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By *jordd OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Greystones

Hi all, I was just wondering how many people are here that don't exactly have their partners approval. I know this sounds horrible, but they exist.

Is there a general consensus on Fab about discrete meet ups? Are they frowned upon on here? Would you get involved with them?

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By *s LollyWoman
6 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I don't meet attached people simply because I like to meet when it suits me not around someone else's schedule way to much hide and seek involved....

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
6 weeks ago

Galway, Clare


" don't exactly have their partners approval. "

You do, or you don't. How is there an in-between??

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By *atonaWoman
6 weeks ago

Meh

I’m here with my husband’s full awareness and knowledge. I don’t require his permission.

I don’t have a problem meeting men married/relationships (whether their wives know or not) - they’re the ones who have to live with their actions, not me.

Although to be fair, 99% of my meets are single men. The hide and seek approach is quite tedious to be honest

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By *jordd OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Greystones

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By *jordd OP   Man
6 weeks ago

Greystones


" don't exactly have their partners approval.

You do, or you don't. How is there an in-between??"

I suppose the in between would be a don't ask don't tell sort of arrangement

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By *ubadubdubWoman
6 weeks ago

Hereabouts


"Hi all, I was just wondering how many people are here that don't exactly have their partners approval. I know this sounds horrible, but they exist.

Is there a general consensus on Fab about discrete meet ups? Are they frowned upon on here? Would you get involved with them?"

There's no general consensus as we've seen from threads on the forums over the years. I wouldn't advise hiding your status, if asked, from anyone who you plan to meet here. That's the worst and doesn't go down well at all.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
6 weeks ago

Castlebar

I've met married/attached/cheating guys... It gets a bit tedious after a while waiting for them to be "free" so I prefer not to.

I've also met "unattached" people on Fab who also want to keep meets secret for various reasons. Lots of people have secrets from people whether they are married or not.

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By *og-ManMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere

The only advice I could give is to be honest with someone you're planning to meet and let them make the decision as to whether they'll meet you or not.

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By *atonaWoman
6 weeks ago

Meh


"The only advice I could give is to be honest with someone you're planning to meet and let them make the decision as to whether they'll meet you or not."

I second this. It gets pretty clear after a while if someone is taken or not. I hate the lie.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Coleraine

There are absolutely loads of people here without their partners approval. No idea about women but loads of men and couples accounts.

To be honest it’s never bothered us we have met singles and attached (mostly attracted). Their relationships are their business not ours. Our key requirements are the same for anyone - good match to us, reliable, not an idiot, good conversation, understand our requirements.

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By *aulm2016Man
6 weeks ago

Dublin

Here without approval but have never had any complaints… it turns most women on

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By *aybeLadyWoman
6 weeks ago

West Dublin

A lot are on here without their partners knowledge.

I do not want any part of involvement with such men. Not even chatting.

Some people will turn a blind eye & that is their decision.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
6 weeks ago

West Dublin


"Here without approval but have never had any complaints… it turns most women on "

In my interaction with women at socials etc, they do not touch cheating men so I do not agree with this statement.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
6 weeks ago

Galway, Clare


"Here without approval but have never had any complaints… it turns most women on "

Most women?? I believe you're mistaken. Hugely.

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By *ewcorkcpl23Couple
6 weeks ago

Cork

We have a rule of thumb ourselves that if we want a mfm or ffm the f or m has to be attached and we insist on other partner knowing the amount of times especially from men it turns out they don't have approval is scarey that to us is an instant x through them. Honesty is a big thing in our marriage so thats why its an instant thanks but no thanks to us. What other people do isn't our business we don't judge but we just don't want any dramas. We know there's cheating lady's too but I can fully see why at times men are judged upon in a different way to cheating women.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

My other half is here too and fully aware of this profile.

I wouldn't knowingly meet anyone here on the sly op, as I'd hate it don't to me, but others will.

The best advice is to be upfront about it, so it gives others the choice to get involved or not.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"Here without approval but have never had any complaints… it turns most women on "

I don't think it turns most on, some is the word you'd apply to it.

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By *ody2000Man
6 weeks ago

Navan

I’m here with approval, our needs are different and she would rather see me here instead of a dating site, she even sees my messages and who I message, not everyone is in the same situation but we always found honesty is the best policy,

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