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By *agneyandhutch OP   Couple
5 weeks ago

lucan

What is it with one word texts!

I know this is an old complaint, but a little effort can change everything.

What happened to engaging through conversation, after all … we wouldn’t walk up to someone at a social event and say “hi, hello, well etc”

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By *ettaManMan
5 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

Dunno

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😜

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By *tudentForFunMan
5 weeks ago

Craigavon

Ok

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By *ettaManMan
5 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.


"What is it with one word texts!

I know this is an old complaint, but a little effort can change everything.

What happened to engaging through conversation, after all … we wouldn’t walk up to someone at a social event and say “hi, hello, well etc”

"

It might have something to do with how behaviour is reinforced on here.

If people put in effort but don't get a reply, they will stop putting in the effort.

If they don't get a reply with a lack of effort, then they might stop sending messages altogether or continue to invest the same lack of effort bcos they believe the outcome will be the same, so they may reason "why put in the effort?"

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By *intyballsMan
5 weeks ago

Meath


"What is it with one word texts!

I know this is an old complaint, but a little effort can change everything.

What happened to engaging through conversation, after all … we wouldn’t walk up to someone at a social event and say “hi, hello, well etc”

It might have something to do with how behaviour is reinforced on here.

If people put in effort but don't get a reply, they will stop putting in the effort.

If they don't get a reply with a lack of effort, then they might stop sending messages altogether or continue to invest the same lack of effort bcos they believe the outcome will be the same, so they may reason "why put in the effort?""

I tried loads of different ways to get a reply I just given up in the end but that's just me and understand why with all the single guys on this and them sending stupid amounts of messages to women and men for that matter.

It's very hard to get notice but hopefully some day someone will notice me for being a nice and sound lad ( which no serial killer ever said 🤣🤣)

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By *om TangoMan
5 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

Hi or hey.

Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
5 weeks ago

Galway, Clare


"Hi or hey.

Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message. "

But that's the whole point.. it DOES matter what single guys say.

I've had some messages lately that have just been plain ignorant/stupid/lazy/disrespectful. And that's just the part I can see without opening it. So no, I'm absolutely not going to bother reading any further.

A message doesn't necessarily have to reference something from our profile, it just needs a bit of cop on.

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By *iscuits8Man
5 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"Hi or hey.

Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message.

But that's the whole point.. it DOES matter what single guys say.

I've had some messages lately that have just been plain ignorant/stupid/lazy/disrespectful. And that's just the part I can see without opening it. So no, I'm absolutely not going to bother reading any further.

A message doesn't necessarily have to reference something from our profile, it just needs a bit of cop on. "

Hey x

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere

Not just single guys in fairness

I got a couple saying Ho during the week

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By *iscuits8Man
5 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"I got a couple saying Ho during the week "

To be fair it's Santy's quiet time of the year 🎅

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
5 weeks ago

Galway, Clare


"Not just single guys in fairness

I got a couple saying Ho during the week "

You're right. It's not just single guys.. I got a "Hi" from a couple too.

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By * DareCouple
5 weeks ago

….


"Not just single guys in fairness

I got a couple saying Ho during the week

You're right. It's not just single guys.. I got a "Hi" from a couple too. "

Get a few “High” ‘s too lately

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 weeks ago

The West

I'd say 90% of the messages I've gotten from women or couples have been one or at most two words. 'Hi there'

It's the same as the dating apps. That's a pretty normal way to start a conversation in tinder for example.

I guess the expectation on Fab is that guys need to make more effort as there's more competition and also more general dross that needs to be risen above.

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere


"I got a couple saying Ho during the week

To be fair it's Santy's quiet time of the year 🎅"

At least they didn't say Hoe

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
5 weeks ago

KILDARE

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
5 weeks ago

KILDARE

I get younger guys sending me text speech like HMU? so I text back in old folk speech NDA? (No Denture Adventure)

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By * DareCouple
5 weeks ago

….


"I got a couple saying Ho during the week

To be fair it's Santy's quiet time of the year 🎅

At least they didn't say Hoe "

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By *tockings199Couple
5 weeks ago

Waterford

Fuck ??

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By *ednuts101Man
5 weeks ago

Finglas

Honestly with the amount of times single guys get ignored i am not surprised about the lack of effort..i have given up trying to start conversations on here...i usually get a one word response if any at all so why try it anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

One word texts have there uses, it is a clear indication that the person texting has no interest and the conversation is over. Glass half full kinda man

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By *llthewaysMan
5 weeks ago

Kildare/Dublin

I mean, for me, it makes it easier to figure out who doesn't know how to approach a conversation. It also includes people who just say 'how are you?' and nothing else. You need to sell yourself in a message. Give people a reason to write back.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
5 weeks ago

Portstewart

Have to admit that if someone messaged us with a one word text we have been known to reply with single word texts just to see how long it takes them to catch on and sometimes they don't but it's like pulling teeth

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Have to admit that if someone messaged us with a one word text we have been known to reply with single word texts just to see how long it takes them to catch on and sometimes they don't but it's like pulling teeth "

Have done this too if I'm very bored...like text tennis, just to see whether I can get a whole sentence. I usually give up before that happens 🤣

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By *ndrew1972Man
5 weeks ago

roscrea


"Fuck ??"

I got a message like that from a guy a few years ago. I just replied with Off??. He never responded.

In my defense, I thought it was some sort of word game.

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By *onny1969Man
5 weeks ago

local

It’s quite hard to start a conversation, I used to introduce myself and say hi hopefully we can chat and I would reckon I’ve received around 10-15 replies in my time here.

I have often complimented a profile and received a lot more replies which is generally my approach now. I don’t expect to get meets but I do enjoy chatting . One word messages seem to me like I’m interested but don’t want to waste my time if you’re not

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
5 weeks ago

Dublin City


"Hi or hey.

Doesn’t matter what us single guys text. We make an effort of reading the bio. Try to include something from their bio in the first message and we still don’t get a response. So I can understand why some men can’t be assed to make an effort with first message.

But that's the whole point.. it DOES matter what single guys say.

I've had some messages lately that have just been plain ignorant/stupid/lazy/disrespectful. And that's just the part I can see without opening it. So no, I'm absolutely not going to bother reading any further.

A message doesn't necessarily have to reference something from our profile, it just needs a bit of cop on. "

This exactly it. But its sometimes how singel women and couples message us.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
5 weeks ago

Lucan

Context is everything.

If that one word is "yes" to my "faf" text then it's all good.

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By *arbles00Man
5 weeks ago

Area 54

K

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
5 weeks ago

Belfast and Tyrone

We have omly just recieved a one word message.

'Hello'

I may reply with a Lionel Richie Spotify link

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By *ednuts101Man
5 weeks ago

Finglas

My favourite...... ? ......

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

If I get a one-word message, I either don’t reply or reply with another single word (it’ll be a thread full of variations of “hi”, “hello”, “hiya” or maybe someone stretching out to “how’s you?”). And it never goes anywhere!

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By *entleGent13Man
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

I know i make an effort. It doesn't always go over. But that's not up to me.

I'm never rude nor assumptive. I try to be interesting and polite.

I think the perception from some guys is that because you're on here it means it's legs open, eyes down and a full house.

So, they dont think they need to make an effort. I also think that applies to certain couples too.

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By *weetNspiceyCouple
5 weeks ago

Limerick, Galway


"K"

Kk

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By *endi LiquorTV/TS
5 weeks ago

newry

I find i more annoying when they message in text speak.

It's more annoying trying to work out what they mean.

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By *hunkyRedPandaMan
5 weeks ago

City

Text speak i can deal with.

What annoys a lot, is the hypocrites who mouth off about you putting in the effort in a message. But send you a one word opener. Either here or dating apps

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By *astelloWoman
5 weeks ago

Far far away

Maybe a copy and paste is better..l find them amusing...insert relevant user name and paste..great when they mix the names up..l feel so special

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