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"I don't know about you OP but every time during my life that something happened with the normal function of my dick it nearly destroyed my sense of identity That might sound dramatic but I'm a dramatic person and, like most men, my maleness is hugely tied up in how virile I feel. Being able to satisfy a woman is huge part of that. The first time it happened I had just come out of a 17yr relationship and couldn't get it up with a woman that was new to me. Just couldn't relax. I thought my boner was dead forever and I was no longer a man. The second time was a phase of premature ejaculation and I honestly don't know if I felt better or worse than not being able to get it up. Both are shit because it's embarrassing. Have you looked into what might be behind it? Both times for me it was a phase that had an underlying cause. Once understood it was a matter of working through it. Definitely the biggest game changer for me was learning to trust that I could simply explain to the woman I was with that this was the craic right now, not making a big deal of it for either of us, and getting on with all the other things that are fun in bed. Trust women when they tell you it's ok. Do some research into what you can do for yourself. Have a plan about that you can do for her. See your doctor. Best of luck." Such an honest and well thought out reply....we've meet guys who on the night couldn't preform and we felt so bad for them tried to reassure them that it didn't matter to us, that it happens to the best etc...not sure if it made much difference tbh so that's why it's important for other guys to speak out...it happens to most guys at least once.....and when women say it's OK please believe them because most understand that if we had to get a physical erection everytime quite a few meets would go wrong...a lot of women including myself didn't always orgasam on a first meet but nobody classes it as a disaster (Mrs _avie t | |||
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"I don't know about you OP but every time during my life that something happened with the normal function of my dick it nearly destroyed my sense of identity That might sound dramatic but I'm a dramatic person and, like most men, my maleness is hugely tied up in how virile I feel. Being able to satisfy a woman is huge part of that. The first time it happened I had just come out of a 17yr relationship and couldn't get it up with a woman that was new to me. Just couldn't relax. I thought my boner was dead forever and I was no longer a man. The second time was a phase of premature ejaculation and I honestly don't know if I felt better or worse than not being able to get it up. Both are shit because it's embarrassing. Have you looked into what might be behind it? Both times for me it was a phase that had an underlying cause. Once understood it was a matter of working through it. Definitely the biggest game changer for me was learning to trust that I could simply explain to the woman I was with that this was the craic right now, not making a big deal of it for either of us, and getting on with all the other things that are fun in bed. Trust women when they tell you it's ok. Do some research into what you can do for yourself. Have a plan about that you can do for her. See your doctor. Best of luck." Such an honest and well thought out reply....we've meet guys who on the night couldn't preform and we felt so bad for them tried to reassure them that it didn't matter to us, that it happens to the best etc...not sure if it made much difference tbh so that's why it's important for other guys to speak out...it happens to most guys at least once.....and when women say it's OK please believe them because most understand that if we had to get a physical erection everytime quite a few meets would go wrong...a lot of women including myself don't always orgasam on a first meet but nobody classes it as a disaster (Mrs _avie t | |||
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" Fair play for such an open honest answer. A very vulnerable and exposed place to be, but as you said communication is key in any situation. " That's what it seems like when your in the middle of it but the fact is that it's a completely normal thing to happen in a man's life and there's no reason it should feel so devastating or be so hard to talk about. My experiences lasted a couple of month's and I was lucky to be around people I could say it to. It can go on longer for some guys and maybe it's possible to shorten that if the world was a little less toxic when it comes to men's health discussion. Once you get to a certain age it becomes totally normal for a woman to say she might not orgasm the first time or might need lube or extended foreplay. We're our own worst enemies sometimes | |||
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"How important is it too ladies and how long ideally should a man last I know I’ve posted this before and men that can last usually take the piss but it is very frustrating and can get men down that ejaculate quick what can slow the excitement down " ... Is it actually piss that they are taking..... That's the real question. ![]() | |||
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