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By *onny1969 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

local

I’ve been on this site for several years and have really found it has become quite boring with the same idiotic updates and pics and comments. The same people trying to sell onlyfans contents or charging for meets. Seems like it’s becoming a cross between Craigslist and facebook with wanking material

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
5 weeks ago

Newry

When the fun stops, stop. Log off, take a break for a while. Staying isn't compulsory.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
5 weeks ago

Cork


"When the fun stops, stop. Log off, take a break for a while. Staying isn't compulsory."

What she said, I've basically stopped on here. There's much less hassle.

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

I've been here since 2016 and haven't seen or chatted to anyone selling content or asking for payment.

I must be doing something right?

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By *njco64Man
5 weeks ago

Tipperary


"When the fun stops, stop. Log off, take a break for a while. Staying isn't compulsory.

What she said, I've basically stopped on here. There's much less hassle."

Yep what she said I did for a few years now it’s worse multiple verifications needed meeting in socials people say there one thing when they clearly are not it’s a cross between wading through the BS and time waster’s to find genuine people then not being able to meet anyone anymore because you don’t have the right amount of verifications or didn’t attend social gatherings on the other side of the country when they were on that Wednesday night

When this was good was when you talked to people on the phone met somewhere public if both parties wanted to and progress from there but now this place has got itself to a place where some people have made it normal to need to have multiple verifications and you need socal gatherings by whatever ever today’s number is before you can meet people

Funny thing is yesterday I saw a post advertising a social gathering again in Dublin but you have had to have attended other social events in the past to even apply to go to the pub it’s on in!!!

Really? What’s next a letter from your mother the parish priest and Garda vetting before the cup of coffee.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
5 weeks ago

Lucan


"When the fun stops, stop. Log off, take a break for a while. Staying isn't compulsory.

What she said, I've basically stopped on here. There's much less hassle.

Yep what she said I did for a few years now it’s worse multiple verifications needed meeting in socials people say there one thing when they clearly are not it’s a cross between wading through the BS and time waster’s to find genuine people then not being able to meet anyone anymore because you don’t have the right amount of verifications or didn’t attend social gatherings on the other side of the country when they were on that Wednesday night

When this was good was when you talked to people on the phone met somewhere public if both parties wanted to and progress from there but now this place has got itself to a place where some people have made it normal to need to have multiple verifications and you need socal gatherings by whatever ever today’s number is before you can meet people

Funny thing is yesterday I saw a post advertising a social gathering again in Dublin but you have had to have attended other social events in the past to even apply to go to the pub it’s on in!!!

Really? What’s next a letter from your mother the parish priest and Garda vetting before the cup of coffee. "

To be fair now, people can 6 sell whatever they want to make them comfortable enough to meet. If you don't meet their requirements then as well as you not suiting them, they must likely don't suit you either so go look for someone else who does suit you. All the others that you mentioned still exist as well, it's just a matter of finding them.

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By *inkyDragonMan
5 weeks ago

Dublin


"I’ve been on this site for several years and have really found it has become quite boring with the same idiotic updates and pics and comments. The same people trying to sell onlyfans contents or charging for meets. Seems like it’s becoming a cross between Craigslist and facebook with wanking material"

Not here that long but I just block profiles that we don’t have anything in common with each other or I’m not the age they want or I’ve mailed and they deleted. Saves everyone the hassle. I’ve seen a few fans updates and I’ve been mailed looking for money for a meet. They are usually gone fairly quick. Take a break, have a KitKat and come back in a few weeks fresh. 😃

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By *affa31Woman
5 weeks ago

Galway

Let’s be honest here, once you get over 55 you’ve aged out of a lot of people preferences.

You might not like it but that’s life.

This refrain of I can’t get anywhere on fab cause everyone insists on xyz needs to stop. If you’re not within their preferences, you’re not within their preferences.

There are plenty of people who meet outside of socials, who meet unverified people and there are even socials that welcome unverified people to help them get their first veri. Many of these are on weekend afternoons which usually make them easier to attend.

If fab is not working for you, either change the way you approach things or accept that maybe it’s not the right place for you.

Also, be aware that whinging about people not wanting to meet you is not going to magically make other people want to meet you.

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By *ack1971Man
5 weeks ago

Cork

I love the people who are on here to do moany posts.

It really enriches us all ffs.

Don't like it, leave. Simple.

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By *rusader1Man
5 weeks ago

Dublin


"Let’s be honest here, once you get over 55 you’ve aged out of a lot of people preferences.

You might not like it but that’s life.

This refrain of I can’t get anywhere on fab cause everyone insists on xyz needs to stop. If you’re not within their preferences, you’re not within their preferences.

There are plenty of people who meet outside of socials, who meet unverified people and there are even socials that welcome unverified people to help them get their first veri. Many of these are on weekend afternoons which usually make them easier to attend.

If fab is not working for you, either change the way you approach things or accept that maybe it’s not the right place for you.

Also, be aware that whinging about people not wanting to meet you is not going to magically make other people want to meet you. "

Crikey Jaffa, that 55 comment felt like a knife to the heart!!!

Lol

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By *affa31Woman
5 weeks ago

Galway


"Let’s be honest here, once you get over 55 you’ve aged out of a lot of people preferences.

You might not like it but that’s life.

This refrain of I can’t get anywhere on fab cause everyone insists on xyz needs to stop. If you’re not within their preferences, you’re not within their preferences.

There are plenty of people who meet outside of socials, who meet unverified people and there are even socials that welcome unverified people to help them get their first veri. Many of these are on weekend afternoons which usually make them easier to attend.

If fab is not working for you, either change the way you approach things or accept that maybe it’s not the right place for you.

Also, be aware that whinging about people not wanting to meet you is not going to magically make other people want to meet you.

Crikey Jaffa, that 55 comment felt like a knife to the heart!!!

Lol"

Soz

I mean, I’d be more concerned with the amount of female pics on a single male profile than the 55 but 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *njco64Man
5 weeks ago

Tipperary


"Let’s be honest here, once you get over 55 you’ve aged out of a lot of people preferences.

You might not like it but that’s life.

This refrain of I can’t get anywhere on fab cause everyone insists on xyz needs to stop. If you’re not within their preferences, you’re not within their preferences.

There are plenty of people who meet outside of socials, who meet unverified people and there are even socials that welcome unverified people to help them get their first veri. Many of these are on weekend afternoons which usually make them easier to attend.

If fab is not working for you, either change the way you approach things or accept that maybe it’s not the right place for you.

Also, be aware that whinging about people not wanting to meet you is not going to magically make other people want to meet you. "

Not sure if that’s meant for me but just to be clear I’m not whining about wanting to meet I have no issue with that at all I have met people on and outside of here that have no idea this exists

My point was this seems to be a different platform to what it was originally set up to be which was a place to meet like minded people and obviously you wouldn’t want to meet someone who’s not

What’s happened since I returned is obstacles are now put in the way of this being what it was meant to be making it more difficult to reach its original objective. Counterproductive?

If for safety reasons there’s nothing to say a guy/girl won’t turn nasty just because they are verified by someone else’s

Social events someone people are not comfortable in those settings for multiple reasons yet they are now held to verify people who can now go on to do what the site was originally intended in the first place

So for whatever reason in my opinion the sites changed and not for the better but as I said it’s just my personal opinion not a winge or a moan life’s too short to waste energy doing that

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By *earuisceMan
5 weeks ago

south sligo

I’m at the top end of the spectrum being a 64 year old silver fox. Happy enough with what fab has had to offer thus far! Fitting in isn’t compulsory just hang in there until you get noticed is my motto! Happy fabbing OP

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By *onny1969 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

local

I never whinged about whether I get meets or not, it’s the actual membership (fabbers) that has changed. They are not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Who is charging for meets ?

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By *onny1969 OP   Man
5 weeks ago

local


"I love the people who are on here to do moany posts.

It really enriches us all ffs.

Don't like it, leave. Simple."

Not moaning, just making an observation

Fab has changed a lot since I first joined. I have met and been verified and I’m not gonna get upset when a message is unanswered or I receive a no thanks. I just think that as a platform for swinging engagements it has turned into a Facebook type of site. If you check out the amount of pay to play you’d be surprised. It’s not the same on the uk site

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere


"I never whinged about whether I get meets or not, it’s the actual membership (fabbers) that has changed. They are not swinging"

You're joking ....the forums are a tiny part of fab

Some people dont even know the forums exist

There's a lot happening off the forums that doesn't get mentioned on the forums

Sure there's riding going on everywhere

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 weeks ago

The West

Getting cranky coz things aren't like they used up be isn't really going to change anything.

Shake your fist at clouds if ya like but fab is built on the verification system and for good reason. It keeps people safer and wastes less of people's time. It's not perfect but show anything similar that is

It's not the same site as it was a decade ago. It's not even the same internet. Look around for christ sake.

And just FYI I got all of my initial meetings through chatting in the forums and meeting people that way. It was ages before I went to a social and I'm not on fab that long.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
5 weeks ago

The West


"Let’s be honest here, once you get over 55 you’ve aged out of a lot of people preferences.

You might not like it but that’s life.

This refrain of I can’t get anywhere on fab cause everyone insists on xyz needs to stop. If you’re not within their preferences, you’re not within their preferences.

There are plenty of people who meet outside of socials, who meet unverified people and there are even socials that welcome unverified people to help them get their first veri. Many of these are on weekend afternoons which usually make them easier to attend.

If fab is not working for you, either change the way you approach things or accept that maybe it’s not the right place for you.

Also, be aware that whinging about people not wanting to meet you is not going to magically make other people want to meet you.

Not sure if that’s meant for me but just to be clear I’m not whining about wanting to meet I have no issue with that at all I have met people on and outside of here that have no idea this exists

My point was this seems to be a different platform to what it was originally set up to be which was a place to meet like minded people and obviously you wouldn’t want to meet someone who’s not

What’s happened since I returned is obstacles are now put in the way of this being what it was meant to be making it more difficult to reach its original objective. Counterproductive?

If for safety reasons there’s nothing to say a guy/girl won’t turn nasty just because they are verified by someone else’s

Social events someone people are not comfortable in those settings for multiple reasons yet they are now held to verify people who can now go on to do what the site was originally intended in the first place

So for whatever reason in my opinion the sites changed and not for the better but as I said it’s just my personal opinion not a winge or a moan life’s too short to waste energy doing that "

So you're saying verification is an obstacle?

Firstly, for the swinging scene in Irekand, id say it's never been easier to get verified.

Secondly, it helps avoid so many fake accounts on here.

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By *njco64Man
5 weeks ago

Tipperary


"Let’s be honest here, once you get over 55 you’ve aged out of a lot of people preferences.

You might not like it but that’s life.

This refrain of I can’t get anywhere on fab cause everyone insists on xyz needs to stop. If you’re not within their preferences, you’re not within their preferences.

There are plenty of people who meet outside of socials, who meet unverified people and there are even socials that welcome unverified people to help them get their first veri. Many of these are on weekend afternoons which usually make them easier to attend.

If fab is not working for you, either change the way you approach things or accept that maybe it’s not the right place for you.

Also, be aware that whinging about people not wanting to meet you is not going to magically make other people want to meet you.

Not sure if that’s meant for me but just to be clear I’m not whining about wanting to meet I have no issue with that at all I have met people on and outside of here that have no idea this exists

My point was this seems to be a different platform to what it was originally set up to be which was a place to meet like minded people and obviously you wouldn’t want to meet someone who’s not

What’s happened since I returned is obstacles are now put in the way of this being what it was meant to be making it more difficult to reach its original objective. Counterproductive?

If for safety reasons there’s nothing to say a guy/girl won’t turn nasty just because they are verified by someone else’s

Social events someone people are not comfortable in those settings for multiple reasons yet they are now held to verify people who can now go on to do what the site was originally intended in the first place

So for whatever reason in my opinion the sites changed and not for the better but as I said it’s just my personal opinion not a winge or a moan life’s too short to waste energy doing that

So you're saying verification is an obstacle?

Firstly, for the swinging scene in Irekand, id say it's never been easier to get verified.

Secondly, it helps avoid so many fake accounts on here. "

No that wasn’t my point it’s just what you want to take from the point I was making which if you read it you will understand

Your firstly….. is exactly the point I was making which only was this never happened before or was needed it has just crept in plus if you do want to be verified and live in an urban area or close to one I’m sere it is easy

And finally fake accounts have always been on here from day one the idea of changing to be on here was discussed which I agree with by the way to stop or reduce them but never happened

Please remember this is not my forum I’m just giving my opinion having read the tag

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By *affa31Woman
5 weeks ago

Galway

This iteration of my account is 10 years old. I’ve been knocking around way longer than that.

Verifications have always been important.

10 years ago most, if not all, events were only for verified people.

A lot of people refused to meet unverified people.

The only difference now is that there are way more events being ran where unverified people can get verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I’ve been on Fab for over 9 years and in that time for the vast majority of socials be it big group type or one on one you’ve had to be verified. That has never changed. And as was said above it’s never been easier to get verified, all it takes is tiny bit of effort.

Plus I haven’t received or given out a verification in 3 or 4 years or maybe longer and I have never been refused an invite to a social I’ve asked to attend. It blows my mind that people get so hung up on such a tiny detail.

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By *entleGent13Man
5 weeks ago

Somewhere


"When the fun stops, stop. Log off, take a break for a while. Staying isn't compulsory."

Good advice...

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By *izzKathrynWoman
5 weeks ago

Drogheda

I get OF links all the time, thirst trap messages and a link I just delete but it's wild!!

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By *affa31Woman
5 weeks ago

Galway


"I’ve been on this site for several years and have really found it has become quite boring with the same idiotic updates and pics and comments. The same people trying to sell onlyfans contents or charging for meets. Seems like it’s becoming a cross between Craigslist and facebook with wanking material"

Neither I nor anyone I know has ever been sent an OF link here or seen anyone charging for meets.

It’s bizarre to me that you think this is common place.

Do you message every new female account on here or do they just send them out of the blue?

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By *inkywife1981Couple
5 weeks ago

A town near you

I can imagine the single guys are prone to bad actors, ie working girls and OF wannabes.

As for the verification angle we, like a lot of other people value discretion and safety and hence don't want to be exposed to someone that maybe a looney or a fake. We would rather someone else vetted people before we encounter them, selfish of us perhaps.

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 weeks ago

The West


"I can imagine the single guys are prone to bad actors, ie working girls and OF wannabes.

"

Not once in two years have I come across any of these bad actor's.

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By *amelaPamCDTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Bitchville

55+ welcome

Pamela x

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By *ittycouple4funCouple
5 weeks ago

stillorgan

It seems like you are only here to view content and not use it as a place to meet people who take part in the lifestyle. I'd imagine only a small percentage of people who are actively meeting other people rarely post in the forums. Have you posted much interesting content or updates yourself over the last year?

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By *inkywife1981Couple
5 weeks ago

A town near you


"I can imagine the single guys are prone to bad actors, ie working girls and OF wannabes.

Not once in two years have I come across any of these bad actor's.

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Yet we see these claims from single guys in the forums all the time.

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere

I genuinely dont see the point in OF and would never paid to see someone naked so that angle wouldn't work on me

In six years Ive been asked twice to be a sugar daddy and I've just blocked them

First message straight out with sob story and request for money

Its no big deal

Get more offers to have my cock sucked to be honest

Again ....no big deal

Its the nature of the site

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
5 weeks ago

Newry

There are things you can do to improve your user experience, the simplest - and maybe most relevant to your post OP - being use the block button to curate your updates. Or don't bother looking at the updates at all. I rarely look at local updates as it doesn't really bring anything to my use of the site.

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