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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
52 weeks ago

Belfast

Personally when I joined fab as a single woman - I already had the experience of the swingers social scene and have made friends for life on it... only in a different country.

I didn't know that it was possible in Northern Ireland as it was quite hard to get into. I joined fab to meet some new like minded people.

Dirk joined it to expand his horizons and have lots of sex lol

What were your expectations when you joined fab?

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By *rotic Stretch MassageCouple
52 weeks ago

Limerick


"Personally when I joined fab as a single woman - I already had the experience of the swingers social scene and have made friends for life on it... only in a different country.

I didn't know that it was possible in Northern Ireland as it was quite hard to get into. I joined fab to meet some new like minded people.

Dirk joined it to expand his horizons and have lots of sex lol

What were your expectations when you joined fab? "

Our experience as a couple has been mad. Loads of time wasters and nosey people. But now we stick to events. At least you're almost guaranteed genuine like minded people!

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By *nickerDropperGlory69Man
52 weeks ago

cavan town

To free the restraints of the vanilla world. To put myself out of my comfort zone, sexually. To meet like minded people who aren't afraid to talk about sex, what they like and don't like. To discover that I may actually like things I have convinced myself I wouldn't like. I had a chance meeting with a bi couple that was the most exciting sexperience of my life, which never would have happened in the "real"world

Caveat- not attracted to, or want to meet single guys

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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
52 weeks ago

Belfast


"Personally when I joined fab as a single woman - I already had the experience of the swingers social scene and have made friends for life on it... only in a different country.

I didn't know that it was possible in Northern Ireland as it was quite hard to get into. I joined fab to meet some new like minded people.

Dirk joined it to expand his horizons and have lots of sex lol

What were your expectations when you joined fab?

Our experience as a couple has been mad. Loads of time wasters and nosey people. But now we stick to events. At least you're almost guaranteed genuine like minded people! "

Social events are 100% the way forward as it's safer to meet new people.

What were your expectations though before you joined? ❤

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I was directed here under the expectation that it was the place to find a fwb. I thought it was like Tinder only for casual relationships. I hadn't a clue.

Omg did I get the shock of my life when I got my account set up. 🤣

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By *ushin realityCouple
52 weeks ago

swords

Wasn't sure ,had been previously on a different site ,ended up having a great time, meeting new people and finding new socials. And met my partner, so all in all ,jackpot 🥰🥰🥰🥰

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By *osie2023Woman
52 weeks ago

Tallaght

A friend recommended me to check it out when I was single for the first time in nearly 30 years. She thought I would have a lot of fun here and I definitely did & hope that continues. My favourite thing has been meeting adventurous & respectful younger men, and I’ve made some amazing connections over the years. I think it’s changed a lot since I first joined nearly 7 years ago but I still find nice people and some fun among the way.

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By *ealitybitesMan
52 weeks ago

Belfast

I didn't have any expectations at all because I had zero experience of anything like this.

I found another site when randomly surfing and joined to see what it was about. It wasn't user friendly so I left after a few days and found fab.

I hoped to meet people on a similar journey but didn't have any expectations because I assumed everyone here was so much more experienced than me and wouldn't be interested in a rookie.

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By *inkyDragonMan
52 weeks ago

Castleknock

Didn’t and don’t have any expectations. A girl in work is on here and she said I should give it a go. She said it’s a marathon not a sprint for the guys and that’s what I’m doing. Would like to meet someone on the same wavelength for multiple encounters when it suits us both, be that once a fortnight or monthly or whatever. There does seem to be an expectation here from reading status updates and bios of women that some men think it’s a knocking shop.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
52 weeks ago

Newry

When I met Ed we quickly discovered our sexual interests - in terms of what we'd always wanted to do but never had - were very closely aligned. We came here with the expectation that we'd be able find people who were open to the same interests, and explore those together. In the main, our expectations were met and occasionally exceeded

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
52 weeks ago

Portstewart

Boobs wanted to explore her sexuality and I wanted to see her succeed in her exploration. I want to explore ts and have fun with others and enjoy the lifestyle without being stigmatised by people we know

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I always found it interesting when I started here that people always said to approach it with no expectations.

What? How can you have a goal without expectations?

I wanted to have sex. I had sex!

What I didn't expect was to make bonafide in real life friends and connect to a wider network of sound and sex positive degenerates.

I'm pretty sure I could find any kind of sexual experience I can imagine at this stage. That's pretty amazing.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
52 weeks ago

Co Antrim

I was interested in sexual adventurousness and non-monogamy. I knew Poly wasn't for me as I wanted exclusivity with one person romantically. He had a past with swinging. So swinging seemed to fit with what we hoped for sexually.

In reality I find it really hard work, most chats fade out, social meets are near impossible to find and theres a culture here of married single men which is a no go for us.

The only positive thing I can really say is larger socials are awesome. The community aspect of meeting sex positive people is a lot of fun. It rarely leads to play. We've adjusted our expectations now.

Vics

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By *antra MassageMan
52 weeks ago

a village near you.

A female friend was a member of another international site, so I joined that for a while. It didn't suit me, so found Fab. I've had a lot of meets here, all enjoyable. The interest has slackened off last year, for some reason. Also, my interests have changed too. I'm more interested in meeting a regular play partner, a woman or a couple locally, for regular massages, and coffee n chats. I'm forever optimistic, and get lots of enquiries, but mainly from men, or people too far away. Interestingly, I've met lots of Fab couples from abroad on holidays in Ireland who find me on Fab, and love a massage. Im on here for the long haul, and patience pays off.

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By *og-ManMan
52 weeks ago

somewhere


"I was directed here under the expectation that it was the place to find a fwb. I thought it was like Tinder only for casual relationships. I hadn't a clue.

Omg did I get the shock of my life when I got my account set up. 🤣 "

Yeah sorry about that Rubs

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By *og-ManMan
52 weeks ago

somewhere

To have sex.....it worked

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By *otownkid1967Man
52 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Introduced to fab by a lady in UK. Wasn't sure it was for me as I wasn't long after divorcing. But as time went on my confidence grew as did my expectations. Thankfully I have met some great people and lived out most of my bucket list. Now I don't expect too much but still enjoy fab.

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By *rinibooWoman
52 weeks ago

clare

It was recommend to me by a fwb at the time As wanted fun without relationship at the time . I have met some great people on here .

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By *8redballoonsMan
51 weeks ago

Newcastle

When i joined i thought it would be sex by the bucket load and would save the wanking, well here I am still wanking but using my left hand now as a wee change

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By *izzKathrynWoman
51 weeks ago

Drogheda

I joined Fab to explore my bi side, to meet like minded people and to tick a few things of the bucket list.

What I fell into was friendships, the lifestyle, and loving the social scene

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By *affa31Woman
51 weeks ago

Galway

Joined as a very inexperienced 21 year old seeking to explore my sexuality without judgement.

Found confidence, life long friends and so many fun experiences.

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By *ensualDivaWoman
51 weeks ago

Galway, Mayo

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By *ensualDivaWoman
51 weeks ago

Galway, Mayo

Sex is fun

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By *exyScientistsCouple
51 weeks ago

Castlebar

I joined to go to socials and just meet new people.

Mr joined to try new things and experiment more

I found that

I can enjoy sex in different ways and I am more open to new things than I thought,

That monogamy is not for me,

That spending time with different people for whatever reason has enhanced our lives individually and our relationship,

And if it all ended tomorrow I've learnt that I can trust my intuition

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By *he KakapoMan
51 weeks ago

A nice rock

Initial expectation on joining the first time was some easy sex with easy women.

Note to self never join a club d*unk and horny in the small hours of the morning again.

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By *om TangoMan
51 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan

Can’t go into details of when I first joined or I might end up in court. Joined as a single fella to meet new like minded people. Didn’t realise how hard it would be to get my first verification as a single fella but I didn’t give up. But here I am today trying to go to as many socials I can afford and making new friends and loving life. I take full advantage of the lifestyle and I don’t look at it like a sex site. Few years ago I was fucked with depression. Feeling empty. It’s was only last Xmas and I hate blowing smoke up anyone’s ass that I discovered what was wrong with me. I needed to be apart of something. I’m happy where I am now. Now for the blowing smoke up someone ass. Pinks and _ungry cats socials help me discover were I belonged.

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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
51 weeks ago

Belfast

Personally I find it very fulfilling just knowing how much of a decent community we have grown over the years. No cliques (groups of people, who have become friends over the years aren't cliques. They were new at some point too and took relevant steps to befriend people), no big dramas, no one upping each other.

Just a group of like minded people, who have a social life outside the vanilla world.

Do people occasionally have sex? Absolutely!

Do people feel free to express their sexuality and meet new people who they may want to have sex with - absolutely!

M&D

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By *om TangoMan
51 weeks ago

Tedavnet Co.Monaghan


"Personally I find it very fulfilling just knowing how much of a decent community we have grown over the years. No cliques (groups of people, who have become friends over the years aren't cliques. They were new at some point too and took relevant steps to befriend people), no big dramas, no one upping each other.

Just a group of like minded people, who have a social life outside the vanilla world.

Do people occasionally have sex? Absolutely!

Do people feel free to express their sexuality and meet new people who they may want to have sex with - absolutely!

M&D"
. We very occasionally have sex but going by the media we only have sex and car keys are picked from an ashtray or bowl.

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By *ornywife20Couple
51 weeks ago

North Cork

We joined for the sex but finished up making some brilliant friends along the way.

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By *ungry Cat OP   Couple
51 weeks ago

Belfast


"Personally I find it very fulfilling just knowing how much of a decent community we have grown over the years. No cliques (groups of people, who have become friends over the years aren't cliques. They were new at some point too and took relevant steps to befriend people), no big dramas, no one upping each other.

Just a group of like minded people, who have a social life outside the vanilla world.

Do people occasionally have sex? Absolutely!

Do people feel free to express their sexuality and meet new people who they may want to have sex with - absolutely!

M&D. We very occasionally have sex but going by the media we only have sex and car keys are picked from an ashtray or bowl. "

Funny enough we have played keys in a bowl game twice at our events and both have been a great success lol

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By *elfastDMan
51 weeks ago

belfast

An online friend who I never managed to meet in real life for fun but she recommended here for me. I quickly found people who I could relate to and surprisingly that they were mostly all normal.

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