FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on messeges on here

By *orkGuyD OP Man
6 weeks ago

Near the city

Hey all,

Just looking for any advice the more seasoned vets may have for messaging women and couples on here. I dont seem to get much engagement from messeges I send out.

I'm not sending vulgar messages or dickpics, not the standard "Hi" either, i geneeally try to engage with something i kike in the profiele but not go overly in depth or long winded. Do you usually go for more of a flirty vibe or more of a general greeting kinda thing?

I know it's dependent on the person what works best. I'm much more of an in person / over the phone type guy so texting ain't my strong suit lol. Especially when you've got 1 shot in the sea of thousands of men doing the same to make an impression.

And advice appreciated, my text communication may need some touching up for this kinda environment.

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
6 weeks ago

originally from sligo

Personally if I see a profile pic with a dick and then every pic on the profile is a dick i don't even bother replying.

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By *eturning MGMan
6 weeks ago

mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland

"Personally if I see a profile pic with a dick and then every pic on the profile is a dick i don't even bother replying."

Take this advice

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By *ofusplusCouple
6 weeks ago

Limerick

My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

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By *orkGuyD OP Man
6 weeks ago

Near the city

Great advice, noted and updated! Appreciate it. As a complete newbie it's not something I was aware of to be honest. Thanks.

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By *orkGuyD OP Man
6 weeks ago

Near the city

Great advice, thanks for the time taken!

Ill keep that all in mind.

Would love to attend an event at some point, although it's a bit nerve racking haha. But definitely something I would be interested in at some point

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By *indenMan
6 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x"

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By *ofusplusCouple
6 weeks ago

Limerick

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

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7. Use _indens profile for inspo

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By *indenMan
6 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

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7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

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By *ildfire MiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

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7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉

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By *indenMan
6 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

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7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉"

Even a broken clock is right twice a day…..

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By *ildfire MiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

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7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉

Even a broken clock is right twice a day…..

These two minutes a day are priceless 😉🫡

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By *indenMan
5 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

(Thread closed, nothing further required.)

7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉

Even a broken clock is right twice a day…..

These two minutes a day are priceless 😉🫡"

It bodes well that two minutes impresses you….

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By *ildfire MiaWoman
5 weeks ago

Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

(Thread closed, nothing further required.)

7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉

Even a broken clock is right twice a day…..

These two minutes a day are priceless 😉🫡

It bodes well that two minutes impresses you….

You were right once. Let’s not build a statue.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

(Thread closed, nothing further required.)

7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉

Even a broken clock is right twice a day…..

These two minutes a day are priceless 😉🫡

It bodes well that two minutes impresses you….

You were right once. Let’s not build a statue.

Arah build it no planning permission needed 😂

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By *indenMan
5 weeks ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"My advice... forget about messaging altogether. You are wasting your time.

Focus instead on;

1. having an excellent profile and posting good photos regularly

2. Attending events, especially the smaller organised socials

3. Getting to know people on the scene, especially those you have no sexual interest in, and building trust.

4. Engaging pleasantly in the forums if you enjoy it

5. Figuring out what you want, what you have to offer someone and explaining it really well in your bio

6. Having loads and loads and loads of patience

Good luck x

(Thread closed, nothing further required.)

7. Use _indens profile for inspo

Thanks James…..

Despite what my career guidance teacher told me, I am not totally useless, I can always be used as an example of what not to do…….

it looks like I'll have to break myself ... and admit you're right 😉😉😉

Even a broken clock is right twice a day…..

These two minutes a day are priceless 😉🫡

It bodes well that two minutes impresses you….

You were right once. Let’s not build a statue.

Arah build it no planning permission needed 😂"

Neighbour are miles away, I’ll apply for retention of required……

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By *ildfire MiaWoman
5 weeks ago

Dublin

"Neighbour are miles away, I’ll apply for retention of required……

This moment’s officially on record. Time sync started .

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