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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
5 weeks ago

KILDARE

I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet!

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By *icevicebabyWoman
5 weeks ago

Dublin North

Absolutely nothing to do with your age. Stick to your principles and the right person will come along. Anyone who doesnt understand why a woman needs to meet someone before going to a hotel room wouldn't be worth meeting in my opinion!

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
5 weeks ago

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No im the exact same as you. Would say it's old school more of being careful. I like a social to see if we are compatible and if there is chemistry. If there isn't then there won't be a 2nd meet

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By *allyWally19Woman
5 weeks ago

The Road to Nowhere

Definitely not OP! There's a few reasons why I'd meet socially first. Safety being one...looking for vibes that you wouldn't always get in messages & then of course you have to see if there's an attraction there too

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By *ubadubdubWoman
5 weeks ago

Hereabouts

"Absolutely nothing to do with your age. Stick to your principles and the right person will come along. Anyone who doesnt understand why a woman needs to meet someone before going to a hotel room wouldn't be worth meeting in my opinion! "

Agreed

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 weeks ago

Castlebar

I'd need some sort of chat first. Has to be something attractive about the person and for me that's personality as well. But everyone is different and I find circumstances can dictate that too. I can meet them, chat for 5 mins and know that if it was possible I'd take it much further then and there...😈

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By *obshortMan
5 weeks ago

Cork

Ladies it's a two way street. Always a social first. You just have to get that click, connection. Without that, forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"I'd need some sort of chat first. Has to be something attractive about the person and for me that's personality as well. But everyone is different and I find circumstances can dictate that too. I can meet them, chat for 5 mins and know that if it was possible I'd take it much further then and there...😈"

I agree, chemistry before biology

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I can't shit talk here with the best of them and like most people know how to work it with the right things to say but in person ye really get to know the person, ive chatting with people on here and thought there was a vibe unfortunately in person there wasn't, it's the reason im more for a social meet first.....

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By *exyScientistsCouple
5 weeks ago

Castlebar

"I can't shit talk here with the best of them and like most people know how to work it with the right things to say but in person ye really get to know the person, ive chatting with people on here and thought there was a vibe unfortunately in person there wasn't, it's the reason im more for a social meet first....."

💯

And sometimes I've barely chatted at all then met them and wanted to rip their clothes off

Never can tell 😊

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By *outh_of_EdenMan
5 weeks ago

Fota

Absolutely 💯 agree. Chat...social..possible fun. No other way!

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By *ipp2025Man
5 weeks ago

thurles

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

I’m still waiting on you to take me up on my offer for a social 😊😊, but on a serious note I encounter it too believe it not, I always want to meet socially first where’s some women don’t, and I have list potential dates by this

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By *tmanMan
5 weeks ago

newry

Stick to your guns Ms Lolly. If they cant accept that their loss.

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By *atonaWoman
5 weeks ago

Meh

Same here. Social 1st always. I have though, in 2 occasions, went immediately to sex soon after the social. One of them was so confident we’d get on that he booked the hotel - he was right 😂. I’m still seeing both men today.

In most cases, I always have a break in between social and sex so I can make a non-pressured decision.

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Same here. Social 1st always. I have though, in 2 occasions, went immediately to sex soon after the social. One of them was so confident we’d get on that he booked the hotel - he was right 😂. I’m still seeing both men today.

In most cases, I always have a break in between social and sex so I can make a non-pressured decision. "

Im not ruling anything out after the social or later or even the next day things can and do happen 😝

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
5 weeks ago

kinkytown

We're extremely strict on social first. We believe if someone can't be bothered to do a social then they won't be able to show up for the real fun. Least if a social no shows it's not really much of a bother for us.

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
5 weeks ago

Midlands

Definitely stick to a social first. If they question you as to why then swiftly move on as they aren't for you. X

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere

Your rules as its your hotel room

As someone else said nothing to stop the chat moving upstairs when you both feel comfortable with each other anyway

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 weeks ago

The West

A man who isn't willing to meet your need for social contact before sex is unlikely so be sensitive you any other needs you might have.

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By *otownkid1967Man
5 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Dead right lolly. Always a social first.

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By *ingleStud85Man
5 weeks ago

Donegal

Social first is always good. Was never keen on the coffee shop setting, can be crowded and cramped. Nice to have a walk in the park or beach if the weather suits.

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By *illyouup400Man
5 weeks ago

City

Chat here, then a coffee and maybe some cake and after that, who knows.

I think you need to have a connection and better to know about the other persons likes, preferences etc. How do you do that without conversation.

If they haven't or can't make time for a social, its not a good indicator. Stick to your guns!

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By *milie30Woman
5 weeks ago

cork

I totally agree with you I’m the same social first and then see how it goes there has to be a connection and spark but the minute you say that the men disappear they just want a fuck and go !

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By *uietman19Man
5 weeks ago

carlow

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

Its certainly not old school, its totally logical and safe and it has only got to be meeting for a social first Ya got to know if theres an attraction or not

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
5 weeks ago

DUBLIN

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

I'd turn up if I were meeting you!

But then you don't want to meet men above 50!

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By *ungry CatCouple
5 weeks ago

Belfast

"A man who isn't willing to meet your need for social contact before sex is unlikely so be sensitive you any other needs you might have. "

100% agree with this.

When someone doesn't care about you feeling safe and wanting to build some chemistry with them - they will most likely ignore other boundaries you may have, take advantage of you regardless of your wishes and dissappear back into the abyss that they came from.

Personally I don't even engage in any sex talk with anyone who I haven't met socially in person before.

missus

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By *lasticpaddy1Man
5 weeks ago

Athlone

"Same here. Social 1st always. I have though, in 2 occasions, went immediately to sex soon after the social. One of them was so confident we’d get on that he booked the hotel - he was right 😂. I’m still seeing both men today.

In most cases, I always have a break in between social and sex so I can make a non-pressured decision.

Im not ruling anything out after the social or later or even the next day things can and do happen 😝"
if you are going away somewhere close to me I'll meet ya for a coffee or alcoholic drink the first day and sure see what happens if nothing then onto the next person to see if a connection. Stick to your principals I've never fucked nor expected a fuck on a first meet/date/social

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

It written clearly on my profile that I don't meet without a social and it's not open for discussion.

I've still had women and couples pushing to meet at an hotel and I've turned them all down. They were all very well verified so maybe they thought I would make an exception.

At the same time, the very first line of my profile says that I'm not meeting at the minute and some people think neither of those rules apply to them and get a bit sarky when I point them out.

Anyone here a while will have heard about my very first fab meet and the issues that could have potentially caused so I don't second guess anything or anyone now.

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By *hris 1000200Man
5 weeks ago

kells

Always stick to your principles, never deviate

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By *aystar1101Man
5 weeks ago

clare

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "
. Hello and how are you doing and are you serious because I would not let you down if you interested xxxx John

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
5 weeks ago

Louth

It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time.

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By *orkyMorkMan
5 weeks ago

Dublin City

I want to meet someone socially before doing anything also, to be honest. If the spark isn't there no point in doing anything!

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By *hris 1000200Man
5 weeks ago

kells

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

All I can say on that is ,"their loss",,pity I'm out of your age range

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
5 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time. "

That's a hugely sweeping generalisation. I've never, as single or as part of a couple, had a no-show from a single guy.

You can't tar them all with the same brush, that's just unfair.

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By *a1970Man
5 weeks ago

East cork

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"
stick to your guns.

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By *ilMsStickyWoman
5 weeks ago

Galway

Would never meet anyone for fun unless there was a social 1st O.P. Met way too many creeps and scary dudes to just have one waltz into my room and be trapped there with him. Now if the chemistry is wild upon meeting at social then yeah I'd happily direct him to the bed and devour him. It's proving quite difficult to get genuine gents to ever show up regardless of wanting a social or not. The place is littered with dreamers and pic hunters but I enjoy ing them out too🤪

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By *a1970Man
5 weeks ago

East cork

"It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time.

That's a hugely sweeping generalisation. I've never, as single or as part of a couple, had a no-show from a single guy.

You can't tar them all with the same brush, that's just unfair."
thank you

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By *entleGent13Man
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

You're doing exactly what you should for your own safety and well being. Don't lower your standards to others that may get you in a risky position.

Speaking as a man I respect that position and would be suspicious if you didn't ask for a meet first.

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By *uddermeIspinMan
5 weeks ago

city centre

Like if she's not willing to buy me a coffee it's not a good start

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By *electableicecreamMan
5 weeks ago

The West

"It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time. "

That's pretty much how I feel about entitled couples who'll jump at any opportunity to criticise single men.

If men don't want to meet you there might well be a reason.

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By *llthewaysMan
5 weeks ago

Kildare/Dublin

The idea of not chatting with someone first baffles me, surely you want to know what the other person is looking and to see it it matches you.

There has to be some click right?

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
5 weeks ago

Louth

"It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time.

That's pretty much how I feel about entitled couples who'll jump at any opportunity to criticise single men.

If men don't want to meet you there might well be a reason."

You do you, and we will do us! We have single guys who we trust and meet and zero shortage of playmates. You possess nothing we cannot get from a guy from a couple. Happy Fabbing

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By *lternative lifestyleCouple
5 weeks ago

Louth

"It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time.

That's a hugely sweeping generalisation. I've never, as single or as part of a couple, had a no-show from a single guy.

You can't tar them all with the same brush, that's just unfair."

It's how a lot of our friends think. As said we have our reliable friends and playmates.

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By *ogetthemMan
5 weeks ago

where I live

It's like fast fashion, here, now and that's it. I don't know is it not a bit more fun to have a bit of flirty chat first. And then have a bit more pleasure in it. If it's going to happen it's going to happen

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By *ettaManMan
5 weeks ago

Based in Kerry, work in Cork.

I'd need a social meeting first. Now, it could be a social meeting before heading straight to a hotel room to play, but I don't think I'd just rock up to a hotel room and drop trow without chatting and flirting first.

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By *ea ShellsWoman
5 weeks ago

Sligo

After chatting or messaging on fab I’ll often suggest a video call. Telegram offers this service as does what’s app. Maybe not for everyone but works for me and saves so much on travel and wasted time. But yes OP social interaction a must pre fun! Always.

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By *ustMe!Woman
5 weeks ago

co.down

"It's incredibly rare we would meet anyone we have not met outside of organised socials. A girl or a couple but zero chance of a single guy as we all know they chicken out and never show. Wouldn't waste our time. "

We need a catch up xx

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By *wingpeterMan
5 weeks ago

Enniscorthy

A social meet first is obviously important before anything happens. It's respect and both people have to get a feel for one another,excuse the pun.It makes complete sense.

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By *if_JuliaCouple
5 weeks ago

Dungannon

A social first definitely and depending how it goes fun could be arranged that same evening or another time for us

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By *iscuits8Man
5 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

There's no one size fits all really, everyone's gotta do their Fab journey the way they're most comfortable.

I've met people here several times socially for over a couple of years before we ever had sex. I've met some once and we arranged it for next time around. And I've had a few where we were at it within an hour of first meeting.

So fair to say I have no set rule

I can honestly say I've never gone to meet someone here with expectation of sex, unless that's specifically the reason we're meeting up.

The main thing is to stick to your guns and don't tolerate any pushiness or demands to do anything outside your comfort zone 🙌

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By *r.hetroflexibleMan
5 weeks ago

centre

I can barely get a hey how are you 🤣🤣

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By *razyNippleLoverMan
5 weeks ago

Back End of Beyond

Echo to most who have already posted.

Different strokes for Different folks ,

I not surprised on some of the sweeping generalisations and hope it doesn't cloud judgements, I dont like it, I prefer to keep an open mind but its seems to be a trend .

OP , gave me my first socail meet / verfi , always gratefull for that.

And tots agree , social / face to face vibe checks are essential.

However, that progresses is up to individuals

Don't change OP, what's for you wont pass you .

Your House Your Rules !!

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By *razyNippleLoverMan
5 weeks ago

Back End of Beyond

"Echo to most who have already posted.

Different strokes for Different folks ,

I not surprised on some of the sweeping generalisations and hope it doesn't cloud judgements, I dont like it, I prefer to keep an open mind but its seems to be a trend .

OP , gave me my first socail meet / verfi , always gratefull for that.

And tots agree , social / face to face vibe checks are essential.

However, that progresses is up to individuals

Don't change OP, what's for you wont pass you .

Your House Your Rules !!"

And if you wanna fuck it , before socail that's up 2 u 2 , dont need our approval!!

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By *onny17Man
5 weeks ago

city

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

Inbox always open

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By *ustMe!Woman
5 weeks ago

co.down

"I can barely get a hey how are you 🤣🤣"

Hey how are you xx

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By *DGF20Man
5 weeks ago

Dublin

Don't understand how some people can't understand that people want to meet socially first? There is some people they agree to play without social, been there than that but still not expecting from someone to sleep with me without knowing me, especially for women is important to make them feel safe and comfortable.

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By *inger_SterlingCouple
5 weeks ago

Dublin

There needs to be a bit of connection, banter, chemistry, je ne sais quoi... Even dirty dancing in the club and kinky body language...

-D

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By *orknmindy21Couple
5 weeks ago

Newtownards

We have met on the odd occasion a quick coffee and straight back to fuck 😃

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By *allfunguy400Man
5 weeks ago

Kildare

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

Stunning

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By *ing PaddyMan
5 weeks ago

South County Dublin

I think it is important to have a social first, not just for safety reasons but to make sure the other person can hold a conversation.

I'm available for a social coffee Ms Lolly my treat.

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By *ingetMan
5 weeks ago

West Cork

Would have to meet first,we may not even like each other.

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By *ody2000Man
5 weeks ago

Navan

Definitely a social first, sure either party could be a complete psychopath, you’d never know, stick to your guns and do whatever you feel is safest for you.

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By *anUTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Rural

A video call and chat sometimes work, but if I feel there's something off I just am uninterested.

It's not hard to pick up on desperation or someone who's figgity and lacks social skills.

Or asking me to meet without a face picture etc and give them my postcode, like eff off I'm not as thick as I look lol

If they're not willing to swap numbers and have a video call, I'm unwilling to engage.

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By *anUTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Rural

"Definitely a social first, sure either party could be a complete psychopath, you’d never know, stick to your guns and do whatever you feel is safest for you. "

They're out there alright, what are the odds of two psychpaths meeting;) ha ha

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By *ralPleasure25Man
5 weeks ago

cork

Hi guys id meet anyone of you lovely ladies for coffee I csnt get no one to show up let alone to have sex in a hotel good luck if you do get social shame your all so far away

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By *escrean100Man
5 weeks ago

North Co Dublin

Totally agree with your approach Lolly, always much better to do a social and see if there’s a spark, otherwise you’re wasting everyone’s time. Absolutely agree on the safety piece too!

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By *iresmillyWoman
5 weeks ago

Stillorgan

There is not a hope I would meet for a fuck without a social first. The social only has to be a 10min meet and greet, not a date, but it’s so important for chemistry, safety and the tester kiss😂

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By *ooking2099Man
5 weeks ago

city

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

Some people think its dial a ride and your at the edge of your seat waiting for the dick pics to flood in so you can drop everything on their whim. Of course a coffee, tea social is 100percent in order, you have your standards others have theirs, you do what you makes you feel safe and use your better judgement

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

I genuinely find the idea of the first meet being for sex, of there not being some sort of social interaction first, to be baffling. How do you know the other person isn’t nuts? Or doesn’t have BO, bad breath, or isn’t creepy? I especially wouldn’t expect a woman to meet me straight away without wanting to check me out in a public place first. Anyone not agreeing to this is a massive red flag.

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By *he FoxybeansCouple (FF)
5 weeks ago

squirtville

Always they same if you say social meet first always get do I not even get a blow job driving down to meet ye ..

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By *an from Galway says yesMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere sexy

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

If they dont have the manners to meet first then tell them get lost

Not confident enough to sell themselves lol

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By *littlebitoffunMan
5 weeks ago

east antrim

Your old school cool.

Its the way i work it as yes you can get a vibe then in person its not their.

I have had it all

The not turning up for social

The vibe wasnt their

To the lets meet soon to continue it.

To the get that coffee finished,and let's go to mine .

It all what you feel comfortable in.

If they want to skip the social what does that say to your mind.

Its you that you have to satisfy your mind so do whst makes you happy

Or if you want you can try out the social eith me and see if you want to meet them

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By *r.hetroflexibleMan
5 weeks ago

centre

"I can barely get a hey how are you 🤣🤣

Hey how are you xx "

Yikes ...lol

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By *nd attemptMan
5 weeks ago

dublin

So few women on the app that they can insist on a coffee date first. It's the cliques you need to watch out for

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By *razy-CplCouple
5 weeks ago

and surrounding areas

Same here , i ,mrs crazy , looking for solo meets , guys will chat away , but once a coffee social is mentioned, boom it goes all quiet or else , can we just skip the coffee , ahhhh no we cant , have to se if we are compatible or not

Mrs crazy

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By *ogladyWoman
5 weeks ago

The bog

I always have to do a social meet first and if it's not for them then I just say fair enough and good luck..

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
5 weeks ago

kinkytown

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

Same here. 🙄

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
5 weeks ago

London/Kent

I'd never just jump into bed with someone without meeting first, I actually like to 'date' them first, yes Date, Imagine even on Fab🤭, Gotta be a strong connection & really good vibe & electric chemistry first & that includes the build up & excitement & all the flirting & teasing😉

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By *uiltypleasure1Man
5 weeks ago

dundrum, kildare

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

I would definitely turn up for you! Xxx

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
5 weeks ago

Newry

Your body, your time, your rules.

I don't think it's old school; for me it's just common sense. Not only do I want to see in irl if they're the sort of person I want to get naked with, I want to see if it's mutual. If people don't care about that, I don't care to fuck them.

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By *om4527Man
5 weeks ago

Enniskillen

The ladies have to be safe social first if U can't make a enough to go for a drink there's no point

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By *ast_jjMan
5 weeks ago

Dublin

Absolutely nothing wrong with your approach Lolly. It's my preference too. A chat, plenty of flirting hopefully if mutual attraction is there, then up to room for fantastic fun!

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By *hilaboutMan
5 weeks ago

kilkenny

Think your dead right lolly nothing old fashion about it at all.

Come to think of it we've the social behinds us already lol

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By *eturningFunAgainMan
5 weeks ago

any, meath, westmeath, dublin,kildare

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

I'd definitely turn up for the coffee, you can't beat a really good strong coffee and a chat what's not to like anything else is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

With ladies it's the psychology and the mind.

With guys its the physicality and chance of a grind.

TG we are not all the same.

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By *affa31Woman
5 weeks ago

Galway

Honestly, guys who are willing to go straight to bed without meeting for a chat first give me the heebie jeebies

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
5 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

Stick to your guns, if it aint broke dont fix it

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

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By *eanRMan
5 weeks ago

Dublin 9

Meeting for a coffee or drink for me is a good idea and see if there’s a connection as well as being safe.

I think seeing the person in real life and chatting is a good idea and with no expectations, then there’s no pressure too.

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By *anwhore45Man
5 weeks ago

kinnegad

Definitely meet for a coffee / drink,,,,,,,,see how you both get on,,,,,,if there is no connection of any kind what's the point in going any further.

Just my opinion

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I think sometimes they don't want to meet in public kinda makes ye wonder why 🤷

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
5 weeks ago

London/Kent

"I think sometimes they don't want to meet in public kinda makes ye wonder why 🤷

"

That's a 'sign' for sure, a red flag, don't ever lower your standards for anyone 👍✌️ Keep doing what makes you comfortable & stay in your comfort zone

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere

"I think sometimes they don't want to meet in public kinda makes ye wonder why 🤷

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Ugly feckers

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"I think sometimes they don't want to meet in public kinda makes ye wonder why 🤷

Ugly feckers

"

Who me 😱😂

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By *og-ManMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere

"I think sometimes they don't want to meet in public kinda makes ye wonder why 🤷

Ugly feckers

Who me 😱😂"

No the people that don't meet in public

I wouldn't kick you out of bed for eating crisps except you dont eat crisps

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
5 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

oh if they don't want to meet public then they are probably in a relationship. all ya have to do is make it look like a work client meeting. sorted lol

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By *astelloWoman
5 weeks ago

Far far away

I take my safety seriously. So definitely a social first. I'd prefer to see if we click over a coffee than just jump... too many weirdos on here...

Or maybe lm just a weirdo.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Miss Lolly I would love to have a social with you

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By *iscuits8Man
5 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Anyways after all that bloody debating... any yous fancy a ride?

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By *eijaWoman
5 weeks ago

City Centre

OP I feel your pain 😩

I've had this argument a lot recently..so many guys think they can skip the Social bit and go straight to the play bit...it is actually mindblowing how many men think women will just turn up to their hotel and have sex 🤯🤯

Even from a safety perspective it is nuts..

If you don't have time to meet me for a coffee/drink then you are not my kinda guy.

As for the fakes and flakes dear God give me patience!

The scene really isn't the way it used to be. Bring back the old days!

I usually stick up for the reliable sound single men but where have they disappeared to??

B x

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By *aider190Man
5 weeks ago

swords

"I can't even get them to turn up for the coffee social let alone the hotel meet! "

Can't believe that guys still stand ladies up..unbelievable bad manners. ..could never do that ....such a discourtesy to someone who has gone out of their way to take time out to meet

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By *aider190Man
5 weeks ago

swords

The art of flirtation and seduction is lost on some... the anticipation of that first social meet ...the risqué conversation ...that spark that both can feel..the fabulousfab stories and experiences ...the things that make you laugh and the possible chance of another meeting. ..isn't that what FAB is all about or am I just old fashioned lol

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By *litoratieMan
5 weeks ago

beckenham

I'm with the majority here. It's common sense and good manners in my opinion.

Image the other parties looks awesome, but there's no spark. Someone's going to leave disappointed.

However I accept on rare occasions introductions just go out the window.

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By *entleGent13Man
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

"OP I feel your pain 😩

I've had this argument a lot recently..so many guys think they can skip the Social bit and go straight to the play bit...it is actually mindblowing how many men think women will just turn up to their hotel and have sex 🤯🤯

Even from a safety perspective it is nuts..

If you don't have time to meet me for a coffee/drink then you are not my kinda guy.

As for the fakes and flakes dear God give me patience!

The scene really isn't the way it used to be. Bring back the old days!

I usually stick up for the reliable sound single men but where have they disappeared to??

B x"

We are still here. But it seems we ger drowned out by the messers and timewasters...patience is needed and attending socials helps to sort out the genuine guys from the gobsh*tes.

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By *entleGent13Man
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

"I take my safety seriously. So definitely a social first. I'd prefer to see if we click over a coffee than just jump... too many weirdos on here...

Or maybe lm just a weirdo. "

You're unique. Not a weirdo.🤣

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By *aider190Man
5 weeks ago

swords

"Your body, your time, your rules.

I don't think it's old school; for me it's just common sense. Not only do I want to see in irl if they're the sort of person I want to get naked with, I want to see if it's mutual. If people don't care about that, I don't care to fuck them.

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Old school all the way for me ...bring the flirtation back to Fab lol

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By *eijaWoman
5 weeks ago

City Centre

"OP I feel your pain 😩

I've had this argument a lot recently..so many guys think they can skip the Social bit and go straight to the play bit...it is actually mindblowing how many men think women will just turn up to their hotel and have sex 🤯🤯

Even from a safety perspective it is nuts..

If you don't have time to meet me for a coffee/drink then you are not my kinda guy.

As for the fakes and flakes dear God give me patience!

The scene really isn't the way it used to be. Bring back the old days!

I usually stick up for the reliable sound single men but where have they disappeared to??

B x

We are still here. But it seems we ger drowned out by the messers and timewasters...patience is needed and attending socials helps to sort out the genuine guys from the gobsh*tes."

I totally agree about attending the Socials but the same reliable guys attend all the Socials. As a host I always advise newbies to attend these events however the about of guys who chicken out has definitely increased in the past couple of years. The attitude being sure why go to these events if there is no play allowed

B x

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By *ustMe!Woman
5 weeks ago

co.down

"I can barely get a hey how are you 🤣🤣

Hey how are you xx

Yikes ...lol"

Now don’t be getting all shy now lol x

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By *ungry CatCouple
5 weeks ago

Belfast

"OP I feel your pain 😩

I've had this argument a lot recently..so many guys think they can skip the Social bit and go straight to the play bit...it is actually mindblowing how many men think women will just turn up to their hotel and have sex 🤯🤯

Even from a safety perspective it is nuts..

If you don't have time to meet me for a coffee/drink then you are not my kinda guy.

As for the fakes and flakes dear God give me patience!

The scene really isn't the way it used to be. Bring back the old days!

I usually stick up for the reliable sound single men but where have they disappeared to??

B x

We are still here. But it seems we ger drowned out by the messers and timewasters...patience is needed and attending socials helps to sort out the genuine guys from the gobsh*tes.

I totally agree about attending the Socials but the same reliable guys attend all the Socials. As a host I always advise newbies to attend these events however the about of guys who chicken out has definitely increased in the past couple of years. The attitude being sure why go to these events if there is no play allowed

B x"

You're on point with this one!

Our guest lists always fill up with women and couples before single guys as most who want to come flake off as soon as they find out that the word "social" doesn't have some hidden shagging code hidden behind it

Then you see the same single men whinging about how hard it is to meet anyone.... go figure.

Missus

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By *elfastblondMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

If they won't meet for a social 1st then 99% chance they are time wasters and wouldn't turn up for a sex only meet

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
5 weeks ago

Belfast and Tyrone

I had a guy say to me, I am not here to socialise I'm here to fuck.

Zero effort made then. Wonder what their success is. Also zero?

Vics

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By *orthsouth4957Couple
5 weeks ago

swords

We would never meet anyone for fun unless we had a social meet first and their would have to be chemistry, attraction and just nice people before I would want to share my body with them. We love the extra spice but would pass it up if it was with the wrong people.

Stick to your morals it's safer and better fun

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
5 weeks ago

Portstewart

Ms lolly we are exactly the same we won't meet someone for anything until we've had a social with someone you have to see how you ge5 along with and if there's any attraction there before suggesting anything else and we also have the added disadvantage that neither of us will take one for the team as such as that's not fair for anyone

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By *fternoon-delightsWoman
5 weeks ago

kilkenny

Sometimes I like being a woman with the morals of a man..

. But yeah a social meet first after boring chats about the weather and “how was your weekend”….meh….

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By *weetpea2000Woman
5 weeks ago

Wexford

You're not one bit old school...stick with what works for you and don't change that for anyone.

A social first for me.

It's on my profile, you can't miss it unless you didn't read it.

So still get "meet in hotel tonight?" messages or "whats your eircode?" "F*ck now" etc from those that didn't bother.

There has to be an attraction for me, chemistry, a spark, flowing conversation, laughter and of course that feeling that you want to see that person again.

I personally need that and a bit of space after to make the decision to be intimate and share any part of myself with someone.

If that's not for you, then you're most definitely not for me.

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By *ruckermrMan
5 weeks ago

dublin

We chat online .. but getting the click over a coffee or a drink is always fun .. and sure why not

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By *autionMan
5 weeks ago

derry donegal

You can tell alot in the first few mins of a coffee/social meet, it's how I prefer it too

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"You can tell alot in the first few mins of a coffee/social meet, it's how I prefer it too"

This exactly 100%, ye can type anything ye think the other person wants to hear online but the vibe can be totally different in person....

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By *autionMan
5 weeks ago

derry donegal

"You can tell alot in the first few mins of a coffee/social meet, it's how I prefer it too

This exactly 100%, ye can type anything ye think the other person wants to hear online but the vibe can be totally different in person...."

100% I've actually seen it where their better in real life

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By *s Lolly OP Woman
5 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"You can tell alot in the first few mins of a coffee/social meet, it's how I prefer it too

This exactly 100%, ye can type anything ye think the other person wants to hear online but the vibe can be totally different in person....

100% I've actually seen it where their better in real life"

The odd occasion this has happened some just aren't great at texting but face to face is different...

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Always a meet for a chat and coffee.

Never fuck on the first meeting.

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but that might change🤭🤭😂😂😂

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By *aider190Man
5 weeks ago

swords

The excitement is definitely in the anticipation of that first meet...and do agree you can tell within a few minutes as to whether that chemistry is there....and it's my opinion if the company and conversation is good then what follows whenever will an experience worth waiting for ...and of course that first kiss will definitely confirm that there is a connection

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By *rusader1Man
5 weeks ago

Dublin

"Im away for a few nights next week and looking to meet up, i always insist on a social meet first before anything happens, all the messages im getting are let's skip the social and just fuck when i say no it's always a social meet first there not interested......Am i to old school to want to meet someone first before i invite them back to my hotel?🤷"

For me a first meet is always a social with no expectations, then if there's a connection the excitement of a second meet is always something to look forward to.....

But it's an ever decreasing circle, those that share the same view are becoming a rare breed!

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By *ereforfun2025Man
5 weeks ago

Dungarvan

I sent you a pm Lolly

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By *ereforfun2025Man
5 weeks ago

Dungarvan

Sent it on Sunday

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By *yronedevilMan
5 weeks ago

dungannon

Ahhh no no I agree with sticking to your principles you know what you want and if they aren’t what you want how do you get shot off them

No definitely stick to your tried and tested method and have a social first and if they can’t and don’t want to expect it block them

Ps enjoy your break away

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