"That you won't view a profile with cock pic as profile pic

Nope. Lots of us won't. And personally, I won't read messages from guys with a cock pic as their profile pic. "

100%

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By *infulWinksMan
4 weeks ago

harolds cross,

If someone you don’t know doesn’t speak to you in the real world, it wouldn’t bother you, why would it here.

What's meant for you will not pass you by!

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By *orkman66Man
4 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Sure don't they think we are gagging for it

You mean all the ladies here aren't???? Im shocked !!!!!! Shocked I tells ya !

Not even for the strangers with a hotel room nearby

Ah now that one has even me even more confused ! You mean to suggest that ladies online here dont dash immediately out to go to the hotel room of a stranger they haven't even chatted to in here ? Seriously ????? Oh Ill have to re-evaluate my whole understanding of this site so !!!!

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By *inglingPringle87Man
4 weeks ago

city

Try introducing yourself to people with your dick in your hand in real life.

That'll answer atleast part of your question here

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By *he gentleman 1000Man
4 weeks ago

santry

"Why is it so hard to get a response on here when messaging even just for a chat lol"
better off going socials as pointless sending messages to women on here they get 100s . I'm planning to go one when I've time life is busy

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

Not just aimed at the OP. Why do people start threads looking for advice yet never heed it .

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
4 weeks ago

Belfast and Tyrone

"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself...

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?"

Yes

I wouldn't be rude, but I wouldn't answer either.

When I started on here I attempted to answer every message just to be polite. Two things happened generally. The man 'turned" nasty on me (go eat salad was one of the nicer ones) or they started whining and needy. It also took up so much of my time. So I just had to call time on that.

Vics (f)

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
4 weeks ago

Belfast and Tyrone

"More then one photo if you paid any attention and as for your chat gpt whatever you have lost it again sadly "

I think possibly referring to the shadow profile photo.

If there's only a shadow I'm not going to click on to see public photos. So you may as well not have any public pics.

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By *aid backMan
4 weeks ago

by a lake with my rod out

The another reason not to reply. If you change you settings people who you replied to can still mail.

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By *ody2000Man
4 weeks ago

Navan

I was messaging a lady here and I asked the question, roughly how many messages she gets? Her reply was up to 150 at the weekend, mostly men looking for a quick shag or more photos.

My advice would be to put plenty information on your profile, get verified at a social media, and read carefully the profiles of the people you are messaging.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
4 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"I was messaging a lady here and I asked the question, roughly how many messages she gets? Her reply was up to 150 at the weekend, mostly men looking for a quick shag or more photos.

My advice would be to put plenty information on your profile, get verified at a social media, and read carefully the profiles of the people you are messaging. "

Women don't all get 100s of messages a day - filters prevent that. A lot of women don't set afters so they can tell everyone they get 100s a day

Regardless of how many messages a person gets, they're under no obligation to open or reply to any.

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By *ettaManMan
4 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

"Try introducing yourself to people with your dick in your hand in real life.

Just make sure it's not the hand you use for shaking hands, or you'll look a bit silly

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By *og-ManMan
4 weeks ago

somewhere

"Try introducing yourself to people with your dick in your hand in real life.

Just make sure it's not the hand you use for shaking hands, or you'll look a bit silly "

Nothing worse that having to shake hands with your left hand

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By *lickdickMan
4 weeks ago

Belfast

It has been awful trying to get some conversation out of anyone on here

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By *iresmillyWoman
4 weeks ago

Stillorgan

So I’ve pretty much closed my account as not meeting at the moment, but when it was live I would get a lot of messages very day and I couldn’t rely to the all. But these are the things I did;

I first look at the pics- if rubbish- no reply

Second- location. I’d not south Dublin, probably wouldn’t reply

Third thing I noticed- you don’t accom or travel- why would anyone reply to that.

Forth thing I noticed- you bio says very little. The bio lets me know if our kinks or sexual preferences align. No bio- no reply .

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By *iresmillyWoman
4 weeks ago

Stillorgan

* every

*reply

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By *iresmillyWoman
4 weeks ago

Stillorgan

*if

I’m tired, and pressed post too early🫣

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
4 weeks ago

Portstewart

Op you should read the site faqs it gives you a specific reason why people don't have to reply to messages

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By *inglingPringle87Man
4 weeks ago

city

"Try introducing yourself to people with your dick in your hand in real life.

Just make sure it's not the hand you use for shaking hands, or you'll look a bit silly

Nothing worse that having to shake hands with your left hand

If it takes two hands you'd have to do that strange elbow thing we did in covid 🤣

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By *ettaManMan
4 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

Nothing worse that having to shake hands with your left hand

It would just make the handshake awkward.

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By *ettaManMan
4 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

If it takes two hands you'd have to do that strange elbow thing we did in covid 🤣"

😂

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By *ittycouple4funCouple
4 weeks ago

stillorgan

A few things based on your profile, you have cock pics only, very little effort put into your profile and no verifications. We would not reply.

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By *llthewaysMan
4 weeks ago

Kildare/Dublin

The age old answer, no one owes you a reply. Just because you sent a message doesn't mean they should reply.

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By *eaAndBenCouple
4 weeks ago

Dublin

Often people don’t respond if they aren’t interested or the profile doesn’t catch their eye or for the simple reason that once you reply it seems to automatically raise expectation and it can be difficult to back out of wanted chat at that stage.

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By *heGeneral24Man
4 weeks ago

Limerick City

That comment = 👌 🤣 👏 😂 lol 😆.

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By *weetpea2000Woman
4 weeks ago

Wexford

"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself...

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?"

There's just no effort put in with either of those type pics.

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By *elfastDMan
4 weeks ago

belfast

"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself...

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?

There's just no effort put in with either of those type pics.

Come on he’s put the effort in to get undressed and everything

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By * DareCouple
4 weeks ago

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"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself...

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?

There's just no effort put in with either of those type pics.

Come on he’s put the effort in to get undressed and everything

Very true 🤣

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By *asheaMan
4 weeks ago

Killarney

What would be a good for woman like yourself to see from a man. Most of us are just guessing here

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By *dventurousDuoxXCouple
4 weeks ago

Blaney

"I sent a message to a lady ...nd her reply was go fuck yourself...

At least you got reply

Is Blank-head profile viewed the same way as Dick-head profile?"

IMO yes.. I wouldn't be bothered, takes 2 mins to upload a pic doesn't have to be anything major! Mrs

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
4 weeks ago

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"Can you explain as to how I have zero effort gone into my profile? "

You have effort gone in to your profile. For me it's the lack of a profile pic generally means your hiding something

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
4 weeks ago

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For me if they have facial hair I love to see a bit of that, or tattoos

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