"I often find it tough to get onto the scene as a young male and don’t find there is many others my age on the scene or people willing to meet younger people, what age did most people get into the scene "
Hello OP
To answer your question, we were in our mid thirties when we took the plunge. Like everyone, it took some learning for us to get over initial hurdles, nerves, etc.
As for your own predicament, the reality is that some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret and certainly don't get into arguements over it. The world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40.
Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet. It's also worth remembering that many people won't make a commitment to a long distance meet.
Once you have your search results, READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet, you're wasting your time and theirs.
Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Remember that Fab is not an instant messaging service, so you might have to wait a few days for a reply.
Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. At the moment you have a virtually blank profile, and will need you to spend some time to improve it if you want to attract any attention. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression.
As a starting point, consider uploading some photo's. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, and anything in between is great. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice. you can always use simple software to pixelate your face if you are concerned.
However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves.
You should also condider getting off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? A good place to start would be by looking at this profile, as they organise socials in your area https://www.fabswingers.com/profile/dv8-dublin
Good luck  |
