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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

This may just be me I don’t know, but I find this platform very hostile towards new people

When I message I’m polite, and I remind others I’m a newbie and that seems to bring an immediate non reply or one word answer

Regardless of being intimate or meeting in person, surely you can make friends here without having screwed each other

I tried being a little more assertive when messaging and that was met with a worse reaction

Jesus! Everyone started somewhere, and it’s not a pity party either

I only wanted a bit of fun 🥹

Good day all ☺️

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By *llthewaysMan
12 weeks ago

Kildare/Dublin

Not getting replies or short answers is not people being hostile though, is it?

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By *arbles00Man
12 weeks ago

Area 54

You're only on here 4 weeks. You've a long way to go yet.

No reply means no interest.

Read profiles and respect what they're looking for.

Always update your profile and pics to keep you fresh on here.

Get to meets and socials and meet a few male and female fabbers and get some varifacations and you'll have half the work done.

Like everywhere else there are good people and a$$holes on fab too so just keep her lit and you'll be grand.

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By *iscuits8Man
12 weeks ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Lack of, or one word, replies don't sound very hostile to be honest.

Take your message and multiply it by several hundred in a lot of the recipient's message inboxes and it might give a better understanding as to why you're not always getting carefully personalised replies or interaction at all.

There are many ways to get to know people on here if you're willing to out the "hard yards" in. Socials and forums mainly.

G'luck 🫡

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

I worded that incorrectly perhaps, I got replies that were hostile

If not hostile then outright rude

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

Thank you, that seems very reasonable 😊

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

Thanks 😊

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By *affa31Woman
12 weeks ago

Galway

Unfortunately it’s part and parcel of the site.

To avoid it, ensure you’re only messaging people who are looking for single men your age. Couples and women get a lot of messages and the vast majority don’t read the profile before messaging.

Engage more on the forum so people get to know you. It’s not the magic key to the kingdom but I would guess that the majority of guys who are active on the forum are more “successful” on the site than the average guy on here who doesn’t partake (this obviously doesn’t include non forum guys who make the effort to go to socials etc).

Make your messages unique and reference something in their profile. Show you’re interested in them and not just a hole.

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By *he KakapoMan
12 weeks ago

A nice rock

I've had very few rude replies and none hostile to messages sent.

No replies I don't see as rude.

I do think that some people have an entitled attitude when messaging that they for some reason deserve a reply for the mere effort of sending a message. Or just because they are "polite and respectful".

Those people tend to react badly to any repsosne they don't deem positive which then leads to less interaction from profiles unless they are interested.

Round and round it goes

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

As a single bloke you're a small fish in a very big pond of lots of small fish

You have to stand out from everyone else or you'll never get anywhere

If you're getting no replies it means not interested

If you get messages saying not interested then they're not interested

No one owes you any answer or reply

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

By the way if you get rude or hostile messages from anyone just block them

Makes things easier for you

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Women/couples honestly aren't being hostile or rude by not replying. Some get 100's of messages a day. They'd need a PA to get through them all.

Key thing, no reply = no interest.

Alot won't engage unless you are meet verified, so that means getting up and out to socials and being a nice decent human.

Forums are also a good way for people to get a read of the type of person you are.

When messaging someone make sure to read their profile, not just look at the pictures, maybe make reference to something that has been said in the profile to show you've taken the time to read it. Don't message people who are not looking for single guys. Make sure your message is articulate and not a generic copy amd paste job that you send to everyone.

Happy fabbing.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
12 weeks ago

Newry

Not replying isn't rude or hostile, you're just not what they're looking for.

I get lots of messages saying I'm exactly what they're looking for but so often I'm really not because they haven't read my profile, or they forget that there's more than themselves involved and they're very obviously not what I'm looking for.

It's absolutely possible to make friends here without riding the person. But...I'm sure I'm not the only one that gets many many messages saying "Hi, would you like to chat?" or variations thereof. It's not possible to carry out conversations with every single person that asks. Even more difficult when they rarely bring anything to chat about.

There are only so many hours in a day. It's impossible to meaningfully engage with multiple people at the same time. My limit is two or three.

Lastly, if people do show themselves to be genuinely rude isn't that a good thing? Unless of course that's the sort of person you're into 🤷

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By *otownkid1967Man
12 weeks ago

Portlaoise

All good advice above OP. Stick with it , there's no guaranteed formula for getting meets or replies. Socials are a good way of getting your foot in the door per say. Best of luck

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

I definitely understand that I’m not entitled to a reply, zero issues there

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

Thank you sir

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

That’s a different perspective, thanks for your contribution ☺️

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

Thanks ☺️

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

I really appreciate a ladies perspective on the matter, thanks for that

We should chat 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Only joking

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

Fact

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By *usionreactor OP   Man
12 weeks ago

limerick

This particular pond is mahoosive 🤣

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By *og-ManMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere

Op

Use the reply + Quote button so everyone can see who you're replying to ....it makes more sense then

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
12 weeks ago

Portstewart

Op our advice to you and all new people is to read the faqs. If your not getting answers or getting answers you may think of as rude is most likely your massaging people who don't want to be contacted by single males. While we always try and be polite to everyone if someone sends us multiple messages we would usually get cross and tell them where to go. No reply to a message is actually a response get to a social and get verified and try joining in on the forums etc to get known as a decent person then actually read profiles to see if you fit exactly what they are looking for and if not just don't message them

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By *ittycouple4funCouple
12 weeks ago

stillorgan


"I worded that incorrectly perhaps, I got replies that were hostile

If not hostile then outright rude

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Where they from people who requested that non verified guys are not to message them?

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