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By *elle111 OP   Woman
7 weeks ago

NI

So last year apparently Tinder in the UK lost 34% of its paying members and of the big 4 dating apps they had 1mil people drop off. 50% people would prefer to meet at social events and 20% introduced by friends and family. Where are people meeting or have they all just come here lol? Or like me maybe people just aren’t interested in dating!

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By *om TangoMan
7 weeks ago

aughnacloy monaghan area

Socials only way to go. I did vanilla dating apps and only pulled once which didn’t last long. I believe in being honest what on vanilla sites and once I say I’m involved in the swingers community I normally get blocked or call all sorts lol.

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By *elle111 OP   Woman
7 weeks ago

NI


"I believe in being honest what on vanilla sites and once I say I’m involved in the swingers community I normally get blocked or call all sorts lol."
yeah I have witnessed some vanilla world strong disgust for us lot here on fab on a Facebook group. It’s ok to not get it, most of my friends don’t but the vitriol was shocking.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
7 weeks ago

Newry

Maybe people are moving back to the way we used to date, where we actually met people and talked to them in person... perhaps that was the more efficient way all along

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
7 weeks ago

DUBLIN

Since Covid lockdowns folks are out of the habit of meeting in pubs etc. Habits of drinking have changed and the cost of going out is nuts too. The dating apps are also a passing fad. At least on here you can set out your stall and its more upfront.

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By *elle111 OP   Woman
7 weeks ago

NI


"Maybe people are moving back to the way we used to date, where we actually met people and talked to them in person... perhaps that was the more efficient way all along "
lol it was definitely a better way of knowing the person was genuine, not foolproof a spoofer will always be a spoofer but at least only the good spoofers got through K lol

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By *oc1998Man
7 weeks ago

Dundalk

Well considering Tinder makes you pay for nearly the most basic features, I am not surprised people are jumping ship

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By *ilf ShakeWoman
7 weeks ago

KILDARE


"I believe in being honest what on vanilla sites and once I say I’m involved in the swingers community I normally get blocked or call all sorts lol. yeah I have witnessed some vanilla world strong disgust for us lot here on fab on a Facebook group. It’s ok to not get it, most of my friends don’t but the vitriol was shocking. "

Yes I've seen some shocking comments calling us vile and dirty creatures with something obviously wrong with us.

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By *oc1998Man
7 weeks ago

Dundalk

I havent seen that, but anyone who calls out at people who like to explore in the bedroom are just prunes who should keep to themselves. If you dont have something nice to say, just dont say it. Its not that hard.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
7 weeks ago

Belfast and Tyrone


"I believe in being honest what on vanilla sites and once I say I’m involved in the swingers community I normally get blocked or call all sorts lol. yeah I have witnessed some vanilla world strong disgust for us lot here on fab on a Facebook group. It’s ok to not get it, most of my friends don’t but the vitriol was shocking.

Yes I've seen some shocking comments calling us vile and dirty creatures with something obviously wrong with us. "

What's the Facebook group? Not that I should be looking because it would only annoy me and then I'd have to say something

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
7 weeks ago

Lucan

I haven't been on Tinder but I used to be on pof for years and found it really good for hookups. However, it went through a process of "sanitisation" where if they found out you were only looking for hookups then you're profile for deleted pretty quickly. Last time I was on it I lasted a week and it felt like longer as serious relationships was all that anyone was looking for as far as I could see. I could've lied about my needs but I wasn't prepared to do that.

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By *elle111 OP   Woman
7 weeks ago

NI

Haha your post made me laugh Michael they are called dating sites for a reason because most people are there to actually date. Lol.

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By *hePixieAndTheBearCouple
7 weeks ago

Galway


"I believe in being honest what on vanilla sites and once I say I’m involved in the swingers community I normally get blocked or call all sorts lol. yeah I have witnessed some vanilla world strong disgust for us lot here on fab on a Facebook group. It’s ok to not get it, most of my friends don’t but the vitriol was shocking.

Yes I've seen some shocking comments calling us vile and dirty creatures with something obviously wrong with us.

What's the Facebook group? Not that I should be looking because it would only annoy me and then I'd have to say something "

Tbh there are many things wrong with us Vics. It's just not the swinging! 🤪

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
7 weeks ago

Lucan


"Haha your post made me laugh Michael they are called dating sites for a reason because most people are there to actually date. Lol. "

Well tbf, I was on pof from about 2011 onwards and dating was a foreign concept there at that time. Hookups were the most common experience back then. They even had "intimate encounters" under the seeking tab as well as "married/in a relationship" under status. I think "married" then became "not single/not looking" ffs was the most common status to be found. Good times!

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

I still use tinder and find it much easier to meet people locally than fab.

I see why the decline though. Everyone is sick of the slog through the swiping and the endless conversations starting and ending.

It's the enshitification of the apps algorithm to keep people swiping instead of getting good matches. Though it is still possible to game the algorithm a little. Less than before though

Then there's the constant nagging to upgrade to a paid tier which there is absolutely no benefit in. If I paid the €40 fee now to find out who the 99+ people who liked my profile were I would find all of them are way outside of my distance filter. Ask me how I know 😅

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
7 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

if you select married now it kicks you out I think


"Haha your post made me laugh Michael they are called dating sites for a reason because most people are there to actually date. Lol.

Well tbf, I was on pof from about 2011 onwards and dating was a foreign concept there at that time. Hookups were the most common experience back then. They even had "intimate encounters" under the seeking tab as well as "married/in a relationship" under status. I think "married" then became "not single/not looking" ffs was the most common status to be found. Good times! "

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By *otownkid1967Man
7 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Lately I have found Prof and tinder easier to get meets and hook ups.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
7 weeks ago

The West

Never used any of these, no idea how they work.

We did try setting up a Tinder account. Don't know what we did, but we're barred now anyway!! 😂

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
7 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

literally just set it to married and account was closed on me lol🤣

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
7 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

and in relation to staying descreet i find on here the best option, is there other apps like this does anyone know?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
7 weeks ago

Lucan

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
7 weeks ago

Lucan


"if you select married now it kicks you out I think

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Yep, the sneaky hoors left it there as a trap.

You'll also need to use a different email address to set up a new profile, should you want to.

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
7 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

the bastards and one of the girls i know is on it and im mad to try and get her to have a naughty night with me


"if you select married now it kicks you out I think

Yep, the sneaky hoors left it there as a trap.

You'll also need to use a different email address to set up a new profile, should you want to. "

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By *iresmillyWoman
7 weeks ago

Stillorgan

I’d love to date but I’m an un-dateable. This is not a woe me/ pick me post- but I’ve tried Tinder, Hinge, Feelde etc but it’s obvs unsuccessful. What do you write- submissive, likes anal and water sports, pain and most kinks, but has hardly any spare time, and you need to be free when I am- I can’t be honest on a vanilla site about my needs and likes, my options are pretend to be vanilla or stick to here… Ireland is not as progressive as many think

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
7 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

Theres something for everyone on here, not into water sports myself but definately wouldn't be a deal breaker. people can be pretty closed unfortunately. like i love cumming over a set of tits licking it off them kissing the woman for cum swap. once i mention that on pof etc usually blocked etc.


"I’d love to date but I’m an un-dateable. This is not a woe me/ pick me post- but I’ve tried Tinder, Hinge, Feelde etc but it’s obvs unsuccessful. What do you write- submissive, likes anal and water sports, pain and most kinks, but has hardly any spare time, and you need to be free when I am- I can’t be honest on a vanilla site about my needs and likes, my options are pretend to be vanilla or stick to here… Ireland is not as progressive as many think"

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By *inkyDragonMan
7 weeks ago

Dublin


"So last year apparently Tinder in the UK lost 34% of its paying members and of the big 4 dating apps they had 1mil people drop off. 50% people would prefer to meet at social events and 20% introduced by friends and family. Where are people meeting or have they all just come here lol? Or like me maybe people just aren’t interested in dating! "

My mother tells me all the time to go to SuperValu on a Monday night and walk around the fruit and veg. She says the single women are hammering it all weekend and go shopping after work on Monday to get food for the week and it would be the best time. Also I’d be able to see what her diet and culinary skills are like from the items in the trolley 🤔

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By *iresmillyWoman
7 weeks ago

Stillorgan


"So last year apparently Tinder in the UK lost 34% of its paying members and of the big 4 dating apps they had 1mil people drop off. 50% people would prefer to meet at social events and 20% introduced by friends and family. Where are people meeting or have they all just come here lol? Or like me maybe people just aren’t interested in dating!

My mother tells me all the time to go to SuperValu on a Monday night and walk around the fruit and veg. She says the single women are hammering it all weekend and go shopping after work on Monday to get food for the week and it would be the best time. Also I’d be able to see what her diet and culinary skills are like from the items in the trolley 🤔"

Your mother is very wise!

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By *inkyDragonMan
7 weeks ago

Dublin


"So last year apparently Tinder in the UK lost 34% of its paying members and of the big 4 dating apps they had 1mil people drop off. 50% people would prefer to meet at social events and 20% introduced by friends and family. Where are people meeting or have they all just come here lol? Or like me maybe people just aren’t interested in dating!

My mother tells me all the time to go to SuperValu on a Monday night and walk around the fruit and veg. She says the single women are hammering it all weekend and go shopping after work on Monday to get food for the week and it would be the best time. Also I’d be able to see what her diet and culinary skills are like from the items in the trolley 🤔

Your mother is very wise! "

I’m sure they would run if I told them I wanted to tie them up.

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By *iresmillyWoman
7 weeks ago

Stillorgan

Also to note, why are the dating site all so expensive? They are not worth it.

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By *inkyDragonMan
7 weeks ago

Dublin


"Also to note, why are the dating site all so expensive? They are not worth it. "

Cheaper here and from what I read of the lads, they are knee deep in pussy.

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By *ddiesayshello2Man
7 weeks ago

dundalk , Monaghan,meath

thats actually a really good point


"Also to note, why are the dating site all so expensive? They are not worth it. "

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By *oradMan
7 weeks ago

Dublin Kildare


"Also to note, why are the dating site all so expensive? They are not worth it. "

God I remember early internet days (v early 1995 adopter - when a student with no credit card) and AFF was v fast out of the, then MBF, rsvp etc. So easy, so free. Only challenge was actually finding who was female and who was male pretending... simpler times. Virtually all feee or feee limited messaging.

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By *ol_ieMan
7 weeks ago

Dublin west

Doesn't surprise me that people have stopped using them.

Filters, fakes and more ghosting than the haunted house..

Waste of time.

At least people are more up front here on what they are looking for and sure if the world thinks we are dirty perverts who are all going to hell, well at least it will be warmer and more fun down there...

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By *rialbyfire1235Man
7 weeks ago

South KK

The apps are alright. I’ve gotten dates off them but you have to limit yourself to a few mins a day of swiping or you’ll waste your life on them.

Paying to see who has matched you is a waste of money. They’re always fake profiles or at other end of the country.

Sites like meet up etc are making it easier to connect with people of similar interest in a group setting. So I guess people are just trying that a lot more now in the hope of romance.

From the horror stories and just plain rudeness if heard from people about their past tinder dates, I’m not surprised people are ditching them.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
7 weeks ago

Hereabouts

Tried Hinge and Tinder briefly for dating and really didn't enjoy the experience at all. Met one or two nice genuine guys, but overall it was more soul destroying than hopeful.

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By *hivers2020Woman
7 weeks ago

lolli land

All the apps are the same, I prefer to use fab for sex and the dating apps for dating, but the only messages I get on the dating apps are from younger guys looking for an older woman. The guys I do get chatting to that are my age also only want hook ups or else agree to a date and then ghost. I can honestly say I haven’t had a single date from a dating app in the 4/5 years I’ve been on them 😳

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